Double Life

We’re talking all about friendships in your 20s — and how no one really prepares you for how much they change. Whether it’s the school friends you haven’t messaged in months, the ones who now live halfway across the world, or the new people you’re trying to connect with while juggling work, marriage, or motherhood — it’s a lot. And no one talks about how emotionally confusing it can be.In this episode, we’re sharing the small things we’re doing to actually keep in touch — like sending memes, making space for voice notes instead of FaceTimes, and learning how to show love in quiet, low-maintenance ways. We also get real about the guilt, the overwhelm, and how sometimes the biggest shift is just being more intentional.If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Are we still even friends?” — this one’s for you.00:00 Introduction0:58 Why friendships in your 20s feel so different2:32 The mental load of keeping up with everyone4:45 What we can learn from how men stay in touch6:55 The guilt of not reaching out — and how we’re handling it8:50 Living life with friends, not just catching them up10:00 Building real connection without being in the same room11:37 Old friends, new seasons — and letting friendships evolve13:28 Social media friendships vs. real-life connection15:00 When your friends become mums, wives, or just really busy17:10 Replacing the “catch up dump” with shared memories18:45 Making space for friendship in a full life20:06 Doing life together vs. updating each other21:39 Being intentional — even when you don’t have the time23:00 Ending the cycle of guilt and showing up in small waysDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

In this episode, we unpack the guilt, shame, and emotional friction that come with changing your mind—especially when it comes to your job, relationships, or life direction. From navigating commitment issues to knowing when you’ve outgrown a space, we reflect on our own experiences with leaving corporate jobs, pivoting careers, and building enough self-belief to take a different path.We explore the pressure to stay put, the generational baggage around quitting, and the deep personal work it takes to trust your own intuition. Whether you’re contemplating a job change, leaving a relationship, or just feeling stuck, this episode will help you reframe what it means to “quit”—and see it instead as a radical act of self-trust.Perfect for high-achieving women who are tired of living on autopilot and ready to choose themselves, even when it feels scary.Keywords: quitting job guilt, changing your mind career, how to know when to leave, corporate to self-employed, outgrowing environments, commitment issues, feminine energy, self-belief, first-born daughters, emotional trauma healing00:00 Introduction01:12 Are we failures for changing our minds?04:48 The guilt of leaving when you’ve invested time08:42 Pressure, people-pleasing, and autonomy12:09 Recognising you’ve outgrown your environment14:27 The fear of becoming your boss17:32 Shrinking yourself to stay in the wrong room19:41 Self-belief and walking away from “safe” spaces23:10 The leap from corporate to self-employed26:30 Why trusting yourself is the foundation of changeDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

There’s so much pressure these days to have a side hustle. Whether it’s content creation, digital businesses or ‘making the most of your time’, it can feel like just working your 9–5 isn’t enough. But is constantly chasing extra income really the answer?In this week’s episode of Double Life, we explore a different path — one that prioritises joy, purpose and personal growth over monetisation. We chat about the power of hobbies and how they actually shape the kind of mindset that creates long-term financial wellbeing. From learning a language to picking up the piano again, we unpack how doing things just for you can give you more peace, confidence and even better money habits over time.If you're a firstborn daughter battling hyper-independence, trying to shift from survival to softness, or craving a life that’s rich in more ways than one — this one’s for you.00:00 Introduction – The pressure to hustle and why we're questioning it01:54 Why our generation feels the need to do more than just a 9–503:37 Are hobbies a substitute for side hustles?05:20 Making time (and money) for joy – even when hobbies cost06:52 Shifting from survival mode to doing things just because they feel good08:57 Budgeting for hobbies like you would investments10:45 The mindset shift hobbies bring: discipline, patience, purpose13:49 The invisible link between hobbies and long-term wealth15:25 Hobbies as a starting point if you’re still figuring things out17:00 For the multi-passionate girlies – balancing fulfilment and income18:42 Final thoughts – why purpose doesn’t always have to be profitableDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

This episode is a healing reminder for every high-achieving, hyper-independent woman who feels like she’s falling behind. We unpack the shame that comes from comparison, the emotional weight of “not doing enough,” and the invisible hurdles that make your journey harder—but also more meaningful.From dealing with family trauma to unlearning survival mode, we open up about how our early years shaped our timelines and why success doesn’t have to be fast to be worthy. We talk about the quiet grief of late bloomers, the resentment you sometimes feel even after achieving your goals, and the internal battles you fight that no one sees.If you’ve ever looked at someone younger and wondered, “Why not me?”—this episode will validate, reframe, and ground you.Keywords: emotional healing, late bloomer, self-growth, feminine energy, comparison trap, eldest daughter struggles, financial healing, mindset shifts, self-worth, soft life, spiritual self-development, trauma-informed growth00:00 The TikTok quote that sparked this conversation2:20 Why we feel “behind” when we’re actually healing4:00 The invisible weight of growing up in survival mode6:02 Comparing yourself to people with a head start8:12 The regret of learning key lessons later in life10:01 What privilege actually looks like behind the scenes12:40 Why success doesn’t feel the same for everyone14:23 How to stop downplaying your own achievements16:35 Turning comparison into inspiration (without guilt)18:40 Practicing gratitude without bypassing your feelingsDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

In this episode of Double Life, we go deep on what it actually means to build wealth in your 20s and 30s — especially when you’re doing it with intention, strategy, and softness. We break down the myths around saving vs. investing, and get honest about our own financial journeys — from credit card debt to six-figure net worth goals.You’ll hear us unpack how we’ve navigated investing in assets like property, index funds, and even crypto (with some wins and a few losses too). We talk about net worth, feminine energy in finances, and how to use lazy girl investing to fund your rich girl lifestyle — without burnout or constant hustle.If you’re a hyper-independent woman learning how to make your money work harder (not you), or navigating the shift from chaos to clarity in your financial world — this episode will give you the strategy and mindset shift you need to start.00:00 Introduction4:01 What “wealth” really means to us7:00 Is your house actually an asset or a liability?10:56 Why assets should pay for your lifestyle14:24 The power of index funds and lazy investing19:44 Our mistakes in crypto + lessons learned22:55 Investing in trends: how to spot the next big thing26:58 How net worth changed our mindset on wealth30:38 Why investing early is your biggest flex35:40 From negative to positive net worth: our blueprint37:00 Setting real, tangible financial goals (and hitting them)Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

We left the corporate world to live the dream — full creative freedom, our own hours, being our own boss. But no one talks about what gets lost in that process.In this episode, we unpack the surprising parts of corporate life we genuinely miss as self-employed creators — from the emotional safety net of structure, to the everyday feedback loops that helped us stay grounded.We talk about the mental and emotional shifts that happen when you go from career girl to creator, and how we’re now trying to rebuild that sense of support and stability without sacrificing our freedom. If you’ve ever felt unmotivated, emotionally scattered, or quietly nostalgic for your old office job — this one’s for you.00:00 Introduction2:18 Why We Really Left Corporate6:40 The Unexpected Things We Miss About 9-5 Life10:55 The Stability of Structure (and How We Took It for Granted)16:13 Coworker Banter, Shared Goals & Instant Feedback21:45 Rebuilding Emotional Support Systems as Creators27:02 Freedom Is Great, But You Still Need Boundaries31:50 Finding a New Rhythm in Your Creator EraDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

We’re unpacking the physical effects of growing up in a dysfunctional household and how the body stores trauma long after you’ve emotionally “moved on.” From burnout to adrenal fatigue, muscle tension to digestive issues—this is the side of trauma we don’t talk about enough.This isn’t just about childhood memories. It’s about how your body has carried the weight of emotional chaos, parentification, and high-stakes expectations. We speak directly to the eldest daughters who had to grow up too fast, who struggle to rest, and who are just now learning what safety actually feels like in their own bodies.Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

Is traveling in your 20s a smart investment in life experience—or a fast track to having less? In this episode, we break down the ultimate dilemma: should you spend more money exploring the world while you’re young, and how do you get out of a scarcity mindset when it comes to travelling and spending money on this in our 20s?Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

Leaving the security of a 9-5 paycheque changes your entire relationship with money—trust us, we’ve been there. In this episode, we’re breaking down the real shifts in money mindset that happen when you go from a structured salary to unpredictable income streams. We get honest about how our personal and business finances evolved, why investing got harder (or easier?), and how we’re managing our money now as entrepreneurs. Whether you’re self-employed, thinking about quitting your job, or just trying to be smarter with money, this conversation is packed with insights. Plus, we talk about charging your worth, navigating financial fears, and why tracking your spending might be the one habit that changes everything.00:00 Introduction04:15 Separating Business Money vs. Personal Finances10:42 The Shock of Leaving a 9-5 & Losing a Salary18:30 The Biggest Money Mistakes We Made After Quitting24:55 Investing Strategies: What’s Working & What’s Not31:40 Charging Your Worth & Getting Paid What You Deserve38:12 The Importance of Tracking Your Money (And Why We Stopped)45:50 Why Budgeting Looks Different as an Entrepreneur51:30 Final Thoughts – What We’d Do DifferentlyDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

In celebration of International Women’s Day, we’re diving into how the role of women has evolved—and the pressure that comes with it. Decades ago, many of us wouldn’t have been legally allowed to own property, run businesses, or even open bank accounts. Now, we’re expected to be multi-hyphenates—balancing careers, entrepreneurship, and home life seamlessly. But is this truly freedom, or just a new kind of pressure? We explore the realities of financial independence, the struggle of traditional expectations, and whether the modern woman really can ‘have it all.’Chapter List:00:00 Introduction03:45 The Evolution of Women’s Roles: Then vs. Now10:22 Why Women Are More Multi-Hyphenate Today18:05 The Challenges of Balancing Business, Career & Home Life26:17 The Hidden Expectations Women Still Face33:40 Why Female-Led Businesses Struggle To Get Funding41:55 Feminine Energy, Work-Life Balance & Avoiding Burnout49:12 Final Thoughts: Are We Really More Free?

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough? In this episode, we’re talking about the pressure to succeed, the struggle to celebrate wins, and why so many of us feel like our goals are obligations rather than choices.We break down how high expectations in childhood shape our need for external validation, why we constantly move the goalpost, and how to start actually enjoying success instead of just surviving it. Plus, practical ways to celebrate yourself without guilt, and how learning to rest is one of the most powerful things you can do.00:00 Introduction03:45 “I Don’t Celebrate My Achievements – Why Is That?”09:20 The Pressure of High Expectations & Childhood Conditioning14:55 Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Goals – Are You Doing This for You?21:30 Why Rest Feels Uncomfortable (And How to Fix It)27:50 Small Wins Matter – How to Celebrate Yourself More34:15 Learning to Sit in Stillness & Be Proud of YourselfDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

Aiza's original video: https://www.tiktok.com/@aiza_talks/video/7456668553094237483Why do people get so defensive when others speak about cultural trauma? In this episode, we dive into the TikTok discourse that sparked a bigger conversation about the toxic elements of South Asian culture, the fear of ‘what will people think?’, and why some people refuse to acknowledge hard truths.We explore why certain individuals feel the need to invalidate others’ experiences, how denial is often a reflection of internalised conditioning, and why healing starts with honesty. Instead of tearing each other down, how can we use these conversations to create real change?If you’ve ever felt dismissed for sharing your experiences, or struggled with the pressure to stay silent, this one’s for you.00:00 Introduction04:10 The TikTok That Sparked It All09:45 Why Are People So Defensive About Cultural Trauma?15:30 The Problem With ‘Not All South Asians’ Arguments21:50 The Denial Mindset – Are We Just Brushing Things Under The Carpet?28:15 How Social Media Can Be Used For Good (Or Harm)35:40 Healing, Validation, and Why We Need More Honest ConversationsDon't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at:💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.comHosts:⁠@farahrajax⁠⁠@devamsha⁠

This Valentine’s Day, we're talking about the fact that how you treat yourself determines the relationships you attract. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in toxic friendships, settling for bare-minimum energy, or struggling with people-pleasing, this episode is for you. 00:00 Introduction 4:15 Self-Love & Relationships: The Connection You’re Missing 9:45 Why People-Pleasing is Self-Sabotage 15:30 How Low Self-Worth Keeps You Stuck 21:50 Boundaries 101: How to Protect Your Peace 27:15 Healing from Toxic Friendships & Bad Relationships 34:40 How to Build Confidence & Set Higher Standards 41:05 The Real Secret to a Strong Self-Love Mindset We cover: - How your internal self-talk affects your relationships - Why setting boundaries is the ultimate act of self-love - Breaking free from low self-worth cycles - The real reason you keep attracting the wrong people - How to cultivate confidence, raise your standards, and step into your power This episode is about rewiring your mindset to show up as the best version of yourself. Because when you love yourself, your whole life changes. Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at: 💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com Hosts: ⁠@farahrajax⁠ ⁠@devamsha⁠

What does true wealth actually look like? Is it designer brands, logo-free luxury, and ‘investment pieces,’ or is it about time freedom, peace, and being intentional with your money? 00:00 Introduction 3:45 What Is Luxury, Really? 7:10 The Childhood Influence on How We See Money 12:25 The Designer Bag I No Longer Want—A Mindset Shift 18:40 Investing in Quality: Is Expensive Always Better? 24:55 Quiet Luxury vs. Authentic Living: The Key Differences 30:20 The Real Meaning of Wealth & How to Build It 37:15 How To Stop Overconsumption & Shop With Intention This week we dive into: How childhood, culture, and societal expectations shape our views on luxury The shift from material wealth to time and location freedom Why many high-end brands still use cheap materials and what that means for ‘quality’ How to stop buying into trends and start investing in a rich life that feels good If you’ve ever felt torn between wanting nice things and craving financial independence, this episode is for you. Let’s redefine what success actually means. Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at: 💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com Hosts: ⁠@farahrajax⁠ ⁠@devamsha⁠

What if success didn’t require burnout? This episode unpacks the rising trend of cosy entrepreneurship—balancing ambition with ease and sustainability. Learn how to redefine hustle culture, create flexible systems, and prioritise your health, relationships, and fulfilment while pursuing business success. 00:00 Introduction 03:00 What Is Cosy Entrepreneurship? 09:20 From Corporate to Cosy: Lessons in Balance 16:45 Systems That Support a Soft Life Business 23:30 Redefining Success Beyond Hustle Culture 31:15 Overcoming Perfectionism as a Cosy Entrepreneur Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at: 💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com Hosts: ⁠@farahrajax⁠ ⁠@devamsha⁠

Are you struggling to create routines that match your ambitious goals? In this episode, we break down the art of building sustainable morning and night routines tailored for high-achieving women. Learn how to habit stack, adjust for your energy cycles, and balance productivity with self-care. 00:00 Introduction 04:10 Morning Routines for Productivity and Self-Care 12:30 How to Build a Nighttime Routine That Helps You Wind Down 19:00 Overcoming All-or-Nothing Thinking in Routine Building 25:45 Adjusting Routines for Low-Energy Days 31:20 Why Balance Is Key to Routine Success Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at: 💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com Hosts: ⁠@farahrajax⁠ ⁠@devamsha⁠

Glow up season is here, and it doesn’t have to cost a fortune. This episode explores budget-friendly ways to level up mentally, physically, and financially. From leveraging free resources for self-improvement to smart financial habits and sustainable routines, we share actionable advice for a well-rounded transformation.  00:00 Introduction 03:20 Glow Up Mentally: Books, Podcasts & Decluttering 10:45 Affordable Physical Glow-Up Tips & Routines 17:00 Financial Glow-Up: Tracking, Skills, and Smart Money Moves 23:10 Why Sustainable Glow-Ups Last Longer 28:30 Final Tips for a Holistic Glow-Up Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at: 💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com Hosts: ⁠@farahrajax⁠ ⁠@devamsha⁠

Kickstart 2025 with a fresh approach to goal setting by tapping into your feminine energy. This episode dives into intuitive planning, balancing masculine and feminine energy, and redefining success beyond hustle culture. Learn how to create aligned goals that feel good, minimise burnout, and focus on fulfilment rather than external validation.

Step into 2025 with a deep dive into the wellness trends that are shaping the future of self-care and personal growth. From red light therapy to walking, we’re exploring which trends we love and are taking with us into the new year. In this episode, we unpack the rising focus on mental clarity, emotional well-being, and sustainable self-care routines that work for modern, multifaceted women. Whether you’re curious about the next big thing in holistic health or looking for practical ways to elevate your wellness game, this conversation will inspire and empower your journey into the new year ✨ Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at: 💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com Hosts: ⁠@farahrajax⁠ ⁠@devamsha⁠

Managing your financial anxiety can be tough when you go from summer spending pressure to winter spending pressure... and don't get us started on the work's Secret Santa. This week, we're having an honest chat on how to navigate this season financially, and just how to get the perfect present without breaking the bank. 00:00 Introduction 03:45 The Pressure to Spend During the Holidays 10:15 Secret Santa Stories and Corporate Festive Spending 16:50 Smart Gift-Giving Tips for a Meaningful Christmas 22:30 Why Seasonal Sales Aren’t Always a Deal 29:20 Managing Financial Anxiety and Setting Holiday Boundaries 35:10 Practical Budgeting Tips for 2025 Don't forget to give us a rating and send us your dilemmas at: 💌 thedoublelifepodcast@gmail.com Hosts: ⁠@farahrajax⁠ ⁠@devamsha⁠