Breaking Up With Binge Eating

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Show Notes: An Urge Is Not an Order: What Urges Are (and What They Aren’t) (The Urge Proof Life — Episode 1)Urges can feel like an emergency—like the outcome is already decided before you even start. In this season opener, Georgie reframes urges as signals, not commands, and explains why urges get so loud when pressure rises and capacity drops. You’ll learn why the goal isn’t to eliminate urges, but to keep them from escalating.This episode also tackles a common trap: the belief that you have to binge to make an urge go away. In reality, urges can rise, peak, and pass without a binge—and bingeing often creates more urges by reinforcing the relief loop and adding extra pressure afterward (shame, fear, compensation thoughts, and scarcity). You’ll also learn what fuels escalation in the moment—panic language, negotiating, future-tripping, shame/secrecy, and all-or-nothing thinking—and how to step out of that spiral.You’ll get a simple four-step “first move” for any urge: label it (“signal, not order”), use neutral language (“uncomfortable, not dangerous”), take a small pause to restore choice, and ask what the urge is actually asking for (food, rest, relief, connection, or predictability).Try this week: Catch and label three urges. Don’t make it a test of whether you eat—just reduce escalation by 10% and treat it as data, not a verdict.Coming next: Episode 2 builds your Urge Map—how to identify what kind of urge you’re having and match the tool to the mechanism.

The Urge Proof Life — Season Trailer A practical season on urges: how to identify what kind of urge you’re having and match the tool to the mechanism, with one small weekly experiment in every episode. Want extra support? Join All Access (real-life coaching sessions, shared with permission): georgiefear.com/podcast Want to work with me? ConfidentEaters.comNew to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-here Pick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Show Notes: What happens when things are finally going better… and your brain decides that means it must be fake?In this coaching excerpt, Sarah names a fear I hear all the time: “Am I doing well… or am I just performing because someone’s watching?” We talk about why progress can feel suspicious, how “imposter/cheat” stories keep the bar moving, and why support + accountability don’t invalidate your recovery — they’re often part of how it sticks.If you’ve ever discounted your own improvement or waited for the other shoe to drop, this one will make a lot of sense.In this clip, we cover:The “fraud” fear: I’m doing better, so it must not be real (and why that’s such a common reflex)How your brain explains success away (“It was an easy month,” “It doesn’t count,” “I’m just performing”)Accountability as a legitimate tool — not proof you’re faking itWhy motivation is almost never purely “for me” or “for someone else” (it’s usually both)Letting “relief” be relief without turning it into a new perfection contractUsing evidence (as weeks build into months) to build trust in real changeTimestamp highlights0:05 — “Am I doing well or am I performing for Georgie?”1:10 — What “faking it” would actually mean (and what it doesn’t)2:00 — Why external support helps humans succeed (and it’s allowed)3:10 — How accountability often becomes self-accountability over time5:20 — The fear of believing it’s getting easier6:35 — The “who do you think you are?” voice + why pride can feel unsafe8:10 — “Kicking the tires” on recovery through real-life stressors8:45 — “I had an angry piece of toast this week.” (and what happens next)Takeaway to tryIf your brain is insisting your progress “doesn’t count,” ask:  What’s the evidence in front of me — in my actions, not my feelings? Weeks and months of behavior change are data. You’re allowed to trust data.Coaching/support: georgiefear@gmail.com

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.This Is Treatable (From Distress to Stability — Part 12, Season Finale)In the final episode of this season, Georgie names what many people quietly doubt: this is treatable. Not because it’s quick or simple, but because binge eating and emotional eating aren’t random or a personal flaw—they’re understandable system responses to pressure, depletion, and the search for relief. This episode reframes what real progress looks like: not dramatic turning points, but quieter shifts—more time between binges, shorter spirals, urges that don’t hijack you the same way, and hard days met with steadiness instead of punishment. You’ll hear a new definition of progress (“what happened next?” and “did I reduce pressure anywhere?”), a compassionate way to understand setbacks as data (pressure exceeded capacity), and a framework for moving from self-surveillance to self-understanding. If you take one thing from this finale, let it be this: you’re not failing—you’re learning a pattern that responds to understanding, steadiness, and support. You’re allowed to keep learning at your own pace, and you don’t have to do it alone. 

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.The morning after a hard night of eating can feel heavy—physically and mentally—and it’s easy for your brain to start reaching for a “fix”: skipping meals, tightening rules, stepping on the scale, promising to be “very good” today. In this episode, Georgie explains why compensation usually turns into overcompensation, and how that swing adds more pressure to an already unsettled system—making another binge more likely. Instead, this episode lays out a stabilizing approach: listen to your body, return to regular meals, and treat the aftermath with steadiness rather than correction. You’ll hear a simple framework for “the morning after” that starts with body stabilization (predictable nourishment, hydration, sleep, gentle care), then mental stabilization (language that keeps choice online—“pressure exceeded capacity” instead of “I blew it”), and finally emotional stabilization (safety and connection instead of shame and isolation). Try this: After a hard eating episode, do nothing dramatic. Eat your next meal, drink water, rest, and get curious about what increased pressure—not how to redeem yourself.

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.This episode is about the moment before things fully blow up—not the binge itself, and not the morning-after panic, but the point where you start to feel… off. When your schedule changes (weekends, travel, illness, late nights, company), the day can lose its scaffolding and pressure quietly accumulates until eating starts to feel urgent and chaotic. You’ll learn why “anchors” matter—regular meals, transitions, and small rhythms that reduce uncertainty—and what to do when those anchors disappear. The core tool is helping the day “land” more gently: creating one clear pause where forward motion stops, nothing urgent is required, and choice can come back online. You’ll also hear practical examples of what that landing looks like (sitting down to eat, plating food, taking five quiet minutes, changing clothes to mark a transition, deciding when the day is done) and how to use as many small pauses as you need—because staying steady on a disrupted day isn’t about discipline, it’s about responsiveness. Try this week: On the first day you notice the slide starting, don’t try to “reset perfectly.” Choose one small anchor and one landing pause, and treat it as support—not a test. 

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.If you can hold it together all day—and then feel like everything falls apart at night—this episode is for you.Nighttime bingeing isn’t a character flaw. It’s usually what happens when pressure exceeds capacity at the end of the day. In this episode, Georgie breaks down the most common drivers of nighttime binges (and why they often stack), then gives you a practical “match the tool to the mechanism” menu so you can experiment with small changes that actually shift your evenings.In this episode, we cover:Why nighttime bingeing is rarely about willpower—and more often about stateThe 4 most common drivers of nighttime bingesA simple in-the-moment check-in to identify what’s driving tonight’s urgeA “Solutions Menu” with experiments you can try this week—without turning it into a new perfection projectA quick script for when you catch yourself in the pantry on autopilot

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Show Notes: As things start to feel steadier, a new fear often shows up: If I’m not white-knuckling this, am I doing enough? In this episode, we talk about why calm can feel unfamiliar when effort has been your survival strategy—and how real recovery looks more like stabilization than intensity.We’ll break down what stability actually means (predictability, not perfection), why stability lowers urges and reduces escalation, and why many people fear stability because it can feel like “losing control.” You’ll learn the three pillars that support steadiness—consistent nourishment, predictable rhythm, and humanizing your standards—plus a practical reframe: choose the simplest support plan you can repeat most days, the one that’s “crappy-day proof.”

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Show Notes: When the urge to eat feels urgent, convincing, and hard to resist, insight alone usually isn’t enough. In this episode, we focus on what to do once the urge is already here—so you reduce escalation instead of making it worse.In this episode, you’ll hear the key reframe that an urge is not an order—it’s a signal, why fighting, shaming, arguing, or “just giving in” often escalates urges, and what actually fuels escalation (all-or-nothing thinking, “if I start I won’t stop,” negotiation, and future-tripping). I’ll walk you through a simple protocol—Pause, Change Context, Choose the least-pressure next step—along with neutral language that keeps your thinking brain online. We’ll also cover how to eat in a more regulated way if you do choose to eat (seated, plated, with a check-in partway through), and what to do after urge-driven eating so you don’t accidentally make the next urge stronger.All Access: Want more support between episodes? All Access includes recorded real-life coaching sessions (shared with permission). Subscribe at georgiefear.com/podcast or in Apple Podcasts.

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Episode summaryRecovery doesn’t only happen in therapy—it happens in the moments in between. In this episode, Georgie talks with Mehek Mohan, cofounder of Kahani, an app designed to offer personalized, on-demand support for eating disorder recovery, and Elena, who uses the app in her own recovery and helps guide its development.You’ll hear how Kahani aims to lower cognitive load on hard days through check-ins and tailored activities, why a nonjudgmental space can help when shame is loud, and how the app navigates the common “weight loss vs. binge/restrict” trap without turning into diet culture in disguise.In this episode, we talk about:Why urges can spike during transitions and at night—and what “in-the-moment” support can look likeThe relief of having somewhere to “get it out” without feeling like a burdenElena’s take on shame and silence—and why repeated disclosure to loved ones can sometimes backfireHow Kahani’s check-ins and personalized activities are designed to reduce cognitive loadWhat makes the app feel more “recovery-literate” (ED-specific language + that “quasi recovery” middle space)The “I want to lose weight but I’m stuck in binge/restrict” dilemma—plus an example of how the app respondsGuardrails: why Kahani isn’t a replacement for treatment, and how it’s meant to augment supportMehek’s personal “why” for building this, and how they’re iterating based on user feedbackLinks & resourcesLearn more about Kahani: https://getkahani.com/georgieImportant noteThis episode is educational and supportive, not medical advice. Kahani is a support tool and is not a substitute for professional treatment.

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.When life feels like nonstop self-management, food can become the fastest, most reliable way to get relief—especially if rest, comfort, or support don’t feel allowed. In this episode, we’ll look at why emotional eating and binge eating are points on the same continuum of pressure and capacity, and how to widen your “menu of relief” so food doesn’t have to do all the work.In this episode:Why emotional eating often starts as a solution to stress and overloadHow binge eating can show up when regulation collapses under too much strainThe kinds of pressure that build up (physical, cognitive, emotional, relational, and “be good” pressure)The core shift: don’t just remove food—add relief (small, reliable breaks)Practical categories of relief: body, sensory, decision, emotional, relational, and permission-basedComing next: What to do when the urge is already there—how to respond without white-knuckling or collapse.All Access: For more support, All Access includes recorded real-life coaching sessions (shared with permission). Join at georgiefear.com/podcast or in Apple Podcasts.

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.So many people believe: “Once I lose weight, I’ll finally feel calm around food.” In this episode, we unpack why that belief often backfires—turning food into a high-stakes performance, increasing stress and rigidity, and making emotional eating and binge eating more likely. We’ll also explore a stability-first approach: lowering pressure first so eating can become steadier, calmer, and more consistent.In this episode, we cover:How weight loss becomes a “permission slip” for rest, ease, and self-trustWhy dieting pressure doesn’t create consistent healthy living—it creates swingsEmotional eating as relief (“I need a break”) vs binge eating (“I can’t hold this together anymore”)The trap of making peace conditional on being smallerA simple weekly exercise to get what you want without putting weight loss in chargeWant more support?If you want to go deeper, check out All Access—my paid subscription where you can hear real coaching sessions (shared with permission) and the practical conversations that help people move from distress to stability with food.  Join at georgiefear.com/podcast (or subscribe right in your podcast app).

New to the show? Start Here: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the listening path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Episode 4 — The Binge–Restrict Cycle (and Where It Actually Starts)From Distress to Stability — Part 4Most people think the cycle starts with the binge. But binges don’t come out of nowhere—they come out of pressure.In this episode, we zoom out and name two beginnings:the day-to-day start (quiet pressure, depleted capacity, emotional eating, guilt, tightening control), andthe long-ago start (early dieting messages, unfairness about who “gets” food, and what kids learn about being lovable and acceptable).You’ll also hear why chronic pressure can make it hard to find a “first domino”—and what to do instead.This week’s practice: Pick one recent binge or near-binge and gently rewind the tape:Where did pressure start to rise?Where did I start muscling through instead of supporting myself?Where did guilt add fuel?Want in on the All-Access episodes? Head to georgiefear.com/podcast to sign up (cancel anytime)

New to the show? Start Here + Listening Paths: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Show Notes: Ever felt like the first bite “signs a contract”—and suddenly the brakes are gone? In this episode, we slow that moment down and explain why loss-of-control eating is a predictable state shift that shows up more often under stress and restriction. You’ll learn what’s happening in your brain and body—and how to interrupt the spiral without needing perfection.What we coverWhat “loss of control” really means (it’s about the internal experience, not just quantity)The 4 forces that create the “brakes gone” feeling:Food as relief: your brain predicts food will helpScarcity thinking: “I shouldn’t / I can’t / I’ll make up for it later”Body vulnerability: under-fueling, fatigue, stress, depletionThe switch-flip thought: “I blew it / might as well”How stress-amplifying thoughts (“I don’t have enough time,” “this is too much”) fan the flamesA core strategy for relief: Turn to people, not food (connection lowers pressure)Tools you can try this weekStabilize your baseline: consistent, adequate meals earlier in the day (especially if nights are hard)Plate + Pause (for risk moments): eat your first portion normally, then pause 30–90 seconds and ask, “What do I need right now?”Remember: every binge has ended—you can influence when it ends next time. Any interruption counts.Coming nextWe’ll zoom out to how these patterns form over time—and where the cycle actually starts.Work with me: Coaching details are in the show notes.

Start Here + Listening Paths: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-here Pick the path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.If you’ve ever been told “just stop restricting” and felt more confused than helped, this episode is for you. We’re defining restriction in a way that actually supports recovery: not every “no” creates pressure. The kind of restriction that fuels binge eating is excessive, distress-based scarcity—and learning the difference is how you build steadiness without swinging into chaos. In this episode, we coverWhy “never say no” isn’t recovery—it’s a different trap The key distinction: regulation vs. scarcity (limits aren’t the problem; distress is) Two types of “restriction”:Practical boundaries that create stability Deprivation-based restriction that drives rebound eating Why deprivation backfires (biology, psychology, and nervous system threat) How to tell, in real time, whether a “no” is supportive or scarcity-based (the 3 questions) Work with meIf you want support building your middle path—without swinging between extremes—coaching details can be found at ConfidentEaters.com. Or, send me an email at Georgiefear@gmail.com. 

Start Here + Listening Paths: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-hereWelcome to Season 2 of Breaking Up With Binge Eating. This 12-episode series walks you step-by-step from distress around food to something steadier and more workable—without perfection. In the Season 2 opener, we challenge the idea that loss of control is a character flaw and replace it with a more accurate frame: pressure exceeds capacity. We’ll unpack how restriction, stress, exhaustion, and emotional overload narrow your thinking and spike urgency around food, and why “clamping down” tends to increase the pressure you’re trying to reduce. You’ll leave with a gentle practice for the week—one question that lowers shame and raises capacity: What pressure was my system responding to?

New to the show? Start Here + Listening Paths: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-here Pick the path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Episode SummaryIn this episode, Georgie Fear explores the psychological chain reactions behind binge eating, revealing how it often serves as a rebound effect from excessive restraint and self-sacrifice. Through the story of Marta, a busy mom juggling family and business, listeners learn how binge eating isn't about selfishness—it's actually a compensation for too much selflessness.Key Topics CoveredWhy binge eating doesn't occur in isolation—it's a rebound or "ricochet" from preceding circumstancesThe intersection of restraint and entitlement in disordered eatingHow excessive self-sacrifice during the day leads to compensatory eating behaviorsThe difference between healthy restraint and harmful restrictionWhy taking away the "problem food" isn't the solutionMain Story: Marta's JourneyMarta is a married mother of four who runs a home business while managing her children's busy schedules. Despite loving her life, she struggles with eating entire boxes of cookies in her car between errands. Georgie reveals how Marta's binge eating is actually an aftershock of practicing too much selflessness—skipping meals, ignoring her own needs, and constantly serving others.Key InsightsBinge eating behaviors can be understood as a solution rather than just a problemStrong emotional attachments to binge behaviors are normal—even when you desperately want to stopThe solution isn't more restraint; it's learning to ease up on the excessive ways we restrict ourselvesNot all restraint is bad—healthy restraint allows balanced decision-makingAction Steps DiscussedAllow yourself to rest when tiredMake time to eat proper mealsGive yourself permission to daydream and think about your own wantsDedicate time to activities just for yourselfExplore what you want—not just what others needConnect with Confident EatersFor more resources on achieving complete food freedom, visit ConfidentEaters.com or subscribe to the Breaking Up with Binge Eating Podcast.

New to the show? Start Here + Listening Paths: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Losing weight is probably one of the most common reasons we hear that people want to end their binge eating. It's the physical symbol of success and is most apparent to the world. Reasons for wanting to change their current state may also include bothersome achy knees, elevated blood pressure, or distress about not being a healthy role model. But the big thing that hurts them on a daily basis is the size, shape, or weight of their body. If you want to stop binge eating mostly because you want to lose weight, that's a perfectly fine reason. The goal for today's episode is to help alleviate the frustration that can grow when you're doing the right things to stop binge eating, but your weight hasn't budged. Because if we don't address that frustration, it leads people to lose focus on binge eating recovery and start focusing instead on moving the scale. We will discuss how the order of the stages of recovery matter, why weight loss before conquering binge eating doesn't work, and learn about the steps toward achieving both goals. We want to equip you with strategies to navigate your own journey to complete food freedom, including deliberate weight loss behaviors and maintaining long-term success. Episode Timeline:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:26 Client's Weight Loss Frustration01:09 Understanding the Root Causes04:28 Stages of Binge Eating Recovery04:47 Initial Phase: Establishing Regular Meal Patterns05:53 Building Self-Awareness08:02 Re-patterning Responses11:11 Optional Stage: Deliberate Weight Loss15:05 Final Phase: Maintenance16:54 Conclusion and Next StepsConnect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches: WebsiteFacebookInstagramHave you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.

New to the show? Start Here + Listening Paths: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the path that fits what you’re dealing with right now.Have to do this. Can't eat that.Over and over, these mandates drive a person crazy. Many of our clients say that it builds up over time, and they snap. They just want to eat and eat, in opposition to feeling pushed around by all the responsibilities and demands on them. They want to feel free, like they can have or do whatever they want in at least one small area of life. Can't food be the one place they get to cut loose?In this episode, listen to Sarah's candid journey about her relationship with food and feelings of resentment. Discover three key strategies to overcome limiting beliefs and emotional eating: transforming 'have to' and 'can't' statements, engaging in activities that make you feel powerful and free, and accepting the realities of how food choices impact your well-being. Tune in as we dive into breaking habits, boosting motivation, and embracing the power of food for a healthier, happier life.Episode Timeline:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:26 Sarah's Struggle with Food Limits01:27 Understanding Resentment and Emotional Eating03:02 Breaking Free from Resentment03:25 Reframing 'Have To' and 'Can't' Statements07:16 Finding Power and Freedom in Other Activities08:36 Accepting the Reality of Food Choices11:02 Conclusion and Key TakeawaysConnect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches: WebsiteFacebookInstagramHave you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.

New to the show? Start Here + Listening Paths: https://breakingupwithbingeeating.transistor.fm/start-herePick the path that fits what you’re dealing with right now. "I eat really clean", Kyle said "Even my binges are on healthy things. That's why it's confusing. I'm a fit guy. I'm a healthy eater who binge eats."  Kyle's words bring up a number of misconceptions about binge eating and the people who suffer from it. In today's episode, we'll delve into why clean eating can lead to or exacerbate binge eating. Join us to discover how the fitness industry's sometimes extreme dietary advice can lead to disordered eating and why it’s common among athletes and gym-goers. We'll discuss the misconceptions around binge eating, the dangers of food morality, and practical steps to regain a healthy relationship with food. If you are a fitness enthusiast who eats perfectly most of the time, but you find yourself caught in the cycle of clean eating and binge eating, then this episode is for you. 👉Dietitian Bonnie Roney's Facebook post mentioned in the episode.Episode Timeline: 00:00 Kyle's College Fitness Journey01:34 Misconceptions About Binge Eating02:56 Fitness Industry's Influence on Eating Disorders06:03 Kyle's Misconceptions and Realizations08:00 "Healthy" Binge Food Is Still Binge Food10:24 Fit People Can Also Struggle With Disordered Eating12:24 Steps to Overcome Disordered Eating14:36 Anticipating Resistance and Moving Slowly16:56 Unrealistic Male Body Standards18:50 The Role of Marketing in Eating Habits21:45 Conclusion and Listener SupportConnect with Georgie and the Confident Eaters Coaches: WebsiteFacebookInstagramHave you ever thought, "I know what to do, I just need to consistently do it"? Who hasn't? Sometimes we need accountability. Sometimes we need specific strategies, new tools, or a bit of help. If you are want help to become a confident, sensible eater with 1:1 personalized attention, sign up at ConfidentEaters.com.