Beyond Vanilla

⚠️ Explicit Content | 18+ OnlyThis episode contains frank, unfiltered conversations about swinging, sex, and everything in between. If you’re under 18, this one’s not for you.Episode 19 of the Beyond Vanilla Podcast with Amy, Emily , Benjamin & the one and only Doug the Pug.This week we’re diving into YOUR questions straight from Instagram — and nothing is off-limits. From intimate hygiene to pegging, our dream club theme nights, going viral on TikTok, playroom etiquette, and even our thoughts on Bonnie Blue we are giving you our opinions in our usual unfiltered way!As always, expect plenty of laughs, swearing, oversharing, and zero sugarcoating. No gatekeeping here — just the real talk about the lifestyle you won’t hear anywhere else.

🔞 Explicit Content – 18+ OnlyThis episode of Beyond the Vanilla is not for the faint-hearted. Secrets, Penthouse, orgies, fisting (yep, we said it) — nothing’s off limits in this episode. Amy, Emily & Ben are on the sofa with all the unfiltered stories, savage opinions, and unapologetic laughs you can only get from us. 🔞Amy and Emily are back — and this time, they’ve dragged Ben onto the sofa with them (because let’s be honest, you all love when the boys get involved).We’re spilling everything: Emily and Darren’s trip to Secrets, Amy and Ben’s Birmingham adventure including Amy's first time fisting a man! As you know by now she has no filter so be prepared to hear all about that in graphic detail. Amy & Ben are spilling the tea about their bank holiday blowout at Penthouse. Expect chat about group play etiquette, what really goes down at an orgy, and some seriously unfiltered laughs along the way.But it’s not all naughty stories — we’re also diving into the bigger stuff: disability and accessibility in the lifestyle, one-penis policies (and what we really think of them), and how relationship dynamics constantly shift.As always, it’s unapologetic, uncensored, and most definitely unfiltered.

⚠️ Explicit Content WarningThis podcast is strictly 18+. We’re unfiltered, uncensored, and diving into conversations you’d usually only have behind closed doors with your partner… if you were a swinger. Expect blunt talk, adult themes, and zero sugarcoating.This weeks episode is all about Amy’s life-changing ladies-only party, Ben’s big blessing for her first solo meet with a single guy, Emily’s upcoming trip to Secrets… plus a cheeky backdoor tip from Emily you’ll only hear on this podcast. Honest, unfiltered, and the kind of things you’d only say if you were a swinger.We’re back with a brand-new episode and diving straight into all the things you only talk about if you’re in the lifestyle.Amy shares her trip to the ladies-only Tequila Rose party — and why it was a total game-changer. Ben and Amy open up about a recent meet that sparked the topic of social monogamy: what does it mean, and are you socially monogamous & why? Plus, we’re talking about bi men in the lifestyle, Emily’s upcoming trip to Secrets, and Ben giving Amy the ultimate blessing — her first solo meet with a single guy!And of course, it wouldn’t be Beyond Vanilla without a little cheeky chat about the backdoor, with Emily sharing a surprising top tip she picked up from a bi guy.Unfiltered, honest, and straight from the heart — we’re talking about the things most people never would, but swingers say out loud.👉 Follow us on Instagram & TikTok, grab our free PDF, and join the conversation. Our DMs are always open we love to here from you.

⚠️ This podcast contains adult themes, explicit language, and frank discussions about sex and non-monogamy. 18+ only. Listener discretion is advised.Episode 15: Swingers, Sun Headlines & the Rise of the Anti-SocialWe’re back, baby — and we’ve got a lot to say. After a short break (and a cheeky little feature in The Sun), Amy & Emily are catching you up on everything we’ve been up to — and clapping back at the so-called “experts” who say you can’t be non-monogamous and a good parent. Spoiler: we disagree, and so do many of you. 👏In this episode, we’re diving deep into:💥 BTS of our day shooting for The Sun newspaper 🍼 Non-monogamy + parenting — why can't you do both?📉 How the lifestyle has changed & we don't like it!🥂 From wild playrooms to staged socials — where did the fun go?🔥 Why swinging is about casual sex (not clout) 🚫 Introducing The Anti-Social — for when you’re actually DTF 😏We’re bringing it all: unfiltered thoughts, extremely honest opinions, and a touch of nostalgia for when the lifestyle was wild, sexy, and not so curated.🎧 Tune in, join the chat, and don’t forget to grab our free boundaries & rules PDF https://linktr.ee/beyondvanilla Follow us on Insta & TikTok for more cheeky content.

🔞 18+ Listener Warning: This episode contains open discussions about sexual assault, misconduct, and boundary violations in the lifestyle. Please listen with care, and skip this one if it may be triggering for you.Episode 14: When Boundaries Are Crossed – Talking About Assault & Misconduct in the LifestyleToday’s episode is a more serious one, but one we feel is so important.We’re talking openly about sexual assault, misconduct, and inappropriate behaviour within the swinging lifestyle,This includes stories from all four of us, including the boys, because we believe it’s time we stop ignoring how these issues affect everyone, not just women.You’ll hear:⚠️ Our personal stories and experiences⚠️ A powerful story from our friend Bella, shared with her permission⚠️ Why misconduct toward men is often overlooked⚠️ The cultural differences in etiquette between countries⚠️ Why boundaries and consent must always come first — no matter where you areWe know the lifestyle can be one of the most supportive, loving, empowering communities — but that doesn’t mean it’s perfect. And when things do go wrong, it’s crucial that we talk about it.If anything in this episode resonates with you, know that you're not alone, and it wasn’t your fault. Our DMs and inbox are always open if you need to talk.💌 Download our FREE Rules & Boundaries quiz: https://tr.ee/beyondvanillaLots of love Amy, Emily, Ben & Darren x

Episode 13: Open House – Great Sex Experiment or Lifestyle Letdown?🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.We’ve made it to the end of Open House: The Great Sex Experiment Season 3 — and you know we’ve got thoughts.In this episode, we’re breaking down the final two episodes and giving our full, unfiltered opinion on the series as a whole. Was it a bold step forward for non-monogamy on mainstream TV… or just another reality show chasing drama over authenticity?💬 We’re chatting:— What worked (and what seriously didn’t)— How the lifestyle was portrayed overall— The moments that made us cringe, and the ones that hit home— Whether we’d recommend it to the curious or keep it in the “maybe not” pileAs always, we’re bringing honesty, humour, and a whole lot of spicy insight from the perspective of two happily married besties living the lifestyle for real.💌 Don’t forget to grab our FREE Lifestyle Rules & Boundaries Quiz to help guide your own journey:https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla

🎙️ Episode 10: Red Flags, Unhinged DMs & Getting Real About STIs🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.This one’s raw, real, and straight from the heart.In this episode, we’re unpacking:🚩 Red flags you’ve sent us from your own experiences in the lifestyle📩 Some of the wildest, weirdest, and downright unhinged single guy messages. This is a lesson in how NOT to message!🧪 And — in our most honest moment yet — we’re sharing our personal experience of testing positive for an STIYep, we’re outing ourselves — not for sympathy, but because we believe this is the conversation that needs to be had. Most people wouldn’t admit it… but we are. Because sexual health is a part of the lifestyle. Testing, talking, and taking responsibility — it’s all part of being in this community, and we’re done with the stigma & shame.We’re laying it all bare in our usual frank, funny, and unfiltered way. If you’ve ever wondered just how honest we’ll get — this is the one that proves it.💌 Don’t forget to grab our FREE Lifestyle Rules & Boundaries Quiz:https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla💋 Honest. Vulnerable. Zero shame. And always Beyond Vanilla.

🎙️ Episode 12: Full Swap, Soft Swap & Shifting DynamicsThis week, we’re diving deep into the delicious world of dynamics and play styles in the lifestyle — from full swap to soft swap and all the spicy stops in between.We’re breaking down:🔄 Common lifestyle terminology (because it’s a lot at first, we know! Check out our tiktok for our lifestyle lingo 101 series)💬 How different dynamics work for different people — and how they evolve💑 Amy & Ben’s current journey of possibly shifting their boundaries (and how that convo’s going 👀)💞 Darren & Emily’s evolution into their dynamic, what went right & wrong.🔮 Plus: our predictions for the new season of Open House… filmed before it aired — and let’s just say, we clearly had a crystal ball 🪄Whether you’re brand new or already exploring the lifestyle, this ep is full of insight, personal stories, and a whole lot of real talk from both perspectives.💌 Don’t forget to grab our FREE Rules & Boundaries Quiz to help you figure out your own dynamic:https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla

🎙️ Episode 11: Open House – 2 weekly breakdown.🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.We’ve just watched the last two episodes of Open House: The Great Sex Experiment on Channel 4 — and you know we’ve got opinions.In this episode, we’re breaking down everything that went down on screen and how it stacks up against real-life in the non-monogamous lifestyle with our genuine experiences. From awkward conversations to questionable editing choices, we're unpacking it all.As always, expect:💬 Our brutally honest takes🔍 The good, the bad & the “that would never happen in real life”🔥 A reality check from two happily married non-monogamous besties & their husbands.Is Open House helping open minds — or just creating drama for views? Let’s get into it.💌 Don’t forget to download our FREE Lifestyle Rules & Boundaries Quiz:https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla

⚠️ Trigger Warning: Amy and Emily do speak about sexual assault in this episode. Please skip this one if that’s not something you’re comfortable hearing.🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.We’re back with more thoughts on Open House: The Great Sex Experiment — and this time, we’re joined by Ben, who’s giving us the much-needed male perspective on episodes 3 and 4.After being very vocal about our disappointment with the first two episodes, we have just watched epsiode 3 & 4 so, what did we think? Did Channel 4 redeem itself — or are we still screaming at the screen?We're diving into:📺 What worked, what didn’t, and what still feels performative🧠 Emotional safety, real communication, and lifestyle red flags👀 Whether these episodes did a better job of showing what non-monogamy can actually look like🧔 Ben’s take on what it’s like watching this as a lifestyle man💌 Don’t forget to download our FREE lifestyle boundaries quiz to help you establish your own rules:https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla💋 Honest. Unfiltered. Passionate. And always Beyond Vanilla.

🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.We're back for Part 2 of your juicy listener questions — and we’re bringing more laughs, more honesty, and a few spicy stories along the way!This week, we’re diving into even more of your brilliant queries about non-monogamy, swinging, and everything that comes with living life Beyond Vanilla. Expect:💌 Real answers to your real questions😂 Hilarious stories we probably shouldn’t share💡 Pearls of wisdom (aka “We did this so you don’t have to”)✅ Actionable tips you can take into your own lifestyle journeyWe’re here to make navigating non-monogamy feel a little less scary, a lot more fun, and 100% judgment-free. So grab a cuppa (or a cocktail), and let’s get into it.📥 Don’t forget to download our FREE Rules & Boundaries Quiz:https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla💋 Honest. Playful. A bit chaotic. Always Beyond Vanilla.

🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.This week on Beyond Vanilla, we’re diving into Channel 4’s Open House: The Great Sex Experiment — a show designed to introduce vanilla couples to non-monogamy. But as two happily married besties in thriving non-monogamous relationships, we have thoughts… and not all of them are good.We waited until episode 2 aired to really dig in — giving you our take on what played out on screen, plus your opinions sent in via Instagram.We’re unpacking:📺 The good, the bad & the downright cringey moments🎭 How the show may be using the hardest parts of the lifestyle to fuel drama🧠 Why mindset, communication & boundaries are everything🙃 And what mainstream media keeps getting wrong about non-monogamyWe love this lifestyle — and we’re not here for it being reduced to a TV ratings tool.📥 Don’t forget to download our FREE rules & boundaries quiz to help you and your partner find your own way:https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla

🎙 Episode 6: Let’s Talk – Communication, Mindset & Non-Monogamy🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.In this episode of Beyond Vanilla, we’re answering your burning questions about non-monogamy — from communication struggles to mindset shifts and everything in between.We’re chatting about:💬 Why communication is everything in the lifestyle💬 How to handle different communication styles💬 The mindset it really takes to be a swinger💬 Our own experiences with insecurity and growth💬 Rules, boundaries & how to build them together📝 Grab our FREE rules & boundaries guide to help you and your partner get clear on your yes, no & maybe list:https://tr.ee/beyondvanillaThis is just Part 1 — we’ve got even more real talk coming next week in Part 2. So get comfy, grab a cuppa (or a cocktail), and come chat with us Beyond Vanilla.

🎙 Episode 5: Swingers on Tour – From Bliss Cruises to Butlins Chaos🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.Ready to pack your bags and spice up your holiday plans? In this week’s episode of Beyond Vanilla, Amy C and Emily Spice are diving into the wild, wonderful world of lifestyle holidays and swingers’ getaways.Emily and her hubby Darren have literally just stepped off a Bliss Cruise (yes, the floating paradise for swingers) and they're giving us all the juicy details — from poolside antics to what really goes down after dark. 👀We’re also spilling the tea on:💋 What really happens at Butlins adult weekenders💋 Swinger hotspots like PDI, cabin stays, and adult-only resorts💋 Virgin Voyages cruises – are they lifestyle-friendly?So whether you're dreaming of a naughty getaway or just curious about the lifestyle holiday scene, this episode is your passport to all the fun (and chaos) that comes with swinging on tour.🎧 Press play, grab a cocktail, and let’s go Beyond Vanilla — swinger holiday edition.

🎙 Episode 4: Your Guide to Swingers Clubs🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.Curious about what really goes down inside a swinging club? 🍸👀 In this episode, Amy C and Emily Spice are giving you the full backstage pass to the world of swinging venues — from what to wear (and what not to!) to what you’ll find behind those mysterious playroom doors.We’re chatting about:💋 Different types of clubs & what to expect💋 Swinger etiquette 101 (seriously, don’t skip this)💋 Must-have items for your "swinging bag"💋 Outfit tips to help you feel 🔥 and confident💋 Men’s insecurities, common dilemmas & the not-so-secret chat about ViagraWhether you’re a first-timer, a curious listener, or a seasoned pro looking for a laugh, we’re spilling everything you wish someone told you before stepping into the lifestyle.No filter, lots of tips, and plenty of laughs — because we’re all about keeping it real (and a little bit naughty).🎧 Tune in, take notes, and get ready to step Beyond Vanilla.