Life, Coached.

This episode, Kimberly wades straight into the deep end of a topic most people would rather avoid: negotiating what you want in sex and relationships without losing yourself in the process. She coaches through a real-world situation ripped from the comments section: what do you do when you hate porn, your partner wants it, and now you feel boxed into a corner where you either send nudes or risk them looking elsewhere?There’s no “right answer” here - just a whole lotta gray area, messy feelings, and questions about whose values, boundaries, and needs get to matter. Kimberly brings research, zero B.S., and her own experience with codependency, religious baggage, and neurodiversity into it, reminding you that you don’t owe anyone compliance, and “compatibility isn’t a moral victory march.”You get permission to unpack the pressures (and shame) you’re carrying, get real about what you want, and ask: “Am I bending myself to keep someone, or is this actually a fit?” No highlight-reel quick fixes, but just some spicy honesty and an invitation to stop making your needs a negotiation.Ready to stop bending yourself into a pretzel trying to “fit” someone else’s mold? Book a free 1:1 consultation with Kimberly at www.kimberlymathis.com, or DM @theKimberlyMathis on Instagram to see how coaching can help you navigate your own messy relationship or sex-life crossroads.

Kimberly’s pulling back the curtain on what it’s actually like dating as a bisexual woman - and bringing her straight, military-vet partner Anthony along for the ride. No sugarcoating, no surface-level Pride Month fluff. They’re getting real about bi stereotypes (“There’s this idea that bi women are automatically cheaters... like, what?!”), the invisibleness that is bi erasure, and what it’s like showing up authentically in the Bible Belt. From codependent people-pleasing to not feeling “queer enough,” Kimberly lays out the awkward conversations, the questions straight dudes never ask, and why it’s so damn important to have space to be yourself. If you’ve ever felt erased, stuck between worlds, or just plain tired of explaining yourself, this one’s for you.Feeling seen in this conversation and ready to coach through your own messy middle? Book a free consult with Kimberly at www.kimberlymathis.com or slide into her DMs on Instagram @thekimberlymathis. You don’t have to do Pride - or life - alone.

Let’s get real about relationships, especially when you’ve got a messy resume of codependency, ADHD quirks, and a deep aversion to letting anyone in. This week, Kimberly invites her partner Anthony onto the pod for his first ever podcast episode - no performances, just an honest dive into what it actually looks like to build an equal partnership when you’ve spent decades over-giving and second-guessing yourself.We talk about the awkwardness of learning to receive support (“It has been hard to settle into in some ways to allow...receiving support, receiving help from you in particular.”), how not to lose yourself when there’s finally someone in your corner, and why being honest is actually terrifying but essential when you’ve been burned in the past. Expect zero five-step-formulas, 100% real moments, and enough side stories about exes and dating apps to keep things relatable.Oh, and there’s plenty of behind-the-scenes: from running a business together (hint: Kimberly’s the hype woman, Anthony’s the camera guy), to navigating ADHD, to what it’s like to be with a literal Green Beret (“It’s hot as fuck. And I love it. And I have to hold myself back from telling everybody all the time...”).Ready to get honest about your own relationships - or finally figure out what it means to actually receive support? Kimberly’s taking on a few 1:1 clients. Get the details and book a consultation at www.kimberlymathis.com, or DM her on Instagram @heykimberlymathis. And if you need a killer photographer (sports, weddings, brands, you name it), Anthony’s your guy: www.tkx-photography.com.No filters, no faking - just honest partnership talk, business building, and the messy, hopeful stuff in between.

THE POD IS BACK!In this heartfelt solo episode, Kimberly Mathis reflects on her nearly year-long break from podcasting, turning 40, and what real change looks like in life and work. She shares candid insights about navigating burnout, perimenopause, and embracing small, meaningful shifts over dramatic epiphanies.Kimberly opens up about her evolving coaching practice, being more selective with clients, and stepping back from content that doesn’t feel authentic. She talks about partnering in her boyfriend’s business, launching a new program combining coaching with AI, and even applying for a part-time job as a bridal stylist - just for the fun of it.Join Kimberly as she invites you into her messy, in-between season and reminds us all that you’re allowed to change your mind, pivot, and experiment - even when you don’t have it all figured out. If you’re craving more ease, joy, and real conversations about growth, this episode is for you.Ready to evolve alongside Kimberly? Tune in and remember, you’re not alone on the journey.For updates and ways to connect, visit www.kimberlymathis.com.

In this episode of "Decisions Change Everything," I sit down with my client, Jessica, for an insightful and deeply personal conversation about her experience working with me as her coach. Join us as we delve into Jessica's journey of uncertainty - from her initial concerns about pregnancy to her evolving mindset and newfound sense of self-worth. Jessica's experience is a fantastic example of the impact of coaching on personal growth and navigating life's uncertainties, making this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking a first-hand account of what it's like to work Listen to this episode to gain practical tips for addressing fears, working through mindset shifts, and adapting to individualized coaching needs. Our conversation emphasizes the value of personal development over monetary gain, offering tangible takeaways for enhancing mental and emotional well-being. Tune in to uncover the simple and doable actions that Jessica implemented on her coaching journey, and discover how these insights can apply to your own life. This episode is a raw and honest exploration of the coaching process, giving you clear examples of how coaching can empower and support you no matter what you're bringing to the coaching table.

🌟 In this episode, I'm sharing 39 things that you might not know about me. Why 39? Because I'm turning 39 this month! It's not a regular episode. It's a raw, real, and unfiltered peek into who I am – from family dynamics to mental health struggles, personal growth, relationships, and everything in between. 🌿✨ I talk about growing up influenced by '90s purity culture, early marriage, motherhood, and the work I've done on self-discovery, including being diagnosed with ADHD at 34. This episode is not about platitudes or sugar-coating life – it's about being real with you. Coaches are regular people too. I hope you'll find a sense of solidarity, reflect on your own journey, and feel more compassionate toward all parts of you. 🌈🌻 This episode is a reminder that every decision – big or small – shapes our narratives. It's a heartfelt invitation to explore the intricacies of our stories, celebrate resilience, and find beauty in the messy, unfiltered tapestry of life. 🌸 There are multiple ways to work with me. Check them out at www.kimberlymathis.com or find me on Instagram at @thekimberlymathis

Hope is not a strategy. Hope is not going to get you the end result that you want. It has got to be a decision, because a decision has a plan. In this episode, I'm sharing the way I started thinking about decisions differently, and how this has become THE most important thing in my life, and in the work I do. I'll also clarify what a "decision" really includes, so that you can start making some for yourself. Want to work with me 1:1? Go to www.kimberlymathis.com and schedule a free consultation.

If you're a people-pleaser, you've probably never associated those behaviors with control. But here's the thing: people-pleasing isn't just about being nice. If you can better understand the motivation behind people-pleasing behavior, you can more easily change those patterns. Join me as we peel back the layers of people-pleasing and uncover its roots. From the fear of rejection to the illusion of control, I'm breaking down why we fall into this trap and how to break free. So if you're ready to stop sacrificing your authenticity for the sake of others and have more control over your own life, this episode is for you. Work with me by clicking here.

Are your goals clear? Are they accurate? Are they even attainable? After setting goals with clients for years, I'm telling you about the top 5 mistakes I see people make when they talk about what they're wanting to achieve. Make sure you aren't making these same mistakes because doing so will quite possibly make your goals harder to achieve - if they're even achievable in the first place. And if you want to set goals and work with me to reach them, I'm taking 1:1 clients. Schedule a free consultation at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram @thekimberlymathis

Work with me at www.kimberlymathis.com In this episode, I delve into the subtle yet impactful behavior of triangulation. While often associated with toxic dynamics, I shed light on how triangulation can seep into our everyday conversations and relationships without us even realizing it. I break down what triangulation is and how it surfaces in our interactions, offering relatable examples that resonate with everyday experiences. Through open and candid discussions, I guide you on how to recognize and navigate triangulation to foster healthier, more authentic connections and relationships with the people who matter in your life. You'll gain practical insights on spotting the signs of triangulation in your own interactions, understanding its impact on relationships, and implementing strategies for fostering healthier communication. I encourage you to reflect on your personal experiences with triangulation and provide actionable steps to decrease this behavior, empowering you to bring positive change to your daily interactions. Tune in to gain valuable insights and simple strategies for navigating difficult relationships and breaking free from patterns of triangulation. If you've ever found yourself caught up in gossip or seeking validation from others instead of addressing conflict head on, this episode offers actionable steps to facilitate healthier and more direct communication. TIMESTAMPED OVERVIEW: 00:00 Adding a third party changes a relationship. 06:56 Triangulation can sow distrust in relationships. 11:18 Seek support if necessary, avoid constant negativity. 15:09 Avoided conflict, sought outside advice, communication struggles. 17:07 Create clear personal boundaries to prevent triangulation. 20:29 Reaching out for support, not avoiding conflict. 25:09 Encouraging reflection on behavior and seeking support.

What does "visibility" mean to you? Is it ever something you think about focusing on, or working on in your life? If you associate "visibility" with how much you show up on social media, or how well-known you are, you're merely scratching the surface. I just spent a week in Miami with other coaches and we did a visibility deep dive. Listen to this episode to learn more about what visibility really means, what visibility work could look like in your own life, and how I'm thinking about visibility both in my personal and professional life. Work with me 1:1 at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram at @thekimberlymathis

No, we're not talking about faking it until you make it. But we are talking about taking action BEFORE you feel ready; before you have the thoughts & feelings you think are necessary to take the actions. Listen in to learn why telling yourself you can't move forward without the beliefs or feelings you want is just holding you back, and how to create a guide for forward action anyway. Work with me 1:1 to create your own compass and change things that feel unchangeable. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

Picture this: there's a sticky situation in front of you, yet you spend less time figuring out what you want to do to move forward AND you aren't worrying as much about what other people are going to do or say. On today's episode, we're getting clear on what's in YOUR control (spoiler: it's not someone else's mind drama) and how to ditch the emotional baggage of feeling responsible for everything and everyone. Get ready to trade mental chaos for clarity because, let's face it, you've got enough on your plate. Work with me 1:1 to change what feels unchangeable. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

It's been a sh*t Valentine's week for a lot of folks - including myself. So let's talk about love, shall we? In this episode, we'll discuss: - the difference between feeling love(d) and practicing love - the cultural messages about love vs. what love actually entails - how to love someone and cause pain by acting lovingly If you want to change how you're loving yourself & others, I've got room for 1:1 clients. Schedule a complimentary consultation call here.

How many times have you told yourself - or told someone else - to "just let it go"? What do we mean when we say that? What do we expect that we should be able to do? Today we're unpacking that phrase, and getting really clear on what we can and can't let go of. I'm also going to help you think about this phrase in a new way - one that gives you actionable steps to help you stop ruminating and overthinking. Interested in working with me? Let's chat. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

When you're avoiding an outcome because it feels too tough to handle, it clouds your thinking and decision-making. You end up reacting to your fear, instead of responding to the situation in ways that best align with your values, your intentions, and the person you want to be. Anything we set out to do or achieve comes with inherent risk of experiencing things that can be shitty - and therefore, they also ask us to be WILLING to experience those things if we truly want to go after what we want. So, are you willing to experience some shitty stuff? Let's talk more about what I mean, and what this can look like. I'll use my own personal life as an example. ✨Want to change some of your own responses to things? Want to do things differently? Then let's explore working together.✨ Book a complimentary consultation here.

Interested in working with me? Connect with me here. It's a podcast milestone: THE FIRST GUEST! Meet Dr. Gina Senarighi. Not only is she a relationship expert, she's also been MY coach throughout the last few years. I invited her on to continue the conversation we've been having about therapy & coaching and criticisms of the coaching industry. In this episode we talk about the following: why Gina herself transitioned from a therapy practice to coaching whether or not she thinks the coaching industry should be regulated how in the hell you're supposed to choose a coach if the industry is a little like the Wild West Connect with Gina at www.heygina.com

I'm a therapist-turned-coach, with openings for 1:1 clients. If you're looking for someone to help you change things that feel unchangeable, schedule a complimentary consultation to see if I'm the best fit for you. Full disclosure: this episode was prompted by an algorithmic gift on the 'Gram - a post titled "The Scam of Millennial Motivational Coaches." Not only was I offended by the mention of my generational label (millennials are AMAZING, ok??), but I had so many issues with the points being made throughout the post that I decided I needed to record an episode. Listen as I walk you through these common coaching criticisms, and offer my own thoughts and a different perspective. This is a nuanced discussion, and my hope is simply that you have more information to help you decide who you want to work with when looking for a coaching (or therapy) practitioner. Mentioned in the podcast: Article from Wired.com

✨ Want to work with me 1:1? Book a free consultation call at my website or connect with me on Instagram. ✨ Ready for an unfiltered conversation about why I transitioned from asking "How does that make you feel?" to asking "What do you want to do"? Join me as I peel back the layers and tell you some of the reasons behind my switch from therapy to life coaching. No fluff, no judgment. This isn't about therapy critique; it's my personal journey into a different realm. Join me for a straightforward discussion, shedding light on my shift from therapist to life coach. 🗣️🤔

Work with me 1:1 by scheduling a free consultation call at www.kimberlymathis.com or connect with me on Instagram @thekimberlymathis 📲 This is the first episode in a series where I'm spilling the tea on the whole therapy vs. coaching debate - from someone who left her practice as a licensed therapist to go into coaching full-time. So what separates therapy from coaching? Spoiler alert: it's not just the notepads and cozy couches. Unpack the differences with me and listen in to learn about: - the differences between the philosophical foundations of therapy & coaching - how the two are different when it comes to the questions they answer - what is going in your therapist's chart that you might not know about And follow along for the next episodes where I'll tell you about my reasons for choosing one over the other, my beef with some of the common coaching criticisms, and how YOU can choose the best professional for yourself when you're looking for someone.