Big Calm

In this insightful episode, Tara delves into the intricacies of our inner dialogue, shedding light on how familial, community, and societal influences shape the internal monologue that either criticizes or supports us. She emphasizes the pivotal role of awareness, urging listeners to recognize their automated inner critic and to challenge it.Tara highlights the significant differences in how individuals process criticism and support. While some people may find a "What were you thinking?" remark motivating, other people, including Tara, would likely perceive it as shaming. The core takeaway is the importance of understanding one's unique internal system and nervous responses to tailor their self-talk appropriately.The episode brilliantly captures the complex relationship between our nervous system, self-perception, and the frameworks we've been given by the world around us. Tara refrains from providing a one-size-fits-all solution, instead underscoring the need for individual introspection, personalized strategies, and understanding what truly "works" for one's psyche.By the end, listeners are encouraged not just to consume advice but to actively engage with it, ensuring it aligns with their inner system and resonates with their authentic voice. Tara's genuine passion for the topic shines brightly throughout, making for an engaging and enlightening discussion.Be sure to join us for more insightful episodes on self-awareness, growth, and positive transformation! https://www.facebook.com/MyBigCalm https://www.instagram.com/mybigcalm/ https://www.youtube.com/@mybigcalm https://www.bigcalm.com/

In this riveting episode of the Big Calm Podcast, psychotherapist and Big Calm founder Tara Palmer walks listeners through the ever-evolving question that has perplexed humanity for ages: "Who am I?". Tara examines the interplay between the stages of human development and this existential question, highlighting how our quest for identity might resurface at various life junctures, from teenage angst to midlife transitions.A significant emphasis is placed on the role of the nervous system. Tara underscores how external pressures, societal expectations, and life's survival requirements can put our nervous system in a state of distress, making it challenging to maintain an authentic connection with oneself. This tension can make it particularly difficult for individuals to find answers to deeper existential questions, especially if they are not in a physically safe or mentally peaceful context.Tara paints a vivid picture of the human experience, emphasizing that while the quest for self-understanding is universal, our individual journeys are uniquely tailored by our circumstances, experiences, and the environments we navigate. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of themselves amidst the challenges and transitions of life. https://www.facebook.com/MyBigCalm https://www.instagram.com/mybigcalm/ https://www.youtube.com/@mybigcalm https://www.bigcalm.com/

In this episode, psychotherapist and Big Calm founder Tara Palmer delves into the importance of living mindfully and making conscious choices in various aspects of life. She explores the idea of whether something is worth it and how it can differ for each person. She then discusses the trade-offs and energetic investments involved in decision-making and highlight the challenge of avoiding mindless living in a world filled with distractions and targeted marketing. The host also examines the cost of saying yes to certain things and the need to prioritize and find balance. Join Tara as she guides listeners through a thought-provoking conversation on creating a mindful and intentional life.  https://www.facebook.com/MyBigCalm https://www.instagram.com/mybigcalm/ https://www.youtube.com/@mybigcalm https://www.bigcalm.com/

Join psychotherapist and Big Calm founder Tara Palmer is she discusses the importance of having an 'Inner Circle' or 'Seat Holders'.  Tara explores the paradox of potentially being lonely despite having a large social circle.  Discussing the notion of pseudo-intimacy, she illustrates the distinction between knowing facts about someone and truly comprehending their emotional journey. Tara underscores the impact of the environment and level of engagement on the quality of connection, emphasizing the importance of time and shared experiences in fostering deeper bonds. This episode aims to guide listeners in establishing their own inner circles, creating spaces for profound connections that enhance emotional and physiological well-being.  https://www.facebook.com/MyBigCalm https://www.instagram.com/mybigcalm/ https://www.youtube.com/@mybigcalm https://www.bigcalm.com/

In this practical episode, Tara unpacks the concept of co-regulation and how our nervous systems interact with others in different situations, from casual to significant relationships. She explains how our nervous systems are constantly reading and responding to cues from others, and how this can lead to either co-regulation or co-activation. Co-regulation refers to when our nervous systems are brought into a state of connection with another person, while co-activation occurs when our nervous system is triggered into a protective state. The exchange of energy between two people can happen in any situation, whether it's a casual interaction with a cashier or a deeper relationship with a spouse. Our nervous systems are always scanning for safety and belonging, and this affects how we interact with others.  Learning to understand and respond to these nervous system states can be a big part of finding lasting calm and enduring emotional health.https://www.facebook.com/MyBigCalm https://www.instagram.com/mybigcalm/ https://www.youtube.com/@mybigcalm https://www.bigcalm.com/