Ethics and Etiquette

In this episode, we answer listener questions about behavior in church. Is it okay to applaud in church after an especially stirring musical performance? If you're sitting at the end of the pew, should you move to the center to make room for people as they arrive? And finally, how do we feel about taking family photographs after a funeral service? After we discuss these dilemmas, we have an important announcement about the future of our podcast, so stick around until the end. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and Our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

Normally we have a thought-provoking discussion about everyday dilemmas. Today we’re having a thought-provoking discussion about an extraordinary adventure. One of our regular presenters, Mike Derrick, just returned from a month-long hike in France with his wife, Kathy Derrick. They’re both with us today to share stories and information about their month-long hike on the "Via Podiensis" in France. (It's one of the Caminos de Santiago.) We've also produced podcasts in the past on their hike on the John Muir trail in the Sierra Nevadas. They are "Trail Magic" and "Leave No Trace" and they are linked here: TRAIL MAGIC https://cast.rocks/hosting/18614/feeds/9P9UJ.html?ep=D7XSCH5G-1T6GVI LEAVE NO TRACE https://cast.rocks/hosting/18614/feeds/9P9UJ.html?ep=2NMYGC86-YLRQKT9 We also mentioned a US business offering organized hikes called Vermont Inn to Inn, https://inntoinn.com/ Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

As employees return to the workplace in a post-Covid world, it's a good time to review basic office etiquette. Can you wear shorts to work? What about keeping your Airpods in your ears during in-person meetings? Or are you the one who leaves food in the office refrigerator until it's a laboratory experiment? Join us for some helpful information and a few laughs over cringe workplace behavior. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are normally posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

"Fetchin' Up" is a term for the everyday social courtesies that one learns at the knee of a mother, father, grandmother, or grandfather. In the south, it's called "Home Training." Today we present a collection of those basic behaviors which help create a more polite society. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are normally posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

We've not posted an episode in seven weeks, but there are good reasons for that. Each of the presenters has significant life events to report--some heartbreaking, some joyful, some painful but necessary. As always, these transitions bring up intriguing ethical dilemmas, cultural observations, or positive notes which we discuss in this episode. Links mentioned in this episode: Episode 11: Disability Etiquette https://cast.rocks/hosting/18614/feeds/9P9UJ.html?ep=83TQC0UM-ROZUXR Vermont Inn to Inn Walking Tours https://www.vermontinntoinnwalking.com/ A recipe for the Congo Bars that Mike mentioned. https://dancearoundthekitchen.com/congo-bars/ Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are normally posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

Three topics from past episodes have significant new information to report. We bring you updates on the following subjects: Student Debt Forgiveness, Sports Teams With Offensive Names, and Elizabeth Holmes of the Infamous Theranos Scandal. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

What if you're out to lunch or dinner at a restaurant and one of the people you're dining with is being rude and insulting to the server? Do you say something to your restaurant companion or just let it slide? We discuss variations on this theme also, for example what if you're out to dinner with a boss or an important client and they're the ones being insulting to the server. Join us for this fascinating discussion on a dilemma we've all had to face at some point. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

Today we pivot slightly to talk about a growing concern in American society--Phishing, Smishing, and Vishing. That is, online scams involving email (phishing), texting (smishing), and voice or telephone (vishing). They're not only unethical, they're downright illegal. Scamming incidents are on the rise and they're getting more sophisticated, leaving thousands of victims in their wake. This episode provides information on three important areas: The first segment describes common scams out there, and our personal experience with them. In the second part (29:36) we give you a list of safety practices to help keep your assets protected. The third segment (44:30) outlines immediate steps to take if you find yourself caught up in a scam. Knowledge is power and forewarned is forearmed. We hope the discussion in this podcast leaves you better equipped to spot scams and to keep yourself and your family protected. Some tips in this podcast came from the Kim Komando email on technology called "The Current." Read the latest issue and subscribe here https://www.komando.com/ Report fraud here: www.reportfraud.ftc.gov Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

Today we're talking about a subject I never really considered until I heard a lengthy discussion about it on the radio before Christmas. That is, the question of picking visitors up at the airport and giving them a lift to the airport to catch a flight. To whom do you give rides and when do you suggest they take a taxi or an Uber? Perhaps you've never even thought about this, but giving it some consideration may make you a more thoughtful guest in the future. I first heard this etiquette topic on the Clay and Buck Show. Check out their website where you can find out where to find their program and how to listen to their podcast. https://www.clayandbuck.com Here's a link to "1440," the daily newsletter I mentioned in the podcast. https://join1440.com/ Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

This episode is about asking guests to remove their shoes when they enter your home. Where do you fall on that question? We discovered a lot of different perspectives on this topic, and we're eager to share them with you. Let us know your opinion on Instagram, @ethicsetiquette. Comedian Sebastian Maniscalco performs a funny segment on "Shoes Off." Here's the youtube.com link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1199DmuUKs Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

Back for 2024--the ever-popular "Spin-A-Dilemma" where Mike and Kelly take turns responding to a variety of tricky or sticky situations which you might encounter in your everyday life. Join us for this fast-paced episode, and then we'll wrap it up with our "On a Positive Note" segment to highlight a few uplifting and noteworthy events. The episode on gift giving mentioned in our conversation is Season 1, Episode 8, "The Art of Gift Giving." Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327.

Marna asked Kelly and Mike to consider three questions for this episode: What are you happy to leave behind from 2023? What is your "On a Positive Note" for 2023? and What are you looking forward to in 2024? Let us know if this conversation prompts you to share your year-end reflections and aspirations. This podcast was originally scheduled for December, but we had to postpone the recording session because of an illness (all recovered now!). The books mentioned in the discussion are: Outlive by Dr. Peter Attia, MD and Younger Next Year by Chris Crowley and Henry S. Lodge, MD and Allan J. Hamilton, MD The poem recited in this episode is "Small Kindnesses" by Danusha Lameris from the book Healing the Divide: Poems of Kindness and Connection. Green Writers Press, 2019. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Text or leave a voicemail at (757)301-1327

The United Spinal Association has published a free downloadable pdf booklet for anyone--with or without a disability-- who wants to learn how to interact more effectively with people who have disabilities. We discuss the teaching points from this publication in today's podcast. The booklet is very helpful, and we all learned a lot. You can find the pdf at this link: https://unitedspinal.org/disability-etiquette/ Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We give you insights and perspectives to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com.

Marna surprises Mike and Kelly with a range of ethical and etiquette situations. Using a spin app on her phone, she lands on a number and reads aloud the corresponding dilemma. They have no prior knowledge of what they're walking into, so be prepared for spontaneous, heartfelt, and sometimes surprising responses. If you'd like to chime in, our email is inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Feedback will be answered in a later podcast. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. Our discussions help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com.

Pickleball is the fastest growing sport in the U.S. for the second year in a row. But there's another quickly growing segment of the population also--those folks who are annoyed by the noise of Pickleball courts in their neighborhoods. We talk about the sound problem first, discuss the opposing arguments, and see if we can come up with some constructive solutions. Send your feedback to inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. Our discussions are designed to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com.

In today’s Etiquette Quick Hit, we’re talking about how you tell someone there’s a piece of spinach stuck in their teeth. Do you mention it or just let it be? How do you bring it up? What if someone's fly is unzipped or a seam in their pants is ripped? Does the decision or technique differ based on who it is, for example, whether it's a family member, a new acquaintance, an elder or a boss? We talk about this and more in today's episode. Send your feedback to inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. Our discussions are designed to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com.

Airports are crowded, planes are delayed, and fellow travelers can have annoying habits. What do you do? Improving the situation starts with each one of us. We put our heads together and came up with ten suggestions to help make airline travel easier and less exhausting for all. Send your responses to inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. Our discussions are designed to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesdays of the month. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com. Music on this episode is "Still" by Les Hayden (used with permission).

Ethics and Etiquette Podcast has been on an unforeseen production pause for the last four months, and here's the reason why. Starting in September, we'll resume our usual two episodes a month, posting on the first and third Wednesdays. See you then!

An article on CNN.com recently explored the contemporary use of "ma'am" in American culture. Addressing a woman as "Yes ma'am" and "No ma'am" in personal interactions, once considered a respectful word by some, has now become polarizing for others. What do you think? Send us your responses at inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. Our discussions are designed to help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesday of the month. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com.

What do you do when you're asked to overlook unethical or illegal behavior at your place of employment, or when you're expected to participate in it? Specifically, we're talking about the two whistleblowers involved in the high profile Theranos case, and what we can learn from their courage and actions. Links Mentioned in This Episode National Whistleblower Center https://www.whistleblowers.org/ https://www.whistleblowers.gov/ False Claims Act https://www.justice.gov/civil/false-claims-act Ethics in Entrepreneurship–A non-profit focused on embedding ethical questioning, culture, and systems in startups and innovation ecosystems. https://ethicsinentrepreneurship.org/ Bad Blood: Secrets and Lies in a Silicon Valley Startup is the book we mentioned by John Carreyrou "The Dropout" is a limited television series about Elizabeth Holmes and Theranos on Hulu Erika Cheung's TEDx Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMQlj9TZQfE In His Own Words. An Interview with Tyler Schultz https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9wf_2KYRPWQ&t=816s ----------------------- Send us your thoughts-- inbox@ethicsandetiquette.com. Ethics and Etiquette is a thought-provoking dialogue about everyday dilemmas. We hope our discussions help you examine your choices and exercise your own ethical muscles. The podcast is presented by author and host Marna Ashburn; wife, mother, and attorney Kelly Halligan Zimmerman; and Mike Derrick, a retired Army Officer, combat vet, and father of four. New episodes are posted on the first and third Wednesday of the month. Visit our Instagram @ethicsetiquette and our website www.ethicsandetiquette.com.