In this episode, I open up a conversation about something many women silently carry - the shame of choosing to stay after infidelity.We often hear stories about leaving after betrayal, but rarely about the women who decide to stay and rebuild. And yet, so many women wrestle with this, the love that’s still there, the hope for repair, and the guilt or self-judgment that follows.I talk about why this shame runs so deep, how it’s tied to cultural narratives around strength, self-worth, and what it means to be a “liberated” woman and how we can begin to make space for the complexity of staying without collapsing into self-blame or denial.If you’ve ever questioned your choice, felt judged by others, or wondered whether staying means you’re weak, this episode will help you reconnect to your own truth. 🎧 Listen to the rebuilding trust episode🎧✨ Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all work in your relationship or struggle to tell where support ends and self-sacrifice begins, this episode is for you.We will unpack the difference between being caring and caretaking, the impact on our relationship, why we fall into this role of the caregiver & what we can do about it. 🎧Listen to the Nervous System 101 episode HERE🎧✨ Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Ever struggled with things like comparison, judgment, people-pleasing, withholding support, or struggling to fully celebrate another woman’s success?Ever felt like men are easier to be around? Ever went through an experience of betrayal at the hands of another woman? Then this episode is for you!This wound can be so painful & leave us feeling isolated - so let's talk about how to heal it!🎧 Listen to the Mother Wound episode🎧✨ Want personalised support? Apply for private coaching HERE.DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Have you ever found yourself asking, “Am I being unreasonable?” - in dating or in your relationship?You notice something feels off, but you start second-guessing your needs or wondering if you’re expecting too much.In this episode, I explore real situations listeners have sent in - from partners feeling skittish around their phone, forgetting birthdays, having lots of female friends, to navigating communication when one partner travels or how much help to expect at home when both work full time.Together, we unpack the deeper question underneath:👉 Where is the line between having fair expectations and trying to control?👉 When is discomfort a sign to self-regulate — and when is it a signal that something truly isn’t working?🎧 Listen to PART 1 of "Am I being unreasonable?"🎧 Listen to how to repair trust after infidelity🍯 Learn to get your needs met in relationships in NOURISHED🍯DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
In this episode, we unpack exactly what to do (and what not to do) when they pull away. Whether you’re dating or already in a relationship someone pulling away from us can make our mind start spinning!I’ll walk you through:- The common reactions that push people further away — like overreaching, chasing, or pretending you don’t care- What healthy space actually looks like (and how to tell the difference between space and avoidance)- What to say when you do reach out — without losing your authenticity or boundariesThis conversation is about learning to stay anchored in yourself when connection feels uncertain.🎧 "Should I stay or should I go?" - Episode 🌼 Dive deeply into healing your anxious attachment with FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE 🌼DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Do you keep finding yourself in dynamics where you’re holding on to scraps of attention, affection, or effort while longing for so much more? This pattern is painful & has a profound effect on our sense of self-worth!In this episode, we’ll unpack:✨ Why so many of us get stuck in breadcrumb dynamics (and why they can feel addictive)✨ What settling for crumbs looks like in both dating and long-term relationships✨ The deeper roots of why we tolerate the bare minimum✨ Practical steps to stop chasing crumbs and start choosing the whole damn meal🍯 Learn everything you need to know about getting your NEEDS met with NOURISHED🌼 Start healing your anxious attachment once and for all with FROM ANXIOUS TO SECUREDM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Do you find yourself dreading hard conversations with your partner because they either shut down, get defensive, or turn it back on you? You’re definitely not alone!In this episode, I’ll break down why some partners withdraw, stonewall, or get reactive in conflict - and how it’s usually their nervous system going into protection mode, not them intentionally avoiding you. Then I’ll share practical tips for navigating those moments in a way that builds connection instead of widening the gap.You’ll learn:✨ Why your partner may struggle with conflict (and what’s really going on in their nervous system)✨ How to approach tough topics without triggering shutdown or defensiveness✨ The importance of pacing, reassurance, and framing conversations with safety✨ Phrases you can use to defuse tension and keep the dialogue openConflict doesn’t have to mean disconnection. With the right tools, even the hardest conversations can become opportunities for deeper intimacy and mutual growth.🍯 Want to learn everything you need to know about needs? Dive into NOURISHED today!🍯DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Self-worth isn’t something you either have or don’t have - it’s something you cultivate. It’s the felt sense that you are valuable and loveable simply because you exist, not because of what you achieve, how you perform, or how others see you.In this episode, we’ll explore why self-worth is the foundation for healthy relationships, boundaries, and authentic living — and I’ll share 6 practical ways you can begin building it every single day.You’ll learn:✨ How self-worth and self-trust are connected✨ Simple daily practices to show yourself “I matter”✨ Why small, consistent actions are more powerful than waiting for big breakthroughsIf you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, overachieving, or feeling like you’re never “enough,” this episode will give you both clarity and actionable tools to begin changing that story, one choice at a time.💛 Want to dive deeper? Get my two-part masterclass on EMBODIED SELF LOVE - WORTHY🎧 Listen to the Inner Critic Episode HEREDM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Few things sting more in relationships than feeling like we’re not a priority to the person we love. It can bring up loneliness, resentment, and the deep fear of not mattering enough. And more often than not we struggle to identify if this experience originates from an old attachment wound, or from a real pattern of neglect in the relationship.In this episode, we’ll explore:✨ Why not feeling prioritized hurts so much from an attachment + nervous system lens✨ How to tell the difference between our wounding acting up and an actual lack of prioritization✨ The questions to ask yourself before bringing it up with your partner✨ How to communicate your needs in a way that creates connection instead of conflictThis is a powerful conversation for anyone who’s ever thought: “Why don’t I feel important to them?” You’ll walk away with clarity, compassion, and tools to navigate those moments with more self-trust and honesty.🌼 Ready to feel more confident & grounded in relationships & dating? Jump into FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE today!✨ Want personalised input? Apply for private coaching HERE.DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
In this episode, we’re diving into Nervous System 101 -because if you want healthier relationships with yourself and others, it starts here.So many of the patterns we struggle with in love, work, and life are actually symptoms of nervous system dysregulation. When our body is wired for urgency, self-protection, or disconnection, it’s nearly impossible to show up in the grounded, open, connected way we long for.Together we’ll explore:🌿 Why nervous system regulation is the foundation of healthy relating🌿 Why nervous system education is so important🌿 What it means to nourish yourself with safety and joy🌿 How to expand your capacity for discomfort and connection🌿 Shifting the flavor of self-awareness from shame → compassionThis is your starting point for understanding why you react the way you do and how to begin building a nervous system that allows you to feel safe enough to soften, connect, and thrive.☀️ Want to dive deeper into working with your nervous system ESPECIALLY if you have any form of chronic illness - Check out IRENE LYON HERE 🎧 Listen to the episode on working with your INNER CRITIC HERE.✨ Want to finally go from feeling anxious in relationships & dating to feeling SECURE? Jump into FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE TODAY!DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation with your partner thinking, “Why do we keep missing each other?” , then this episode is for you.In today’s episode of Embracing Her, I break down four foundational steps to building healthier, more skilful communication in your relationships. This isn’t about scripts or “saying the right thing” - it’s about reshaping how you relate to yourself and to others at a nervous system level.We’ll cover:✨ How unhealed shame makes vulnerability feel unsafe — and how to shift that.✨ Why labeling and accepting your own emotions daily is a game-changer.✨ The difference between long-term nervous system regulation and in-the-moment self-soothing.✨ How to hold empathy for your partner without abandoning yourself in the process.This episode will give you the tools to move from conflict and disconnection into conversations that actually build safety and closeness.🎧 Dealing with being triggered - LISTEN HERE✨ Want the post personalised support you can get? Apply for private coaching HERE.DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Hyper-independence might look like strength, resilience, and self-sufficiency but beneath it often lives exhaustion, loneliness, and the belief that no one else can truly be trusted to show up.In this episode I dive into the truth about hyper-independence: what it really is (a trauma response, not a personality trait), why so many women identify with it, and the hidden cost of living life as the “lone wolf.”If you’ve ever prided yourself on not needing support, struggled to rest, or found yourself surrounded by people who don’t show up for you, this conversation will be the mirror you didn’t know you needed.Also listen to:🎧 Healing Hyper-Independence🎧 Working with your Inner Critic✨Want to work on your hyper-independence? Apply for private coaching HERE ✨DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
Breakups are never easy but if you struggle with anxious attachment, letting go can feel impossible. The end of a relationship doesn’t just bring sadness - it can trigger panic, obsessive thoughts, deep fear of abandonment, and an overwhelming sense of loss.In this episode, I explore:Why breakups hit so hard for anxiously attached peopleThe nervous system’s role in heartbreak and emotional withdrawalWhat your mind really craves when you're stuck in ruminationThis is your gentle guide for navigating the pain of letting go.Whether you’re in the middle of a breakup, still hung up on someone from your past, or just want to understand your patterns more deeply, this episode will help you feel less alone & more empowered!❤️🩹 Get my BREAKUP TOOLKIT right here ❤️🩹Support to work on your ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT🎧 Healing Anxious Attachment🎧 Hard Truths about Healing Anxious Attachment🌼 Get my self-paced course FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE to learn all the tools you need to become secure✨ Longing for more personalised support? Apply for PRIVATE COACHING HERE✨DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
In this episode, we explore what emotional intimacy really is, why it matters, and how to build more of it with practical tools. 🎧 Listen to the episode on developing emotional availability HERE.📖 Check out James 'Fish' Gill's book "How to Fall in Love with Humanity" HERE.✨ Want the most personalised support in developing your capacity to build emotional intimacy? Apply for 1:1 coaching HERE.DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
In this juicy and nourishing conversation, I’m joined by my dear friend and co-host of our upcoming day retreat, Greer, as we dive deep into the power of pleasure as medicine—especially for the feminine nervous system.We talk about why so many women feel stuck in states of overwhelm or disconnection and how the simple act of sensory pleasure through touch, scent, sound, beauty, and presence can bring us back home to our bodies and our softness.We also share the inspiration behind our upcoming Replenish in Pleasure Day Retreat - a deeply feminine space to unwind your nervous system and recharge through pleasure, ritual, movement, and connection.✨ The Replenish in Pleasure Day Retreat is happening on the 12th of October in Hobart, Tasmania. Spots are limited & EARLY BIRD PRICING ends on the 31st of July! Reserve your spot right HERE.❤️ Find Greer on facebook & explore the work she does in co-creation with her husband to help couples deepen intimacy & reclaim authentic love RIGHT HERE.
In this episode, we’re diving into the essential but sometimes elusive topic of emotional availability. What does it actually mean to be emotionally available and how can you tell if someone else is?We’ll explore what emotional availability looks and feels like, why it can feel so hard to access in ourselves or others, and how to begin cultivating it through self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and relational honesty. Whether you're navigating dating, deepening a current relationship, or working on showing up more fully for yourself, this conversation will offer clarity and grounded tools to support your journey.✨ Want personalised support in developing emotional availability to create thriving relationships? Apply for private coaching HERE ✨🍀 Check out FREE resources & online courses HERE 🍀DM me on INSTAGRAM
In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment - also known as fearful-avoidant attachment. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a push-pull between craving closeness and fearing it, or you swing between anxious spirals and total emotional shutdown, this episode is for you.We’ll explore:✨ What causes disorganized attachment💔 How early trauma shapes a nervous system that sees love as both safe and dangerous🔄 The anxious-avoidant inner conflict and how it plays out in dating and relationships🛠️ What healing looks like and how to begin building trust and stability both with yourself and othersMake sure to also listen to...🎧 From ANXIOUS to SECURE🎧 From AVOIDANT to SECURE✨Want do dive into this work with me? Apply here for PRIVATE COACHING ✨
If you’ve ever found yourself losing interest in someone only after they start treating you well - or feeling unsettled in a calm, steady relationship - this episode is for you.In this conversation, we dive deep into why safe, secure love can feel "boring" when your nervous system is wired for chaos, intensity, or unpredictability. I’ll walk you through the psychological and somatic reasons behind this dynamic, how it’s connected to your attachment patterns, and what you can do to start rewiring your system to feel safe in stability.If you're ready to stop mistaking intensity for intimacy and want to start feeling good in the kind of love that’s actually good for you, THIS IS FOR YOU!🌼Last chance to join us in FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE right HERE🌼DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that’s intense, confusing, and emotionally draining - you’re not alone. In this episode, we break down the 4 predictable phases of the anxious-avoidant trap:✨ The Honeymoon⚡ The Trigger🎢 The Push & Pull😮💨 The ExhaustionYou’ll learn why these dynamics happen, how they keep both partners locked in a cycle of unmet needs, and what it takes to break free. Whether you're currently in this pattern or healing from one, this episode will help you understand your attachment system with more compassion - and take your next step toward security.🌼 Want to never fall for this trap again? Join us in FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE right HERE 🌼DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE
In this episode, we explore real-life signs that you're moving from anxious to secure attachment - even if you're still a work in progress. Healing anxious attachment isn't just about feeling less anxious; it's about changing how you show up in love, how you relate to yourself, and how you experience connection.🌼 Want to work towards secure attachment with me? Join us in my new 6 week course FROM ANXIOUS TO SECURE🌼DM me on INSTAGRAMCheck out other FREE resources HERE