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In Part 2 of our powerful conversation with Dr. Hillary Cauthen — licensed clinical sport psychologist, author, and President-Elect of the Association for Applied Sport Psychology — we dive deeper into the culture of youth sports, the pressures athletes face, and the role coaches and parents play in creating safe, healthy environments. From the hidden costs of monetized youth sports, to the importance of leadership, to the fine line between resilience and burnout, Dr. Cauthen shares hard truths and practical strategies for building a culture of care in athletics. Whether you’re a coach, parent, or athlete, this episode will leave you rethinking how we measure success on and off the field.🔑 Key Talking PointsHow parents can evaluate clubs and coaches for athlete safety and development.The importance of SafeSport training, background checks, and coach education.Why 70% of athletes quit sports by 13 — and how to fight the dropout crisis.Toxic cultures, sideline fights, and referee shortages: the dark side of youth sports.The impact of monetization and NIL trickling down to youth levels.Simone Biles, Michael Phelps, Kevin Love, and Naomi Osaka — lessons from elite athletes on mental health.The dangers of “mental health days” becoming a crutch vs. being used for recovery.How parents can celebrate small wins and build resilience at home.The power of player-driven culture and empowering athletes as leaders.Dr. Cauthen’s vision for trauma-informed practices in youth sports and her upcoming mastermind projects.Quotes“Culture builds development — and development builds everything else.”“Seventy percent of kids drop out of sports by 13. That’s not just a stat, that’s a crisis.”“We wouldn’t accept certain behaviors in a classroom — why do we allow them on the sidelines?”“It’s never okay to not be okay. If you’re not okay, we need to intervene.”“Simone Biles didn’t quit — she protected her health and came back stronger.”“Every athlete wants to be seen as more than the number on their back.”“The monetization of youth sports is changing culture, and not always for the better.”“As parents, our job isn’t to remove failure. It’s to teach our kids how to respond to it.”“Leadership isn’t about captains — it’s about every player taking ownership.”“Sport should be about fighting with care and empathy, not just competition.”Connect with Dr. Hilary Cauthen🌐 Website: www.txopps.com🎥 YouTube: Watch Here🎙️ Podcast: Highs & Lows of X’s & O’s📚 Book: Hello Trauma, Our Invisible Teammate📸 Instagram: @drcmindset | @toppstalks✖️ X: @TOPPSTIP👍 Facebook: @TXOPPSFollow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Review: Your support helps us keep bringing conversations with players, coaches, and leaders that matter.#YouthSports #MentalHealthInSports #CultureOfCare #SportsPsychology #CoachingMatters #PlayerDevelopment #ParentingInSports #SimoneBiles #MichaelPhelps #AthleteWellbeing #ChatByThePitch #DrHillaryCauthenMentioned in this episode:Thanks to Soccer Coach Weekly for supporting the podcast. Plan - Fast - Coach - Smart (GET YOUR 50% OFF WITH CODE IAN50) at Soccer Coach WeeklySoccer Coach WeeklyReeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer Soccer...

In this episode of Chat By The Pitch, we sit down with Dr. Hilary Cauthen — clinical sports psychologist, certified mental performance consultant, and author of Hello Trauma, Our Invisible Teammate. Dr. Cauthen opens up about her journey as a competitive runner, her TEDx talk on the toxic culture of sport, and how trauma shows up in ways athletes, coaches, and parents often overlook.We dive into the invisible pressures athletes face — from injuries to fear of evaluation, from peer criticism to the weight of coach expectations. Dr. Cauthen shares how coaches can be emotional role models, why free play matters, and how clubs need to normalize mental performance coaching as a proactive tool instead of a last resort.If you’re a parent, coach, or player, this conversation will change how you view resilience, identity, and wellbeing in sports.Key Talking Points• Why trauma is the “invisible teammate” athletes carry• Lessons from Dr. Cauthen’s running career and early challenges• How coaches shape athletes as emotional role models, not just tacticians• Fear of evaluation and fear of failure: the biggest barriers young athletes face• Free play as a tool for risk-taking, growth, and creativity• Parents’ role in supporting players post-game (car ride conversations that build confidence)• Why professional clubs and youth programs must invest in mental performance coachingQuotes from Dr. Hilary Cauthen• “Trauma is your teammate now. It can be your best teammate that helps you thrive or a detrimental one that keeps you on the bench.”• “Mental health is not mental illness. We all have mental health; it’s about how we manage our thoughts and feelings.”• “Connection is essential. Coaches need to be present, make eye contact, and assess how athletes show up to practice.”• “Free play allows athletes to make mistakes, take risks, and grow without fear of punishment.”• “The two biggest fears athletes carry are fear of evaluation and fear of failure.”• “Coaches are emotional role models. Their feedback can shape an athlete more than a parent’s words.”Connect with Dr. Hilary Cauthen🌐 Website: www.txopps.com🎥 YouTube: Watch Here🎙️ Podcast: Highs & Lows of X’s & O’s📚 Book: Hello Trauma, Our Invisible Teammate📸 Instagram: @drcmindset | @toppstalks✖️ X: @TOPPSTIP👍 Facebook: @TXOPPSFollow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Review: Your support helps us keep bringing conversations with players, coaches, and leaders that matter.#ChatByThePitch #DrHilaryCauthen #SportsPsychology #YouthSports #MentalHealth #TraumaInSports #Coaching #SoccerParenting #MentalPerformance #Resilience #AthleteWellbeingMentioned in this episode:Thanks to Soccer Coach Weekly for supporting the podcast. Plan - Fast - Coach - Smart (GET YOUR 50% OFF WITH CODE IAN50) at Soccer Coach WeeklySoccer Coach WeeklyReeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer Soccer Innovations: Award-Winning Soccer Equipment & AccessoriesSoccer Innovations TeamPlayr: Find and join the perfect youth
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Join Chat By The Pitch for an engaging conversation with Lana Van Deusen, Angel Cuevas, and Sebastian Östergren from Atlético Dallas Youth. These experienced leaders share their journeys, from military service to international coaching influences, and discuss what it takes to build a positive club culture in North Texas. They break down player development, retaining talent, fostering love for the game, and creating pathways for every level. Tune in for inspiring insights on mentoring young athletes, balancing ambition with life skills, and growing soccer communities. Subscribe on Spotify and follow @ChatByThePitch on X!Key Talking Points• Building a positive club culture and breaking from traditional North Texas norms• Player retention through communication, mentorship, and support systems• Game models, coaching frameworks, and adapting styles for growth• Handling late bloomers, growth spurts, and emotional development• College pathways, alumni involvement, and preparing players for life beyond soccerTune In to LearnDiscover how Lana, Angel, and Sebastian transform teams, inspire players, and navigate the challenges of U.S. youth soccer.Quotes from Guests• “I've never had a player stop playing soccer.” – Sebastian Östergren• “We want to help our players and our families be leaders within our communities.” – Sebastian Östergren• “Soccer isn't gonna be there for most of these people beyond high school.” – Lana Van Deusen• “It's about building those people for the next generation of soccer players.” – Angel Cuevas• “We have to find different ways to cater to everyone.” – Sebastian Östergren• “Creating a culture where they wanna come back to.” – Lana Van Deusen• “We think that soccer should be for everyone.” – Sebastian Östergren• “Over communicate... parents are our customer.” – Angel CuevasConnect with Guests🌐 Website: atleticodallasyouth.comFollow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Review: Support Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform!#ChatByThePitch #AtleticoDallasYouth #YouthSoccer #PlayerDevelopment #SoccerCulture #CoachingJourney #CollegePathway #NorthTexasSoccer #SoccerForAll #Mentorship #CommunityLeaders #GameModel #InspirePlayersMentioned in this episode: Soccer Innovations: Award-Winning Soccer Equipment & AccessoriesSoccer Innovations TeamPlayr: Find and join the perfect youth
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Join Chat By The Pitch for an in-depth conversation with Brian Corcoran, Sporting Director of Atlético Dallas. Brian shares his journey from college and professional soccer to building a brand-new USL club in Dallas. He discusses the pivotal partnership with Renegades, creating youth-to-pro pathways, and laying the foundation for long-term community ties. From the vision of free academies to designing world-class facilities, Brian explains what it takes to grow the game in North Texas.Key Talking Points• Forming Atlético Dallas and partnering with Renegades for youth growth• Building pathways from youth to pro with community-first focus• Challenges in U.S. youth soccer and the push toward free academies• World-class facility plans, education support, and merit-based opportunities• Shifting from league-centric thinking to true club cultureTune In to LearnLearn how Brian Corcoran is shaping the future of Dallas soccer, building opportunities for players, coaches, and families to thrive.Quotes from Brian Corcoran• “We wanna be competitors on the field, but cooperative off the field.”• “Soccer should be free... that’s where we're headed.”• “We want to grow the game and there's plenty of room for everybody.”• “Our ultimate prize is when a local kid can step onto the field.”• “We do not want to be a destination club. We wanna be a stepping stone.”• “Football’s nothing without the community.”• “Iron sharpens iron — the better everyone is, the better we’ll become.”Connect with Brian Corcoran🌐 Website: atleticodallas.comFollow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Review: Please leave us a review to help the show grow!#ChatByThePitch #BrianCorcoran #AtleticoDallas #YouthPathways #ProSoccer #USL #SoccerForAll #CommunityGrowth #AcademyDevelopment #DallasSoccer #SteppingStone #FreeFootball #ClubCulture #IronSharpensIronMentioned in this episode: Soccer Innovations: Award-Winning Soccer Equipment & AccessoriesSoccer InnovationsThanks to Soccer Coach Weekly for supporting the podcast. Plan - Fast - Coach - Smart (GET YOUR 50% OFF WITH CODE IAN50) at Soccer Coach WeeklySoccer Coach WeeklyReeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer TeamPlayr: Find and join the perfect youth
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In Part Two of our Chat By The Pitch conversation with Tracey Leone—assistant coach for the University of North Carolina Women’s Soccer program, former U.S. Women’s National Team player, and 1991 World Cup champion—we dig deeper into her coaching philosophy, her experiences at the highest levels of the game, and the lessons she’s passing on to the next generation. Tracey shares stories from her time with the national team, the evolution of the women’s game, and why character and joy are just as important as skill. This episode is filled with insight for coaches, parents, and players chasing both success and fulfillment.🧠 Key Talking Points• Transition from player to coach and the challenges that came with it• Coaching at the collegiate, national, and professional levels• Lessons learned from the U.S. Women’s National Team experience• The growth of women’s soccer over the last three decades• Building a competitive yet joyful environment for players• How UNC maintains its winning culture year after year• The role of character and leadership in building successful teams• Advice for young players and their parents in today’s soccer landscape🎧 Tune In to LearnHow Tracey Leone blends competitive drive with a deep love for the game—and why that balance is the key to long-term success on and off the field.💬 Quotes from Tracey Leone• "Coaching is about developing people, not just players."• "The best environments challenge you while making you feel valued."• "You can’t fake passion—players know if you love what you’re doing."• "Character is the foundation for everything we do."• "The game has grown in incredible ways since my playing days."• "We keep the UNC culture alive by focusing on relationships."• "Every generation of players brings new energy and ideas."• "Joy in the game is not a luxury—it’s essential."• "Pressure is part of sports, but so is the love that keeps you playing."• "Winning matters, but so does who you become in the process." Connect with Tracey Leone• Website: UNC BioFollow Chat By The Pitch• X: @ChatByThePitch• Instagram: @ChatByThePitch• Facebook: Chat By The Pitch• 🎧 Subscribe on your favorite podcast platform & leave a review—your support helps us grow!#ChatByThePitch #TraceyLeone #SoccerPodcast #YouthSoccer #WomenInSports #Leadership #SoccerCulture #Motivation #UNCSoccer #Coaching #SoccerJourney #TeamBuilding #PassionForSoccer #AnsonDorrance #WomensSoccerMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.ReeplayerThanks to Soccer Coach Weekly for supporting the podcast. Plan - Fast - Coach - Smart (GET YOUR 50% OFF WITH CODE IAN50) at Soccer Coach WeeklySoccer Coach Weekly

Join Chat By The Pitch for Part One of an in-depth conversation with Tracey Leone—assistant coach for the University of North Carolina Women’s Soccer program, former U.S. Women’s National Team player, and 1991 World Cup champion. Tracey shares her journey from pickup soccer in Dallas to becoming one of UNC’s standout players. We explore how neighborhood games shaped her love for the sport, the influence of her family and legendary coach Anson Dorrance, and her perspective on today’s youth soccer culture. Packed with wisdom for coaches, parents, and players, this episode dives into passion, player development, and finding the balance between competition and joy.🧠 Key Talking Points• Growing up in Dallas and discovering soccer through neighborhood pickup games• The role of her single mother and sisters in shaping her love for sports• Transition from unstructured play to organized soccer at age eight• The importance of passion and intrinsic motivation for long-term success• Evolution of youth soccer culture: past vs. present pressures• Early ODP experiences and the rise of girls’ soccer in North Texas• The impact of Anson Dorrance’s coaching style and competitive environment• Balancing growth of the game with preserving its joy and creativity🎧 Tune In to LearnHow Tracey Leone turned backyard pickup soccer into a pathway to the national team—and why she believes passion and free play are still the most powerful drivers of success in today’s game.💬 Quotes from Tracey Leone• "My love for soccer began organically by playing with neighborhood kids."• "The game was the best teacher for me."• "You have to love what you’re doing, from rec to the national team."• "We combined old-school pickup with new-age opportunities—that’s the sweet spot."• "Anson Dorrance’s ability to motivate is off the charts."• "North Texas was the greatest place to grow up as a soccer player."• "Development happens every single day, no matter your level."• "Kids should play because they want to, not because they’re forced."• "With the growth of the game comes opportunity—but also pressure."• "You have to want to be there to get the most out of sports."📲 Connect with Tracey Leone• Website: UNC Bio📢 Follow Chat By The Pitch• X: @ChatByThePitch• Instagram: @ChatByThePitch• Facebook: Chat By The Pitch• 🎧 Subscribe & Review: Your reviews help us grow and bring more inspiring soccer stories to the mic!#ChatByThePitch #TraceyLeone #SoccerPodcast #YouthSoccer #WomenInSports #Leadership #SoccerCulture #Motivation #UNCSoccer #NorthTexasSoccer #Coaching #SoccerJourney #TeamBuilding #PassionForSoccer #AnsonDorranceMentioned in this episode:Thanks to Soccer Coach Weekly for supporting the podcast. Plan - Fast - Coach - Smart (GET YOUR 50% OFF WITH CODE IAN50) at Soccer Coach WeeklySoccer Coach WeeklyReeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

Join Chat By The Pitch for an inspiring conversation with Kean Barclay, Head Women’s Soccer Coach at Columbia State Community College and Director of Coaching at Clarksville Soccer Club. From playing in Fayetteville, Arkansas, to coaching internationally in Ireland, Bolivia, and Scotland, Kean’s journey has shaped a coaching philosophy built on resilience, culture, and player growth. We explore building strong team culture, the unique role of junior colleges in player development, and balancing coaching with parenting. Kean also reflects on lessons from his podcast, Down the Tunnel. Packed with insights for coaches, parents, and players alike, this episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about the game.Key Talking Points• How Kean’s global soccer experiences shaped his coaching philosophy• The role of junior colleges in recruiting and preparing players for four-year schools• Strategies for building a positive team culture and managing parent influence in youth sports• Balancing the demands of coaching with parenting while fostering player accountabilityTune In to LearnHow Kean mentors players to grow as athletes and people, with a focus on resilience and strong team culture.Quotes from Kean Barclay• “I love the connections, I like the relationships. Whether I’m coaching at the number one Division I school or a Division III community college, it’s about helping players grow.”• “Failure shouldn’t be a word you feel uncomfortable hearing—it’s about what you do after.”• “Every individual’s role is crucial in pushing, evolving, and maintaining team culture.”• “Dissension loves company. Negative influences can spread quickly, especially in youth soccer.”• “I ask my kids, ‘Did you have fun?’ That’s the main question after a game.”• “It’s about building accountability in players, whether in college or club soccer.”• “The familial influence is different in club versus college—it’s more direct in youth sports.”• “I want players to find a school that fits their personality, not just their soccer goals.”• “Coaching at a junior college means recruiting players in and recruiting them out.”• “Your attitude affects your emotions, and your emotions affect your results.”Connect with Kean Barclay• 🎧 Podcast: Down The Tunnel• 📧 Email: DownTheTunnel@gmail.com• 🌐 Website: www.columbiastate.edu/athleticsFollow Chat By The Pitch• 🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch• 📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch• 📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch• 🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave a review to help us bring more conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.#ChatByThePitch #KeanBarclay #SoccerPodcast #SoccerCoachLife #YouthSoccer #CoachingTips #TeamCulture #JuniorCollegeSoccer #SoccerDevelopment #SportsLeadership #SoccerMindset #ClarksvilleSoccer #ColumbiaStateSoccerMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.ReeplayerThanks to Soccer Coach Weekly for supporting the podcast. Plan - Fast - Coach - Smart (GET YOUR 50% OFF WITH CODE IAN50) at Soccer Coach WeeklySoccer Coach Weekly

Join Chat By The Pitch for an inspiring chat with Akeem Gordon, founder of VMR Academy (Vision Meets Reality) and a former football player turned elite speed and agility trainer. From his journey playing college football and pro stints in the NFL and CFL, Akeem pivoted to training athletes in Texas, specializing in soccer players' mechanics, acceleration, and mindset. We dive into assessing young athletes, building proper running form, the role of high-energy coaching, and advice for parents on fostering athletic development. Packed with real-talk insights on turning vision into reality! Subscribe on Spotify, follow @ChatByThePitch on X.Key Talking Points• Akeem's athletic journey from Chicago to pro football and founding VMR Academy.• Transitioning from training football to soccer players, focusing on mechanics like arm movement and foot placement.• Assessing athletes through drills, emphasizing safety, results, and family-like environment.• Importance of high energy in coaching to match and elevate kids' performance.• Common issues in youth athletes: improper running, tablet dependency, and lack of problem-solving skills.Tune In to LearnTune in to learn how Akeem Gordon transforms athletes by building proper mechanics, mindset, and speed for game-changing performance on the pitch.Quotes from Akeem Gordon• “Proper repetition equals efficiency.”• “It's not the drill that people are paying for. It's the person behind it.”• “My energy is way higher than theirs because I want them to know that most trainers are putting people through drills that they can't do.”• “In order to make crazy plays, we gotta train crazy.”• “You're paying for the experience.”• “Your speed is different than mine. So you're gonna think you're right until you meet someone like me.”• “I guarantee within the first three sessions, you'll see what you're looking for.”• “This is the place to make a mistake. Once you start playing in the game, mistakes have to be very limited.”• “I see potential that you don't see nor feel.”• “The same way you do anything is how you should do everything.”Connect with Akeem Gordon📲 Instagram: @vmracademy📘 Facebook: VMR Academy🐦 X: @vmracademy🎥 TikTok: @vmracademy📍 Facility: 5034 Hopkins Rd, Krum, TX 76249Follow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.#ChatByThePitch #AkeemGordonInspires #SportsPodcast #YouthSoccer #SpeedTraining #AgilityDrills #SoccerMechanics #AthleteDevelopment #Motivation #SportsTalk #TrainerLife #VisionMeetsReality #TeamBuilding #Leadership #SoccerCoachMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

Join Chat by the Pitch for an inspiring conversation with Warren Cottle, Director of Coaching and Player Development at North Texas State Soccer Association, and Christine Ellis, social media manager for Soccer Innovations. In this episode, Warren and Christine share their passion for youth soccer development, focusing on fostering a player-centric culture. They discuss the transformative Soccer for Success program, the importance of ball mastery at young ages, and the pitfalls of prioritizing winning over development. Tune in for actionable insights on creating environments where kids can learn, make decisions, and grow through soccer, packed with practical tips for coaches and parents alike! (134 words)Key Talking PointsSoccer for Success: Providing soccer education and equipment to schools in underserved communities.Ball mastery: Building technical foundations at home to boost confidence and control.Player-centric coaching: Creating environments for kids to make decisions and learn through play.Small-sided games: Why 4v4 and futsal are critical for maximizing touches and development.Parent education: Shifting focus from winning to long-term player growth.Tune In to LearnTune in to learn how Warren Cottle and Christine Ellis transform youth soccer by prioritizing skill development, decision-making, and inclusive access to the game.Quotes from Warren Cottle and Christine Ellis"The goal is to get soccer education out… it’s unbelievably user-friendly for the elementary perspective as well as the high school PE teacher perspective." – Warren Cottle"If you could take that and tie grades to it… use that as a platform to develop not just soccer players, but also people." – Warren Cottle"I saw it with my oldest… it took about six months, and all of a sudden it transformed the way that he played." – Christine Ellis"It’s so fun to watch and see… it sets them off on the right foot because now they start to feel confident." – Christine Ellis"As a coach, you don’t look at the ball. You look at the players off the ball, what they’re looking at, and what they’re thinking." – Warren Cottle"I’m big on ownership because they gotta feel like it’s their journey, and they will put more into it if it’s theirs." – Christine Ellis"Sometimes your best coaches… put ‘em on the field and let the kids figure it out." – Warren Cottle"I wish everybody knew… there’s something about they’re comfortable, they’re at home, they can have a ball at their foot." – Christine Ellis"Tournaments end up being more about money than they’re actually about development." – Warren Cottle"If they can’t control the ball, how will they be able to play on the field?" – Christine EllisConnect with Warren Cottle📲 Instagram: @NTXODP📘 Facebook: @NTXODP📧 Email: warren@ntxsoccer.org🌐 Website: https://www.ntxsoccer.org/odp/olympic-development-program/Connect with Christine Ellis📲 Instagram: @soccerinnovations📘 Facebook: @SoccerInnovationsUSA🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/soccerinnovationsFollow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ChatByThePitchPod🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat by the Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.#ChatByThePitch #YouthSoccer #SoccerForSuccess #BallMastery #PlayerDevelopment #CoachingTips #Futsal #SoccerEducation #Leadership #Motivation #SoccerInnovations #NorthTexasSoccer...

In Part 2 of Chat by the Pitch with Nate Baker, founder of The Developer’s Way, we dive deeper into the broken U.S. youth soccer system and how to fix it. Nate discusses the dehumanization of players, treated as “slabs of meat” with expiration dates rather than “slabs of clay” to be molded into masterpieces. Through personal stories, like his daughter’s resilience on stage, Nate illustrates how coaches and parents can champion small wins to build lasting values. He shares insights on creating player-centric environments that prioritize potential over short-term results. Tune in for a powerful discussion on fostering resilience, joy, and growth in youth soccer!Key Talking Points• Broken Soccer System: Despite infrastructure growth, U.S. soccer produces fewer top-level American players due to a focus on talent accumulation over development.• Humanizing Players: Nate advocates for seeing players as individuals with endless potential, fostering environments that prioritize growth and resilience.• Celebrating Small Wins: Nate’s story of his daughter overcoming stage fright highlights how celebrating resilience over results builds lifelong values.• Aligning Parents and Coaches: Educating parents and coaches to align with a club’s vision ensures players stay engaged, reducing dropout rates and sustaining development.Tune In to LearnTune in to learn how Nate Baker’s player-centric approach at The Developer’s Way transforms youth soccer by championing resilience, values, and potential, offering practical steps for parents and coaches.Quotes from Nate Baker• “The game is no longer for the players. It’s been flipped, serving coaches, administrators, and egos instead.”• “Winning is just taking that next step and staying in the game.”• “We’re not developing players; we’re giving the impression they’re being developed.”• “Kids need environments where someone believes in their potential and pushes them to keep going.”• “My daughter froze on stage, came back, and finished. That’s the greatest win I’ve ever seen.”Connect with Nate Baker• 📲 Instagram: @thedevelopersway• 🌐 Website: The Developer’s Way• 🐦 X: @NateBakerCoachFollow Chat by the Pitch• 🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch• 📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch• 📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat by the Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.#ChatByThePitch #NateBakerInspires #YouthSoccer #SoccerDevelopment #CoachingCulture #PlayerPotential #Resilience #SoccerParents #Leadership #TeamBuildingMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

Join Chat by the Pitch for Part 1 of an inspiring conversation with Nate Baker, founder of The Developer’s Way and director at Achilles Football Club in Washington, D.C. Nate shares his journey from a youth soccer player captivated by the 1994 World Cup to a coach redefining U.S. soccer culture. We dive into the overuse of “development” in youth sports, exploring how a culture vision rooted in values, combined with a playing vision and game vision, creates a path to unlock players’ endless potential. Nate offers actionable insights for parents and coaches to foster environments where kids grow as athletes and people. Tune in for a fresh perspective on moving beyond the win-at-all-costs mentality! (126 words)Key Talking Points• Nate’s Origin Story: Inspired by the 1994 World Cup, Nate’s Division I and USL career led to his mission to address suboptimal coaching environments through The Developer’s Way.• Redefining Development: Development moves players toward their potential through a culture vision (values and resilience), playing vision (technical/tactical skills), and game vision (applying both in matches), iterated over time.• Parent-Player Unity: Educating parents and players as one unit aligns expectations with a club’s vision, sustaining long-term growth and reducing pressure.• Challenging Short-Term Focus: Nate critiques the win-at-all-costs mentality, advocating for a culture that prioritizes joy, resilience, and holistic growth over weekend results.Tune In to LearnTune in to learn how Nate Baker’s philosophy at The Developer’s Way redefines youth soccer by emphasizing culture, values, and potential, offering parents and coaches a roadmap for transformative development.Quotes from Nate Baker• “Development is taking a person, a player, and moving them as close to their potential as possible.”• “Everyone has potential. You can’t define it, and it’s an endless horizon we’re always pursuing.”• “If you don’t teach culture, you don’t really teach anything.”• “The game is not about the match on the weekend in its finite form. It’s about how you take the lessons and build into the next week.”• “Parent plus player equals one person. You have to educate both together.”Connect with Nate Baker• 📲 Instagram: @thedevelopersway• 🌐 Website: The Developer’s Way• 📧 Email: [Contact via website]• 🐦 X: @NateBakerCoachFollow Chat by the Pitch• 🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch• 📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch• 📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat by the Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.#ChatByThePitch #NateBakerInspires #YouthSoccer #SoccerDevelopment #CoachingCulture #PlayerPotential #Resilience #SoccerParents #Leadership #TeamBuildingMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

In Part 2 of our series with Dan Abrahams, we go deep on practical tools for parents and coaches: game faces, match scripts, divergent questions, and creating mentally resilient players. If you've ever wondered how to truly support your child emotionally on and off the pitch, this episode is your blueprint.🔑 Key Talking Points• What a "Game Face" is and why even Premier League stars use them• The power of match scripts and why three cues are better than ten• How divergent questioning unlocks player self-awareness• Why creativity, emotion, and reflection are critical in sport development• The neuroscience behind confidence and performance📌 Tune in to learnHow to use simple psychological tools to help your child take ownership of their performance—and fall in love with the process.💬 Quotes from Dan• "You can’t think for your child. They have to work it out themselves."• "The best players in the world construct their own world—why can’t your kid do the same?"• "Tiger, lion, Terry—metaphors shape how our brains behave. That’s why Game Face works."• "Divergent questions are how you coach without coaching. It’s how you listen louder."• "Match scripts are more than mantras—they’re brain hacks for peak focus."• "The worst thing a parent can do? Be the voice inside their kid’s head they didn’t ask for."• "You want your child thinking, ‘What does aggressive vocal tiger look like today?’"• "Confidence is built on cues, not wishes."• "There’s a reason sports psych is everywhere in the pros—because it works."• "Mental training isn’t optional—it’s the fourth leg of the performance table."📲 Connect with Dan Abrahams📷 Instagram: @danabrahamssport📘 Facebook: Dan Abrahams Soccer Academy🌐 Website: www.danabrahams.com🎧 Follow Chat By The Pitch:🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.#DanAbrahams #GameFace #MatchScript #SoccerParenting #MentalTraining #SoccerDevelopment #YouthSportsPsychology #PerformanceMindset #ChatByThePitch #RaisingPlayersRightMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

In Part 1 of our powerful two-part conversation, we welcome renowned sports psychologist Dan Abrahams to Chat By The Pitch. With over 30 years in high-performance sport and clients ranging from Premier League stars to F1 drivers, Dan breaks down how our culture around youth soccer is failing young athletes. From misguided sideline behavior to a broken obsession with early winning, Dan gives us a blueprint for healthier environments focused on joy, development, and lifelong participation.🔑 Key Talking PointsWhy winning should never be the priority in early youth soccerHow parents and coaches impact performance psychology, often unknowinglyThe bio-psycho-social model and how it applies to kids on the pitchCulture-building at clubs and how it shapes player outcomesWhat true development looks like, and how parents can get out of the way📌 Tune in to learnHow the world’s top athletes win by not focusing on winning, and what that means for your child’s soccer journey.💬 Quotes from Dan"It baffles me why adults think they have to introduce children to sport through the prism of winning and losing.""Let’s begin at the beginning: soccer should start with fun, enjoyment, and participation.""Your child is not a mini adult. Your child has a child’s brain in a child’s body.""So many kids quit sport not because they’re losing—but because they’re no longer enjoying it.""Culture isn't just a buzzword—it's the operating system of every club, every team, every sideline.""We have to start by letting kids fall in love with the game.""The mental side isn’t a luxury; it’s the core of long-term development.""The behaviors you see on the field are just the tip of the biopsychosocial iceberg.""We’re not raising champions. We’re raising humans through soccer.""Coaches need to be more than technical experts—they need to be emotional architects."📲 Connect with Dan Abrahams📷 Instagram: @danabrahamssport📘 Facebook: Dan Abrahams Soccer Academy🌐 Website: www.danabrahams.com🎧 Follow Chat By The Pitch:🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.#DanAbrahams #YouthSoccerCulture #SportsPsychology #SoccerParents #CoachingMatters #BioPsychoSocial #MentalSideMatters #PlayerDevelopment #ChatByThePitch #SoccerEducationMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

In this episode of Chat By The Pitch, Ian Babcock sits down with Rey Torres, founder of PAYD FC (Professional Academy of Youth Development), to unpack the heart behind one of Mesquite’s most intentional independent clubs. From his own journey as a player to his philosophy as a coach, Rey explains how he’s building PAYD not just to win, but to shape lives through culture, consistency, and a commitment to development.We dive deep into what makes PAYD different—from how they blend personal training with club play, to their structured off-season and in-season programming, and why he believes Classic League remains the gold standard for Texas youth soccer. Rey talks about developing players from age 5 to U18, how promotion and relegation fuels growth, and what it takes to truly prepare a player for college or the pros—without selling out to flashy badges or trendy leagues.🧠 Key Talking Points:• Rey’s path from West Mesquite to founding PAYD FC• The meaning of Professional Academy of Youth Development• Why starting young builds stronger bonds and smarter players• A breakdown of PAYD’s dual-track model: club + personal training• The philosophy of training by season, not just by week• How promotion/relegation in Classic League shapes competition• Building a player-first pathway aligned with US Soccer values• Preparing players for opportunities: ODP, MLS Next, and beyond• Why club culture and parental education go hand-in-hand• PAYD’s long-term vision: agents, growth, and purpose-driven expansion🔍 Tune in to learn:• Why small, development-focused clubs like PAYD matter now more than ever• How training cycles should mirror professional soccer preparation• The hidden value of loyalty, culture, and community in youth sports• How Rey Torres prepares players for the next step—and then helps them get there• What truly separates PAYD from “alphabet league” culture🗣️ Quotes from Rey:“Classic League is the best league competitive-wise here in the Metroplex, specifically because of promotion and relegation.”“I don’t want to lose players either, but if it’s for the right situation, I feel better about it.”“Our goal is to take players from the rec level all the way to the professional level—on a structure built around development and culture.”“We're not just a club—we're a training system, a mentorship program, and one day an agency.”“If you're doing things the right way, you're gonna be seen. You don’t need a big badge.”“It all starts with culture. That’s what made me successful in business, and now it’s why PAYD thrives.”“I’m the first coach most of these kids have ever had—that bond is different.”“The goal isn’t just to win; it’s to build. Win the right way.”“If you're ready for MLS Next, we’ll take you there. But not just to say you’re there—when it’s the right time.”“I ground my feet. Where we are today is built on doing it slow, right, and with purpose.”📲 Connect with Rey TorresInstagram: @paydfc | @paydtrainingFacebook: @paydfc | @paydEmail: Torresrey9@yahoo.com🎙️ Follow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review:Love the episode? Make sure to subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and leaders shaping the future of the game.#ChatByThePitch #PAYDFC #YouthSoccerDevelopment #TexasSoccer #SoccerCulture #PlayerPathways #ClassicLeague #IndependentClubs #SoccerTraining #BuildFromTheGroundUpMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the...

In this powerful episode of Chat By The Pitch, we welcome Victor Jaramillo of SportXplore Travel to peel back the curtain on one of the most frustrating parts of youth sports: the "stay to play" tournament model. Victor breaks down how families are being squeezed by hotel schemes, what really goes on behind those “official travel partner” links, and how clubs, coaches, and parents can push back without risking their players' spots. Whether you're new to the travel game or a seasoned parent navigating another tournament season, this conversation is your roadmap to informed decisions, financial clarity, and better experiences for your team.📌 Key Talking PointsWhat “Stay to Play” really means and how it impacts families financiallyHow the hotel cost structures are inflated—and who benefitsThe leverage clubs do have, but rarely useHow to negotiate hotel rates without being a travel agentThe importance of communication between parents, coaches, and club leadershipReal examples of tournaments that rejected the system and thrivedWhy language barriers create a bigger issue in tournament logisticsTips on navigating cancellation policies and refund trapsHow Victor leverages his travel agency to advocate for familiesWhat it will take for the youth sports community to change the system🎧 Tune In To LearnHow to identify red flags in tournament lodging agreementsThe exact questions to ask your team manager before the season startsWhy “going rogue” might be the only way to regain controlHow clubs and parents can work together to break the cycleWhat Victor believes is the tipping point to fix youth travel culture💬 Quotes from Victor Jaramillo“A hundred-dollar hotel rate can turn into $180 overnight—and the quality often doesn’t match the cost.”“Parents are being held hostage by a system they don’t understand and didn’t choose.”“The teams that reject ‘stay to play’ and choose their own path? I respect that deeply.”“This isn’t just about saving money—it’s about building trust, clarity, and fairness.”“Tournaments bake kickbacks into hotel prices, and families are left paying the bill without knowing.”“The players may speak English fluently, but their parents might not—and that silence creates a power imbalance.”“You have power as a customer, but the system counts on you not realizing that.”“I’m not here to make a quick buck. I started SportXplore Travel to solve a real problem.”“It’s time for big clubs to take a stand and say, ‘We’re not playing by these rules anymore.’”“Never arrive. Stay ready, stay learning, and stay in the fight for what’s right.”📲 Connect with SportXplore Travel📷 Instagram: @sportsxplore_travel📘 Facebook: sportsxplore_travel📧 Email: v.jaramillo@sportsxtravel.com🌐 Website: sportsxtravel.com🎧 Follow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Support the show by subscribing on your favorite podcast platform and leaving a review—it helps us bring more voices like Victor’s to light.#YouthSoccer #PayToPlay #StayToPlay #TournamentTravel #SoccerParents #ClubCulture #TeamLogistics #YouthSportsReform #TravelSoccerTruth #ChatByThePitchMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

In this episode of Chat By The Pitch, we sit down with Victor Jaramillo, founder of SportXplore Travel, whose journey from soccer-loving kid in Mexico City to Texas entrepreneur is nothing short of inspiring. After a layoff pushed him out of the corporate world, Victor turned his lifelong passion for sports and community into a mission: to simplify, humanize, and save families money on youth soccer travel. We talk pay-to-play pitfalls, hotel nightmares, and how Victor is changing the game—literally.Key Talking Points:Victor’s early connection to soccer through the 1986 World CupThe realities of growing up in Mexico’s soccer systemWhy being laid off pushed him toward entrepreneurshipThe origins and evolution of SportXplore TravelDisrupting the current youth sports travel modelPay-to-play challenges from a parent’s perspectiveHow SportXplore Travel builds partnerships with clubs and hotelsCreating savings and scholarship opportunities for clubsTransparency, fairness, and why it matters in youth sports travelVictor’s mission to be more than just a travel serviceTune in to learn:What happens behind the scenes with those expensive hotel blocksHow one man’s layoff turned into a new way to support youth soccerThe hidden cost of disorganization in team travelWhy building trust—not just bookings—is at the heart of Victor’s businessHow SportXplore Travel is returning value to families and clubsQuotes from Victor:"Sometimes you take the leap not because you're brave—but because you have no other option.""I was scared to be an entrepreneur. I never thought I’d actually do it.""The hotel industry opens up when they hear one word: prepaid.""This isn’t just about rooms—it’s about respect for parents’ time and money.""We give money back to the clubs because youth sports should lift families up, not drain them.""My inspiration was Tom’s Shoes. Do good, and good comes back.""The system’s broken when parents pay more and get less.""We’re not charging agency fees—our business is built on transparency.""A team manager’s job is already hard enough. We're here to be their right hand, not their replacement.""I believe youth travel should be efficient, fair, and built on trust."📲 Connect with SportXplore Travel📷 Instagram: @sportsxplore_travel📘 Facebook: sportsxplore_travel📧 Email: v.jaramillo@sportsxtravel.com🌐 Website: sportsxtravel.com🎧 Follow Chat By The Pitch:🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch⭐ Subscribe & Leave a Review on your favorite podcast platform#ChatByThePitch #SportXploreTravel #YouthSoccer #TeamTravel #SoccerParents #ClubSoccerLife #TravelSmartPlayHard #PayToPlayFix #SoccerBusiness #SupportTheParentsMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

In Part 2 of our conversation with Gavin Mole and Tony Cavalle from Dallas Surf, we dig into the strategy behind their mission to build a nationally respected soccer club. From their investment in academy coaches to setting clear college pathways for players, this episode is a blueprint on how to grow a club with purpose.Learn how Dallas Surf is using Surf Select, affordable access to training, professional-level video analysis, and structured progression to support both players and coaches in meaningful ways.Key Talking Points:• Why they pay academy coaches like select coaches• The Surf Select pathway: local to international opportunities• Building internal culture through coach development• Free and affordable training opportunities across DFW• Use of Huddle, Athlete One, and film to boost college recruiting• Upcoming showcase events and recruiting strategy• Facility improvements and equitable resource distribution• The challenge of managing growth while staying player-focused• Supporting coaches and players with retention in mind• What it means to truly aim for national relevance🎧 Tune in to learn:• How Surf is using national structure to help kids go pro and college• Why film, communication, and ID camps matter more than ever• What makes their academy program different—and better• The hard truths about player motivation and developmentQuotes from Tony Cavalle:“If we’re not trying to be the best club in the country, then it just wasn’t worth it.”“We raised academy coach pay to match select so we could attract top coaching talent.”“We use Athlete One, we use Huddle, we use whatever helps these kids get seen.”“We’re taking big swings—and soon people will see Surf differently.”“We want all facilities to be well-lit, flat, and playable—no matter what side of town.”Quotes from Gavin Mole:“Our academy is the most important part of the club.”“You have to make them fall in love with the game first—and the ball second.”“Retention here is strong because we support both coaches and players.”“If I was a player, having this video to watch would’ve been amazing.”“Surf Select isn’t just for kids—it's a pathway for coaches to grow, too.”📲 Connect with Dallas Surf🌐 Website: www.dallassurf.com📧 Emails & phone numbers for staff available onlineFollow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and leaders in youth soccer.#DallasSurf #YouthSoccer #SoccerPathways #ChatByThePitch #CollegeSoccer #SurfSelect #SoccerPodcast #ECNL #SoccerDevelopment #DFWSoccerMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

In this episode of Chat By The Pitch, we connect with Tony Cavalle and Gavin Mole of Dallas Surf — a club that’s rapidly redefining youth soccer in DFW. Tony shares the origin story of Dallas Surf, while Gavin breaks down how the club is building its player DNA from the ground up. We talk structure, coaching education, technology, and the long-term vision that includes a unified coaching style and a full developmental pathway. Whether you're a parent, coach, or club leader — this is a blueprint worth hearing.📌 Key Talking Points​ Why Dallas Surf invests in academy coaching like select​ How the club DNA works from U5 through U19​ Surf Select: internal national pathway for standout players​ The coaching structure, curriculum, and continuous feedback loops​ Athlete One, Huddle, ID camps — the college prep pipeline​ Tech, transparency, and tools for player & coach development​ Equal investment in East and West DFW training locations​ The Surf mindset: better people = better coaches = better players​ Internal promotion and coach retention across the club​ Big swings coming — and why they won’t stop until they’re the best🎯 Tune In to Learn​ Why Dallas Surf pays academy coaches like select coaches​ How the Surf system helps players go from U7 to international showcases​ What parents should be asking clubs at tryouts — and what red flags to avoid​ How Dallas Surf is using tech to simplify, streamline, and scale​ What it really takes to build a sustainable, scalable soccer culture💬 Quotes from Tony & Gavin“The academy is the most important part of the club.” – Gavin“You can’t have 90 teams doing 90 different things — that’s not a club.” – Tony“A bad coach at U7 does more damage than no coach at all.” – Gavin“We believe in Kaizen — continuous improvement — for everyone here.” – Gavin“We don’t want parents to stay for a coach. We want them to stay for the club.” – Tony“We’ve got kids traveling internationally with Surf Select. That’s not a dream anymore.” – Tony“You should be able to watch a team and say, ‘That’s a Dallas Surf team.’” – Tony“The structure is simple on purpose — it creates freedom through consistency.” – Gavin“Better coaches equal better players. That’s the investment.” – Gavin“We’re not building to be local. We’re building to be national — and beyond.” – Tony📲 Connect with Dallas Surf📷 Instagram: @dallassurfsoccer📘 Facebook: Facebook.com/dallassurf📧 Email: tcavalle@dallassurf.com / gmole@dallassurf.com🌐 Website: dallassurf.comFollow Chat By The Pitch:🐦 X: @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Review on your favorite podcast app!#DallasSurf #YouthSoccer #SoccerDevelopment #PlayerPathway #TexasSoccer #SurfNation #CoachingCulture #SoccerParenting #PlayerFirst #ChatByThePitchMentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

In Part 2 of our deep-dive with CJ Sutherland, founder of DFW United SC, we unpack the tough decisions facing independent clubs, including his partnership to bring ECNL-RL NTX to his players. CJ shares candid insights about the pressures of youth soccer today—from managing parent expectations to building a positive team culture while navigating an increasingly status-driven system.We explore why connection with players matters, how coaches influence kids beyond the field, and what it really takes to survive and thrive in the youth soccer world.Key Talking Points:The decision to join ECNL-RL NTX—and why it was necessaryHow parent pressure influences club decisionsThe double-edged sword of paying for soccerBuilding player confidence and mental toughnessWhy coaches must educate parents along the journeyBalancing growth and staying authentic as a small clubHow recognition works inside the club vs. on social mediaThe importance of knowing every player’s nameWhy coaching is about more than just the gameThe mental side of development in a competitive system🎧 Tune in to learn:Why CJ believes parents are chasing letters over learningWhat ECNL-RL NTX really means for playersThe quiet ways coaches support kids off the fieldWhy “every kid just wants to make their parents proud”Quotes from CJ:“At the end of the day, every kid just wants to make their parents proud.”“I try my best to give every kid a fist bump or high five when I see them.”“I know every kid’s name in my club.”“If I didn’t make the move to ECNL-RL, I was going to lose my club.”“Parents nowadays want this status.”“I’ve coached some of these kids since they were in diapers.”“The showcases are great, but no coach is picking your kid just from four games.”“Coaches are recruiting the parents, too—whether they know it or not.”“I want to build a culture where kids earn it, not just get handed status.”“It’s 90% mental, 10% talent.”📲 Connect with CJ Sutherland📷 Instagram: @dfwunitedsc📘 Facebook: DFW United SC📧 Email: DFWUnitedsoccer@gmail.comFollow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.Mentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer

🎧 Episode Description:What happens when a club decides to stop accepting mediocrity? CJ Sutherland, Director of Coaching at DFW United, joins us for a powerful, no-filter conversation about resetting standards, rebuilding culture, and facing the uncomfortable truths about youth soccer leadership. From confronting coach behavior to setting non-negotiables with parents, CJ breaks down what it takes to lead with purpose—and why anything less is unacceptable.🧠 Key Talking Points:• How CJ is transforming DFW United from the inside out• Rebuilding trust and accountability between coaches, players, and parents• The role adult behavior plays in club culture and player outcomes• Non-negotiables: what they are and why every club needs them• Why complacency spreads when leadership is inconsistent• The difference between coaching effort and coaching results• Redefining success in youth development• Addressing fear, blame, and silence in team environments• The impact of ego—on the sidelines, in the office, and in the stands• How to protect players while still pushing them🎯 Tune in to learn:• Why CJ believes culture is built—or broken—at the top• What real accountability looks like on and off the field• How DFW United is working to create a sustainable, competitive identity• The honest truths clubs must face if they want long-term success• CJ’s advice for any leader trying to shift a broken system💬 Quotes – CJ Sutherland:You can’t build a culture on silence.Every player wants to be pushed—they just don’t know it yet.We don’t have to scream. But we do have to demand.Complacency is the biggest opponent in youth soccer.Parents can’t be your ally if they don’t know the plan.If the coaches don’t believe in the standard, the players never will.You either coach it, or you allow it. There’s no in-between.The game doesn't care about your feelings—neither should training.We’re not chasing wins. We’re chasing habits.If your identity’s tied to a result, you’ll always be chasing confidence.🔖 Hashtags:#ChatByThePitch #DFWUnited #YouthSoccerCulture #CoachCJ #PlayerDevelopment #SoccerLeadership #HoldTheStandard #SoccerParents #AccountabilityMatters #CultureOverComfort📲 Connect with CJ Sutherland📷 Instagram: @dfwunitedsc📘 Facebook: DFW United SC✉️ Email: DFWUnitedsoccer@gmail.com📲 Follow Chat By The Pitch🐦 X (Twitter): @ChatByThePitch📷 Instagram: @ChatByThePitch📘 Facebook: Chat By The Pitch🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review: Please subscribe to Chat By The Pitch on your favorite podcast platform and leave us a review! Your support helps us grow and bring more in-depth conversations with players, coaches, and industry leaders.Mentioned in this episode:Reeplayer: Greater access to footage gives every young athlete the opportunity to develop and be seen. Reeplayer is committed to making footage accessible to teams, families, and athletes of all backgrounds.Reeplayer