F*ck It Mothering

Did you follow the American formula for a successful life?  Graduate from college ✔️ Get married ✔️ Have kids ✔️ Balance mom life and still kick ass at corporate job ✔️ ...but do you still find yourself riddled with anxiety and ultimately not happy even though you did everything you were supposed to do? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Olivia Ganguzza, coach for high-achieving women, and she shares her personal story of being that perfectionist, high-achieving career woman who had everything but was left anxious and unhappy.  They discuss: ✨ How socialization and traditional gender roles have shaped work culture and why it does not work for the modern family ✨ Realizing perfectionism created anxiety, not happiness ✨ The physical consequences of untreated anxiety and burnout ✨ The importance of identifying your values as a mom so you can confidently make decisions without the anxiety of being judged ✨ How to stay curious with your negative feelings so you can break out of the cycle of harmful negative self talk and learn to have self compassion ✨ How to practice mindfulness as a mom to help reduce mom stress and burnout ✨ How to let go of perfectionism and the social media compare and despair so you can fully embrace yourself and your uniqueness Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach, here. Connect more with Olivia Ganguzza, coach for high achieving women, here. Time Stamps:  0:00 Intro 1:48 Creating space for well being when you are an over achiever and perfectionist 5:15 Balancing work and family life as a working mom  12:46 Why women need to stop trying to be likable by everyone 18:00 Asking for help & letting go of societal expectations in motherhood 30:26 Letting go of perfectionism in the social media age 36:35 Embracing our whole selves; you need all of your emotions 45:49 Making peace with your anxiety 55:51 Lightening questions Self improvement, self help, mental health, emotional intelligence, work life balance, mom life, motherhood tales, mindfulness, core values, authenticity, self care, connection, perfectionism, burnout, stress, anxiety

Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz are back to say 'f*ck it' to the sucky parts of motherhood. Because yes, we all chose to become moms, but we did NOT choose: Messy TikTok hacks that don't get cleaned up Messy Pinterest ideas that only keep the kids busy for 10 minutes Kids cutting their own hair Potty training taking for.ev.er. Connect more with Amanda Haro here. Connect more with Samantha Trujillo here. Connect more with Amanda de la Madriz here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:00 The Shein gamble; does it really cause cancer? 5:39 You can't complain about motherhood because you chose this 12:37 Fck food coloring & TikTok hacks 18:43 Fck messy play trends 25:15 Stop the social media death scroll 32:44 When your kid cuts their hair 40:20 How to repair the relationship after you lose your shit at your kid 52:18 Final fck its; potty training and kids eating in bedroom

What do you do when you finally become a mom - the thing you wanted so badly - but it doesn't look or feel like what you were expecting? When you have anxiety that you never had before? When you can't stop thinking about how you're messing this whole mom thing up? On this week's episode host Amanda Haro is joined by Dr. Wendy O'Connor, a positive psychologist & life strategist, who shares her story of becoming a mom of 3 girls within 18 months (one kid and then surprise twins). They discuss: Dr. Wendy's experience with postpartum anxiety Sibling dynamics Helping twins develop their individuality How to make new friends as a mom How to design your life on purpose How to balance motherhood and career life How to discover your values Breaking free of doing what you think you "should" do so you can live an authentic, joy filled life Connect more with Dr. Wendy O'Connor, positive psychologist & life strategist, here. Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:00 Amanda life update; recovering from surgery when you live alone 15:08 Work life separation is not a thing 19:34 I always wanted to be a mom, so why does this feel so hard for me; PPA 25:08 Surprise it's twins; life as a mom of 3 kids under 2 years old 33:58 When your oldest does not like the new baby 41:15 Postpartum after twins 42:13 Balancing motherhood and career life 56:02 Get to the people; making new mom friends 59:53 Lightening questions

#boundaries #sayingno #codependency Do you find yourself always saying 'yes' whenever people ask you for favors? Do you feel guilty when you think about how you don't want to do it because you think it makes you a bad person? Most women struggle with saying 'no', because they struggle with these feelings of guilt. Women are socialized to be people pleasers; we are taught that prioritizing ourselves is selfish, that it makes us bad people. But the truth is that when we prioritize ourselves and learn how to set boundaries without the mind drama, it benefits us and everyone around us. This week host Amanda Haro is joined by boundaries coach Barb Nangle, who shares her journey of overcoming codependency and people pleasing and learning how to build healthy boundaries without the anxiety and drama. They discuss: How prioritizing self-care is not selfish, it's actually the best thing you can do for the health of your relationship How to say no and how to be assertive without being a bitch How to communicate a boundary without attacking the other person How implementing boundaries frees you up to focus on the things you love doing, leading to a much happier you To connect with Barb, boundaries coach, click here. To connect with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here. To join the FREE Mom Summer Camp through 8-09-24, click here. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 17:25 Codependency, what it looks like and how to break free 25:12 Boundaries, you can't neglect yourself into being a better person 28:47 Creating healthy boundaries in a romantic relationship 39:35 Breaking out of victim mentality 47:53 Stop saying yes when you want to say no 53:35 Living apart together; redefining success in relationships 60:54 Practical tips for setting boundaries 1:14:36 Lightening questions

One of the biggest concerns for parents who are divorcing is the effect the divorce will have on their children. In fact, this concern can weigh so heavy, that sometimes it keeps individuals in marriages that are no longer healthy (and sometimes no longer safe), with the thought of, "Staying together is what's best for the kids". On this week's episode, host Amanda Haro is joined by co-parenting coach Julia Hoffman and they share their positive experiences with co-parenting after divorce. They are open and honest about the challenges they faced during the restructuring of their families, but also about the growth and transformation they experienced as individuals. They also talk about: How letting go of anger and resentment is key in creating a peaceful co-parenting relationship with your ex The societal stigma around divorce and the double standards surrounding women who choose to be away from their children part of the time in order to end an unhappy marriage Navigating the journey of self-discovery of being a queer woman while going through a divorce How to embrace the beauty of a blended family Keeping the co-parenting focus on what is best for the children Sign up for the FREE Mom Summer Camp here through August 9, 2024 Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach for moms, here Connect more with Julia Hoffman, co-parenting coach, here Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 10:33 The beauty and pain of co-parenting after divorce 19:22 Mom guilt and other emotional challenges of co-parenting 29:47 I'm so much happier now than when I was married 38:53 Coming out to your kids 51:16 Speaking as adult children of divorce 56:33 Lightening questions

Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo & Amanda de La Madriz are back to say f*ck it to the annoying, sucky bits of motherhood. Like feeling guilty when you need a break from your kids; fake eyelashes for dance; and feeling like you're always behind (because that's actually a story we're telling ourselves and it's not fun, so f*ck that). Moms can join all three coaches in their FREE Mom Summer Camp 2024, running through August 9th by clicking here. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:53 Summer just started and I already need a break from my kids 12:25 Getting alone time as a mom / boundaries with your kids 27:10 Dance mom f*ck its. Fake eyelashes, no bun forms, & bitchy Air BnB hosts 42:10 Deciding to have more fun in your life

Motherhood tends to be an all-consuming thing that wraps up every part of a woman's identity. Ask a mom anything about herself and she's likely to draw a blank. Then as the kids get older and spend more and more time out of the home, she's left with the question: who am I outside of my children? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Gao Mostsemme, who shares her story of being met with this question during a custody battle that lasted for years. She was handed court corruption but she allowed the experience to be a healing one, spanning patriarchal wounds to mother wounds to finally learning true forgiveness. This episode is a powerful spiritual journey sure to inspire every mother who hears it. Connect more with Gao, Soul Liberator & Change Expert here. Connect more with Amanda, burnout and confidence coach here. Join the FREE Mom's Summer Camp 2024 here. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro. Nationals & planning me time 17:10 Wound of not being accepted 19:26 Hitting rock bottom. Job loss, death, losing custody. 27:00 Going through custody battle 37:20 Taking off the strong woman mask 51:04 The answer is not to resent men 1:05:46 When women tear down other women no one wins 1:19:48 Lightening questions

Mama, be honest: when was the last time you took a proper day off? One where you knocked nothing off your to-do list or prepared for the next week or got caught up on anything except that show you've been picking your way through for the last 6 months. This week host Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, shares her tips on what to let go of (and how to let it go) so that moms can learn how to rest on a regular basis without the shame and mom guilt. ⁠Join the FREE Mom Summer Camp here through August 9, 2024.⁠ ⁠Are you ready to come home to yourself? Schedule your FREE 1 hour consult here.⁠

It's summer which means that all women in America are extra obsessed with hating their bodies. Gotta get your hot girl summer on, right??? No. Let's get our FAT girl summer on. Mama--your body is a warrior who holds you, who held your children, and who is the only one that shows up for you every single day, no matter how much you abuse her. Don't you think it's time to ditch the scale and the diets and the shame and learn how to befriend your body? Join host Amanda Haro, burnout and confidence coach for moms, as she shares her journey of going from hating her body to truly loving her body. Join the FREE Mom Summer Camp here through August 9, 2024. Are you ready to come home to yourself? Schedule your FREE 1 hour consult here. Mentioned in this episode: Bare, by Susan Hyatt Bird's Papaya on IG Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 13:47 De-programming social messaging 19:26 Going from I hate my body to I love my body 36:56 Tool to stop the shame when clothes shopping 41:10 You are inherently worthy

Even though the divorce rate in America has been a steady 50% for a hot minute, divorce still has a taboo around it. A stigma behind it. Shame that comes hand in hand with it, because the underlying belief is still: if someone is getting divorced, this means that they failed in their marriage. But what if we stopped looking at divorce as a problem? What if we started seeing divorce as the neutral circumstance that it is? What if we interpreted the 50% divorce rate as for 50% of humans, 1 lifelong partnership just doesn't work for us instead of looking at it like it is something sad that we should fix? Host Amanda Haro is joined by divorce coach Anna Howerton and they dive into their own stories of choosing divorce, why it was the best thing for each of them, how they helped their kids through the transition of going from a 1 house family to a 2 house family, how they dealt with other people's negative opinions on their choices, and dating after divorce. Mentioned in this episode: The Diary of a CEO episode with divorce expert James Sexton Connect more with Anna Howerton here Sign up for Amanda Haro's FREE Mom Summer Camp 2024 here Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 7:52 The stigma of divorce 10:50 Having kids put my marriage in a pressure cooker 18:24 The hardest stage of divorce 31:11 Reconciling your divorce with your religious beliefs 36:03 Helping the kids transition 39:19 Stop seeing divorce as a problem 43:50 Dating after divorce 58:10 Lightening questions

It's the first Friday of the month which means the second installment of F*ck It Friday is here! Give your kids their tablets, grab your favorite drink & join Amanda Haro, Amanda de La Madriz & Samantha Trujillo as they keep it real about the parts of motherhood that suck. Like toddlers. *Audio issue fixed* ⁠Sign up for the FREE Mom Summer Camp running 6-10-24 through 8-09-24 here.⁠ ⁠Connect with Amanda Haro here.⁠ ⁠Connect with Amanda de La Madriz here.⁠ ⁠Connect with Samantha Trujillo.⁠ Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:30 How the RV life with kids is fun 9:22 Toddlers are assholes 12:53 When you're trying to gentle parent but your kid is low key abusing you 16:57 Postpartum, when does it fucking end? 19:32 Pregnancy is the only time we're allowed to take up space 21:36 F*ck taking all the kids to the dentist by yourself 29:35 F*ck white dance costumes, tummy aches & picky eaters 40:03 Stop wasting food! 46:30 F*ck the experts 49:54 Emotional difference between boys and girls 54:17 When motherhood makes you realize you suck at emotions 57:24 No support for women postpartum 1:02:46 It's ok if you hate being a mom sometimes 1:04:33 Lightening questions

It's 5th grade graduation day and an unorganized pack of eager parents all push their kids towards the photo backdrop all at the same time. But you were already there waiting before this new wave arrived. What do you do? Do you speak up for yourself and tell the dad that just joined the C shaped queue that it's actually not his turn? Or do you bite your tongue, swallow your frustration at being looked over yet again, and physically position yourself to telepathically tell the others that you are going next? It's a simple scenario, but we've all been there, right? And like it or not, as women, we have been socialized to be people pleasers. Which means advocating for ourselves in any capacity--be it at the photo line or in our boss' office--is difficult and usually comes with a lot of anxiety, dread, and feelings of unworthiness. This week host Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, explains how to speak up for yourself without feeling anxious. Join the FREE Mom Summer Camp 2024 here. Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter so you never miss your weekly doses of encouragement. Ready to be the main character in your own life? Sign up for your free 1 hour consultation here.

What happens when you got everything you ever wanted but it doesn't feel the way you thought it would? Or when it actually feels horrible? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Amanda Curry, Somatic Inner Child Coach for Moms. Curry shares her journey of building the American dream just to realize she had built her life using blueprints her parents & society had designed. Who knew motherhood could be so triggering?? The answer for her to get her life back on track: surrendering. Surrendering to not having all the answers, to loving the messiest version of herself, and to healing her inner child so that she could finally become complete. The Amandas also talk about what to do if your male partner isn't on board for a decision you want to make for yourself, how conflicting gender messages as a kid still affect you today, and how to have deeper conversations with your male partner. To connect more with Amanda Curry, somatic inner child coach for moms, click here. To connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here. Mentioned in this episode: Rose Oracle deck by Rebecca Campbell Trevor Noah's episode on platonic relationships Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 11:02 I'm the problem, it's me 13:28 Motherhood is triggering & postpartum is hell 17:24 Loving the messiest version of yourself 20:53 Is this a cult? 25:33 Growing up with conflicting gender messages 28:56 When your partner doesn't support you -- you get to go first 34:41 How to have deeper conversations with your male partner 46:20 Applying inner child work to your children now 52:13 Lightening Q's

Did you ever struggle with the thought, 'I'm too damaged to be a mom'? Do you still live in fear that the hurt you went through before you became a mom is going to find it's way to your kids? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Emily Cleghorn, who is a trauma recovery coach for moms. Emily shares her personal story of healing herself as an adult after childhood trauma. She's raw and honest about how becoming a mom triggered her in ways she never expected and the deep work she had to do to finally free herself from the bonds of her hurt. ⁠To connect more with Emily click here.⁠ ⁠To connect more with Amanda click here.⁠ ⁠Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here.⁠ ⁠Ready to be the leading lady in your own life? Schedule your free 1 hour consult with Amanda here⁠. Mentioned in this episode: ⁠Taylor Eaton / Wealth Vibe membership.⁠ 00:00 Intro; Intentional happiness, wealth consciousness, how to be abundant now; introducing guest, Emily Cleghorn 11:34 Unpacking childhood trauma 19:51 Nervous system regulation & reconnecting with your body 22:58 Motherhood can be triggering 28:45 My inner child gets jealous of my kids sometimes 35:33 How stored trauma is connected to infertility 40:28 Traumatic birth stories 45:36 Sitting in the hard while you heal 50:49 PTSD and motherhood 53:23 No complaining rule 54:43 Lightening questions

Mother's Day can be a mixed bag of emotions & expectations, right? The media paints it as this carefree day where moms are pampered and appreciated, but the reality is...we still have to be moms. The baby still has blow out diapers, the older kids still fight, and your partner still can't read your mind. But Mother's Day isn't the only time moms get disappointed by the reality of something they had fantasied was going to be so much fun: We dream up the BEST family vacation, but the reality is our family stress follows us to our destination We long for a family movie night until we're 30 minutes into everyone fighting over what we're watching and the teenager gives up and watches Netflix on her phone in her room We look forward to the weekend to reconnect with our busy teens just to sit at home alone because they went to their friend's house In this episode, host Amanda Haro explains: How to let go of expectations so moms can enjoy authentic family moments How to allow your kids to be themselves & how to give them space to explore their friendships/chosen family & why this is crucial for their growth and development How to embrace change & let go of resistance in order to cultivate acceptance and happiness Mentioned in this episode: FIM 17: I don't want f*cking jewelry for Mother's Day FIM 44: This is not a problem "A Happy Pocket Full of Money" audio book Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter so you never miss your weekly F*ck It joy. Ready to be the main character in your own life? Sign up for your free 1 hour consultation here. You have nothing to lose and YOURSELF to gain. 0:00 Intro 1:00 Mother's Day & TTPD 13:36 Doing vs trying & increasing your wealth consciousness 18:46 Expectations vs reality of family time 20:52 My teen is always at their friends house 26:52 "But mom that sounds boring" / being ok with yourself 30:03 Letting kids be themselves 33:08 How to be ok with change