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The How Not To Screw Up Your Kids podcast is for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. With twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now.
Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in.
Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults.
What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way.
I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode.
My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now.
Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in.
Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults.
What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way.
I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode.
My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation.
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How can we help our children change their constant self-critical talk? Whether it's "I can't" all the way to "I am not enough" - they become the sum of what they hear and it's time to change!Here are the highlights:(2:35) Why is this important?(6:06) A bit of science…(7:58) Self-audit(13:41) The brain mechanisms at play(15:20) Where do your child’s self-critical thoughts show up most?(19:00) Focus on the direction they want to travel(23:15) Get your child on board - don’t lecture!Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
As parents, we all want to cherish every moment we have with our children. But what happens when the thought of them growing up becomes overwhelming? This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode tackles this listener question head-on. Listen in as I share my top tips on how to cope with this common fear.Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Being vulnerable as a parent feels counterintuitive - aren't we meant to be strong, unwavering in our confidence, and stable?? Yes, and no! I'll share why vulnerability will in fact make you a better parent and how. Here are the highlights:(1:25) What do we mean by vulnerability?(3:20) Be mindful who you’re vulnerable with!(7:20) Vulnerability encourages and creates emotional connection(8:55) Vulnerability creates harmony and peace(8:29) Vulnerability cultivates a growth mindset(12:39) Vulnerability humanises us as parents(14:33) Vulnerability sets us free from having all the answersPurchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I answer a question from a listener who is expecting her first child and is worried she won't be a good mum.Firstly, thank you! I've had some amazing questions from listeners recently and your answers help every parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle and educator that listens in. Your openness helps others.Back to the episode, listen in as I share my 3 top tips for anyone feeling like an imposter, not just expectant mothers.Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Ever wished I could speak directly to your children and offer them my tips and advice?? Well this episode is just for them - alright, and you if you really must listen to it!! I share with them 5 empowering truths. Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
In today's bucket emptying episode, I talk about something that will help you as a parent, and that's about knowing your weaknesses, and your vulnerabilities.Children and teenagers thrive from a very consistent approach to boundaries, but our approach can relax when we are vulnerable.Join me as I explain how knowing your weaknesses and our vulnerabilities is a really crucial part to knowing and understanding where you are being inconsistent with your parenting.Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Course correcting 101. How can we help children from 2 - 18 years operate outside their zone of comfort without compromising their emotional-wellbeing?? This is a super practical episode with lots of how toos. You won't want to miss it!!Here are the highlights:(2:30) Reminder of importance of high expectations, agency and boundaries(4:20) Why have I chosen a toddler, 8 year old and 15 year old ages/stages of development? (8:26) Examples of how to hold your child to high expectations for each age/stage of development(14:55) Examples of how to develop a sense of agency for each age/stage of development(22:22) Examples of how to set boundaries for each age/stage of developmentPurchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Have you heard of the "power of yet"? This tiny word holds an enormous amount of potential, and in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, you'll learn how to harness its power. Discover how adding 'yet' to a statement can unlock a world of possibilities for both you and your children.Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Have we given our children an opt-out clause, allowing them to avoid difficult things, because we're so worried about their emotional being??? I think so. How do we course correct? I'll share in this two-part episode. Here are the highlights:(1:14) Has the pendulum swung too far?(4:00) Children are a building under construction(5:55) Are you preparing them for their future?(11:16) Hold your children to high expectations(14:17) Create a sense of agency for your child(17:45) The importance of boundaries Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
I've got a great Bucket Emptying tip for you today - the one minute rule.This is super helpful to reset your mindset when returning home from work, collecting your children from school and is a great tip to teach your children too!I hope you enjoy the episode. Please share with anyone you think could find it helpful.Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Big change can feel super scary. What we might see as routine our children might feel is their biggest challenge yet! How we prepare them is crucial - remember we're raising resilient adults. Here are the highlights:(01:08) The balanced see-saw(3:44) Acknowledge your child’s lens(6:12) Be prepared(9:31) Talk about it sooner rather than later(12:40) Actively listen to your child(15:21) Build your child’s toolkit and practicePurchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Why do parents need a village to raise resilient adults in the 21st century? Listen to this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode as I discuss the premise behind the "it takes a village" proverb and its relevance in our modern world. I'll explore the 3 key reasons we all need a village to thrive and succeed. Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
When our child is throwing the mother of all tantrums what do we do? My advice has always been not to use ‘the naughty step’ for the simple reason that it takes a child who is experiencing some pretty big, sometimes scary emotions and isolates them. However, a 'time-out' can be used effectively when the timing is right. Let me explain...Here are the highlights:(01:00) Naughty steps and removal of a child can be negative if used inappropriately(5:10) Understand the driver behind the behaviour(6:49) Add in what your child perceives is lacking(12:11) Work on your own big emotions(15:04) Be super clear about difference between behaviour and character(17:41) In the moment advice and how to use time-outsPurchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
This week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode addresses a question from a concerned parent - how to support a child who is self-deprecating after making poor choices. Your child might say things like "I'm a bad person", "I'm a naughty person", or "I'm awful” after snatching a toy from a friend, getting angry when they’re frustrated or squabbling with a sibling.Listen in as I explain how to help your child understand that their behaviour is separate from their identity and doesn’t define them!Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Here’s a thought for you – every interaction you have with your child will leave a trace – in the wiring of their brain. Repeated interactions of the same type will build permanent connections – so we want these to be helpful ones which build resilience rather than reliance.In this episode I’ll share the five core skills we should be teaching our under five year olds to give them the best possible start whilst reminding you it’s never too late to start.Here are the highlights:(01:02) Our children are the house, and we provide the scaffolding(03:41) Positive early development is critical(06:26) Every interaction with your child affects the wiring in their brain(10:13) Managing big emotions with good communication skills(14:10) Activities to aid your child’s emotional literacy(17:23) Help your children to problem solve(20:50) Understanding emotions(25:32) Building natural curiosity(28:03) The freedom to ask questions(30:43) I can’t do that… yetListen to Ep 82: Wiring our children’s brainsPurchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen as it'll help both you and your children! It's all about creating new habits, and I share my top tips to not only establish new habits but to also maintain them in the long-term. Tune in now and discover how you can make positive changes in your life.Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
I get asked about back-chat a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents. We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers being rebellious and pushing every boundary, but it’s about what’s happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour and I’ll share my top strategies to help and support. Here are the highlights: {1:18} Why are you seeing this behaviour?{4:45} Give your child choices where you can{9:11} Switch out of power dynamics{14:10} Remember the 3 C’s {20:00} Daily connection with each child {24:00} Regularly check-in with yourself & your partner Listen to previous episodes mentioned during this episode:Ep 6: Parenting & Co-parentingEp 13: Why punishments don’t workPurchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I'm answering a listener question "Can I insist on no devices when my child is having a sleepover?" With the rise of technology, it's a question that many of you may face, and as the CEO of your family, you can insist on this! Listen in as share my strategies to manage this situation and ensure that your child has a device-free sleepover.Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
1We have 6,000 thoughts a day - 80% are negative and 90% of which are habitual. If you have low confidence you're telling yourself 4,800 times day you're not good enough!! I'll share how you can help your child build a new narrative. Here are the highlights: {1:18} The impact of words{4:15} Our words shape our child’s brain{6:50} They are always listening!{9:21} Think about the gender-based language {12:50} Be mindful not to over praise {16:10} 80% of thoughts are repetitive and negative {18:05} Their incredible brain{21:42} Mantras and affirmationsPurchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
Purchase your ticket for the next 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan 'Stop Battling Back-Chat' at 8pm GMT on the 22nd of May. Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YoutubeJoin the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Community and ask Dr Maryhan your parenting questions in the weekly Q&A, access a library of digital courses, watch live/recorded 60-minutes with Dr Maryhan at your convenience, and in February your children can attend online workshops too. All for just £1.79! (you can cancel at anytime).To access the free resources mentioned in the episodes visit https://drmaryhan.com/library Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.
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