Lisa Fife Coaching

DO YOU HAVE A HARD TIME MAKING DECISIONS??   So many of us do!   Did you know it only takes 1 second to make a decision and usually that doesn’t require a lot of brain power or energy.    You know what takes a lot of brain power and energy?  SITTING IN INDECISION MISERABLE MAYBE SITTING IN WHAT IF OR SITTING IN FEAR   In this episode you: Will learn about the biggest dream killer thoughts and how to avoid them by using different thought provoking phrases   That there are no wrong or perfect decisions   Learn how to plan ahead or making decision a head of time by using your prefrontal cortex When you let go of miserable maybe and indecision, it opens and frees up your brain for curiosity, problem solving, and creative solutions.  Your outcome will be gained knowledge for your personal and professional development, realized dreams, and confidence in yourself!   You can download free coaching worksheets by subscribing to my email list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.  

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU START TO EXPERIENCE WORRY OR ANXIETY?    Do you resist feeling this emotion?   You're not alone!  Many of us resist, react, or avoid uncomfortable feelings.   In this episode, I will describe a personal experience of me resisting feeling the emotion of anxiety.   We’re not taught to feel our emotions. Feeling is an ability that most of us need to  learn because we’re taught by the media and social conditioning to escape emotions. Learn in detail the steps on how to go from resisting to allowing the feeling of anxiety by processing it. Allowing is a skill you have to learn and practice. It’s not the same as reacting to an emotion. It’s not the same as resisting. It’s not the same as pretending it’s not there. You can download these free coaching worksheets that support this episode: Thoughts and Feelings Tracker aka Thought Download, Now Feelings, and Processing Feelings by subscribing to my email list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Do you like to CONTROL everyone and everything around you? Or do you know someone who does? Then this episode IS FOR YOU!   In this episode we will be discussing: Why we try to control others due to  False beliefs or lies we will be happier OR more loveable, likeable or maybe even envied And wanting to avoid uncomfortable emotions like SHAME AND FEAR   Why is this behavior unhealthy and not serving us?   Many of us have expectations of others. AND often our expectations drive us to try to control others because we assume we will be happier or more loveable.    As nice as that sounds, this can lead to unnecessary suffering because we are giving all our power away of HOW WE FEEL based on another person's behavior.    Additionally, we also try to control out of avoiding feeling shame or fear.   Learn in this episode the important and powerful facts on how controlling others will not bring you happiness.    For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my emailing list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

ARE YOUR MORNING THOUGHTS NEGATIVE?    Do you struggle with getting out of bed?    You're not alone!    In this episode, I will teach you about morning thoughts and how to go from destructive overwhelming thoughts and behaviors to more productive thoughts and results.   Our brains have about 50,000 thoughts a day, and 70-80% are negative when those thoughts are unmanaged and on autopilot.  I know this to be true because the moment I wake up my negative thoughts start firing off!  I always assumed the way that I felt in the morning had everything to do with my depression.  It was 100% to blame and not me or my thinking.     Learn in detail the 4 steps to go from overwhelm and lack of motivation in the morning to a lighter more productive morning. Step 1 - Create awareness Step 2 - Start with the end in mind - what outcome do you want? Step 3 - Anticipate morning obstacles and how to avoid them through planning Step 4 - Get deliberate and intentional   Creating a new life is done by deciding WHAT WE WANT and then practicing that reality cognitively until it has created the exact emotion or feeling we are looking for TO ACHIEVE OUR DESIRED RESULTS.   Practice these 4 steps and you will notice your mornings will seem a little lighter and getting out of bed a little easier.  You can have depression AND learn to wake up with more positive morning thoughts and results.   You can download these free coaching worksheets that support this episode: Thoughts and Feelings Tracker, The Model, Mental Rehearsal and New Thought Brainstorm by subscribing to my email list at my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

In this episode, I will be talking about mental illnesses and suicide prevention.    Suicide Sucks.   It affects everyone of us.  We all know someone or have loved someone who died by suicide.  September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so I think it is super helpful to shine some light on mental health illnesses and suicide prevention this episode.    Listen and learn about: My personal experience of losing my ex-husband, the father of my two eldest sons, to suicide My personal struggle with my own mental illness depression What mental illnesses are and the stigma surrounding them The facts and warning signs of suicide Where to find support, and What resources are available to you.   For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.    

We place value on OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS.  We care about what others will think and even have fear of what others will think.  Our worry about what others think is exhausting and overwhelming.   WE CANNOT CONTROL HOW OTHERS FEEL ABOUT US!  WE CANNOT CONTROL THEIR OPINIONS OF US.   In this episode we are going to talk about OPINIONS: WHY DO WE CARE ABOUT OTHERS OPINIONS?  WHAT OPINION MATTERS MOST? HOW WILL YOUR LIFE CHANGE WHEN YOU STOP WORRYING ABOUT OTHER’S OPINIONS? Listen and learn how we have an inherent need to fit in and not go outside the pack, so we place value on opinions and expectations of our social, cultural, or familial circles.  We avoid feeling the emotion of pain and fear of not being accepted in an effort to fit in.  Because of this, we lose our sense of authenticity and belonging.   Trying to fit in is a betrayal to yourself and the opposite of belonging! We can control other’s perceptions and opinions of us.     For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Feelings are why we do everything! In today’s episode we are going to talk about FEELINGS!  What they are What we DO with them and why And what we really should do with them, which is allow and process them   Learn how feelings are emotions or vibrations we experience in our bodies and are directly related to the thoughts we’re thinking about a circumstance and NOT the circumstance itself.   Feelings start in our brain and move down into our body!    And feelings are voluntary and come from the thoughts we have about a circumstance and not the circumstance itself Learn how we have 4 options on how to behave when we have an uncomfortable feeling or emotion.  We can RESIST, REACT, AVOID, OR ALLOW the emotion.  Only one of these options will serve us and give us the confidence to try anything because we have practiced sitting with the feeling.   When we are willing to feel any emotion, we will also be willing to try ANY GOAL or FACE ANY UNCERTAINTY!   For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

In this episode I will be talking about fear, specifically THE FEAR of FAILURE.   I will: DESCRIBE what fear is and HOW it is created Go over what our PRIMITIVE BRAIN is trying to do when we FEEL FEAR WHY we really have fear or specifically what we make FEAR OF FAILURE MEAN TEACH how we can OVERCOME THE FEAR OF FAILURE and Go over an activity to identify our fears and how to overcome the fear of failure Listen how fear is created by our thoughts and also comes from the primitive part of our brain that wants to protect us.  Most of our fears come from what we think others will think of us if we fail and what we make it mean IF we do fail.  We can overcome fear by recognizing it, understanding why our brain does it, describing the feeling and being ok with discomfort, and knowing failure is part of the deal when working towards success, our goals, dreams and ambitions.  The feeling of fear or the fear of failure does not mean something has gone wrong or something is wrong with us.   We need to fail forward and double, even triple, our rate of failure to have success.     We are meant for great things and our possibilities are endless!   Don’t let others opinions, fear, and fear of failure be a barrier to our own success ladies!! You’ve got this!   For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

In this episode we will be talking about EXPECTATIONS WE HAVE OF OTHERS or WHAT WE CALL in the coaching world as a MANUAL. We will be discussing: What manuals are Examples of manuals and How do we let go of our manuals for others Many of us have expectations of others, like our spouse, a co-worker, a neighbor, boss, parents, siblings or children. AND we believe that if they meet our expectations and follow our manual, we will be happier and have a better connection or relationship with that person.    Learn in this episode important and powerful facts on how controlling others will not bring you happiness.    Listen and learn how to take your power back for your emotional wellbeing.   For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

In this episode we will be talking about LOVE and not just LOVE, BUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.   When we hear about unconditional love, it is almost always under the context of our feelings towards someone else.   But in this episode, I will be talking about how unconditional love is A GIFT FOR OURSELVES!!   Love is one of the best emotions any of us can feel.  In our relationships, that feeling of love is ALWAYS AVAILABLE TO US.  Listen on how we are the beneficiary when we choose to love ourselves and others unconditionally!!   For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

DO YOU GET FRUSTRATED WHEN THINGS DON'T GO YOUR WAY? Do you blame yourself and take negative events and make them MEAN something negative about yourself?  You're not alone!  In this episode, I will teach you about the concept of LIFE BEING A 50-50. Our human brain wants to take negative events and make them mean something bad or negative about ourselves or that we are not enough.  But in reality these events are part of the 50/50 human experience we will have while living on this planet! Events for our growth AND for our development! Listen on how to apply the 50-50 concept and HOW TO EMBRACE DISCOMFORT BECAUSE IT IS THE CURRENCY TO OUR GROWTH.   For free coaching resources including printable worksheets, subscribe to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.  

Beliefs are WHY we do anything and everything!!    BELIEFS ARE THE foundation of our identity. WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE?   In this episode we will learn what beliefs are, the ones we have that can be illogical, the ones we adopted from our childhood, community and society.   What if I told you that a belief is simply a thought you have had over and over again?  A sentence you have repeated over and over in your head whether it be absolute truth or not.  Or a sentence someone or society has said over and over again to you, and you bought into it. Many people look at the challenges and trials of life and believe they’re unlucky. Some believe they’re no good because of the situations in which they’ve been involved in or the things that have happened to them. We can choose to believe we are our circumstances, which are [events outside our control], or we can choose to believe WE ARE NOT defined by our pasts and not doomed to repeat them.  We can choose to believe we’re meant to live BIG, WONDERFUL LIVES INSTEAD. It’s not the events in our lives that shape us but rather our beliefs about what those events mean.  In this episode I will teach you have to identify a belief system that has hindered or hurt you and then learn how to try new thoughts that are believable and healthy that will drive behavior and desire outcomes that are positive and rewarding for your career and relationships. You can download these free coaching worksheets that support this episode: Uncovering Beliefs and What Do You Want to Believe by subscribing to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.    If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.  

HAVE YOU EVER STRUGGLED WITH GOING FROM A NEGATIVE THOUGHT TO A POSITIVE THOUGHT? You are not alone! The reason we cannot do this is because OUR BRAINS are struggling with cognitive dissonance.  Cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort we feel when we introduce a new contradictory thought and therefore our brains disagree with us.  We cannot trick our brain when we have had negative thoughts about our circumstances and all of a sudden tell ourselves everything is FABULOUS.  Everything is unicorns, rainbows and glitter!! So how do we overcome cognitive dissonance so we can get our desired outcomes that are driven by positive believable thoughts?   WITH BRIDGE AND LADDER THOUGHTS!!   WHEN WE HAVE BELIEVED A THOUGHT for a long time, WE NEED TO START WITH A THOUGHT that our brain WILL believe in order to move from a negative thought and undesired outcome to a positive thought and desired outcome.   WE MUST BRIDGE THAT GAP WITH AN "IN BETWEEN" THOUGHT OR BELIEF, THAT IS LIKE A STEPPING STONE TOWARDS OUR POSITIVE OR DESIRED THOUGHT.  In this episode, I will teach you how to do this! You can download these free coaching worksheets that support this episode: New Thought Brainstorm by subscribing to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

Have you ever wondered HOW you get your desired results?    GETTING INTENTIONAL THROUGH MENTAL REHEARSAL!!   We need to get intentional with our thinking!  We NEED to take our unintentional, unmanaged thoughts and results discussed in EPISODE 3 and flip it around by creating NEW THOUGHTS and NEW INTENTIONAL MODELS to CREATE the reality we want.  Learn how to use deliberate thoughts through Mental Rehearsal to get our desired results or outcomes.   Creating a new life is done by deciding WHAT WE WANT and then practicing that reality cognitively until it has created the exact emotion or feeling we are looking for TO ACHIEVE OUR DESIRED RESULTS.   You can download these free coaching worksheets that support this episode: The Model, Mental Rehearsal and New Thought Brainstorm by subscribing to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take these concepts and apply them in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today or give me a call at 8017252928.

The Self Coaching MODEL The secret sauce to all great personal self coaching: “thought inquiry.” It’s exactly what it sounds like. Inquire into your thoughts.  Pay attention to your mind.   There are many forms of thought inquiry and cognitive awareness techniques.  The most simple and effective one is what is called “The MODEL”.  This tool has changed my life and the lives of thousands of people in the world.   There are 5 interconnected components: CIRCUMSTANCES = C THOUGHTS = T FEELINGS = F ACTIONS/BEHAVIORS = A RESULTS/OUTCOMES Thoughts about our Circumstances create a Feeling, which drives Actions that produce our Results.  We get unintentional results when we have unmanaged thoughts and do not pay attention to our thinking. Seeing our lives in this context simplifies what is going on so we can understand the cause of the results that are showing up in our lives. This is the ultimate tool that clarifies how cause and effect create our experience.   You can download a free coaching worksheet with the Self Coaching Model tool that allows you to run personal problems and outcomes you are currently experiencing.  This worksheet can be downloaded for free by subscribing to my email listing on my website at Lisa Fife Coaching.   If you would like to take this concept and apply it in your life, Schedule a free mini consult today!