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Intro In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall shares a deeply personal and legal look into the world of cohabitation through an excerpt from her upcoming book, After the Discard - No Divorce Required. Loraine explores the "sudden termination" of relationships, the discard, and the precarious legal positions many women find themselves in when living together without the protections of marriage. Drawing from her own harrowing experience in Spain and the UK, she discusses the gaps in current laws regarding property, inheritance, and the systemic reality of economic abuse.4 Best MomentsThe Reality of the Discard: Loraine recounts her personal experience of being "discarded" in Spain, left in a property she helped build but was not legally named on, eventually facing the termination of her water and electricity.The "Ravine" in the Law: A striking look at how current legislation fails to recognise non-earning contributions, such as homemaking and caretaking, leaving women disproportionately disadvantaged during a breakup.The Universal Tactics of Abuse: Loraine explains that while legal borders exist, the tactics of an abuser, specifically the systemic dismantling of a partner's financial security, are universal across the UK, Spain, and beyond.The Double-Edged Sword of "No Divorce Required": The realisation that while an abuser doesn’t need a courtroom to end a cohabiting relationship, the survivor is also denied the automatic asset-division protections that a divorce court provides.4 Key TakeawaysTrust is Not a Legal Contract: Many couples live their relationships on trust, but without a cohabitation agreement or being named on property deeds, that trust offers zero legal protection if the relationship ends or a partner dies.The Cohabitation Gap in the UK: There are no automatic rights to property, pensions, or inheritance for cohabiting couples, regardless of the length of the relationship or the number of children.Navigating Spanish Law: Couples in Spain can register as a pareja de hecho (civil union) to gain some legal recognition, but this does not automatically guarantee any property or asset claims.Economic Abuse Recognition: While the UK Domestic Abuse Act 2021 finally recognises economic abuse as a statutory crime, civil and cohabitation laws still lag, often failing to provide the financial remedies needed for survivors to survive after leaving. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you found these insights valuable, consider supporting the podcast via Loraine’s Buy Me A Coffee page or booking a mentor clarity session to help navigate your own post-separation transitionConnect on other Platforms and find all links here.https://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

Intro In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall explores the "radical, strategic alternative" to the silence of psychological abuse: healing out loud. For many women over 40, post-separation abuse often lives in the shadows of legal documents and depleted bank accounts. Loraine discusses how the act of vocalising your truth serves as the ultimate antidote to gaslighting, helping you transition from a state of constant alarm to a life of peace, clarity, and eventually, financial independence.4 Best MomentsThe Survival Station: Loraine offers a powerful reminder that if you are standing in the wreckage of your life, you are in survival mode—but "survival is a station, and it's not your destination".The Filing Cabinet Analogy: A striking metaphor for the disjointed fragments of trauma. Loraine describes the confusion of recovery as a filing cabinet that has been emptied onto the floor, leaving the survivor to decide which memories to keep and which to "throw in the trash".Calming the Brain's Alarm System: An insightful look at the science of recovery, noting that putting feelings into words can diminish the response of the amygdala, helping the nervous system finally calm down after years of chronic stress.Internalising the Truth: A raw segment where Loraine contrasts the abuser’s negative voices (e.g., "you are nothing without me") with the empowered mindset shifts (e.g., "I am capable of finding my financial independence") necessary for post-traumatic growth.4 Key TakeawaysPrioritise Safe Environments: While vocalising your story is transformative, it must occur in safe spaces—such as with a trauma-informed therapist or a trusted inner circle—to avoid further harm or re-traumatisation.Shift from Internal Doubt to Objective Reality: Journaling and documenting specific incidents help survivors recognise hidden patterns of manipulation like love bombing and blame shifting, validating that their experiences are real.The Power of Mindset in Healing: Recovery involves "deliberate cognitive restructuring" to unlearn ingrained beliefs of worthlessness and replace them with a growth mindset that leverages the brain’s neuroplasticity.Economic Empowerment is Possible: Economic abuse creates a mindset of fear and scarcity. Moving toward financial independence involves acknowledging the abuse, seeking financial literacy, and believing you deserve security and independence. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you are looking for personalised strategic guidance to help you navigate this transition, you can book a mentor clarity session via the link in the show notes.Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

In this moving episode, Loraine Marshall shares her personal journey of rising from the ashes of a decade-long "manipulationship" that cost her her home, business, and financial security. Now 65 and living a life of freedom in Spain, Loraine explains that recovery begins with internal alignment, not external safety nets. She provides a roadmap for releasing past betrayals and tuning your life's "radio dial" to the frequency of abundance.4 Best Moments1. The True Definition of Forgiveness: Loraine reframes forgiveness as a gift to oneself, stating it isn't about letting an abuser off the hook, but rather "taking the hook out of your own heart" to allow for expansion.2. The Ho'oponopono Mantra: A look at the ancient Hawaiian practice of self-forgiveness using four simple phrases—"I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you"—to clear the emotional rubble.3. Reframing 10,000 Failures: Using Thomas Edison as an example, Loraine explains how to neutralise the sting of failure by viewing it as "raw data" and feedback rather than a reflection of your identity.4. The "Up Until Now" Pattern Interrupt: Loraine introduces three magic words—"Up until now"—to instantly break the loop of self-limiting beliefs and reclaim power in the present moment--------------------------------------------------------------------------------4 Key Takeaways1. Vibrational Frequency: Freedom and resentment cannot exist on the same frequency. To attract abundance, you must release the "lower vibration" of revenge and resentment.2. The 42% Advantage: Writing down your goals isn't just "positive thinking"; it is neurobiology. You are 42% more likely to achieve a goal by writing it down, as the physical act engages both brain hemispheres and sends an electrical signal through your nervous system.3. Feed the Expansion Wolf: Based on a Cherokee legend, we all have two "wolves" battling within us—Constriction (fear/greed) and Expansion (joy/love). The one that wins is the one you feed with your daily thoughts and actions.4. The Necessity of "Now Actions": Transformation only lives in the present. Crossing the threshold to a new life requires a "now action"—like making a call or creating a budget—even when your biology hits "DEFCON 1" and screams at you to stay in your comfort zone.For more insights, Loraine invites listeners to book a mentor clarity call to identify the paradigms holding them back and to support the show via "Buy Me A Coffee"Connect on other platformsBook a call https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsHo‘oponopono Mantra for self-love and forgiveness. https://youtu.be/93oql29IN4c?si=JcSmaMv9ef18rV65

In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall exposes the financial traps that keep 50% of the population at the bottom of the money pyramid. We move beyond the exhausting "hustle culture" to embrace the MSI (Multiple Sources of Income) mindset. This episode serves as a guide to transition from being an employee, trading time for a paycheck, to becoming an architect of self-sustaining income streams that flow into your bank account regardless of your physical presence4 Best Moments1. The 2020 Wealth Paradox: Loraine highlights the shocking reality of March 2020; while the world shut down and single income streams vanished, five million new millionaires were created because they utilised "MSI Technology" on autopilot.2. The $100 San Francisco Challenge: A deep dive into Robert Allen’s legendary feat, where he entered a city with only $100 and no wallet, yet managed to buy seven properties in 72 hours by focusing on "Don't-Wanters" instead of traditional sellers.3. The "Money While You Sleep" Distinction: A powerful clarification that if you must be physically present for money to flow, you haven't built an MSI; you have simply bought yourself more work.4. The 18-Plate Spinner Analogy: A visual lesson on wealth management—start by getting one "plate" (income stream) spinning until it is automated before attempting to add more, ensuring you never exceed the Three Project Limit4 Key Takeaways1. Shift to the M3 Strategy: While 96% of the population uses the M1 strategy (trading time for money), the top 1% use the M3 strategy, which focuses on multiplying time by setting up dozens of automated "scripts" or assets.2. Master the Law of Compensation: Your income is governed by a universal law and is in direct proportion to the need for what you do, your ability to do it, and the difficulty in replacing you.3. Apply the MONEY TREE Filter: To ensure an income stream is a high-value asset, it must pass the MONEY TREE formula: Multiple, Outstanding, Nothing Down, Employee Resistant, Yield, Trend, Residual, Essential, and Enthusiasm.4. Follow the 30% Success Rule: Statistics indicate you are 30% more likely to succeed if you build your side hustle in parallel with your day job, using your salary to fund your financial educationReady to take the next step? If you need a "paid thinking space" to decide your next move without burning bridges, Loraine is now offering one-to-one mentor sessions. Find the link in the show notes or visit: successwithloraine.com/mentor-sessions/Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

Welcome to Mindset Money Success with your host, Loraine. In this episode, we explore the legendary teachings of Bob Proctor’s "You Were Born Rich". We dive into the idea that wealth is not something you "get," but something you "tune into" by discovering the unlimited potential already within you. If you’ve felt stuck, it’s time to rearrange your mental jigsaw pieces and start vibrating on the frequency of the life you were meant to live.4 Best Moments1. Meet the "Stickperson": Loraine breaks down Bob Proctor’s famous graphic to explain the mind. While the Conscious Mind chooses thoughts, the Subconscious Mind is the emotional powerhouse where your "Paradigms" live, ultimately controlling your results.2. The Thermostat Analogy: A powerful realisation that if your subconscious is programmed for scarcity, you will stay broke. Like a thermostat set to 60 degrees, your internal programming will always pull you back down until you reset your "set point" for wealth.3. The 10-20-70 Financial Strategy: Loraine introduces a practical "action planner" based on the Babylonian Law. By allocating 10% to wealth, 20% to debt, and 70% to living, you create an "orderly mind" that allows for the creative process to thrive4. The Vacuum Law of Prosperity: A fascinating look at how nature abhors a vacuum. To signal to the universe that you are ready for more, you must first make space by clearing out old clothes, limiting beliefs, or even giving away money to keep it flowing4 Key Takeaways1 Master the "Servant": Success requires a fundamental shift in your relationship with money. You must love people and use money as an "obedient, diligent servant" rather than hoarding it out of fear.2 Vibration Dictates Results: Everything in the universe vibrates, including your body. To change your financial situation, you must adopt the vibration of a wealthy person before the money shows up, as the universe gives you what you are, not just what you want.3 Use the Image Maker: The subconscious mind cannot distinguish between a visualised image and physical reality. By using an Image Card with a specific gratitude statement, you can imprint your financial goals directly into your subconscious4 Ignore the "Doom and Gloom": To protect your new mindset, you must reject external influences and news cycles focused on lack. Instead, listen to the quiet voice within and act as if you are already your most successful selfReady to take the next step? If you need a "paid thinking space" to decide your next move without burning bridges, Loraine is now offering one-to-one mentor sessions. Find the link in the show notes or visit: successwithloraine.com/mentor-sessions/Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall shares powerful transformation strategies inspired by her time at Tony Robbins’ "Time to Rise" event. The discussion focuses on mastering your internal world to achieve external success, covering foundational rituals, emotional mastery, and the shift from being a business operator to a true owner.4 Best Moments• The 10-Minute Ritual: Loraine discusses Tony Robbins’ belief that "if you don't have 10 minutes for your life, you don't have a life," highlighting the necessity of a daily priming routine to shift your biochemistry.• The Science of Suffering: A deep dive into why suffering is a choice; while emotions last chemically for 90 seconds, anything beyond that is caused by ruminating on the thought.• Adapting for Trauma Survivors: A poignant reflection on why traditional gratitude can feel dangerous for those in "survival mode" and how to use "I am" affirmations and protective visualisations instead.• The "C.A.N.I." Philosophy: Exploring the concept of Constant and Never-Ending Innovation and why success comes from doing more for others than anyone else.4 Key Takeaways• Priming Your Nervous System: Start your day with a 10-minute ritual: one minute of "breath of fire," three minutes of heartfelt gratitude, three minutes of blessing/guidance, and three minutes to visualise three goals as already accomplished. This wires your Reticular Activating System (RAS) to spot new opportunities.• The 90-Second Rule: To stop stress or anger from taking root, use the Acknowledge, Observe, Breath, and Release method. By observing the stress without "believing it" and using slow breaths, you can calm the nervous system and let go of the thought.• Business Map vs. Business Plan: Traditional plans are often too rigid for modern markets. A Business Map allows for agility, helping you stay committed to your decisions while remaining flexible enough to pivot your approach when necessary.• Owner vs. Operator Mindset: To have a true business rather than just a job, you must have an exit strategy. A successful business is designed to make money even when the owner is not physically present, allowing you to work on the business rather than in it.Find out more about My Journey and connect on other platforms.https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsSupport the Podcasthttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/

In this week's episode, we’re going to explore the profound mindset shifts that can turn a challenging time into your greatest comeback story. We are talking about escaping a debt trap and knowing the difference between "smart debt" and "foolish debt".4 Best Moments• The Metamorphosis of Randy Gage: Discover how Gage transitioned from a major business failure to building a library of over 1,000 books to understand how thoughts shape reality. His journey proves that rock bottom is not a story of failure, but a necessary metamorphosis.• Reframing "Financial Crystal Meth": A sobering look at "foolish debt"—the debt of instant gratification. Gage describes it as a temporary high that results in a brutal comedown of regret, energy leaks, and a diminished sense of self-worth.• The Radical "Naked Truth" Step: The moment of true liberation begins with radical honesty. Host Loraine Marshall discusses the necessity of pulling every statement and creating a master list, leaving no place for your fear to hide.• The Police Line-up Analogy: A powerful reminder that wealth without connection is hollow. Gage asks the rhetorical question: What is the joy in earning millions if your children couldn’t pick you out of a police line-up? Success must be tied to relationships and well-being4 Key Takeaways• Distinguish Between Smart and Foolish Debt: Not all debt is equal. Smart debt acts as leverage to acquire income-producing assets, while foolish debt acts as a "silent drain" on your confidence and abundance.• Execute a Strategic Escape Plan: Breaking free requires a relentless roadmap. This includes prioritising the highest interest rates, negotiating with creditors to lower APRs, and committing to accumulating no new bad debt.• Play the "Infinite Game" of Wealth: Shift your philosophy from "earning money to do good" to "doing good while earning money." This creates an expanding cycle of prosperity where more resources allow for more positive impact.• Focus on the Person You Become: The ultimate reward of financial independence isn't the bank balance; it’s the personal growth required to achieve it. Building wealth is a journey of upgrading your identity to someone who lives above debt, not under itReady to move from trauma to transformation? Visit the SuccessWithLoraine website to learn more about her new mentor programme, specifically designed for women reclaiming their agency.Support the Podcasthttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/

Intro Welcome to Mindset Money Success with your host, Loraine Marshall. Today, we dive into the journey of reclaiming your power after the "three Ds": Divorce, Death, or Discard. For women navigating life at 40-plus, these aren't just relationship endings; they are traumatic events that require a total reconstruction of the soul. Learn how to move from a state of survival to one of transformation by becoming the master of your own mental architecture.4 Best MomentsDefining the Three Ds: Loraine identifies the specific traumas of divorce, the death of a partner, and the abrupt discard, explaining how these moments can leave us paralysed by uncertainty.The Literal Mind: A powerful realisation that the brain has no sense of humour; it takes phrases like "this is killing me" literally and may create physical illness or panic attacks to "protect" you from the perceived danger.The "I Am Enough" Breakthrough: Exploring how the most simple instruction—repeatedly telling your subconscious "I am enough"—can rebuild a sense of worthiness that has been shattered by betrayal or loss.The Shift to Abundance: Learning to stop the "contraction" of fear regarding finances by focusing on visual cues and the deliberate choice to say, "I am having that" instead of "I can't afford it".4 Key TakeawaysYour Mind Follows Instructions: Your subconscious is a tool that does exactly what it thinks you want it to do. It responds specifically to the pictures you construct in your head and the words you say to yourself.Choose Empowering Language: Switch from catastrophic language to words that generate energy. Instead of "I have to," try "I have chosen to" or "I am on a mission of discovery," which flips the switch from resistance to empowerment.Make Self-Praise Familiar: Many people are experts at self-criticism, making it their "natural state". To transform, you must make self-praise incredibly familiar and treat criticism as something entirely "unfamiliar" that you no longer accept.Focus on Destination, Not Current Lack: Your mind’s "creative search engines" shut down when focused on lack and fear. To find new opportunities, you must focus on where you are going rather than your current bank balance, using tools like vision boards to prime your mind for abundance.Are you ready to move from trauma to transformation? Book a call with Loraine’s mentor programme to wire in the habits of the unstoppable. Video mentor sessions are 1:1 or appear on my podcast, Mindset, Money, Success. I’ll spend forty minutes with you to help guide you or listen to your story. Invitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/Support the ChannelLifeChangeplans Affirmations - YouTube

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall provides a raw and revealing look at the "emotional tax" of business deals gone sour. Drawing on her recent four-week struggle with a "cash for keys" standoff, Loraine exposes the reality of dealing with bullies who move goalposts and the psychological resilience required to hold your ground. From living without running water since 2023 to facing the threat of 17 years in prison during criminal litigation, she shares how she finally secured a new start in 2026.Best Moments• The Pyjama Gate Encounter: Loraine recounts the shocking moment she was sick with the flu, only to find the new property owner at her gate with an envelope of 50-euro notes, demanding she vacate the home she had occupied for years within 7–10 days.• The Three-Hour Manipulation Marathon: A look into a circular, manipulative text argument where the buyer refused to provide an advance for a deposit, essentially pressuring a 64-year-old vulnerable woman to "make herself homeless" before receiving any relocation funds.• The Removal Company Standoff: The dramatic turning point where the removal team intervened, threatening to unpack the van and leave unless the buyer paid immediately. This forced the "bully buyer" to back down after he had attempted to make Loraine sign contracts under duress.• Channeling Pain into Paper: Loraine’s powerful closing announcement regarding her upcoming book, Deceptions and Illusions Embroidered with Truth. She reveals that every penny of the royalties will support a non-profit project to help other women facing economic and legal abuse.Key Takeaways• Mindset is the Ultimate Ground: Even when legal systems fail or opponents move the goalposts, they cannot take the ground you have won in your mind. Refusing to be silenced is a key step in surviving economic abuse.• Recognising DARVO: The sources highlight the importance of identifying the DARVO tactic (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender), which bullies and abusers use to frame themselves as the victim while intimidating their targets with litigation.• The Power of Community Support: When the buyer refused to assist with relocation costs, it was a neighbour’s personal loan and the solidarity of the removal workers that allowed Loraine to break the cycle of intimidation and secure a new home.• Advocating for Legal Reform: The episode underscores a critical need for changes in domestic abuse laws in both Spain and the UK to ensure non-married women are not treated as "second-class citizens" by biased or misogynistic court systems.Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/Connect on other platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

IntroductionIn this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall introduces a concrete, actionable 12-month blueprint designed to take you from broke to building real wealth. Tailored especially for women over 40 who are rebuilding after trauma or financial loss, the episode explores the 7-Step Recovery Plan based on the legendary investor Charlie Munger’s own experiences. Moving beyond "motivational garbage," this "battle-tested" plan focuses on execution and the psychological shift required to transform a negative net worth into a solid foundation.4 Best MomentsThe "Broke Advantage": Munger argues that starting with nothing is a unique strategic starting point. Unlike the wealthy, those at zero have the freedom to take calculated risks because they have nothing left to lose and their financial mistakes serve as "cheap tuition" rather than catastrophic losses.Munger’s Personal Resilience: The episode highlights Munger’s own "rock bottom" in 1962. At 38, he was divorced, drowning in debt, and facing the death of his son—a story that serves as ultimate proof that starting from zero can be a launchpad for success.The Harsh Reality of "Deserving": A pivotal moment occurs when addressing the desire for luxuries while broke. Marshall shares Munger’s blunt perspective: "The only thing you deserve when you’re broke is to stop being broke".The Final Hurdle of Discipline: As the year closes, the episode warns against "holiday inflation" in November. While most people squander their progress on gifts and travel, the blueprint demands unwavering discipline to protect your hard-won savings.4 Key TakeawaysConduct a Ruthless Financial Audit: January is the month of radical accountability. You must "stop the bleed" by cutting expenses to the bone, including selling liability cars with high payments and eliminating all non-essential subscriptions.Aggressive Income Stacking: You cannot invest your way out of poverty with small amounts. The goal is to stack multiple income streams—primary, evening, and weekend work—to save your first £5,000 by April, which shifts your mindset from "broke person" to "investor".Build the "Emergency Wall": Before entering the stock market, you must save an additional £10,000 (totalling £15,000). This cash acts as a buffer against fear-based decisions, providing the stability needed to find better career opportunities rather than settling for desperate ones.Prioritise Self-Investment: The highest yield asset is your own earning ability. Munger recommends partitioning £5,000 of your savings to invest in new skills, certifications, and networking that directly increase your hourly value.Connect on other platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsSupport the Podcasthttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall reflects on the eighth anniversary of a day that irrevocably changed the course of her life. On 26 December 2017, what seemed like a peaceful retirement in a Spanish villa was shattered by a brutal confession that exposed a nine-year lie. Loraine shares her harrowing journey through betrayal trauma, financial weaponisation, and the systemic failures of the legal system, ultimately discussing how she turned her "shattered dream" into a mission of discovery and healing for others.4 Best MomentsThe "Wednesday Girl" Confession: The chilling moment on a sofa in Spain when Loraine’s partner casually revealed a secret life he had maintained since 2009, leading to a scream of pain so physical it damaged her throat.The Clinical Presentation of Grief: A look at the "sadistic control" exerted by the abuser when he used a formal presentation to "educate" Loraine on the stages of the bereavement cycle while he was the active cause of her grief.Financial Leashes and "Collateral Damage": Loraine recounts being told she was "just a bit of collateral damage" and the way her ex-partner weaponised payments as a tactic of economic control, demanding she not "bite the hand that’s feeding you”.The 2024 Legal Victory: The moment of ultimate reclamation when seven malicious criminal allegations—which carried a combined threat of 17 years in prison—were completely dismissed.4 Key TakeawaysIdentifying DARVO and SLAP: Understanding these tactical abuses is vital. DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) and SLAPP (Strategic Litigation Against Public Participation) are often used to silence victims through the court system.The Physical Reality of Trauma: Emotional abuse is not "invisible." It manifests physically, leading to debilitating panic attacks and cognitive dissonance as the body "keeps the score" of the psychological environment.Forgiveness as Self-Liberation: Drawing on the wisdom of Nelson Mandela, Loraine highlights that forgiveness is not about condoning the abuser’s actions, but about refusing to let their "poison" kill your spirit.Turning Pain into Purpose: The ultimate act of survival is reclaiming your narrative. By writing her book and starting a foundation, Loraine demonstrates that rebuilding from the rubble is the beginning of a new, independent path.Resources Mentioned:• Book: Post-Separation Abuse, Betrayal and Abandonment by Loren Keeling.• Website: lifechangeplans.comHappy New Year To all Our Listeners

In this episode, Loraine discusses the five shocking truths behind narcissistic future faking, often referred to as the soulmate illusion. Future faking is the illusion of 'someday,' where a partner paints a vivid, perfect picture of a life together, while their current actions leave you feeling hurt, ignored, and devalued. If this sounds familiar, you have likely encountered this sophisticated manipulation, which serves as a cornerstone of narcissistic abuse. This tactic involves making grand promises about the future solely to gain power and control over you in the present. We uncover the insidious truths that lie behind this behaviour.Best Moments from the Episode The narcissist’s promises are a desperate attempt to soothe their own deep psychic pain. Psychologists agree that narcissism is rooted in profound self-hatred and shame, not self-love. By manipulating you into believing their fantasy, they gain a fleeting feeling of power and relief from their own sense of weakness.Narcissists are master manipulators who use a tactic called narcissistic mirroring. They encourage deep conversations early in the relationship to get you to reveal your most heartfelt desires, hopes, and dreams for the future. They then mimic your dreams back to you, making the connection feel magnetic and uniquely perfect, leading you to believe you have met your soulmate.Future faking is a powerful tool used throughout the entire abuse cycle, not just during the initial love bombing phase. They may dangle the future you crave only to snatch it away as punishment, perhaps by stating an engagement or vacation is on hold because you "ruined the mood".The constant mismatch between loving words about the future and harmful actions in the present creates a profound psychological discomfort known as cognitive dissonance. Personal Example of Future Faking: Loraine recounts a personal experience involving future faking where, after talking about a dream to live in Spain, the partner purchased a property there. However, shortly after the purchase, the partner revealed he had made a "huge mistake," leaving the speaker feeling deflated and upset.Key TakeawaysFuture Faking is a Tool of Control: It is a sophisticated manipulation used to gain power and control over you in the present, fueled by the abuser's own self-hatred and need for fleeting relief.You Are Trapped by Your Own Hopes: The narcissist uses narcissistic mirroring to sell you a future built exactly upon your own most heartfelt dreams, making the connection feel uniquely perfect. Designed to keep you emotionally invested and trapped.The Dissonance is Deliberate: The painful paradox of hearing someone plan your future home while they devalue you right now is a tactic designed to keep you disoriented through cognitive dissonance. You are kept busy trying to reconcile their conflicting behaviours rather than seeing the abuse for what it is.To break free, you must stop focusing on empty promises and start looking at the hard evidence of present-day actions. Your nervous system often registers the danger before your mind can name it, so listen to your body—if you feel tense, unsure, or small in their presence, trust that physical response as honest data.Link to the free trial for the School content platform.Loraine also offers Zoom, coaching, and mentoring calls, drawing on 11 years of lived experience in a manipulative relationship.

IntroductionWelcome to Mindset Money Success. Host Loraine Marshall speaks with Tina Woods, a coach dedicated to helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and unlock trapped trauma. Tina recounts her entry into this field after leaving a 24-year advertising career and navigating her own journey through complex trauma (CPTSD), addictions, burnout, and a highly abusive relationship with a covert narcissist. She now works in her purpose of empath empowerment, assisting women to transform lessons learned and move from victim mode into their highest frequency. This episode delves into the deep psychological trap of the trauma bond, the strategic nature of narcissistic abuse, and practical self-help steps for recovery.3 Best MomentsUnderstanding the Trauma Bond: Tina explains that the trauma bond is a "serious, serious addiction" and is fundamentally a "spiritual, a physical, a mental, psychological trap" that is extremely difficult to break.Abuse Starts with Love Bombing: It is crucial to understand that the manipulation and abuse cycle begins not with the devaluation or discard, but with the love bomb phase. Narcissists are highly strategic; they plot their victims and look for supply by weighing up their wounds, such as isolation or self-love issues, making the love bombing the beginning of the abuse.Harnessing Anger for Healing: Tina advocates for releasing anger, describing it as her "kill Bill stage," rather than repressing or suppressing it, which can cause sickness. Techniques she used for release included joining kickboxing and self-defence, as well as bouncing on a mini trampoline, shaking, and dancing.4 Key TakeawaysEmbrace Deep Honesty and the 'Ik-List': To begin breaking the trauma bond, the first step is to come into deep, painful honesty about both the abuser's behaviours and your own attachment patterns. Tina suggests creating an 'ik-list' (a tip she borrowed from Dr Ramani) detailing all the awful things the abuser said and did, so you can clearly see the truth when they attempt to 'hoover' you back in.De-centre the Abuser and Reclaim Self-Love: Recovery requires understanding your codependency and recognising that seeking validation from a toxic person reflects a lack of self-love and self-worth. You must de-centre the narcissist and the relationship story to go on a deep journey of reclamation, which often involves reviewing childhood patterns and behaviours.Implement the 360 Approach for Complex Trauma: When dealing with complex trauma (CPTSD), a self-help strategy should address the mind, body, and soul. For the soul, focus on raising your frequency through faith, prayer, cord cutting, or walking in nature. For the body, prioritise nervous system safety through somatic exercises, yoga, breathwork, and nourishing food.Listen to Your Intuition: Your intuition is activated when you start spotting the abuser's patterns of behaviour. When you find yourself having the same conversation multiple times or noticing flare-ups around certain times, this may lead to the realisation: "maybe it's not all me," which is a powerful starting point for moving forward.Contact Talia Coaching https://www.taliacoaching.co.uk/ From your hostConnect on other platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this week's episode, Loraine Marshall aims to challenge and completely dismantle conventional financial advice that often leaves people feeling stuck. Our guide on this journey is Rob Moore, a self-made millionaire, property investor, and host of the Disruptors podcast, known for building his fortune on contrarian thinking. Loraine extracts some of Rob Moore's valuable insights, offering a blueprint for building wealth by exploring the money lies that keep you poor, and revealing the hidden rules of the financial game. 4 Key Takeaways1. Lie number one suggests that saving your money in the bank is responsible, but Rob Moore argues this is a dangerous myth. Due to inflation—which he calls the biggest legal money scam—leaving your money in the bank is not saving it; it is eroding and degrading its value, resulting in a guaranteed loss of purchasing power over time.2. Inflation is a quiet theft of your money and a systematic feature of the modern financial system. The only effective defence is to own assets that rise in value as currency devalues, such as property, stocks, businesses, and precious metals (like gold and silver coins), which store value better than cash.3. The wealthy understand a critical distinction: bad debt (borrowing for depreciating consumer items like a new car or designer clothes) keeps people on a treadmill, while good debt can make you richer. Good debt involves strategically borrowing money, like using a mortgage on a rental property, to acquire an asset where the financial return is higher than the debt's cost.4. The supposedly secure job is one of the riskiest financial strategies because your entire income stream depends on one employer, meaning you are not in control. Since even saving money is a risk due to inflation, true financial security comes from taking calculated, educated investment risks to build assets that you control. 4 Best Moments1. Ex-financial advisor Chris Roll provided a brilliant analogy, explaining that the Monopoly game rules state that if the bank runs out of money, it can simply write some more on a piece of paper and use that. This perfectly illustrates how the modern financial system and central banks create currency out of thin air.2. In a rant about modern consumer culture, Rob Moore highlighted the absurdity of spending £55 on a trendy water bottle when the same money could purchase a one-ounce silver coin, which is a real, tangible asset that stores value. This powerfully symbolises society's broken financial priorities.3. This insight captures the power shift when dealing with high-level finance and leverage: "If you borrow a million pounds from the bank, you have a problem. If you borrow 100 million from the bank, they have the problem".4. Blueprint for Your First £10,000. Rob Moore provides a simple, diversified plan for asset growth: 40% into the stock market (e.g., Vanguard Life Strategy Fund), 30% in physical gold, 20% in physical silver, and 10% in calculated high-risk crypto (e.g., 80% Bitcoin, 20% Ethereum). This strategy hedges against economic uncertainty while investing in long-term growth.Connect on other platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this episode, Loraine explores opportunities for finding and securing funding for your Dream Business Startup.Best Moments1. The discussion highlights the systemic challenges in traditional venture capital, noting that while almost 40% of startup owners in Europe are women, companies founded by women receive only 2.4% of total venture capital funding. However, this statistic is reframed as "permission to stop playing a game that wasn’t designed for you".2. We examine the internal hurdle of a "scarcity mindset" the deeply ingrained belief that there isn't enough opportunity or support. This paralysing mindset leads to risk aversion and accepting limitations. The powerful counterpoint is introduced: "poverty loves foot dragging," while speed, decision, and action are the habits of abundance.3. Listeners are encouraged to shift from passive worrying to an active, opportunity-focused state of doing. The principle "money loves speed" is explained as a law where acting on an idea as fast as humanly possible creates an energy that helps attract more money, echoing the concept that "the universe loves speed".4. Grants are highlighted as the best kind of funding because they are a primary source of debt-free money—meaning founders don't give up equity and do not have to pay the money back. Corporate partners like Poker Power, BOTOX® Cosmetic, Visa, and Caress have created major grant programs through IFundWomen (IFW).5. The most efficient strategic move a founder can make is to fill out the IFundWomen Universal Funding and Grant Application. This single action places the founder in a central database, which IFW uses to match founders with opportunities when they partner with brands.Key Takeaways• Mindset is your most powerful asset: Acknowledge that the funding gap is real, but recognize that shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance is the critical foundation for success.• Embrace Immediate Action: Apply the principle that "money loves speed" by taking immediate, decisive action on your ideas instead of waiting for the "perfect" moment.• Tap into the Diverse Ecosystem: Don't focus solely on VC; instead, tap into the rich ecosystem of grants and supportive organisations like IFundWomen, Female Founders Rise, Ladies Who Launch, and the Tory Burch Foundation.• Take One Concrete Step Today: The only wrong choice is inaction. Your homework is to take immediate action, such as filling out the IFundWomen Universal Application or exploring the Tory Burch Funding Finder to give your dream the momentum it deserves. Follow on more platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Welcome to another episode of Mindset Money Success! Host Loraine Marshall introduces guest Carolyn Ann Wood, a mindset mentor and hypnotherapist. Carolyn specialises in an "amazing modality called heart healing," which literally heals the heart. She shares her journey of becoming a certified heart healer and quitting her day job to pursue her successful business, currently travelling and living out of two suitcases. Her personal purpose is focused on freedom, love, and connection.Loraine and Carolyn discuss the profound power of the mind and how unconscious beliefs, often formed in early childhood, can silently drive reality. Lorraine recalls her own experience growing a property management business based on a simple written goal: "double the income in the first three months, double the income in the next three months". The conversation also touches upon Lorraine's challenging experience navigating years of overlapping litigations, from an ex-partner, and the importance of managing anger and rebuilding self-worth while tackling external pressures.Carolyn emphasizes that true transformation is not a "one and done" event but requires a holistic approach involving mind, body, heart, and soul work, along with dedicated nervous system regulation.Best MomentsOn the Nature of Heart Healing: "The crazy thing is, the beliefs aren't about the experiences themselves. They are about the other people who were involved in the experiences". Heart healing targets the root belief formed in childhood, often related to the primary caregiver, to address the feeling of "not enoughness".Affirmations vs. Deep Beliefs: If you are repeating affirmations like "I'm a millionaire" but not seeing results, it is likely because an underlying, unconscious belief is running silently in the background, saying, "no, you’re not a millionaire". To fast-track success, you must get to the root of these negative beliefs.Self-Love as the Key: Unconditional self-love and self-acceptance are the key to joy, happiness, success, and wealth. When you love yourself, you have the confidence to make decisions that suit you, and if things don't go as planned, it doesn't "knock you back"Key TakeawaysMindset Requires Clearing Blocks: While repetition of education and motivational content (like Jim Rohn's tapes) is helpful, true, rapid transformation requires clearing the deep, unconscious beliefs that prevent affirmations from becoming reality.Holistic Work for Lifestyle Change: Mindset work is a lifestyle choice; it is not achieved through a single session. It involves working with your mind, body, and heart (and soul) simultaneously, much like losing weight requires diet, exercise, and mental pre-planning.Nervous System Regulation is Core: Nervous system regulation is "absolutely core for everyone". Carolyn recommends breathwork and EFT tapping to intentionally regulate the nervous system, especially since dysregulation sends internal signals of instability and unsafety.Achieving success by shifting your mindset is like being a skilled gardener: affirmations are the seeds you plant every day, but unless you consistently clear the deep, unconscious weeds (the negative beliefs and unregulated nervous system), those seeds struggle to fully blossom.https://carolynannewood.com/shopwithmeSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Host Loraine speaks with Marie, owner of Vesta Hypnotherapy, based in the UK. Marie’s business is centred on creating alignment throughout oneself rather than focusing solely on working harder, stressing the need for balance between strategy, mindset, spirituality, and belief in yourself. Loraine and Marie explore how different elements govern different areas of life —from managing emotions (Water) to cultivating passion and purpose (Fire) —and how understanding these energies is key to personal success and money alignment.4 Best Moments1. Marie explains that the order of the four elements (starting with Fire, moving to Earth, Air, then Water, and cycling again) represents a clear development cycle. Living in tune with these elements means living in tune with the cycles of life, birth, rebirth, and death. The elements are the basis of everything.2. The conversation highlights that two elements are masculine (Fire and Earth) and two are feminine (Air and Water). Entrepreneurial women, particularly those with strong business backgrounds, may find themselves operating heavily in the male energy, making it crucial to focus on balancing the feminine aspects for overall alignment3. Loraine and Marie agree that for deep-seated wounds, simple affirmations often act as a "band-aid" or cover, not completely removing the root of the issue. Hypnotherapy, however, is a well-proven modality that claims to go directly to the point and change the subconscious mind.4. Emotion is the Language of the Subconscious: Marie notes that the main way to change the subconscious is through emotion. Strong, overwhelming emotions (like fear) lodge patterns and beliefs into the subconscious. Reprogramming requires creating a more powerful, positive emotion connected to that same belief. Coaches like Tony Robbins successfully use massive energy shifts (moving, music) to immediately raise emotional energy from a low vibration (like fear and uncertainty) to a higher one.4 Key Takeaways1. Success does not come from focusing on a single modality (like pure business strategy or just spiritual manifesting). Money, success, and personal development are closely linked and require a balanced approach across all elements. 2. Not everyone is out of balance in the same place. People tend to over-give in one element and ignore another they dislike; focusing on that neglected element can make a massive difference to overall alignment.3. If you lack belief in what you are doing, you won't succeed. Belief in yourself, self-worth, and passion provide the energy and motivation needed to create something meaningful, which is represented by the Fire element.4. Marie is releasing four micro-journeys (10-minute hypnotherapy sessions) targeted at specific element imbalances.Fire: Deals with imposter syndrome and self-confidence.Earth: Addresses overwhelm and procrastination.Air: Focuses on opening to clarity and putting oneself out there.Water: Helps with managing fear.https://www.vestahypnotherapy.com/category/all-productsInvitation To Join Skool As A CreatorSupport the Podcast

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success podcast, host Loraine speaks with virtual business manager (VBM), Nadia, based in Melbourne. Nadia, who started her business seven years ago, just three months after her baby was born, shares her journey from feeling "terrified" to achieving sustainable growth. She explains how she provides administrative, marketing, and operational support to growth-ready women in business, helping them transition from the kitchen table to success. Nadia sought to create a venture that allowed her the freedom and flexibility to progress her career while remaining a present mother.Best MomentsOvercoming the Fear: Nadia reveals that she was "literally terrified" when she first launched her business. She started, creating her website on a laptop while sitting on her couch, unsure if she would secure her first client. Attending her first networking event was scary, as she had to tell the world about the business she had created.Wearing All the Hats to CEO: Nadia emphasises the struggle entrepreneurs face juggling life, family, and business while wearing multiple hats (marketing manager, bookkeeper, customer service officer). Her service is designed to handle "all the chaos behind the scenes", enabling clients—service providers, creatives, and coaches—to move from wearing all the hats to focusing solely on the CEO role.Global Confidence: After beginning her business journey, Nadia gained confidence as she started working with clients internationally, including those in the U.S. and Germany. This exposure and continuous learning helped her develop her business over seven years, supporting clients with streamlining their admin, marketing, and operations.AI as a Tool for Busy Mothers: Nadia shares how Artificial Intelligence (AI) is a valuable tool for efficiency, helping her get things done quicker. Specifically, she uses tools like (ChatGPT) to help plan her week and create a schedule that allows her to work around school drop-offs and pick-ups for her two boys. AI acts as a starting point, particularly when feeling stuck or lacking creativity.Key TakeawaysMindset and Belief are Key: Having a strong, positive mindset and believing in yourself and your vision are essential to overcoming fears and achieving goals. Nadia noted that her passion and strong urge for freedom needed to be stronger than her fear.Positive Network: It is crucial to surround yourself with positive people who encourage you and share similar goals. If you aim for a six-figure business, you need to surround yourself with six-figure business owners. Negative people can drag you down and make the task seem impossible. Networking is a huge step when starting out.Sustainable Growth: Entrepreneurial women often get stuck at a certain level because they are too involved in the day-to-day running of the business and have not learned to delegate. Outsourcing processes, such as hiring a VBM, simplifies operations, reduces overwhelm, and provides the necessary time to focus on marketing and growth.Monetisation Block: The transition from employee (who expects money at the end of the week) to entrepreneur (who must work long periods before income is generated) is challenging. Many women face a block regarding sales and monetising their services, sometimes opting for free coaching sessions instead. Reading books on mindset can help address these blocks.Support the Podcast and Loraine's recovery Buy Me Coffee Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Loraine welcomes Laura, a Somatic Trauma Informed Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, to Mindset, Money, Success. Laura is helping women who have escaped narcissistic abusive relationships by guiding them out of anxious thought patterns and back into their bodies to process feelings, regaining control, confidence, and calmness. The episode explores the role of somatic healing in trauma recovery, the emotional energy spiral, and tools for processing difficult emotions like anger and grief. Both the host and guest share their commitment to supporting women who often lack resources after leaving abusive situations.Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator - For coaches, trainers, and creators sharing content and building recurring revenue. Best Moments Laura explains that if the body has been in survival mode for extended periods, it learns to remain in a stressful state (stiff posture, shallow breathing). Healing involves telling yourself a new story (mindset) while also giving the brain safe experiences in the body (somatic work), such as slowing down shallow breathing, to rewire the brain's patterns and signal safety.A discussion of how anger is a natural part of the grieving process when recovering from abuse. Laura provides a practical somatic exercise: pushing your hands together or pushing against a wall to release anger, allowing the body to move back into balance rather than suppressing the emotion. Healing from narcissistic abuse is different from healing from a standard breakup. Survivors must process the deep grief of realising that the life and person they believed in were almost entirely fake. The realisation that they were in an abusive relationship often helps survivors define and process their experiences. Laura notes that she was inspired to become a specialist because she personally lacked support when she was going through her own experience, leading to a strong urge to help other women in the same situation. Loraine echoed this sentiment, expressing awe at the support Laura provides, which she did not have when she was left in 2020. Key Takeaways For recovery, it is essential to focus on both the mind (therapy, education, journaling) and the body (somatic work, breath-work ). Somatic coaching teaches skills to regulate emotions that can be applied to future life challenges. Narcissistic abuse erodes self-esteem, impacts the emotional vibration, potentially leading to the "no will to live" stage. Tools to release anger, learning new skills, truth-telling, or engaging in free activities like singing, dancing, or listening to music can help. Abuse often involves gaslighting and silent treatment that are hard to spot until after the fact. Abuse often results in isolation, loss of community and family connections, and financial devastation due to the abuser's entrapping and sabotaging the victim's opportunities. Various physical activities can aid healing, weights to rebuild strength, or simply moving your body by dancing to loud music. For deep emotional processing, survivors can practice mindfulness (e.g., while brushing teeth). Connect for Support: Finding other people in various healing stages and sharing stories is incredibly validating and helps survivors realise they are not alone and that their situation won't define them moving forward. To connect with Laura, find her work at https://salltsisters.com Support the Podcast and Loraine's recovery Buy Me Coffee

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and we're dedicating this episode to a critical, yet often unseen, aspect of abuse: coercive control and its devastating financial aftermath.While the UK and Spain have introduced progressive laws—the UK's Controlling or Coercive Behaviour offence (Serious Crime Act 2015) and Spain's pioneering gender violence legislation (Law 1/2004)—recognising psychological manipulation as a severe form of abuse, the gap between the law's intent and practical use is huge. In this episode, your host shares her five-year survivor's ordeal navigating legal intimidation and litigation abuse within the Spanish system. Exposes how an abuser's financial power and flawed judicial ruling can lead to re-victimisation and poverty, as civil property laws often override the safety and welfare mandated by gender violence legislation.Key Takeaways Coercive Control is a Pattern, Not an Incident: Effective prosecution requires proving a "course of conduct"—a sustained pattern of psychological and financial abuse. When the justice system reduces a long-term pattern of control to a single, minor offence, it allows the severe abuse to escape proper classification.Financial Power Weaponises the Law: Abusers use litigation abuse (legal bullying) in civil courts to continue control post-separation. Financially powerful perpetrators can overwhelm survivors, forcing them into resource-intensive legal battles where courts prioritise property rights over the underlying context of gender violence.The Systemic Failure to Implement Law: Both the UK and Spanish legal systems struggle with low conviction rates. This stems from a lack of in-depth professional training for police, prosecutors, and judges on coercive control theory. This failure grants abusers impunity while leaving survivors broken and often destitute.The Necessity of Documentation: Since perpetrators often leave no physical evidence, gathering comprehensive evidence is crucial. The survivor documented their journey using emails, texts, and diary entries to highlight the gaps and failures in the system.Best Moments "The UK law was introduced to fill a *gap in the legal system**. Campaigners... argued that [traditional laws] failed to capture the insidious, sustained pattern of non-physical abuse that defines coercive control." "My experience highlights the gap between the law’s intent and its real-world impact. While the law itself was a huge step, its practical implementation has faced significant challenges." "The legal system (particularly the civil courts) often defaults to traditional interpretations of property rights and financial contracts over the survivor’s welfare and safety mandated by the 2004 law." "For the survivor, the process itself... becomes a devastating act of state-sanctioned re-victimisation."ResourcesIf you are experiencing institutional sexist violence, the Observatory of Institutional Gender Violence Against Women (OVIM) provides a channel to document cases and stories anonymously.For more information on coercive control, consult organisations like Women’s Aid and Refuge (UK), and SEA Surviving Economic Abuse.