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We got married because we thought we’d be better together rather than apart. So why is it so easy to feel isolated from your life-long partner? Host, author, and fellow married pilgrim, Brian Goins, tackles the relational pitfalls, from the trivial to the tragic, that move couples towards isolation rather than experiencing the real benefits that come from saying “I do.”
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Not all fantasies are created equally, in fact, one kind is the leading cause of unhappiness in marriage. But how do you avoid pitfalls and pursue contentment with your spouse? Tune in as hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn continue discussing the fifth secret of highly happy couples! Show Notes and Resources Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage?  Learn more at weekendtoremember.com For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website. Check out Married with Benefits on YouTube  FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriage  is masterfully designed to inspire and equip today’s couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Do you manage your emotions...or do they actually manage you? Learn how deliberate emotional management can promote your happiness—both maritally and otherwise. Join special guest, Jeff Feldhahn, and hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss secret 5 of highly happy couples! Show Notes and Resources Weekend to Remember is FamilyLife's getaway for couples, at the intersection of faith-based marriage conference and romantic retreat from everyday life. Want to foster more oneness in your marriage? Learn more and find one near you at weekendtoremember.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriage  is masterfully designed to inspire and equip today’s couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
You've probably heard the marriage advice: don't try to keep score. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn suggest there's one tally that might actually be good to track in Christian marriage—find out what it is! Show Notes and Resources For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages", head to her website. Learn more about the 30-Day Kindness Challenge at jointhekindnesschallenge.com. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriage is masterfully designed to inspire and equip today’s couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Going to bed angry or not: if someone's giving you advice for marriage, they likely have an opinion. And doesn't the Bible take a stance? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a fresh take on how to deal with anger in marriage — a normal part of the human experience — at bedtime and beyond. You'll leave this episode with perhaps a fresh perspective, as well as practical tips on handling conflict, communication, and, yes, anger. Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop.  Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com  See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Looking for some happy vibes in your marriage? Learn about the 'fantastic five' small but mighty try-now practices to grow happiness in your marriage.   Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop.  Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com  See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
You know what they say about making assumptions, right? But there's one kind of assumption that can dramatically improve your marriage. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss first secret of highly happy marriages on today's episode of Married with Benefits. Learn how one foundational mindset shift can help you move from frustration to affection and from grumpy to gracious. Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop. Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
"Highly happy" is possible for marriage. But how do you get there? Change—even "good" change and growth—can be uncomfortable! Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a roadmap for perseverance in relationship growth, towards the highly happy marriage you dream of. Show Notes and Resources FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy. Learn more about the the all-new Art of Marriage at artofmarriage.com! And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. For your own copy of Shaunti Feldhahn's book, "The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages" on FamilyLife's shop. Learn more about Shaunti on her website, Shaunti.com See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Is marriage worth it? If you've never wondered yourself, you may have had someone ask you that question. In this special teaser episode to Season 4 of Married with Benefits, hosts Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, a renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research. Dr. Wilcox is a Professor of Sociology and Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, as well as the Future of Freedom Fellow at the Institute for Family Studies. Join us for this conversation exploring why more and more people are doubting marriage's value and what the research actually says. You'll also learn data-backed practical advice for building a happy marriage and family -- for yourself or for a friend! Show Notes and Resources Learn more and connect with Dr. Brad Wilcox His new book "Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization" can be purchased hereor anywhere books are sold. Learn more about his work and research with the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia at nationalmarriageproject.org and the Institute for Family Studies at ifstudies.org. FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriageis masterfully designed to inspire and equip today's couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
7. When Sex is Boring

7. When Sex is Boring

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Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma's got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Initiating or declining sex: It's tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.” Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzling—or just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire. Show Notes and Resources Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions. For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
When it comes to sex…what’s normal? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss research about drive, initiative, and other questions. Show Notes and Resources Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma’s book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" "How can I convince her I think she looks good?" "How am I supposed to avoid fix-it mode when she talks?" Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ Come join us for romance and relaxation in 2021 on FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It® marriage cruise. https://www.lovelikeyoumeanitcruise.com/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/ See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/product/for-men-only-revised-and-updated/ For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/product/for-women-only-revised-and-updated/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/ See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious why late-night arguments leave you feeling outmatched? Or why you'd rather withdraw to think before processing together? Listen for the reasons behind your feelings and for some healthy conflict management tips. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Shaunti's book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. The little things that make a BIG difference! https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/ From Season 1: Why Is He So Touchy? https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/2-why-is-he-so-touchy/ Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ "When Sinners Say 'I Do': Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage" by Dave Harvey.  https://www.amazon.com/When-Sinners-Say-Do-Discovering/dp/0976758261 Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/ See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife's tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian's wife Jen, dig into the "why" behind women's tears and some helpful "dos" and "don'ts" as you move towards your wife. Also learn how God responds to our tears. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/product/for-men-only-revised-and-updated/ For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits™. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/ See cru.org/us/en/about/privacy FamilyLIfe’s Privacy Policy
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