Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

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140. Over-Apologizing, People Pleasing, and Swallowing Your Needs | The Anxious Attachment Communication Pattern

2026-10-0711:56

Have you ever sent "ok cool" when nothing about it felt cool? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble kicks off a special October series covering all four attachment stances and how each one shows up in the way we communicate, starting with anxious attachment. She draws on John Bowlby's idea of attachment as an alarm system and Sue Johnson's pursue and withdraw dance to break down three patterns. The first is the message underneath the message, where every double text is quiet...

139. Why Do I Keep Sabotaging My Relationships? Anxious Attachment and the Trauma We Never Named | My Conversation with Stacey Uhrig

2026-09-3030:24

Ever watched your partner chat with someone else at a party and felt your whole body scream "he's going to leave me"? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with Stacey Uhrig, certified trauma care practitioner and founder of Flip Your Mindset, to get to the roots of the relationship patterns that leave smart women asking "why did I do that again?" Stacey shares how she went from speech therapist to trauma-informed coach, and how as kids we assess, address, and adap...

138. How to Talk to an Avoidant Partner Who Closes Off (What Warmth Might Do)

2026-09-2315:42

What if the way you show up in the room shapes how open your avoidant partner can be? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble breaks down a 2020 study on how verbal and nonverbal affection land with partners who score higher in attachment avoidance. Jenn walks through what the researchers watched for, including eye contact, smiles, and the glow of someone who loves telling a love story, and shares what happened when the speaker came across warm and when the speaker came across...

137. The Traitor Within: How Childhood Wounds Keep You Stuck in Toxic Relationships | My Conversation with Jessica Anne Pressler, LCSW

2026-09-1633:17

Why do smart, self-aware women keep going back to relationships that hurt them? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with Jessica Anne Pressler, a Columbia-trained psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, and grief counselor with over four decades of experience helping people heal from trauma and destructive relationship patterns. Jessica introduces her concept of the traitor within, the part of us formed in childhood to keep us safe that later shows up a...

136. The Trash Pizza Effect: How Your Attachment Style Makes You Accept Less Than You Deserve in Relationships

2026-09-0911:35

Why do you keep accepting behavior you know you don't deserve? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble breaks down the concept of "trash pizza," the idea that when we aren't meeting our own needs, we will accept almost anything from a partner just to avoid feeling that emptiness. Jenn explains how childhood experiences teach us that our needs are too much or not enough, which leads us to stop asking for them and instead expect a partner to meet them for us completely. She walk...

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Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma