Building Resilience

Your nervous system shapes your daily life behind the scenes. It’s easy to overlook, but your nervous system is the hidden powerhouse behind your responses, emotions, and capacity to handle life’s challenges. When you understand and take care of it, it can unlock a whole new level of resilience and clarity.On this episode of Building Resilience, I sit down with two incredible guests, Lexie Hill and Erin Wallen, who share their transformative journeys in nervous system regulation. They discuss practical tools and techniques for nervous system resilience, including "game day tools" for in-the-moment regulation. From understanding the power of the vagus nerve to realizing how a regulated nervous system can enhance relationships, Lexie and Erin reveal why this knowledge is essential for thriving, not just surviving.Guest Links:Connect with Lexie Hill on her website and Instagram.Connect with Erin Wallen on Instagram or other socials.Resources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel overwhelmed by the big goals you set for yourself? Sometimes, the smallest actions can be the most powerful, helping us make meaningful progress without getting lost in the stress of it all. But how can we break down our aspirations into manageable, daily steps?On this episode of Building Resilience, we're exploring the transformative impact of micro habits. I'll share how incorporating tiny, intentional actions throughout the day can build up to substantial change. By the end, you'll have a bunch of practical strategies to introduce more micro habits in your life, making real progress one small step at a time.Links:Ep. 127: Affect LabelingEp. 110: The Zone of ResilienceResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Life doesn't give us the answers we want, at least not right away. Facing challenges without knowing how things will work out can feel overwhelming. But what if, instead of focusing on the how, we focused on the simple belief that it's possible?On this episode of Building Resilience, we'll break down the mantra, "I don't know how, but I know it's possible." I share personal stories, including my son's journey and the profound lesson he taught me, and a reminder that sometimes we need to remember that the absence of something in your life can be a sign that its opposite exists.Links:Ep. 185: Embracing UncertaintyResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever felt like relationships can sometimes leave you emotionally drained or uplifted without understanding why? There's a subtle but powerful concept that might just hold the key to balancing these interactions---much like a real bank account, your emotional bank account determines the quality of your connections.On this episode of Building Resilience, I dive into the idea of the emotional bank account. This metaphor unpacks how everyday words, actions, and behaviors can either deposit or withdraw. Plus, I explore how the emotional bank account ties into your nervous system, helping you regulate stress and build resilience.Links:Ep. 125 - Understanding the Role of Neuroception (AKA Your Internal Surveillance System)Resources:  The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.  The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.   My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether working from home, commuting, or relaxing at the end of the day, sitting has become a constant companion. But what if I told you that sitting too much might be impacting your health—and in more ways than you realize?On this episode of Building Resilience, we'll explore the dangers of prolonged sitting and why it's been called "the new smoking." We'll also discuss how sitting for extended periods can lead to some striking  issues like metabolic syndrome, cardiovascular disease, weakened muscles, mental health challenges, and more.Whether it's taking a walking break, pacing during phone calls, or standing while working, small and sustainable changes can add up to make a big difference. Links:Ep. 163 - The Power of WalkingResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondaryConnect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Expectations shape how we experience the world---but they can also be a trap, leading to stress and suffering when reality doesn't match our hopes. So, how do we manage them in a way that helps rather than hinders us?On this episode of Building Resilience, we'll talk about the double-edged nature of expectations. You'll hear why expectations are essential for setting goals and boundaries, and how they can even build excitement for future events, helping us get even more enjoyment out of them.Links:Ep. 153: Different Kinds of ListeningResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parenting is a journey filled with transitions. From being a superhero in your child's life to becoming the "villain" in their teenage years, to navigating the quieter years of being an empty nester, the changes can feel overwhelming. It's a constant evolution that brings both grief and joy. How do we manage the shift from being the central figure in our children's lives to stepping back and allowing them to grow independently?On this episode of Building Resilience, we'll explore the many stages of parenting and how they impact our nervous system. I discuss the transition from being a caregiver to a consultant as our children grow, and the emotional challenges that come with each phase. You'll learn how to manage these transitions with grace and self-compassion, understand the impact on your nervous system, and discover practical tools to help us visualize and make sense of our ever-evolving roles as parents.Links:Ep. 175: Identity DiversificationResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When we face adversity, we are often faced with the choice of how we want to respond to those challenges. Will they make us bitter, or will they help us become better? It's a choice we all face, and one that can significantly shape the direction of our lives.On this episode of Building Resilience, is the cliché of becoming "bitter or better" really true? I'll share how adversity can either weigh us down, leaving us stuck in bitterness, or become a stepping stone toward growth and resilience. We'll also talk about some tools like small actions and practicing self-compassion to help you shift from bitter to better.Links:Ep.120 - The Drama Triangle and The Empowerment DynamicEp.113 - The Power Shift: Transforming from Victim to AgentEp.127 - Affect LabelingResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many of us spend so much energy trying to push anxiety away, but what if we tried something different? What would happen if we embraced our feelings of anxiety and tension instead of pushing them away, allowing them to simply exist? On this special episode of Building Resilience, I share a meditation designed to help you allow and accept anxiety rather than resist it. By learning how to befriend our anxiety, we can calm our nervous system and build resilience in the face of stress. This meditation will guide you through the process of observing and accepting these feelings, ultimately creating more safety within your body and mind.Resources:  The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.  The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.  My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"L" isn't just "for the way you look at me"---for me, it stands for some of my most important guiding principles: what I call "The L's": Live, Love, Learn, Leave a Legacy, Laugh, and Be a Source of Light.On this episode of Building Resilience, we'll go over how using each of these L's (plus a couple more I have added!) can play a pivotal role in living a life full of purpose and intention. You'll hear me reflect on how my father's life, Stephen Covey's wisdom, and my personal experiences shapes my approach to life, work, and relationships. Each of these L's offers a framework for living more meaningfully.Links:Ep. 142 - The Lighthouse EffectResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We often face situations that make us feel like we have to choose between being compassionate and setting boundaries. But what if I told you that both are equally important? On this episode of Building Resilience, we’ll get into the balance between compassion and boundaries. Understanding our nervous systems can help foster self-compassion and compassion for others, but we also need to do the important work of protecting ourselves through healthy boundaries. Using examples from the movie It Ends With Us and real-life scenarios, we break down why compassion should never justify mistreatment or abuse. Learn how to use your awareness of the nervous system to avoid burnout, engage with others more effectively, and set boundaries that keep relationships healthy.Links:Ep. 131 - Compassion and EmpathyEp. 128 - All About BoundariesResources:The "Memory Matters" course --- cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution" --- a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's day and age, a lot of us tend to fill up our days and move fast, always trying to be productive. It can feel like a whirlwind, leaving little room for rest or just "being." There's incredible value in embracing moments of stillness—but how often do we actually give ourselves permission to do nothing?On this episode of Building Resilience, I’ll explain the intriguing concept of niksen, a Dutch practice that translates to "doing nothing." We'll explore how this simple act can lead to profound benefits, from reducing stress to boosting creativity. I'll also share some practical tips on how you can begin incorporating niksen into your daily routine, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Whether it's learning to sit still without guilt or finding ways to embrace leisure, remember: the art of doing nothing isn't just about rest—it's about finding freedom in stillness.Links:Ep. 79: The Benefits of Nature on Your WellbeingResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---click here to sign up! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When we feel stuck, sometimes the boundaries holding us in place that we might not even be aware of. These boundaries can shape our experiences, influence our relationships, and even determine our sense of self-worth. But what if we could break through them?On this episode of Building Resilience, I'm joined by Kristy Deys and Kim Rees, two extraordinary women who have not only broken through their own boundaries but have also dedicated their lives to helping others do the same. They talk about their experience in my Advanced Nervous System Resilience Course, how they have gotten acquainted with their own nervous systems, and how this knowledge can lead to profound personal transformation. Through their stories, we'll get into being trapped within invisible walls, the importance of nervous system awareness, and practical strategies to enhance resilience and reclaim control over our lives. And remember—change isn't just about mindset—it's about understanding the nervous system's role in shaping our experiences and using that knowledge to build a life of resilience and fulfillment.Guest Links:Kristy Deys  Website: Deys Coaching  LinkedIn: Kristy DeysKim Rees  Instagram: @KimReesCoaching  LinkedIn: Kim ReesResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---sign up here! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Life can often feel like a juggling act, where we try to balance our thoughts, emotions, and physical well-being all at once. But have you ever wondered how your nervous system plays into all of this, especially when things feel overwhelming? This is a question that many of us encounter, whether consciously or not, in our everyday lives.On this episode of Building Resilience, I'm joined by two amazing guests, Marcie McGee and Jesser Rydalch, who share their personal and professional experiences with nervous system resilience. Marcie, a mind-body coach specializing in helping teens and young adults heal from anxiety and self-limiting beliefs, and Jesser, a registered nurse and life coach, bring unique insights into how understanding and befriending your nervous system can lead to profound personal and professional growth. We discuss the challenges they've faced, the transformative power of nervous system work, and how this knowledge has positively impacted their relationships, careers, and overall well-being.Guest Links:Marcie McGee  Website: Marcie McGee Coaching  Instagram: @MarciemcgeecoachingJesser Rydalch  Podcast: Lifting the Lifters  Instagram: @liftingthelifterspodcast  Facebook: Lifting the LiftersLinks:Ep. 110 - The Zone of ResilienceResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---sign up here! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.Pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to maintaining a healthy lifestyle, one of the most significant hurdles is understanding the relationship between our brain and our eating habits. The connection between how we handle stress and how we manage our weight is often overlooked, but it's critical for long-term success.On this episode of Building Resilience, I'm thrilled to welcome Kathy Hartman, a weight loss coach and graduate of my Advanced Training in Nervous System Resilience. Kathy has a unique approach to weight loss, integrating her knowledge of the nervous system to help her clients break free from emotional eating and develop healthier habits. Join us as we discuss how our nervous system reactions can lead us to seek comfort in food—and how learning to regulate these responses can transform our approach to weight loss and overall health.Guest Links:Check out "No BS Weight Loss": No BS Weight LossFollow Kathy on Instagram: @coach_kathyhartmanGet the free course: No BS Weight LossResources:The "Memory Matters" course---cherish and protect your memories, they're invaluable.The Advanced Nervous System Resilience training---join the waitlist! Dive deep into understanding the nervous system and its role in our lives.My video series, "The 30 Second Burnout Solution"---a lifeline for those grappling with stress and burnout, especially compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress.Connect:Could you do me a favor? Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform---it helps me reach more and more people. I'd also love to hear any insights or questions you have.You can also pay me a visit on Facebook or Instagram. You can also find me on my website and book a mini session with me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.