240. Q+A: “Why Do I Rush My Pleasure And How Do I Stop?!”
Update: 2025-11-12
Description
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.
The Question: "My question is about breaking a negative habit. My long-term boyfriend is wonderful, patient, and always makes sure I finish, but sometimes I find myself not wanting to have sex at all because I don’t feel like giving myself the time. It’s like, “ugh, it takes too long and who has time for that?” How can I change that mindset, stop rushing my pleasure, and actually enjoy the process?"
What We Cover in This Episode:
Why it’s so hard to give yourself permission to take the time. And how guilt or pressure shows up even with a loving partner.
Where the “too much work” mindset comes from. We trace it back to messages about sex, bodies, and being “easy.”
Why it’s normal to feel impatient with your own pleasure. And how to shift out of that without forcing it.
How to make slowing down feel good instead of awkward. Real ways to make the build-up part of the fun again.
What to do when your brain won’t shut up during sex. Simple ways to come back to your body without overthinking.
How to talk to your partner when you need more time. Language that feels natural, not clinical or awkward.
Where to go from here. Check out our new 1:1 coaching program and see how we can help you confidence, communicate better, and get the pleasure you deserve.
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