What happens when women stop trying to make pleasure happen??!In this episode, I explore what shifts when pressure and performance fall away and why forcing pleasure often disconnects us from it. We look at the difference between chasing sensation and allowing the body to respond naturally, and how receptivity and relaxation play a central role in women's pleasure systems.This conversation offers a gentler, more intelligent approach to pleasure....one rooted in presence, safety, and self-trust.https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords:women’s pleasure, feminine embodiment, orgasm gap, pleasure, healing, female sexuality education, sex education, embodiment practices, desire and receptivity, intimacy and presence,
In this episode, we explore an important distinction many women were never taught: being physically aroused does not always mean being fully present or ready for a deeply satisfying sexual experience. Get in here....I share why getting wet is only one small part of the conditions for great sex, and how pressure, effort, and performance can disconnect us from true pleasure. I also reflect on my own journey and how my early understanding of sex was shaped by masculine-centered scripts, and how relearning pleasure transformed my relationship with my body and orgasm.Want more?! Interested in working together?Visit the listeners page linked below:https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords:arousal without connection, arousal story, arousal, sexual presence, embodied connection, feminine arousal, emotional connection in sex, pleasure without fulfillment, activation vs integration, sexual awareness
Okay, in this one....I introduce a distinction most women were never given and once you see it, you’ll start noticing it everywhere in your sex life! Literally!We explore the difference between surface pleasure and deeper pleasure. And why stimulation and "short arousal" don’t always lead to fulfillment. Pleasure isn’t just a physical response, it’s an internal cascade. And when women don’t know that that cascade exists, they often assume the first layer is the whole experience. No, no, no baby....get in here!! 😝That’s how so many of us end up thinking,“This feels good… but is this it?”(Which is a very specific kind of confusion no one prepares you for 😂)If this conversation makes you curious, good....that curiosity is intelligent. There’s a listeners page linked if you’d like to stay connected or explore further. Deeper education coming in January! ☺️https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords: surface pleasure, deeper pleasure, pleasure layers, arousal vs depth, sexual presence, embodied pleasure, nervous system and pleasure, feminine pleasure experience
In this episode, we explore one of the most common and most misunderstood challenges women face: difficulty reaching orgasm!! Bruhhhhhhhhh…I share why wanting orgasm is natural, not a sign that something is wrong with you, and how pressure, effort, and performance can actually shut down the body’s natural pleasure response. We talk about why pleasure unfolds more easily when you shift from trying to allowing, and why safety and relaxation are essential for deeper sensation.I also share how I went through my own journey of relearning pleasure without effort or performance and how it actually is possible!If you're curious, or LOVING this...I invite you to join the email list to be informed when my January deep pleasure dive series becomes available! Link below:https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords:orgasm, pleasure, pleasure literacy, women’s pleasure, low libido, difficulty reaching orgasm, relearning pleasure, personal journey, feminine embodiment, nervous system safety, relaxation and arousal, women’s sexual health, big O
In this episode, I explore the number one reason so many women struggle to feel pleasure and why it has nothing to do with being broken. (Because girl, you are not f***** broken!!!) 🧚🏽♀️When the body is under chronic stress, emotional pressure, or constant demand, the nervous system shifts into survival mode. In this state, pleasure is basically "muted". This episode breaks down how survival mode impacts women's arousal, why presence and slowness matter, and how the body can relearn pleasure when safety is restored.This conversation is an entry point into pleasure literacy and the foundation for an upcoming educational series exploring how pleasure actually works inside the woman's nervous system! Eeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkk!!! 😆💃🏽Ladies.....Your body isn’t broken. It’s responding intelligently and it can continue with a new intelligent response, this time with pleasure as a priority! 😏Want to go deeper?I’m releasing more education, reflections, and early access to upcoming series through my email list. Follow the link to join!https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords women’s pleasure, nervous system and pleasure, female arousal explained, survival mode and intimacy, pleasure and safety, pleasure literacy for women, embodiment and pleasure, somatic pleasure, relearning pleasure, emotional safety and arousal, Desire Different Podcast
If you’ve ever thought “I hate sex,” this episode is for you. Many women don’t hate sex, they hate the pressure, expectation, and performance wrapped around it. When the body doesn’t feel safe, pleasure can’t open, no matter how much desire is there.This is a re-framing, not a how-to. Nothing is wrong with you, your body has been protecting you bbg! Ahhhh 🤣 , that means babygirl (I blame my seventeen year old 😆)As we move through December, these episodes are designed to help you slow down, soften, and reconnect with pleasure in a way that feels grounded and honest.If you’d like deeper support, you can explore my product suite in Pensight below:https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords: why I hate sex, I hate sex, don’t like sex anymore, dislike sex, dead bedroom, women’s desire, low desire in women, pleasure and nervous system, stress and intimacy, embodiment and pleasure, reconnecting to pleasure, low libido
This episode is a beautiful starting point for reconnecting to your orgasmic pleasure, as we continue our December Soft Reset Arc. I'll tell you all about why....people often ask me what changed in my pleasure story when I became more receptive to orgasm, and I tell them....when I stopped having sex the way a man taught me….and started becoming literate in my own pleasure….everything about my orgasmic potential changed!! Pleasure literacy is how you de-armor, how you wake your body back up, and how you begin the real journey into deeper, fuller, more orgasmic connection with yourself. It low-key erases the brainwashed BS. We don't have sex like men ladies......we have better sex, women sex 😝🤣In this episode, we explore what it means to understand the language of your own body....the subtle signals, the quiet openings, the truth beneath the performance. I talk about how false arousal falls away once you become pleasure-literate, and why redefining pleasure on your own terms is essential for real connection.This conversation lays the foundation for the deeper embodiment work coming in January, where awareness becomes activation.Want more?! Explore my product suite and working together:https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords:feminine embodiment, sensual self-awareness, orgasmic potential, somatic literacy, embodied pleasure, nervous system awakening, authentic arousal, body-based wisdom, inner connection, pleasure education, sensual awakening, de-armoring practices, feminine nervous system, embodiment journey
In this episode we are sitting inside the start of our December soft reset arc...a month designed to bring you back into alignment before the new year begins! New alignment, new thought, clarity....all of the lady-like things that make us truly bling...."wait what?!" 🤭🤣Okay so….this one is all about reclaiming yourself: your energy, your identity, your inner voice, your essence. Not by doing more…but by returning inward. *whispers* inward like the way we were before life's fangs got this deepI talk about how easy it is, especially for women, to scatter ourselves across responsibilities, people, roles, expectations, and emotional labor...and how that leaves us feeling disconnected from our true center. This episode guides you into a gentle internal homecoming. A reminder that the most powerful version of you has never left…she just needs space to breathe again.December is the month of wonder + reset and this episode is your starting doorway! You’re not reinventing yourself. You’re returning to yourself.Want to learn more about my courses & one on one sessions?! Use the link belowhttps://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords: reclamation, energy reclamation, realignment, reconnecting to self, women’s empowerment, personal reset, soft reset, December reset, self-return, grounding, inner clarity, emotional realignment, feminine healing, intentional living, new year new me
What if an alien asked you to explain human habits…and you realized none of it makes sense? In this episode, I dive into a wild thought experiment, how would we explain human pleasure, habits, and intimacy to extraterrestrials? And why does our pleasure system feel…wildly unbalanced?This episode is funny, honest, and a little unhinged in the best way. If you’ve ever felt like something about how we experience pleasure doesn’t add up, this one will have you thinking!Curious to go deeper? You can explore my online school or book a FREE call in the link below.https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-hereKeywords: human behavior podcast, pleasure gap, female pleasure, sexual inequality, women’s sexuality, modern intimacy, modern relationships, embodiment work, feminine power, nervous system healing, alien thought experiment, why humans are weird, women reclaiming pleasure
(EXPLICIT: Yeah if you’re new here, this one is spicy! 😜🤣) So have you ever bragged about sex but forgot to mention if it actually felt good?! Well....this episode is equal parts funny and food for thought. I’m talking about women who brag, “He fcked the sht outta me,” but never mention if they actually felt pleasure or orgasm. We’re unpacking why fast, hard, performance-based sex is holding strong as a weird “flex” but why slowing down is the real power move. Listen....we're finally admitting the actually silliness of speed kissing, rabbit-style sex, and what happens when your foreplay speed hits 94 mph instead of the human default of 7 mph. (Spoiler: you literally blow right past the stop sign where her orgasm was waiting.) This one is your reminder to read the room, match the energy, and turn your sex stories from smut comedy skits into something closer to orgasmic poetry, that's actually relatable and holding the truth about the sex and pleasure you actually want! Come hereeeeeeee!!!! Keywords: pleasure education, slow sex, sensual connection, feminine embodiment, orgasmic awareness, sex flexWant more?! Curious about working with me one on one?!https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/start-here
During this Sacred Sip, I’m inviting you to slow down and breathe again. When life feels heavy, it’s often just energy asking to be released, sorted or felt more clearly.If you’re ready to untangle what’s been weighing you down, my Sacred Support Sessions are open. One-on-one healing to help you clear, re-calibrate, and return to yourself.Learn more about my Sacred Support Sessions here:https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/sacred-support-healing-sessions-and-spiritual-mentorship
In this Sacred Sip, I’m yappin’ about barking like you want it, not barking like a confused poodle in the rain! 😅 This is masculine clarity, not chaos. No thirst. No theatrics. Just actual confidence and presence.I break down why women respond to certainty, not “maybe,” and how your energy can make or break your chances in the first 5 seconds. If you want her, act like it. This is the psychology of attraction, masculine energy, and showing up with the kind of intention women trust.If you want to take this deeper, my self led Men’s Magnetism Course (link below) teaches the nervous system work and embodied confidence. The course includes 4.5 hours of insight and a bonus: "what porn doesn't teach about sex with feminine women". Learn more below:https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/magnetism-for-menTopics: masculine confidence, attraction psychology, dating, emotional clarity, masculine energy, how to approach women
In this episode, I heard you fellas!!!! Get in here....I'm breaking down why women feel drawn to certain men instantly and why it comes down to masculine energy, presence, and subtle dominance, not looks. Women read your nervous system, your embodiment, your confidence, and whether or not you’re grounded or performing. I talk about how true masculine magnetism comes from a calm, self-assured internal state, not validation-seeking behavior, and why feminine bodies respond to steady, grounded leadership on a biological level....low key, well high key, also on a sexual, orgasmic level! 🤭😝I also share how my self-led Men’s Magnetism Course helps men regulate their nervous system, embody real confidence, and build the kind of masculine presence that creates trust, attraction, and emotional safety without effort. This is the stuff the feminine women, that are operating from "wetness" are looking for! Enjoy!!Curious about my new Men's Magnetism course, learn more in the link below:https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/magnetism-for-menTopics: masculine presence, grounded masculinity, embodiment practices, emotional leadership, polarity dynamics, nervous system work, dating psychology, men's confidence
In this sacred sip, I discuss the idea of every woman carrying echoes of her mother’s pain....it can be in the patterns she modeled, the love she withheld, the tenderness she herself maybe, never learned to receive. This sip invites you to soften the distance between who she was and who you’re becoming, so you can learn, love and accept yourself with certainty, not chaotic overflow!Ready to go deeper? Begin your healing journey with a one on one session with me, focusing on "Healing Your Mother Wound & Unlocking Your Flow" and feel what it’s like to be held differently, understood differently and received differently, by YOU first!https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent/reclaiming-the-feminine-healing-the-mother-wound-and-unlocking-your-flowKeywords: mother wound healing, feminine healing, generational patterns, self-love, emotional healingSipping Sacredly,Nikki
In this one, I explore what it really means to reconnect with your authentic self....the part of you that existed before the noise, the pressure, and the performance. I talk about how easy it is for women to lose their intuition when life demands constant doing, and how to begin finding your way back through stillness, breath, and intentional movement.You’ll hear about the ways society conditions us to trade our inner knowing for logic, and what happens when we stay gone from ourselves, from our body’s natural rhythms for too long. Because when a woman stays out of her body, her magic starts to fade.I also share reflections on parenting and why modeling authenticity over attachment is one of the most powerful lessons we can offer our children, especially our daughters. This episode is your gentle reminder to stay connected to your inner network....where your truth, intuition, and feminine power live! And it lives there, inside us, before we start sucking from the puppet masters....get in here!!https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferentKeywords: women's empowerment, authenticity, intuition, inner knowing, feminine embodiment, parenting, magic
Inside this Sacred Sip: The idea of Inner Child healing doesn't stop in our teenage years....the teenage version of us was involved in our “trial & error” season more deeply than our younger selves. When your inner teen took the wheel of life, they started surviving. This sip is for the moment you began proving instead of simply being....this is an examining of when you took the wheel of life and had your first "road test", with the hand you were dealt....and how forgiving and healing that era might be what your therapy sessions have been missing! Keywords: inner teen healing, inner child healing, feminine healing, self-worth, emotional healingTo explore Healing Your Inner Teen with me, use the link below!https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferentSipping Sacredly,Nikki
Okay, CONTENT WARNING...we're talking heartbreak today! I'm diving into the quiet alchemy that happens after heartbreak...the internal reckoning that rebuilds us from the inside out. I share how pain isn’t punishment but invitation: an opening that asks who you’re becoming now that the illusion has fallen away. Sometimes, breakups happen because another person’s karma simply won’t allow them to stay close to someone as good, clear, or light as you and that realization can bring deep acceptance, without "closure". Maybe they were never meant to experience the depth of devotion you offer. Maybe they’re not supposed to receive the over-pour of blessings that are about to reach YOU! Perhaps their path sits closer to dark; while yours sits closer to light. These are the breakups or uncouplings I welcome low-key! Through my own reflections and the stories that shaped me, we explore how heartbreak can become a sacred reconstruction, rewiring the way you see love, truth, yourself and future relationships. If you’ve ever wondered how to trust life again after heartbreak, this conversation reminds you that heartbreak isn’t the end of your story....it’s the moment you start living it with more depth, honesty, and devotion to your becoming.Keywords: heartbreak, internal reckoning, personal growth, self-discovery, transformationShare & leave me a review!! Want more?! Want to work one on one, or get on an interest call?! Full options in link belowhttps://pensight.com/x/desiredifferentToodles! 🧚🏽♀️
Inside this Sacred Sip: Fast feeds the mind, slow feeds the body...and literally the proper orgasm! In another lil' sip episode explore how slowing down in intimacy heightens sensation, builds polarity, and turns desire into devotion through presence, desire and trust.Want more?!https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferentSipping Sacredly,Nikki
A raw, grounded dive into intimacy, fear, nervous system safety and how creating your own rules for sex deepens connection, pleasure, and trust.In this episode we dive into the quiet fears that show up in the moments we crave the most....the ones we often mistake for low libido or performance anxiety, but are really about a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe.We talk about the truth behind intimacy, anxiety, and emotional safety, and why your body can’t fully open when it doesn’t feel emotionally held. I share how to start having more accepting sex, the kind that feels like exhale instead of effort and how to use after-care to keep the energy alive instead of breaking the spell when it’s over.You’ll also hear a powerful re-frame on communication, preferences, and boundaries, and why making your own rules for sexual expression might be the sexiest addition your relationship has ever had!!If you’re ready to turn safety into seduction and fear into freedom....this one’s for you. Get in hereeeee!!!!!Want more?! Let's explore your chapter together! Book a connection call to see if we’re a good fit or to see which one of my courses will serve you best!https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent
Get in here! We're still keeping it "creepy-ish" this Halloween season!! I’m pulling back the curtain on one of our sneakiest addictions....that endless scroll that’s quietly frying our dopamine and flattening our desire. Have you ever watched someone scroll? Like really watched them....eyes glazed, thumb twitching, soul somewhere between a meme and a midlife crisis? Yeah…that’s what we’re talking about.I’ll share how this constant drip of digital stimulation is rewiring our pleasure, our patience, and even our sex drive and what it takes to actually feel again.So if your thumb’s been getting more action than your partner, it might be time for a digital detox.! Let’s laugh, get real, and remember how good life feels when we slow down and plug back into presence. Let’s desire something different. Like the vibe?! Want more?https://pensight.com/x/desiredifferent