EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids

welcome to a parenting space actually designed for YOU! where you can get answers about navigating a life that includes autism. I’m Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist specializing in autism and neuroaffirming care. I have supported 100s of autistic children and their families and have been in the autism field for over a decade. on this podcast, we focus on supporting your autistic child AND your whole family, including you! every topic is on the table, and your questions (which you can submit through my social media) inspire the episodes created. I share some of my personal stories growing up with a brother who was diagnosed at 23 months of age as well as feature other families' stories so you know you are not navigating this journey alone. this is a space for you to be SEEN. HEARD. SUPPORTED. and get reputable and reliable information about autism instead of searching Google endlessly for hours. I am so dang grateful that you are here. ***disclaimer: not clinical advice, for educational purposes only*** subscribe to this podcast by hitting the plus or follow button so you don't miss an episode.

194 | embracing humanity + connection in autism with jessie caraway of the if you know one project

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay sits down with Jessie Caraway, creator of the If You Know One Project, to talk about her family’s journey, her daughter’s autism diagnosis, and how the project grew out of a desire to build community and awareness.They reflect on the long road to an autism diagnosis, reframing “high support needs,” and the importance of seeing each autistic child through a lens of humanity rather than fear or deficit. Jessie shares how her journey with her daughter, Eliza, inspired her to create the If You Know One Project — a space that celebrates individuality and connection through neurodiversity-affirming awareness, apparel, and storytelling.Together, Dr. Tay and Jessie explore what it means to move forward with compassion, to hold complexity in parenting, and to remind families that every story — every one — matters.TIMESTAMPS00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement00:29 Host’s Background and Podcast Purpose01:31 Guest Introduction and Family Background02:01 Starting the If You Know One Project03:29 Community Engagement and Resource Sharing06:50 Challenges in the Diagnosis Journey11:36 Navigating the Healthcare System18:23 The If You Know One Project’s Mission and Future Goals22:59 Navigating the Journey Together23:22 Support for Families24:04 Community and Connection24:33 Understanding High Support Needs25:22 The Value of Individuality26:20 Perspective Shifts and Humanity28:24 Building Trust and Communication32:19 Sharing Stories and Advocacy36:12 Encouragement for Parents38:56 Final Thoughts and Resources💛 RESOURCES⚡️ Connect with Jessie Caraway + The If You Know One Project:Instagram → @jess_ifyouknowoneEtsy Shop → If You Know One⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay

10-08
39:45

193 | instagram live q&a replay: autism headlines, affirming supports, + the just one thing challenge

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇this episode is a replay of my instagram live q+a, where we processed the recent press conference linking autism and tylenol. i shared reflections on research, stigma, and neurodiversity-affirming care, and answered parent questions in real time. we covered the nuance of research, medication conversations, ableism and stigma, and most importantly — how parents can ground themselves and their families. a special thank you to sam marion, lcsw (@sammarioncounseling) for moderating the live chat and helping to hold respectful space for this conversation.THE JUST ONE THING CHALLENGEtoward the end of this episode, i introduce the just one thing challenge—a free 7-day practice designed to help parents slow down, ground themselves, and notice one small glimmer in the middle of daily overwhelm.  join the just one thing challenge starting monday, october 6th, 2025 – on instagram: follow @the.dr.tay and message JOTCHALLENGE – not on instagram? sign up here TIMESTAMPS00:00 introduction + intent of the live 01:46 introducing sam marion 03:51 processing the press conference 06:20 what neurodiversity affirming care really means 07:50 dr. tay’s background + perspective 09:52 making sense of autism research 12:36 diving into parent questions 24:05 responding to the administration’s narrative 39:54 fda-approved medications + leucovorin discussion 41:51 understanding pda + affirming supports 44:15 debunking tylenol + autism myths 45:56 confronting stigma + ableism 48:58 concerns about government policies 51:54 supporting autistic kids + families 01:10:51 the just one thing challenge 01:15:34 closing reflections + resourcesRESOURCES⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership to find community + support in your parenting journey⚡️ learn more about dr. tay's whole family approach + current clinical services offered at drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me + submit questions that may be featured on a future episode >> instagram @the.dr.tay tiktok @the.dr.tay

10-02
01:16:17

192 | processing the press on autism and Tylenol

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini, spontaneous episode, Dr. Tay addresses the recent press conference where the administration linked autism to Tylenol, causing guilt and anxiety among parents. She emphasizes the importance of taking time to process emotions, the prevalence of misinformation, and the need for compassion. Dr. Tay reassures listeners that it's okay to take a pause, mute social media, and focus on emotional processing rather than seeking immediate answers. She encourages parents to embrace their current reality with their autistic child and highlights the complexity of autism's causes.00:00 Introduction 00:19 Addressing the Press Conference on Autism and Tylenol00:52 Processing and Community Feedback02:25 Neurodiversity and Emotional Support05:08 Clarifying Misconceptions about Autism Causes06:38 Encouragement and Self-Care Tips09:47 Final Thoughts and Outro   RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here to have a community support you during these trying times ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered at drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

09-25
10:40

191 | navigating demands + boundaries with the 3 bucket approach

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares a sneak peek into a training within EVOLVE the memberhsip. Sh dives into the concept of low demand parenting, particularly for families with children who resonate with the PDA profile. Dr. Tay introduces and explains the "3 Bucket Approach" to help parents manage demands and boundaries effectively. The episode also outlines the benefits of joining the membership where deeper guidance, resources, and community support are provided. Additionally, Dr. Tay highlights the importance of understanding family values and giving children autonomy, while maintaining necessary non-negotiable boundaries for safety and key family values.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:36 Membership Insights and Podcast Differences01:15 Introducing a New Resource02:22 Understanding Low Demand Parenting06:21 The Three Bucket Approach06:55 Non-Negotiables and Key Family Values08:41 The Shoulds: Dropping Unnecessary Demands11:01 The Ideal or Yet Bucket11:57 Practical Examples and Applications15:48 Conclusion and Membership Invitation18:00 Episode Wrap-Up and Future Content RESOURCES⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

09-18
19:06

190 | jealousy in autism parenting: why it’s normal (and what to do with it)

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist and parental coach specializing in neurodiversity affirming care, explores the concept of jealousy and why it is a valid and normal emotion. Dr. Tay discusses the importance of experiencing and processing jealousy, rather than suppressing it, and how this can impact personal growth and well-being. The episode also addresses the complexity of co-existing emotions like hope and jealousy, and provides insights on how to navigate these feelings as a parent of an autistic child. Dr. Tay shares personal stories, professional insights, and practical advice on emotion regulation to help parents better support themselves and their families.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:05 Understanding Jealousy as a Valid Emotion01:15 The Impact of Suppressing Emotions04:06 Coping Mechanisms and Emotional Processing12:06 Real-Life Applications and Parental Support18:27 Affirmation and Momentum18:42 Understanding Jealousy19:06 Balancing Emotions19:31 Validating Emotions20:53 Navigating Jealousy and Hope21:39 Seeking Support24:00 Embracing Jealousy26:38 Reflecting on Jealousy33:15 Final Thoughts and Resources  RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here and listen to my glimmers training that helps you to better understand progress  ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered. visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

09-10
35:04

189 | building a neuro-inclusive family through couples therapy with Dr. Ali

 ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay delves into the underexplored topic of couples therapy within the autism community, emphasizing its proactive rather than reactive use. Joined by Dr. Ali Perkinson, a neurodiverse couples therapist and licensed psychologist, the discussion covers how couples therapy can support harmonious family dynamics, understanding neurodiverse communication styles, and breaking down stigmas around couples therapy. Dr. Ali shares insights from her practice, highlighting the importance of co-regulation between parents and addressing executive functioning differences. The episode also offers practical tools such as the emotion wheel and the significance of sensory management, aiming to equip parents with strategies that can foster a more neuro-inclusive household.00:00 Introduction to Couples Therapy in Autism Parenting00:50 Meet Dr. Ali: Neurodiverse Couples Therapist02:22 Understanding Neurodiverse Relationships03:13 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Couples07:15 Common Reasons Couples Seek Therapy08:25 Proactive vs. Crisis Couples Therapy10:56 Navigating New Autism Diagnoses as a Family20:28 Tools and Tips for Neurodiverse Families22:44 The Importance of Venting in Relationships22:56 The Fixer Mentality: Strengths and Pitfalls23:45 Alternative Date Night Ideas for Neurodiverse Couples24:21 Co-Regulation and Physical Activities24:54 Therapeutic Modalities for Couples26:20 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy30:32 Addressing Executive Dysfunction in Relationships34:18 Understanding Neurodiverse Love Languages38:01 The Value of Couples Therapy40:14 Final Thoughts and Resources  RESOURCES⚡️ connect with Dr. Ali on Instagram @connectingwithali and learn more about her practice Connection Squared ⚡️ resource to find a neurodiverse couples therapist or coach  ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

09-03
42:21

188 | the chaos of the new school year

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the chaos surrounding the start of a new school year, especially for families of autistic kids. Sharing insights and practical advice from her extensive experience, she addresses anticipatory anxiety, the challenges of advocating within educational systems, and the importance of psychological safety for children. The episode also provides resources on using tools like AI for understanding your rights and articulating your thoughts and emphasizes the power of collaboration with educators and advocates. Tune in for strategies to ensure your child's smooth transition into the school year.00:00 Introduction to the Chaos of Starting School02:02 Navigating the Chaos of School Starting02:49 Anticipatory Anxiety and Its Impact04:56 Advocating for Your Child in the School System16:50 The Importance of Psychological Safety at School21:57 Final Thoughts and Resources25:51 Conclusion and Ways to Connect  RESOURCES⚡️check out episodes 53, 57, 115, and 142 to learn more about educational rights and advocacy  ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

08-28
26:34

187 | a membership sneak peek: neuroaffirming ways to share a diagnosis Q+A

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇this week, i’m giving you a behind-the-scenes listen into a question from inside EVOLVE the membership — my neurodiversity-affirming space for parents of autistic children. in our private weekly q&a, a parent asked how to explain their child’s autism diagnosis to other adults in a way that’s both clear and affirming. in this episode, you’ll hear my full response, with approaches you can start using right away — from choosing identity-first language to framing your child’s strengths and support needs when talking with educators, family, and friends. you’ll also get a feel for what it’s like inside EVOLVE the membership, where members can bring their real-life questions instead of turning to Google, ChatGPT, or social media, and get thoughtful, personalized guidance. 00:00 introduction 00:25 welcome to this parenting space01:34 why EVOLVE the membership?03:59 behind the scenes of EVOLVE the membership06:37 this week’s Q&A11:01 neuroaffirming language explained22:29 conclusion and membership invitation  RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

08-20
25:45

186 | do you really need the ADOS-2 to diagnose autism?

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay addresses a commonly asked question: Is the Autism Diagnostic Observation Schedule, Second Edition (ADOS-2) necessary for an autism diagnosis? Dr. Tay explains what the ADOS-2 is, its role in autism evaluations, and clarifies that while it is a widely respected tool, it is not required for diagnosing autism. The episode emphasizes the importance of using multiple assessment tools and clinical judgment in making an autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay also offers guidance for parents on how to advocate for their children, including questions to ask clinicians. Finally, Dr. Tay highlights the importance of neurodiversity affirming practices and discusses the role of other evaluation tools and telehealth assessments.00:00 Introduction and Common Questions00:31 Understanding the ADOS-201:02 Training Levels and Misconceptions02:09 Clinical vs. Research Use04:07 Sensitivity, Specificity, and Misuse06:50 Neurodiversity Movement and High Masking10:26 Alternative Tools and Insurance Challenges12:26 Challenges with Insurance-Mandated Assessments12:45 Telehealth Evaluations: Validity and Tools13:20 Alternative Assessment Tools for Autism15:58 Key Questions to Ask Your Clinician19:28 Understanding Autism Traits: Quantity vs. Quality20:59 Free Resource Guide and Final Thoughts RESOURCES ⚡️Download the Autism Traits Guide ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

08-13
24:09

185 | it’s ok to three-putt: golf metaphors for autism parenting

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this solo episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of perfectionism in autism parenting, sharing insights from her own journey and the experiences of parents she works with. Dr. Tay discusses the challenges of striving for perfection, the importance of being present, and the benefits of responding to feedback. She offers tips for navigating the autism parenting journey, including the value of collaboration, reflection, and admitting mistakes. Using the metaphor of golf, Dr. Tay illustrates the importance of analyzing and adapting to each situation as it arises. She encourages parents to embrace continuous growth and be adaptable, reassuring them that it's okay to not have everything figured out.00:00 Introduction and Episode Inspiration00:12 Perfectionism in Autism Parenting01:14 Building a Supportive Community04:20 Golf as a Metaphor for Parenting06:12 Reflecting and Adapting in Parenting07:56 Admitting Mistakes and Validating Your Child08:49 Group Therapy and Support Options09:28 Understanding the Transition to School09:43 Dealing with Uncertainty and Burnout10:14 The Power of Flexibility and Collaboration11:39 Challenging Perfectionism in Parenting13:02 Navigating the Transition Together13:22 Golf Analogy: Embracing the Process14:56 Partnering with Your Child and Yourself17:00 Final Thoughts and Encouragement RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

08-06
19:34

184 | respecting autonomy and honoring differences in autism parenting with @sprinkledspectrum

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Leila from @sprinkledspectrum to discuss the joys and challenges of parenting autistic children. Leila shares her journey of discovering her children's neurodivergence, the importance of building community, and the value of learning from autistic adults. Together, they emphasize the significance of parent coaching, creating a supportive environment, and respecting children's dignity and autonomy. This episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for navigating the autism journey as a family.00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast00:30 Meet Leila from @sprinkledspectrum00:50 Dr. Tay's Background and Approach02:07 Leila's Journey and Social Media Presence04:09 Challenges and Rewards of Sharing Online05:49 Navigating Different Perspectives in the Autism Community07:46 Balancing Personal and Family Needs13:45 Therapy Modalities and Parental Involvement15:54 Integrating Therapy into Daily Life20:24 Changing Family Systems: Responding to Meltdowns21:36 Navigating a Child's Diagnosis22:58 The Importance of Tailored Support23:37 Recognizing Unique Needs in Autism24:22 The Journey to Diagnosis and Acceptance29:37 Building Community and Finding Support32:50 Advocating for Dignity and Respect33:19 Final Thoughts and Encouragement38:42 Connecting with the Community  RESOURCES⚡️ follow Leila @sprinkledspectrum on Instagram and TikTok ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

07-30
40:25

183 | holistic approaches to co-occurring health conditions in autistic individuals with Dr. Melissa Houser

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Melissa Houser, founder and executive director of All Brains Belong, to discuss co-occurring medical conditions in autistic individuals. The conversation covers Dr. Houser's personal and professional journey, the interconnected nature of conditions like hypermobility, POTS, mast cell activation syndrome, and the importance of holistic and inclusive healthcare. Together, they emphasize the value of community and explore the diverse resources offered by All Brains Belong to support both children and adults. Dr. Houser provides practical advice for parents and professionals seeking to improve care for neurodivergent individuals and shares impactful stories from their work.00:00 Introduction to Co-Occurring Medical Conditions with Autism00:50 Meet Dr. Melissa Houser: An Autistic Physician's Journey01:21 Dr. Tay's Personal and Professional Background02:29 Dr. Mel's Medical Background and Autism Diagnosis04:04 The Founding of All Brains Belong05:19 Challenges in Healthcare for Neurodivergent Individuals05:40 The Importance of Self-Identification and Formal Evaluation07:20 Conflicting Access Needs in Neurodivergent Families07:59 Mission and Impact of All Brains Belong20:41 Common Co-Occurring Conditions in Autistic Individuals24:35 Understanding the Cluster of Conditions25:10 Challenges in Medical Collaboration25:59 Resources for Patients and Families27:46 Impact of Long COVID on Neurodivergent Individuals28:30 Cardiovascular Risks in Autistic Individuals30:34 Advocacy and Self-Acceptance37:32 Community Programs and Support42:55 Final Thoughts and Resources RESOURCES⚡️ resources from Dr. Melissa Houser>>Everything is Connected to Everything: Improving the Healthcare of Autistic & ADHD Patients - resources for patients & cliniciansKid & Teen Connections - free customized friend-matching program for ages 4-17 based on shared interestsBrain Club® - weekly virtual community education program for adults ⚡️ keep connecting with Dr. Houser on her website and Instagram @allbrainsbelongvt  ⚡️ Zerbo et al. (2015) mentioned on the episode ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

07-23
44:31

182 | structure seeker, autonomy craver, or shape shifter? a sneak peek into EVOLVE the membership

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay introduces the vision to provide deeper insights and support for families navigating the autism journey. Highlighting the benefits of her new membership offering, she explains how it differs from her free podcast and clinical services. Through personal reflections and practical examples, listeners learn about the types of content and community support available. Dr. Tay shares a sneak peek from one training about creating a schedule based on your child's need for structure, autonomy, or a mix of both, and offers strategies for creating a supportive environment. She finishes the episode sharing about the advantages of enhanced access to her expertise and the power of community within the membership.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Vision00:35 Balancing Clinical Services and Membership03:38 Membership Benefits and Differences06:48 Founding Member Launch and Community Building09:25 Masterclass and Custom GPT13:19 Summer Structure Strategies17:31 Parent and Child Needs Alignment22:44 Conclusion and Membership Invitation RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

07-17
24:32

181 | seeking support and decreasing stigma around your own medication use

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay discusses the importance of parents of autistic children seeking support for themselves. She highlights the role of therapy and medication, addressing the stigma and misconceptions surrounding them. Dr. Tay also shares her journey in creating resources for parents. She encourages self-care, therapy, and medication as essential tools for enhancing parental wellbeing and, consequently, better supporting their children. Note: as with all episodes, this episode is for educational purposes only; please speak to a qualified medical professional.00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Episode00:34 Personal Background and Experience01:03 Disclaimer and Therapy Normalization01:32 Focus on Medication Support03:06 The Whole Family Approach04:48 Starting a Business and Marketing Strategy06:50 The Importance of Seeking Support16:28 Medication Stigma and Benefits24:44 Exploring Medication Options27:58 Final Thoughts and Encouragement33:53 Conclusion and Additional Resources  RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

07-09
35:01

180 | complex emotions in autism parenting: the path from grief to acceptance

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of grief that parents may experience upon learning about their child's autism diagnosis. Dr. Tay discusses the various stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—and how these emotions impact the parenting journey. She emphasizes that grieving in this context is not about mourning the child but rather a shift in expectations and the challenges of raising an autistic child in a predominantly neurotypical world. The episode includes real-life examples from Dr. Tay’s community, highlighting the diverse experiences of parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay shared about her educational membership and clinical services aimed at providing continuous support for parents processing grief and a sense of community for parents navigating similar journeys.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview01:58 Understanding Grief in the Context of Autism04:49 Personal Experiences and Examples of Grief08:43 Navigating Grief and Acceptance13:51 Community Insights on Grief25:56 Navigating Different Parenting Perspectives26:19 Seeking Support and Resources28:05 Understanding the Stages of Grief28:48 Denial in the Grief Process30:12 Anger and Its Manifestations32:07 Bargaining and Desperate Measures33:47 Depression and Its Impact35:49 Acceptance and Psychological Flexibility40:59 Complicated Grief and Its Variations47:59 The Importance of Community and Support52:07 Final Thoughts and Resources    RESOURCES ⚡️ join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

07-02
52:50

179 | navigating autism misdiagnosis with Dr. Marie Hooper

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay is joined by Dr. Marie Hooper, a clinical psychologist (supervised practice) from Toronto, Canada. They dive into the nuances of autism diagnosis, discussing why autism is often misdiagnosed and the importance of differential diagnosis. Dr. Marie shares her personal journey of being diagnosed as autistic at 43 and talks about her clinic, Flourish Health Services, and her upcoming initiative, Autism Reframe. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory differences, the significance of accurate diagnosis, and the benefits of understanding one's neurotype for identity and acceptance. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:28 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hooper01:45 Personal Stories and Professional Background04:00 Challenges in Autism Diagnosis09:52 Misdiagnosis and Clinical Practice11:45 Reevaluating Diagnoses and Identity22:41 Parental Guidance and Support25:37 Supportive Nudges and Clinical Care25:56 Listening to Autistic Adults26:20 Addressing Fear and Celebrating Diagnoses27:10 Misdiagnosis of OCD and Autism30:44 Understanding Sensory Differences31:46 Challenges with Diagnostic Tools36:54 Misdiagnosis of ODD and PDA38:42 Borderline Personality Disorder and Autism40:28 Final Thoughts and Resources43:02 Conclusion and Call to Action   RESOURCES ⚡️learn more about Dr. Hooper's services in Canada flourishhealthservices.ca and her upcoming clinician trainings through autismreframe.com.  ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

06-25
43:51

178 | peeling back the layers: identity and self-discovery

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this candid and vulnerable episode, Dr. Tay dives deep into the theme of identity, sharing personal insights and challenges from her own journey. She discusses the importance of showing up as one's true, authentic self, especially for parents navigating life with autism. Dr. Tay touches on the struggles of balancing various roles in life and the discomfort that comes with self-disclosure and authenticity. Drawing inspiration from the 'Call Her Alex' documentary and addressing the need for self-integration, Dr. Tay encourages listeners to explore their true identity, model vulnerability, and seek support when needed. The episode is an invitation to embrace the journey of self-discovery and authenticity.00:00 Introduction and Today's Theme00:24 Navigating Identity and Authenticity01:54 The Power of Self-Disclosure03:32 Personal Reflections and Inspirations04:55 Embracing Vulnerability and Realness06:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery09:49 Integrating Parts and Internal Family Systems12:34 Balancing Personal and Professional Life20:27 Invitation to Join the Membership27:42 Concluding Thoughts and Future Episodes  RESOURCES ⚡️ it is FINALLY officially open - join EVOLVE the membership here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

06-18
30:21

177 | navigating medication conversations with your autistic child: insights from Dr. Stacy Greeter

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay welcomes psychiatrist Dr. Stacy Greeter to discuss the complexities of explaining medication to autistic children. They emphasize the importance of maintaining a neurodiversity-affirming approach, focusing on informed consent, and fostering a healthy relationship with medication. Dr. Greeter shares personal experiences and tips on building trust, understanding unique responses to medications, and the critical role of autonomy in treatment. They also discuss the broader challenges within the medical profession and the importance of continual learning and flexibility for practitioners.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:54 Guest Introduction: Dr. Stacy Greeter01:26 Host Background and Podcast Purpose02:40 Challenges in Psychiatry and Neurodiversity05:19 Dr. Greeter's Personal Journey12:27 Medication and Autism: Key Insights18:12 Guiding Parents on Medication Conversations23:34 The Role of Medicine in Treatment24:08 Balancing Medicine and Personal Responsibility25:11 Addressing Anxiety with Medication25:58 Using Metaphors to Explain Medication26:46 The Importance of Patient Ownership27:18 The Impact of Beliefs on Medication Efficacy28:18 Parental Concerns and Positive Expectations29:29 Navigating Medication with Autonomy31:35 Building a Therapeutic Alliance34:26 Understanding Reluctance to Take Medication39:49 Final Thoughts and Encouragement41:31 Resources and Closing Remarks   *note: PDA is discussed in this episode. it is a theorized profile often seen in a subset of autistic individuals and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110 RESOURCES⚡️inquire about Dr. Greeter’s services in FL and CO and sign up for her newsletter at stacygreetermd.com  ⚡️watch Dr. Greeter’s trainings on YouTube @stacygreetermd ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

06-11
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176 | understanding your inner authority: insights from human design with Rosy Crescitelli

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay dives into the concept of inner authority from human design and its significance in enhancing parental advocacy and personal growth. Joined by Rosy Crescitelli, a human design specialist and multisensory reading expert, they explore various types of inner authorities such as sacral, emotional, splenic, ego, self, sounding board, and lunar. They discuss how understanding and leveraging one's unique inner authority can facilitate better decision-making and create a more supportive environment for autistic children. Practical tips and insights are provided to help parents navigate this journey, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and nervous system regulation. Listen in to learn how human design can be a transformative tool for both personal and parental empowerment. 00:00 Introduction and Inner Authority Overview00:46 Guest Introduction: Rosy Crescitelli01:34 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Purpose02:43 Rosy's Journey into Human Design05:14 Understanding Human Design and Inner Authority12:25 Sacral Authority: Trusting Your Gut19:37 Emotional Authority: Riding the Emotional Wave27:19 Splenic Authority: Quiet Intuition31:21 Gratitude and Self-Trust31:50 Understanding Splenic Authority33:01 Ego Authority Explained35:38 Self Authority for Projectors39:30 Sounding Board Authority47:54 Lunar Authority for Reflectors52:53 Recap and Final Thoughts56:04 Advocating for Your Child's Human Design58:41 Connecting with Rosy01:03:10 Closing Remarks please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most. RESOURCES⚡️ find out your human design (be sure to also listen to episode 38 to learn more about HD) ⚡️explore ways to learn more about your or your child's human design with Rosy here ⚡️connect with Rosy on Instagram @wholeheartedrosy  ⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

06-04
01:04:00

175 | how questions propel progress (and an exciting announcement!)

ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of asking questions as a tool for progress, especially for parents navigating the challenges of raising an autistic child. She discusses her own journey to launch a membership for parents seeking support, inspired by a serendipitous experience with a community she belongs to. Dr. Tay shares the story of how asking the right questions can lead to actionable outcomes and encourages parents to embrace their right to ask and advocate for their children. 00:00 Introduction to Asking for Help00:39 Personal Journey and Decision Making02:37 The Importance of Bite-Sized Information04:42 The Power of Asking Questions07:47 Launching the Membership10:44 Encouragement to Ask Questions15:10 Conclusion and Next Steps   RESOURCES ⚡️ JOIN EVOLVE the membership waitlist here ⚡️ LEARN more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay

05-29
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