When Healing Becomes a Job Your Nervous System Hates
Description
Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to heal, the worse your body seems to feel? You meditate more, stretch more, breathe deeper, and still, your nervous system won’t calm down.
In this episode, Leah Davidson explores the subtle but crucial difference between healing and pressuring yourself to heal. She breaks down the seven “F” survival responses: fear, focus, frustration, fight, figuring it out, fixing, and forlorn (6 of the F’s are based on Dr. Howard Schubiner’s work). These patterns keep your body stuck in protection mode even when your intentions are good.
You’ll learn why the nervous system doesn’t respond to force, how healing can accidentally turn into a job your body resents, and what to do instead to create true safety and connection with yourself.
If you’ve ever wondered why your nervous system work isn’t working, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface and how to step back into balance with warmth instead of willpower.
We’ll explore:
- Why your healing efforts can backfire when they come from pressure instead of presence.
- How the seven “F” survival responses: fear, focus, frustration, fight, figuring it out, fixing, and forlorn, keep your body stuck in protection mode.
- The real reason your nervous system doesn’t respond to logic, but to tone, safety, and relationship.
- How healing can unintentionally turn into a full-time job your body resents.
- Why the goal isn’t to force calm, but to invite safety through warmth, curiosity, and consistency.
LINKS AND RESOURCES:
🏡 COMMUNITY
NERVOUS SYSTEM JOURNALING CLUB : Doodle, journal and heal in community.
Join here: https://www.skool.com/nervous-system-journaling-club/about
📚 MENTAL HEALTH STATIONERY - RESILIENT BRILLIANCE PRODUCTS:
1) RESILIENCE JOURNAL: A guided journal for emotional well-being and nervous system care
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2) MY SAFE SPACE : AFFIRMATION AND JOURNAL PROMPT SET
Amazon US - https://a.co/d/2mANQs4
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