Grace & Truth Talks

We’re living in a world where it’s easier to "cancel" a connection than it is to work through a conflict. But often, we get too weary from a year of "shedding" to see the harvest that’s actually right in front of us. Whether you’re ending the year celebrating a string of wins or you’re sitting in a "winter" season where everything feels cold and stagnant, this conversation is the roadmap for what’s next. In this special Christmas Eve episode, Pastors James and Tiffaney break down the Four Seasons of Relationship. They discuss "cancel culture" that has crept into the church and break down why friction isn't always a sign to walk away, it could be a sign that God is prepping you for a major transformation. Don't let a temporary winter rob you of your permanent spring. Your breakthrough might just be maturing. In this episode: [05:49] The Growth Gap: Why we can't assume everyone values growth. [12:18] The 4 Seasons: Understanding Fall (Shedding) vs. Winter (Dying). [15:32] The Power of the Receiver: Why how you "hear" is more important than what they "say." [23:23] Real Transformation: Moving from "Out of Sight, Out of Mind" to Godly Forgiveness. [32:18] The Thanksgiving Trigger: A raw story on how past rejection affects current peace. [34:43] Silence as a Weapon: Knowing when to grab yourself before you lose your future. Don't forget to like, comment, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this! SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations on faith, love, and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms.

In this episode, Pastor James sits down with Terrence, Derek, and Anthony for part two of a timely conversation that sparked debate online about men, relationships, and what “growth” really means. They respond to last week’s women’s panel and the viral “teacher/go higher” moment, clarifying what got misunderstood. This is about alignment, pace, purpose, and the difference between contentment and complacency. Pastor James and the panel unpack what “I’ll push you” should mean in a healthy relationship, why it can land as “you’re not enough,” and how couples can avoid the trap of mothering, micromanaging, or trying to change someone they chose. The episode also goes deeper on spiritual leadership, emotional safety, and what men actually need to feel safe enough to open up. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to tell peace from stagnation What partnership looks like when both people grow Why emotional safety is a track record, not a speech How to pick with clarity instead of chemistry-only Comment below: Should a partner “push” you — or accept you as you are? Don't forget to like, comment and share with someone who needs this! Subscribe for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms.

In this special year-end episode, Pastors James and Tiffaney revisit the most viral, debated and controversial moments from Grace & Truth in 2025, and give their unfiltered reactions. From submission and self-awareness to growth, dating standards, and respecting a man’s voice, they unpack the real heart behind each moment and respond to the praise and the pushback. If you’ve ever watched a clip and thought, “Did they really say that?” - this one’s for you. In this episode: Why “this is just how I am” is killing relationships The truth about submission and what it actually means to come under a man’s mission Dating vs Pursuing: Why a look, a smile, or a DM might not be that deep Why some men feel disrespected—and what women might not realize about his voice How to choose someone you truly respect before you say “I do” Comment and let us know which moment made you pause, reflect, or even push back? Don't forget to like, comment and share with someone who needs this! Subscribe for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms.

In this honest and eye-opening episode, Pastor Tiffaney sits down with a panel of wise, purpose-driven women to explore what women really want in relationships, and what they need in order to feel seen, safe, and secure. From the meaning of submission to the weight of provision, this conversation goes beyond surface-level dating talk and into the real standards and expectations that shape godly relationships. In this episode, we discuss: What women actually mean when they say they want a man to lead How submission is often misunderstood and what it really looks like in healthy relationships Whether “provision” is just about money or something deeper Why spiritual maturity matters more than status or income How to tell the difference between potential and a project The kind of man women pray for, and how men can show up as that Whether you're dating, healing, or praying for your future spouse, this one will challenge you, encourage you, and make you think deeply about the kind of love you’re building, and who you’re building it with. Don't forget to like, comment and share with someone who needs this! Subscibe for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms. 

In this vulnerable and wide-ranging episode, Pastor James opens up about his journey from a selfish lifestyle and federal prison to discovering his true calling. He shares the hard lesson learned from a past "transactional" marriage where he tried to cover up a mistake rather than repent, leading to a quick annulment. "Ask the Pastor" panel featuring Carin, Oge, and Talonna, where they discuss the difference between Purpose (the destination), Vision (the roadmap), and Gift (the transportation). Pastor James explains why he turned down a "good" opportunity to be the chaplain for the Golden State Warriors because "good" is often the enemy of the "God thing". Finally, the group dives into relationship dynamics, discussing why couples must be "Root People, not Fruit People" to identify the deep-seated issues that mutate like a virus if left unchecked.   Key Topics: Redemption: How hitting rock bottom and prison forced a shift from selfishness to purpose. The Marriage Impact: Why your spouse doesn't determine your purpose, but they dictate if you ever arrive at the destination. Dating & Growth: How to test if a partner is truly "signed up for growth" by giving them a small assignment. Self-Awareness: Why you cannot be fully self-aware without allowing someone else to call out your blind spots. Don't forget to like, comment and share with someone who needs this! Subscibe for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms.

What do men really need to feel safe in a relationship? In this episode from Grace & Truth Talks, the conversation gets real about growth, humility, leadership, and the often-overlooked ability to submit when your partner is stronger than you in certain areas. This is a powerful and necessary discussion for anyone pursuing healthy love and purposeful partnership. The guys break down one of the most missing elements in modern relationships: growth, not just physical attraction, humility, or family values, but the intentional decision to evolve together. They explore how powerful it is when two people choose each other not just where they are, but where they’re going.   You’ll hear honest stories about: Submitting ego when your partner is better in certain areas Creating financial plans as a team Why accountability and humility matter The beauty of a woman who leads with elegance, wisdom, and presence The struggle many couples face when it comes to saying “I’m sorry” and taking responsibility The conversation is open, raw, and real, touching on the ego of men, the accountability blind spots of women, and the importance of introspection, spiritual character, and emotional maturity in relationships today. If you’ve ever wondered why great relationships fall apart, or what keeps strong couples growing together, this clip hits home. Don't forget to like, comment and share with someone who needs this! Subscibe for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms.  

Everybody asks women what they want in a man, but this time, the fellas got the mic. In this raw and mature Grace & Truth episode, Pastor James sat down with three single men to have an honest conversation about what marriage-minded men actually look for in a wife, beyond looks, status or social media trends. They talk humility, emotional safety, growth and how ego, pride, and timing shape the way men love and lead. It’s real, relevant and necessary. In this episode: • The balance between strength, softness & submission • How ego and pride affect love & leadership • Emotional safety: why men shut down or open up • Right woman, wrong season — when timing matters • Modesty, femininity & what actually draws a godly man This is one for the group chat! Send it to a friend who’s praying for “the one.” Don't forget to like, comment and share with someone who needs this! SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms.

On this episode of Grace & Truth, we are getting real about the difference between infatuation and mature, sacrificial love. We discuss why so many of us get stuck in relationships that move in circles rather than spiraling upward, and why "potential" is the most dangerous thing to fall in love with. Pastor James and Pastor Tiff share the blueprint for spotting "fruit" in a partner—looking past the material things to see character, discipline, and purpose.   In this episode: The Reality Check: Why 85% of people who get into toxicity never come out of it. The Safety of Real Love: Why feeling emotionally safe is the ultimate indicator that you are with the right person. Financial & Emotional Red Flags: How selfishness shows up in small ways (like eating alone in the car!) and what it says about a person's character. The Law of Investment: Why you cannot reap a harvest where you haven't sown, but you must ensure the ground is fertile first. The final, liberating realization you must have: You must stop trusting God for the relationship and start trusting God with you and your future. Don't forget to like, comment, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this! SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Available now on all podcast platforms.

For the single person or the grieving heart, the holidays can feel like a minefield of memories and expectations. In this segment, we discuss why you don't have to "perform" happiness this season. Courtney Truitt, a Certified Trauma-Informed Grief Coach, joins Pastor Tiff to share actionable advice on setting holiday boundaries—including why you should always drive your own car to events so you can leave when you need to. She also explains the difference between "wallowing" and "sitting in the pain", and how to honor loved ones with new traditions rather than trying to recreate the past. In this episode: Exit Strategies: Practical boundaries for attending holiday events. Understanding Triggers: How to spot when you are becoming irritable due to suppressed grief. Reclaiming Joy: How to stop identifying solely as a "griever" and start finding peace again. New Traditions: Why you should create new rituals (like the "red truck" ornament) instead of forcing old ones. We talked about creating new traditions instead of forcing old ones. What is one small way you are honoring a loved one this holiday season? Let us know in the comments! Available now on all podcast platforms. Don't forget to like, comment and share with someone who needs this! Subscribe for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. 

What if "falling out of love" isn't something that happens to you? What if it's a choice? In this profound and powerful "aha" moment, Pastors James and Tiffaney expose the real reason relationships grow cold. In this video, you will discover: The powerful reframe: "Falling out of love" is actually "falling into selfishness." How silence and internalization become the biggest enemy of your relationship. The #1 sign you've started choosing yourself over your union. Why you're really mad (and it's probably not what you think they did). Comment below: Have you ever been "mad at the scenario in your head"? Share your 'aha' moment with us.  SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Like, comment and share with someone who needs this. Available now on all podcast platforms.

In relationships, it is easy to fall in love with who someone could be, rather than who they actually are right now. But how do you tell the difference between a partner who is building a future and one who is just wasting your time? In this touching and transformative conversation, Pastor Tiffaney opens up about the early days of her relationship with Pastor James. She shares why she felt completely safe with him, even when he was driving a 1993 Nissan Sentra and rebuilding his life after prison. She didn't look at his bank account; she looked at his character and how he treated her. Pastor James drops a powerful truth about the law of "Seed time and harvest time" in love. This video will teach you how to inspect the "fruit" of a person’s life so you don't spend years sowing your heart into laziness, pride, or rebellion. In this video, you will learn: - The "Safety" Signal: Why feeling emotionally safe and heard is more valuable than material wealth. - Potential vs. Purpose: How to identify if someone has truly found their purpose or if they are selling you a dream. - The "Seed" Rule: Why you must stop nurturing deficits in people who refuse to grow. - True Vulnerability: The power of being 100% your authentic self with your partner.   SUBSCRIBE for more conversations on faith, love and relationships.

So many women say they want a Godly man, but when the wait feels long, the boundaries start to blur. In this powerful episode, Pastor Tiffaney sits down with Carin Pinto, founder of Philly Connect®, for a raw, honest conversation on femininity, boundaries, submission, and faith in dating. They discuss what it means to stay soft in a hard world, how to lead as a woman without losing your femininity, and why submission starts with God, not a man. From identity and independence to desperation and discernment, this one’s for every woman learning how to balance strength and softness. In this episode: • When waiting turns into settling, and how to stop it • Why femininity isn’t about appearance, it’s about heart posture • Leadership as a woman without losing softness • Boundaries, standards, and the pressure to compromise • Submission to God vs. submission to men • How to date as a spiritually mature woman • Grace, fear, and knowing when it’s time to walk away   Watch now and share with a woman who needs this conversation. SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations on faith, love and relationships. Like, comment and share with someone who needs this. Available now on all podcast platforms.

When a relationship is on the brink, the confusion can be as painful as the heartbreak. What does "separation" really mean? Is it a "pause for purification," a chance to heal and rebuild? Or is it just a "pathway for permanent division," a slow walk to a painful end? In this incredibly raw and necessary episode, Pastors James and Tiffaney go beyond the surface-level advice to navigate the painful realities of breakups, separation, and divorce. This is a must-watch conversation for anyone caught in the "in-between"—wondering whether to fight for it or finally face that it's time to let go.   In this episode, you will discover: The 2 Definitions of Separation Is It Healthy to Separate in a Marriage? "Did God Put It Together? The Painful Reason You Can't Let Go SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations on faith, life, and relationships.

Have you ever felt trapped by a past mistake, wondering if you can ever find love again? For many, the shame of divorce feels like a life sentence. Scripture can even be used to make you feel "stuck," with verses that call remarriage adultery. But what if we've been reading the book without knowing the Author? In this powerful, healing, and must-see episode, Pastors James and Tiffany tackle this painful topic head-on. They offer a profound perspective that shifts the focus from condemnation to freedom. If you're carrying the weight of a past relationship and fear you're "disqualified" from future happiness, this conversation will set you free. In this video, you will discover: The critical question to ask yourself: "Did God put it together, or did I ask God to bless my mess?" Why God's plan for you is freedom, not bondage to a past decision. The liberating truth that will give you peace: "God hates divorce, but He loves this divorcee." Comment below: Which part of this conversation helped set you free? We'd love to hear your story.

Do you ever feel like you're trying everything in your relationship, but it still feels weak? Or maybe you're in a good season, but you're worried about what happens when a real storm hits? In this powerful and transparent conversation, Pastors James and Tiffany share the "secret" they discovered that has strengthened their 10-year marriage, a marriage everyone said was "crazy" for starting at the same time as their ministry. This is for every person who wants to build a love that truly lasts, not just one that feels good for a season. In this video, you will discover: The "Spirit, Soul, Body" model that changes everything. A beautiful analogy about grass that will change how you view hard seasons. Way 1: The daily, practical choice that is more powerful than a feeling. Way 2: Why you must protect your "friendship" (and the warning sign that your trust is broken). Subscribe for more conversations on faith, life and relationships.

Stuck replaying the betrayal? This Grace & Truth episode is a roadmap from betrayal to restoration, moving from victimhood to growth. We unpack: why the gospel brings dead places to life, forgiveness without replaying the hurt, how to set real boundaries (yes, phones), when separation helps and how to define it, and 1 Corinthians 7:5 on intimacy during separation. Don't forget to like, comment, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this!

You keep praying for “the one”, but are you ready for them? God won’t always drop a name from heaven, He trains your discernment. This Grace & Truth episode breaks down the spiritual disciplines that shape your character, your choices and your future. In this episode: Why God trains you in characteristics & rhythms (not just answers) The four disciplines: obedience, humility, self-control, patience “Type” vs traits: how to stop repeating the same mistakes Hearing God: awareness, position, patience - how to tune in Dating disciplines vs marriage disciplines Identity, fear of man, and learning freedom in Christ   Like, comment, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this! Available now on all podcast platforms.

Are the things you’ve always believed about relationships actually true… or just myths? This week, Pastor James & Tiffaney Edwards are breaking down the misconceptions that can hold you back from experiencing real, healthy connections and what's keeping you tied to a lie. Subscribe to Grace & Truth Talks for weekly episodes that inspire and empower your relationship journey. New episode drops EVERY WEDNESDAY at 6AM! Like this video if you found it helpful and relatable. And, don't forget to share this with friends or family who could use this kind of grace and truth. 

Intimacy is more than sex, it’s spirit, soul, and body. Pastors James and Tiffaney unpack what true intimacy looks like and why it starts with God. They break down the difference between physical attraction and spiritual connection, how trauma and past experiences can distort intimacy, and what it really means to be authentic, transparent, and vulnerable in relationships. From prayer in the bedroom to purity before marriage, this conversation gets real about healing, connection, and keeping God at the center of it all. In this episode: • How trauma, perversion, and soul ties block connection • The steps to rebuild safety, trust, and vulnerability • What “sexual compatibility” looks like in faith • How to pray over your sex life and invite God into it • Breaking soul ties and realigning through repentance Whether you’re single, dating, or married, this episode will challenge how you see intimacy and invite you to experience connection the way God designed it. Watch on YouTube or listen on any podcast platform. Don’t forget to like, comment, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs this conversation!

In Part 2 of this powerful conversation, the story continues. When the roles reverse and both sides have to face the truth, what does healing really look like? From guilt and shame to forgiveness, tools and transparency, this episode walks through what happens when two people choose to rebuild a broken marriage together. In this episode: Why the hardest person to forgive is yourself How pride can destroy healing and what it looks like to lay it down The emergency counseling session that shifted everything Guardrails, triggers and practical ways to protect your marriage The role of worship, community, and accountability in true restoration Whether you’ve been betrayed, made a mistake or are simply fighting for your marriage, this story is proof that restoration is possible. Watch on YouTube or listen on any podcast platform. Don’t forget to like, comment, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs hope.