Honestly ... I'm Lonely

Welcome to Friday Therapy. Deli and Kate chat about their week, people smoking at pubs, and feeling old! This week we chat a little more about our Tuesday ep which was all about anger. Kate talks about feeling guilty about feeling angry (there is always something, isn't there?;) Deli talks about a "compound fusion" where anger and guilt have for some reason become fused. Maybe this stuff is even from our childhoods. Give it a listen and see what you think. If you have any questions or comments, you can send us a speak pipe on Kate's website.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on Honestly I'm Angry we discuss another feeling ... Anger. Don't worry, there will be lonely chats again next week, but every so often we will cover some other feelings! This week it is Anger. Kate talks about her previously long held belief that "all anger is bad". Deli unpacks the roots of anger and tells us that anger can be good, and it is definitely not all bad!They talk about the way we are raised, our values and our ideas on anger and hate. What does anger mean to you? Is anger a behaviour? Do we even know how to deal with our anger? Deli says anger is a spectrum from feeling miffed to rage. They chat about how we were never taught to deal with our anger or how to grow with it! They talk about socialisation around gender, and go deep! Kate goes on lots of tangents and asks lots of questions, Deli patiently answers ;)They talk about how to find out why we do things or think things, especially when it's almost unconscious in us. Where does fear sit in all of this?Is it ok to be angry about things that are not fair? How do we "discharge" anger? How do we have anger control? Deli introduces rupture and repair. It is an interesting discussion, we hope you get something out of it.If you want to stay connected with Kate you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate and Deli chat all things Winter Solstice, Renovation Australia on abc i view, and surviving a cold snap by binge-watching TV under the doona. They do a deep dive into can a relationship survive when you take the common things you share out of a relationship? Like when Kate left the church? Deli has her answers, of course. They talk about "Who gets the friends when a couple breaks up?" "Does everyone take a side when a couple break up?" They discuss what it is like when you break up a long term relationship and people outside the relationship struggle. They go deep, people. And talk about digging deep within ourselves, even when it feels like there is no way of digging.Deli and Kate chat for longer than the 30 minutes Kate said these episodes would be, but hey ... it was a good chat.If you want to stay connected with Kate you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review the pod if you are enjoying it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Kate talks to her brother Aran. Aran who wrote the theme music for this podcast, he is breathtakingly honest about his loneliness, loneliness from moving to a country town, his marriage ending, even how he felt in primary school when he moved to a different country town as a child and didn't fit in. He has dipped in and out of being lonely over his life, as have most of us. He has really thought about the answers to his questions, and we think you are going to really lean in to his story.The different loneliness of leaving a relationship, even when it is the best thing for you, it is still lonely ... Kate and Aran talk about "who gets the friends?" when a long term relationship ends, and how "everyone takes a side if you are honest". And they ask themselves if there is still a "stigma" still that comes with divorce?They talk about the loneliness of being in a long term relationship that is not a connected relationship, and how achingly hard that is. He reflects on the times he felt connected to community and family and times he didn't.They discuss if you can be in a relationship without a common purpose, like footy or religion?The big emotions that come with relationships being severed, and how horrid it makes you feel.He has some good ways to combat loneliness, and how to create a sense of community around yourself.The App Aran talks about is How We Feel.If you want to stay connected with Kate you can hereFollow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review the pod if you are enjoying it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to Friday Therapy, where Deli and Kate unpack "water finding it's on level" which Kate says is beautiful and not so beautiful. They chat about finding connection with friends when you are living under financial stress. How do you cope with not being able to do "fun stuff" with your friends when it costs money? How everything that makes you feel 'othered' also makes you feel lonely. And how loneliness is perhaps one of the great levellers in life, because we all have a lonely story. And can discharge be a good thing? Stay in touch with Kate here:Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate chats with Briohny on today's episode. Briohny is the first in person guest in the pod laundry studio, and she talks about growing up with a sense of loneliness and how it has formed who she is. Bri is a legendary single mum, and she talks about the loneliness that can come from that. She is honest about the financial implications of the cost of living crises that can make you lonely. She also thinks loneliness has made her self-aware, given her empathy and believes she can do anything! The power of being happy to be alone and enjoying your own company. Kate and Briohny have a 2164 day snap chat streak and talk about how that has made them feel less lonely. As usual she answers the lonely podcast questions.Stay in touch with Kate here:Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to Friday therapy, where Deli and Kate chat watching TV shows they have already watched and still love. The concept of "getting your sh#t handed back to you", and what we do when our usual coping mechanisms aren't available. How do we "reconstilate ourselves" after big life changes? They chat about how refreshingly honest people were during lockdowns when we told people how crap we actually felt, and that made us feel less lonely. And they answer a listener question which is "why does a fear of failure have such a grip on me?"If you want to stay connected with Kate you can find her here ...Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Valerie talks about the devastating effect Covid has had on her family, and how it has impacted her loneliness. Valerie is so insightful and honest, funny and wise we hope you love listening to her raw and impactful story.To read Valerie's amazing words, check out her substack https://substack.com/@kvalerieStay in touch with Kate here:Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello lonely hearts, Kate and Deli are back for Friday Therapy, they sit together and chat together about getting the washing off the line, power eating (not comfort eating), and reframing stuff. They talk about long distance friendships and living away from "home" and how that makes you feel. How do you find yourself when you have no reference point as to who you are?The power of voice/video messaging when you are isolated, and you lose incidental contact with what you knew and was familiar. The tricky topic of being lonely in a relationship, and how we don't really talk about it. Deli talks about "phases of things" ... grief and much more, it's pretty interesting, so we hope you enjoy connecting with it.Stay in touch with Kate here:Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today Kate chats with the ray of human sunshine Kym. Whilst they are geographically challenged, they manage to "chat" most days via video message (The Signal App). Kym talks about sitting with loneliness and what it has taught her, about being lonely in a relationship and being lonely in a different culture. Enjoy her answers to the lonely questions, its a lovely chat xxFollow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This Friday Therapy Deli and Kate go deep into our identities why we feel like we shouldn't bother other people, and even who we actually are, not what do you do ... they discuss how lonely they were when Deli left the family farm and Kate left the church, and they even tap into judging people and what the heck is projection .... It's a lot for half an hour, but they get it done!If you want to connect with Kate, here is how ...Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today Kate chats with the lovely Sam Robinson, Sam works with relationships Australia and is the perfect person to work for them. She is passionate about the "neighbours everyday" initiative. Which Kate has been an ambassador for. See the link below. Sam talks honestly about her relationship with loneliness and its impact on her life.Sam has so many tricks and tips up her sleeve to combat loneliness, it's really worth a listen! https://neighbourseveryday.org/Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the very first Friday therapy. Each Friday, Kate and psychologist Deli are in your ears chatting about some issues that Kate found interesting or that "hit home" in the main ep on Tuesday.Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello and welcome to our very first episode of Honestly I'm Lonely ... This week, Kate chats with Garry, and he is the inaugural guest on Honestly I'm Lonely to talk about what loneliness means to him. Once you listen, you will know why Kate couldn't wait to chat with him.We hope you enjoy his wisdom and vulnerability as much Kate did.Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just a little intro ep with Kate as she chats about her new podcast, Honestly ... I'm Lonely.If you would like to subscribe to Kate's newsletter, here is the link, https://katemulholland.substack.com/And she has her Instagram, which she sometimes updates here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.