Narcissist's weird texting habitshttps://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-Narcissistic Manipulative texting habits of narcissists - From abrupt changes in tone to love-bombing through text messages, we analyse the key patterns that make communication with a narcissist so confusing and unsettling. Learn how their erratic messaging is part of a broader manipulation strategy, and gain valuable insights into protecting your emotional well-being. Tune in for expert advice on recog...
6 reasons why Narcissists can't Love their Childrenhttps://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-Narcissistic In this episode, we're breaking down six big reasons why narcissists can’t truly love their children. From lacking empathy to always needing control, narcissistic parents just don’t give the unconditional love and support children need. We’ll talk about how narcissists use their kids to boost their own ego, treating them like extensions of themselves rather than individual...
The narcissist's obsession with Food.https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-NarcissisticIn this episode, we dive into the complex relationship between narcissists and food. We explore how control, indulgence, power and manipulation often intertwine with their eating habits and yours. Tune in to learn how food becomes a weapon for dominance and what it reveals about their desire for control and their own self-gratifying, ritualistic behaviours centred around food. Lear...
Framed by the Family Court.https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-NarcissisticIn their book "Framed - Women in the Family Court Underworld ", Dr. Christine and Amy Polacko expose the disturbing realities within the family court system. In this episode, they discuss their new book FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld which highlights the struggles of mothers facing coercive control and narcissistic abuse. Learn how abusers manipulate the system and why family c...
5 Things a narcissist will never give you in a relationshiphttps://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-NarcissisticWe discuss 5 crucial things you will never experience in a relationship with a narcissist in this episode. These are things that you would normally take for granted in a healthy relationship. From emotional support to genuine love, narcissists keep their partners trapped in a cycle of manipulation and control. Learn how these missing elements can leave you fee...
https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-NarcissisticNarcissists block and unblock you as a manipulative way to feed off your emotions. In this episode, "Why does the narcissist block then unblock you?", we dive deep into why narcissists use this strategy, examining the cruel psychological games they play to keep you hooked in cycles of confusion, hope, and desperation. You'll learn how the narcissist uses blocking as a form of punishment while unblocking you re-establishes t...
Understanding Betrayal Trauma in Narcissistic Abuse.https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-Narcissistic In this insightful episode, we dive deep into the concept of betrayal trauma within the context of narcissistic abuse. We unpack the emotional toll this hidden form of trauma takes on survivors. Betrayal trauma can be excruciating for those involved in abusive relationships with narcissists, leaving them struggling to rebuild trust. In this episode we look at the nar...
https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-NarcissisticThe Narcissist turns your Family against you. In this eye-opening episode, we explore the heartbreaking reality of when a narcissist turns your family against you. Dealing with a narcissist who turns your family against you can feel isolating and devastating. In this episode, we explore how narcissists use manipulation, smear campaigns, and gaslighting to create a wedge between you and your loved ones, common tactics u...
Narcissism and Coercive Controlhttps://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-Narcissistic In this episode, I speak with Dr. Christine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW. Dr Christine is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher & Survivor. She is a college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and a social justice advocate for a local domestic violence agency, since the age of 19. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of a...
When a narcissist says 'I love you?'.https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-Narcissistic In this episode, we unpack the hidden meaning behind the phrase "I love you" when spoken by a narcissist. While these words may seem genuine, narcissists often use them as a tool for control and manipulation. We'll explore how their version of love differs from healthy relationships, and why these declarations often come with strings attached. Learn to identify the red flags and protect...
https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-Narcissistic10 Gaslighting Phrases Narcissists Manipulate you with. In this episode, we explore 10 Gaslighting Phrases the narcissist manipulates you with, shedding light on the subtle and damaging tactics used to distort your reality. These manipulative phrases are designed to control, confuse, and erode your self-esteem. In this episode we explore...* text book gaslighting phrases used by all narcissists.* Why Gaslighting makes you f...
Going no contact with the narcissist. In this episode, I explore the life-changing decision of going no contact with a narcissist and why it's a crucial step for healing. When survivors maintain any form of contact with a narcissist, whether direct or indirect, it can have devastating effects on their emotional and psychological well-being. Learn how to overcome the challenges of cutting ties with a narcissist, set healthy boundaries, and protect your emotional well-being. I share practical s...
In this episode I am joined by the inspirational Vanessa Reiser!Vanessa M. Reiser is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), licensed in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida. She is a psychotherapist and the founder of Tell a Therapist, LLC as well as the founder of the nonprofit, Tell a Therapist, INC. She is also the Author of - "Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People" Vanessa specializes in n...
5 ways the covert narcissist blame shifts In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into the narcissist's favourite tactic—blame shifting. Discover why narcissists expertly deflect blame, manipulating situations to avoid accountability while making you question your own reality. We'll explore how narcissists twist the truth to keep control, leaving victims trapped in self-doubt and confusion. Learn the key signs of blame shifting, understand why it's such a powerful t...
Why do narcissists ruin special occasions?One of the most common tactics that narcissists use to maintain control is to sabotage any event that brings you joy. Whether it’s Christmas, your birthday, or a long-anticipated holiday, you can almost guarantee that a narcissist will find a way to ruin it. This pattern of behaviour is not accidental—it’s part of a deliberate strategy to manipulate, control, and undermine you. But why do narcissists do this?In this episode we unpack.....*the narcissi...
The narcissistic mother and daughter relationship. To a narcissistic mother, their daughter represents a threat to their grandiose view of themselves. The daughter of a narcissistic mother spends their whole life trying to please a toxic parent, who can't or won't love them unconditionally. They hang in there however, thinking one day, ONE DAY, their mother will change. They feel a sense of duty and obligation to keep trying to love a toxic parent who will never ...
Why do narcissists recycle their exes?Narcissists love to keep as many exes as they can waiting in the wings so they can recycle them. But why do they do this? Why do they want to keep someone around whom they professed to hate so much? If you have been abused by a narcissist in the past then it's really important to understand the how and why narcissists recycle their ex-victims so you can protect yourself, and this episode will help you to do just that.In this episode we unpack...* Wh...
Toxic People at Work - Surviving Narcissists and Psychopaths in the Workplace. A toxic workplace, a narcissistic boss, workplace bullying and covert measures of abuse that make your life hell! What do you when this is your job, you can't leave, and you spend more time with these people than you do with your family?In this fascinating episode I talk with David Gillespie, the Author of 'Toxic at Work - Surviving Your Psychopathic Workmates from the Dominant Boss to ...
How do you spot a narcissist?The emotional scars left by these toxic individuals are profound, and the mere thought of encountering another narcissist can be terrifying. Unfortunately, spotting a narcissist isn't as straightforward as we'd like—it’s not like they wear a sign that says "Stay Away!" The overuse of the word "narcissist" in society often dilutes the experiences of true victims, making it harder to recognize genuine narcissistic abuse. So how do you tell if the person in front of ...
Should you go to counselling with the narcissist?Whether you book the therapy session or the narcissist does, the narcissist always has an agenda when they attend counselling with you. That agenda, NEVER involves fixing themselves or repairing the relationship with the person they love. The narcissist's agenda is always self serving. In this episode we unpack....*Will counselling with a professional make the narcissist accountable?*Will a therapist alway be able to see throu...