BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

✨ You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts. You could give a TED Talk on attachment styles. So why are you still spiraling?! In this episode I'm talking to YOU, the high-achieving, emotionally intelligent girlie who knows her patterns but still finds herself overthinking texts, replaying convos, and getting caught in the same loop with the same person... again. If you’ve ever thought: 🧠 “I know better, but I can’t stop overthinking.” 😬 “Why do I keep doing this when I’m so aware of what’s happening?” 💔 “I feel like two different people—confident in my career, anxious in my relationship.” Then hit play because this episode is for YOU! We’re breaking down: • Why knowing your attachment style isn’t enough • How your brain is prioritizing familiar over safe • What it really means to “feel ready” for love • Why you’re addicted to overthinking and calling it “clarity” • And how to finally shift from spiraling to self-trust 👯‍♀️ Bonus: I shout out a few of my 1:1 clients (hey, Mrs. N 👀) and show you what real healing looks like...not just awareness, but actual transformation. 🎧 And if you’re loving this, this is just the surface. Inside the Healing Girl Gang, we go deeper with tools, practice, and coaching to help you stop overthinking for real, not just for the afternoon. 👉 Join here: healinggirlgang.com 🦋 Ready for the deeper work?  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

✨ Ever feel like your brain just won’t shut off... even when everything’s actually fine in your relationship? You’re spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it’s you, not them. 🤯 On this week's episode we're diving into what might be the most toxic, but totally normalized, habit anxious attached girlies keep doing… and why it’s actually keeping you stuck in the spiral. 😵‍💫 If you're a high-achieving, big-hearted babe who feels like she knows better but just can’t stop overthinking, this is your sign to tune in. We’re breaking down: - The real reason your brain loves to overthink (hint: dopamine hit 😬) - Why spiraling feels productive, even though it’s sabotaging connection - How overthinking is actually keeping you from intimacy—and what to do instead - What makes this pattern so hard to quit, even when your partner is amazing 💡 Plus, I'm giving you tools, truth bombs, and a loving kick in the butt to help you finally break the habit FOR GOOD! 🎧 LISTEN NOW and drop a comment if you’re deep in the spiral lately (no shame, you’re not alone). 👯‍♀️ Want more support? Join our private membership, the Healing Girl Gang, where we’re doing a 5-day Overthinking Detox all month long! You get the trainings, the tools, and the coaching to actually heal… not just cope.   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

After six weeks of serious inner work (including a spiritual cleanse and a solo wilderness retreat where I literally faced my fear of abandonment head-on), I’m sharing the three biggest things that helped me stop overthinking once and for all. If you’re the kind of girly who spirals over a short text... rereads convos wondering what you did wrong... or catastrophizes when nothing is actually wrong... this episode is going to hit deep. Inside, we'll talk about: ✨ What it really means to listen to your body (and why it matters for your anxious brain) ✨ How productivity pressure secretly fuels relationship anxiety ✨ The difference between your gut and your fear brain ✨ And how I finally felt safe doing... nothing. Just being. Truly. PLUS: tomorrow (Wednesday!) is Implementation Day inside The Healing Girl Gang and this month’s focus is on Overthinking. If you’re ready for the how, this is where we get specific and walk through the process together. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔 We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you). We're breaking down: ⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear ⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from ⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is ⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME. In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even as a relationship coach. This episode is for the high-achieving, high-performing girlies who feel confident in their careers but are still spiraling in their relationships. 🎧 We’ll talk about: ✨The real reason your healing “isn’t sticking” ✨Why you might still spiral (even after tons of growth) ✨The sneaky trap of thinking healing means “no more conflict” ✨Why anxious attachment is less about perfection and more like tending a garden I also share a little life update from my pre-retreat cleanse, what’s been going on with my body lately (ladies, let’s talk hormones + 90s low-rise trauma 🙃), and a deeply personal coaching answer to a listener’s question about giving a partner space without losing your mind. ❤️ If you’ve ever thought “I should be over this by now”… this one’s for you. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

If You Overthink Every Text Message… This Episode Is For You! You’re crushing it at work, you're a boss in life, but when it comes to your relationship? You're suddenly spiraling over why he took 6-hours to text you back or asking "are we okay" over and over again... Then this episode is your soft place to land. In this episode we’re unpacking the hidden damage overthinking does to your relationships (even when things seem fine on the surface). I’ll walk you through: 💭 Why overthinking feels productive but keeps you disconnected 🧠 How your brain uses spiraling as a safety strategy 💗 What it actually takes to shift into emotional peace and connection 🏕 Plus: a lil’ story about Blair Witch-level camping chaos (you’ll get it)   👯‍♀️ Also, shoutout to my Healing Girl Gang - we answer a listener Q about anxious attachment + space in relationships that SO many of you will relate to. 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes on healing, relationships, anxious attachment & self-trust ⭐️ Leave a review, it keeps this podcast free and lets me know you’re out there 🛠 Join the Healing Girl Gang for masterclasses, live Q&As, overthinking detoxes + more   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible! We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the shower, questioning everything, and wondering if the anxiety would ever go away). But through coaching, truth-telling, and data-driven reflection (yes, we get nerdy), she experienced a 75%+ increase in her confidence, mindset, and self-trust AND a 133% decrease in her overthinking. 👀 Plus: → What it really feels like to date while anxious → Why traditional therapy didn’t quite cut it → The sneaky ways we micromanage our partners → What shifted when she stopped trying to be "less anxious" and started trusting herself This one is so honest, so hope-giving, and such a beautiful reminder that you’re not broken - you just haven’t been given the right tools yet.   🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵‍💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace? Yeah… been there. In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achieving girlies who are secretly spiraling in their relationships. You know, refreshing your texts 12x an hour, over-apologizing for crying, or feeling like vulnerability makes you "bad at love." In this episode we're talking: ✨ Why your “too muchness” isn’t actually too much ✨ The role of emotional safety in healing anxious attachment ✨ How over-functioning at work translates to under-functioning in your relationships ✨ What your internal rulebook says about love...and how to rewrite it ✨ How to stop self-sabotaging when a secure partner shows up 💭 Plus, I share a personal story from a 1:1 client who broke the cycle (and what made her healing finally click). This one’s juicy, raw, and real and I can’t wait for you to hear it! 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session  

You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and suddenly you’re spiraling. Sound familiar? This episode is all about why post-vacation (or post-holiday) anxiety hits so hard (especially if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone amazing). I’m breaking down the threebig reasons why you keep freaking out after it all went so well. 💥 We’re talking:     •    The honeymoon bubble (and why it messes with your nervous system)     •    The closeness crash (aka what happens when reality returns)     •    The expectation + confirmation bias gap (aka why a great weekend sets you up to doubt it all) Even if your partner is wonderful, even if everything is fine, your brain can still be screaming “danger.” You’re not broken. You just need tools, structure, and support and I’ve got you. 🫶 Plus: I’m sharing a Q from a Healing Girl Gang member struggling with anxiety after her partner reassures her (if that’s not real, I don’t know what is). ✨ If this resonates:     •    Leave a 5⭐️ review (it helps more than you know)     •    Join the Healing Girl Gang (Overthinking Detox kicks off this week!)     •    DM me your favorite takeaway from the episode Let’s normalize the weird grief of a great trip ending, and finally stop blowing up what’s actually going really well. WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you. This week, we’re diving into what a secure relationship actually looks and feels like (even if your anxious attachment says, “Wait, is this it?”). Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or healing from relationship patterns that feel more like rollercoasters than real connection, I’m breaking down the 6 big shifts that define secure love. ✨ Spoiler alert: It’s not fast, intense, or dramatic. It’s steady. Consistent. Intentional. And deeply healing (even if your brain wants to sprint toward a vibe check). We’re talking: • Why moving fast ≠ connection • How to tell if you’re chasing intensity instead of sincerity • What “repair” looks like vs. reaction • And why secure love might feel… weird (at first) Plus, I’m sharing an honest question from one of my Healing Girl Gang members going through a painful breakup, and offering the truth we all need when we want to hold on instead of letting go. Let’s unlearn the chaos and relearn calm love, together. 🖐 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and rate 5 stars—it helps keep this podcast free and gives me a virtual high five from your earbuds 💕 WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure. We’re answering your juiciest Qs: ✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant ✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog) ✨ How we almost didn’t make it—and what shifted ✨ Craig’s honest take on what helped him finally “grow up” emotionally ✨ Plus: our chaotic traits, icks, inside jokes, and a BIG announcement (no, not a baby) Whether you’re deep in your healing era or just curious about what it looks like to actually do this work with a partner, this episode is for you. It’s honest. It’s sweet. It’s full of growth and some light roasting (Just the way we like it!) WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together … but on the inside, you’re checking the vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance—and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hypervigilance ✨ How to build real self-trust (the kind that doesn’t care if he texts back in 5 min or 5 hours) PLUS: I’m sharing a few of the funniest icks from my DMs (and you will scream at one of them) 😂 If you're secretly struggling in a relationship that "should" feel safe, you're not crazy and you're definitely not alone. This episode will help you shift from spiraling to self-secure. 💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG This month inside the Girl Gang, we’re doing a full detox of overthinking + learning exactly how to soothe yourself without needing 24/7 validation from your partner. Want in? DM me “GIRLGANG” on IG or click the link below. 🖐 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and rate 5 stars—it helps keep this podcast free and gives me a virtual high five from your earbuds 💕 WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together (you’ve got degrees, deadlines, and the job)… but on the inside, you’re checking the relationship vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hyper-vigilance ✨ How to build real self-trust (the kind that doesn’t care if he texts back in 5 min or 5 hours) PLUS: I’m sharing a few of the funniest icks from the TickerTocker (and you will scream at one of them) 😂 If you're secretly struggling in a relationship that "should" feel safe, you're not crazy and you're definitely not alone. This episode will help you shift from spiraling to self-secure. 💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG This month inside the Girl Gang, we’re doing a full detox of overthinking + learning exactly how to soothe yourself without needing 24/7 validation from your partner. Want in? DM me “GIRLGANG” on IG!  WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently. If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you. We’re talking: ✨ Why performing yur healing is keeping you stuck ✨ The myth of linear progress (and why healing is actually a spiral staircase ✨ How to stop overwatering the plant and just let it grow 🪴 Plus, I’m sharing a wild story from the internet girlie streets (hi, Wizard Liz 👀) that proves you can be a literal goddess and still get ghosted, cheated on, or confused AF in love. 💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG If you’re ready to actually break the anxious cycle and learn to feel safe in your body (not just in theory), come hang with us inside the Girl Gang. Monthly deep dives, nervous system rituals, and a no-perfection zone. WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube    

Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and finally feeling secure in your relationship? In this raw and heart-hitting episode, I’m sitting down with one of my 1:1 coaching client, a high-achieving, military-working, nurse-extraordinaire, who decided to stop spiraling overseas (literally!) and finally heal for real. We’re talking: 💭 Overthinking and the "doom scroll" inside your own brain 💌 How your childhood wounds sneak into adult relationships 📲 Why waiting on a text back used to ruin her day — and what’s changed 💥 The difference between self-help and actual transformation 🌊 And how she learned to communicate without blowing things up Plus: what made her go from “I can fix this on my own” to “I need deeper support”… and how that shift changed everything. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much,” like you’re self-sabotaging something good, or like your brain just won’t stop spinning…this episode is for you. WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session 💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I’m giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets triggered. This is the episode to save, download, share with your bestie, and play on repeat when you're about to spiral. You’ll learn: ✨ Why your anxiety makes sense (and why you’re not broken) ✨ How to regulate your nervous system in the moment ✨ A powerful breathing practice to calm your body ✨ How to shift your energy back to YOU instead of chasing ✨ Loving prompts to re-center and choose yourself first If you’re new here, I’m Clare, a relationship coach for high-achieving girlies who crush it at work but feel lost, anxious, or overthink-y in love. You're not alone, and you are SO not broken. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session    

Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one’s for you, bb! In this episode, I’m giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you're deep in a spiral or just know one is brewing, these are the things I wish someone had told me when I was riding the relationship-anxiety rollercoaster daily. We're talking: - The difference between urgency and truth (spoiler: they are not the same) - Why “if it feels hysteric, it’s historic” is your new healing mantra - The cold hard truth: you cannot out-logic your nervous system (sorry to my high-achieving girlies with 3 degrees and a color-coded Google calendar) Plus: a little gut health update (yes, your anxiety might be coming from your stomach), a hilarious “Would You Rather” game you’re gonna want to bring to your next girls’ night, and a juicy Q&A from inside the Healing Girl Gang! 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session  

Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)? 🙃 You didn’t want to ruin the vibe. It was the weekend. You were on vacation. You told yourself “It’s fine” five times in your head and then snapped over the way they chewed. Yup. This one’s for you, babe. In this weeks episode , we’re talking: How to stop self-silencing (aka white-knuckling your way through feelings 😬) Why holding it in isn’t keeping the peace (spoiler: it’s brewing a low-key emotional bomb) What healthy, non-spiraly expression actually looks like And how your perfectionism might secretly be killing your communication If you’ve ever said “it’s not a big deal” when it 100% was a big deal — I got you. ✨ Also — the Healing Girl Gang is diving deep into communication this month. We’ve got the live training, the action steps, the process, the coaching... the whole damn toolkit.  🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session    

Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵‍💫 In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more). We’ll talk about: - How overexplaining is really a nervous system response (not just “bad communication”) - Why your anxious attachment thrives on overexplaining (and how to gently stop) - The difference between clarifying vs. oversharing - Simple, real-world tools to feel heard without feeling like you’re doing a TED Talk at your boyfriend 🚩 If you’re ready to stop feeling like you need a PowerPoint presentation to get your needs met, you’re in the right place. 😌✨ 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session

You’re the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and constant need for reassurance. 🫠 Sound familiar? This week we’re talking about one of the BIGGEST blocks I see with my high-achieving, high-performing girlies: how to actually build self-trust (especially after a lifetime of self-abandonment). If you’ve ever: - Been the “strong one” for everyone else but secretly crumble when your partner doesn’t text back 💬 - Checked every box on the “secure girlie” to-do list (yoga, sound baths, Pilates, booked & busy) but still feel exhausted and anxious 😩 - Overfunctioned in your career while under-trusting yourself in love ❤️‍🔥 …then sis, this episode is FOR YOU.   We’re diving into: ✨ Why performing self-care and performing self-trust aren’t the same as feeling secure ✨ The sneaky ways high-achievers self-abandon (and how it’s killing your inner trust) ✨ How to stop looking externally (the career wins, the gym streak, the packed calendar) for the thing only YOU can give yourself ✨ My simple, no-fluff self-trust routine that actually works to calm your nervous system and build rock-solid security (spoiler: it’s not about doing more) I’m sharing the real talk I wish I had years ago—because healing your anxious attachment starts with learning how to trust the most important person in the room: YOU. 🔥Click here to grab the Relationship Glow-up Guide! 🔥  💖JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG!💖 🔥CONFIDENCE CODE 💕 FOLLOW CLARE ON Instagram, TikTok or YouTube WORK WITH ME: VIP 1:1 Session