Honeydew Me

If the sex you're having is overly focused on penetration, you're missing out on a WORLD of pleasure. Treating P in V as the main event is keeping us from exploring the endless buffet of sexual options, which is why we're learning to broaden our menu with Claire Perelman, a Certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we dive into: WHY you need to start decentering P in V sex The BENEFITS of focusing on sexual acts outside of penetration How to tell your partner you want to stop prioritizing penetrative sex What to try instead of penetration Connect with Claire: On her website On Instagram Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to watch this episode and access exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

03-26

48:12

Ever had sex that didn't live up to your expectations? Maybe you didn't feel the way you thought you "should" or things didn't turn out the way you imagined. Moments like these can lead to some serious negative feelings, making you want to avoid sex altogether. Luckily, Sex Therapist Jessa Zimmerman is equipping us with all the tips, tools and knowledge to navigate these tricky times. We cover: What sexual avoidance is, how it can feel, and WHY it happens Redefining all the "shoulds" that come with sex Tools for navigating sexual avoidance Understanding low libido Rethinking the belief that "the low desire partner needs to change" Connect with Jessa HERE! Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

03-19

45:56

Ever wish you could hit refresh on a few of your personality traits? Maybe you want to be less nervous, more outgoing, or become a little more organized. Olga Khazan, author of the new book "Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change" is chatting us through the HOW TO's of all that and more, so grab a pen and buckle up. We cover: The "Big 5" personality traits-- emotional stability, extraversion, openness, agreeableness & conscientiousness How to figure out where you rank on each of the Big 5 traits Are you still being "authentic" if you try to change your personality? Olga's tips (based on years of research and personal experience) for changing your personality Action steps you can take to become more extroverted, less neurotic, more open and/or more conscientious Take the personality test Olga took HERE! Get Olga's Book HERE! Read Olga's other work at The Atlantic HERE! Connect with Olga on her Substack HERE! Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access exclusive content! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

03-12

54:46

Chances are your masturbation practice could use a little *refresh*. That's why we're giving you a step by step guide to crafting your PERFECT solo play ritual. We cover: What our current masturbation practices look like (HINT: not ideal lol) WHY you should be prioritizing masturbation The MANY physical, emotional, mental, AND relationship benefits of masturbating How to set up your space for a peaceful practice Extra steps you can take to make yourself feel special 3 example masturbation practices Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access our Masturbation Menu Downloadable and so much more! References In the Episode: Passion Fruit Fizz Mocktail Recipe Liz Moody's Creamy Strawberry Cinnamon Aphrodisiac Mocktail Silk Sheets Playlist BB Outlet by Bellesa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

03-05

49:04

Whether you're looking to take charge in the bedroom, feel more confident in your everyday life, or learn wtf it means to be a lifestyle dom, then this episode is FOR YOU. We're talking with Mistress Damiana Chi, a legendary Dominatrix with over 25 years of experience and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology who uses BDSM as a healing modality. We cover: A refresher on what BDSM is and what it means to be a Dominatrix What it's like to be a lifestyle dom and a deep dive into the master/slave dynamic within BDSM The 4 Dominatrix Archetypes and how YOU can start embodying each one How BDSM can be used as a healing modality for both the giver and receiver Simple strategies you can use to come across as more confident (in and outside the bedroom) How to be more dominant in the bedroom as a beginner PLUS Damiana walks us through what a session with her looks like! Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to watch this episode, access exclusive content, and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

02-26

01:07:05

BIG transitions are a part of life. Whether you're moving in together, getting married, having a baby or experiencing some other form of change, your relationship is bound to feel a little (or a lot) different. Cue Tarah & EJ Kerwin, two therapists on a mission to provide couples with the tools they need to GET THROUGH these transitions without giving up on one another. In this episode, we cover: The most common transitions couples go through and WHY they're so f*cking hard (even if they're "supposed" to be good) Habits to start incorporating NOW so you can navigate big transitions with ease A weekly check in you can do with your partner to feel seen, heard & supported Simple tools to help keep you on track during a fight Questions you can ask to reignite the intimacy in your relationship And at what point you should consider WALKING AWAY Connect with EJ and Tarah: Listen Relationship Renovation HERE! Check out their website HERE! Follow them on Instagram HERE! Watch their YouTube HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to watch this episode, access exclusive content, and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

02-19

01:05:55

We're diving DEEP into the history of PORN with our friends over at Right Answers Mostly, Claire and Tess. From the dawn of time to the creation of the internet, porn has captivated us horny little humans for basically EVER. So in this episode we're covering: Ancient porn (because, again, humans have been horny from the start) Porn in the 1800's (including erotic novels, naughty nudes & Stag Films)  The Golden Age of Porn Porn & Pop Culture A lesson on ethical porn (what is it, why it's cool & how to know if YOUR porn is ethical) The types of porn people are actually watching (in 2016, 2021 & 2024) PLUS a few benefits of watching porn! Listen to Right Answers Mostly HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

02-12

01:19:17

SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN! Which is why we're introducing you to a BUTTLOAD of games you can start playing in the bedroom and beyond. We cover: WHY you need to start playing sex games and their MANY benefits Games to help you and your partner get to know each other Teasing games to help build the (sexual) tension Orgasm denial games Food games Games to play with sex toys Timed games & actual board games (including a special Honeydew Me game you can get if you subscribe to our Patreon!) JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the game downloadable from this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

02-05

46:34

We're diving into long term relationships with Dr. Frankie Bashan, a sex therapist and founder of Little Gay Book, an LGBTQIA+ matchmaking service!  We cover: Whether or not long term relationships should feel EASY + other common misconceptions about LTRs The tools you NEED to build a strong relationship  The common (and toxic) mistakes we're making in our relationships How to navigate with dreaded "roommate phase" What being "clingy" actually means and what you can do to address it Daily + weekly habits you can start incorporating into your life to benefit your relationship Connect with Dr. Frankie: On YouTube Through Little Gay Book or Little Black Book  Watch Her Ted Talk HERE! JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

01-29

52:31

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a much needed pep talk.  The Question: "I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while now, and the sex... it’s just not great. It’s not that we don’t like each other, but it just feels off. I want to be honest, I just don't know how to approach it, so please HELP!" We cover: Questions to ask yourself  Expert tips for talking about sex with a partner How to give critical feedback KINDLY How to give feedback *in the moment* Why it's actually TOTALLY OKAY (and very normal) to be bad at sex Permission to break up with someone if the sex is bad For more episodes like this, SUBSCRIBE TO OUR PATREON HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

01-22

36:55

We're exploring how to navigate mismatched sexual desire with Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, a Somatic Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach. Did you know it's completely normal for sexual fulfillment and desire to waiver over the course of a relationship? Luckily Susan has a buttload of tools to help get through these tricky times. We cover: WHY these discrepancies happen (even if it used to feel like you were on the same page) What the research says about HOW LONG couples struggle with intimacy issues before getting help + tips for navigating any shame associated with these issues Steps you can take to address desire discrepancy  Questions you can ask yourself or your partner to COMPLETELY CHANGE your sex life The skills you need to build (or rebuild) a FULFILLING sex life  Connect with Susan: On her website On Instagram JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the video for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

01-15

54:39

The journey continues as we give you OVER 50 SEX ACTS to try in 2025. From foreplay, to masturbation, to positions, to kink, we're helping you build your sexual tool kit and feel confident AF anytime you step into the bedroom. In Part 2, we're covering: Spicy and adventurous places to get it on Refresher on how to give amazing oral and hand sex Kinky ideas for adding spice to your routine Aftercare and how it enhances your intimacy Plus BTS stories on unaired episodes JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the resource list for this episode and so much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

01-08

50:09

We're giving you OVER 50 SEX ACTS to try in 2025. From foreplay, to masturbation, to positions, to kink, we're helping you build your sexual tool kit and feel confident AF anytime you step into the bedroom. In Part 1, we're covering: Our favorite foreplay techniques Tips for dirty talk & sexting How to actually feel SEXY Exciting ways to spice up your masturbation practice 10 different sex positions and tips for making them PLEASURABLE AF JOIN OUR PATREON HERE to access exclusive content, the resource list for this episode and so much more! Tune in next week for the other 25+ sex acts worth trying this year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

01-01

41:41

This week we're diving headfirst into the world of erotic romance novels and it will absolutely CHANGE YOUR LIFE. We start off the episode by talking with the co-founders of Tempt, an erotic romance audio-book app designed by women, for women with the goal of ELIMINATING the pleasure gap. We cover: How listening to erotic novels can COMPLETELY change your sex life  The BENEFITS of listening to erotic content How to use erotic novels to reconnect to your desire and feel sexy AF How to use erotic novels to explore your interests & fantasies Next we cover a few ways to start incorporating erotic stories into your solo and partnered play. This includes: Turning yourself on throughout the day Opportunities for roleplay Building up and/or acting out your fantasies Lastly, we want you to start getting all these incredible benefits ASAP... so we're sharing a clip from an erotic novel you can find on Tempt! Stay tuned until the end of the episode for a taste of "Big Bad Wolf" by Jenika Snow.  Start listening to books on Tempt HERE! Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12-18

56:11

Anna Goldfarb, an author and friendship explainer, is here to do just that. She teaches us the KEY to cultivating new friendships and how to lovingly maintain the ones we have. We cover: HOW to make meaningful friendships  The #1 thing you need to be doing in all your friendships  How to build friendships that LAST Supporting friends who are in different life stages How many friends you *actually* need according to science Concrete ways to SHOW UP and be a good friend Connect with Anna: On her website Get Anna's book "Modern Friendship: How To Nurture Our Most Valued Connections" HERE!  On Instagram Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices