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Narcissist Apocalypse

Author: Brandon Chadwick

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Narcissist Apocalypse gives a voice to survivors of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse & domestic abuse. Our host, Brandon Chadwick, chats with survivors about growing up in dysfunctional homes, codependency, coercive control, addiction, divorce and co-parenting, intimate partner violence, abuser pathology, and much, much more. For survivors, we guarantee you'll feel less alone. And for true crime fans, you'll learn about why people stay and the manipulation tactics used to keep them there.
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Brandon talks with Pink about their toxic relationship with a paranoid abuser. It’s a story of validation, wild accusations, victim playing, and finding a new healthy normal. Plus they discuss, the normality of chaos, codependency, gaslighting, being a fixer, loneliness, jealousy, insecurity, rage, trusting your gut, bonding over trauma, neglectful parenting, trust, having your back, love bombing, nitpicking, stonewalling, silent treatments, hoovers, changing tactics, guilt, physical abuse, intimidation the cycle of abuse, values, setting boundaries, and much more. Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To fill out our survey for a chance to win 1 of 10 $25 Amazon Giftcards go to https://forms.gle/QPMCooHV8yqiJoEKA
Chad talks with Maxine about her abusive marriage to a possible psychopath. It's a story of the enlightened conman, disappearing acts, physical abuse, and a flawed court system. Plus they discuss, mirroring, gaslighting, rage disguised as passion, pedestals, the silent treatment, boundary testing, self doubt, codependency, cognitive dissonance, fear of abandonment, hero sex workers, hoovers, court advice, enabling family members, gut feelings, sex addiction, bonding over trauma, animal abuse, parallel parenting, and much more. - The sound on this episode changes dramatically as it's over two different calls and a few different devices. Our apologies. We're working on the issues. *** Trigger Warning - Graphic Physical Abuse & Animal Cruelty Is Discussed *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To fill out our survey for a chance to win 1 of 10 $25 Amazon Gift Cards go to https://forms.gle/QPMCooHV8yqiJoEKA
Chad talks with Greg about growing up in a household with an emotionally abusive mother and a physically abusive father. It's a story of shame, guilt, abuse cycles, and going no contact for good. Plus they discuss, scapegoats, gaslighting, yoga, physical abuse, love bombing, extensions of oneself, trust, Nickelodeon, mixed messages, work abuse, coming out, LGBTQ issues, rage, sabotage, being good enough, looking for love, suicide, and much more. Also, there are some sound issues and we apologize. *** Trigger Warning - This epsiode does discuss the suicide of Greg's father. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Greg. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Willow about her abusive relationship with a malignant narcissist. It's a story of control, isolation, smear campaigns, and private investigators. Plus they discuss, crazy exes, intermittent reinforcement, word salad, victim playing, jealousy, chronic insecurity, sleep deprivation, abortion, animal neglect, criticism, sexual shaming, guilt, tall tales, kernels of truth, huge lies, a loving family, mindful dating, trust in humanity, sound reactivity, and much more. It's another example of abuse that's also true crime. As Willow states 'I didn't know this type of malicious exists.' Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Willow. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Ripley about her 10 year relationship with a physically abusive narcissist. It's a story of guilt, promises of change, using children as pawns, and smear campaigns. Plus they discuss, celebrity, gaslighting, charisma, insecurity, anxious attachment, victim playing, social media, reactive abuse, twisting narratives, isolation, and much more. The first five minutes of this episode had sound issues, so please soldier through the clicking. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses graphic violence and has uncensored graphic language. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Ripley. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
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Chad talks with Isabelle about her toxic relationship with a covert mirroring narcissist. It's a story of CPTSD, intermittent reinforcement, restraining orders, and smear campaigns. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, future faking, introverts, narcissistic rage, moving goal posts, word salad, generational trauma, testing boundaries, stonewalling, sympathy ploys, circular conversations, induced conversation, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This epsiode has graphic and vulgar language. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Isabelle. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Lea about her toxic relationship with a leach of a narcissist. It's a story of bonding over trauma, smear campaigns, believing things were your fault, and standing in your truth. Plus they discuss, court, trusting your therapist, isolation, belittling, infidelity accusations, mirroring, future faking, negative/positive statements, minimization, self sabotage, alcoholism, reactive abuse, sexual assault, child rights, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses Sexual Assault. It's not graphic but it is mentioned. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Lea. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Mira about her toxic relationship with a financial abuser. It's a story of future faking, enmeshed parents, scams, and deceit disguised as love. Plus they discuss, self confidence, infidelity, mirroring, trauma bonds, bonding over trauma, grandiosity, blame shifting, narcissistic parents, withholding affection, pedestals, persistency and much more. Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Mira. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Tabatha about her toxic relationship with a controlling predator. It's a story of abusing authority, intimate partner violence, isolation, and the kindness of strangers. Plus they discuss, the silent treatment, narcissistic parents, proving yourself, spyware, being seen, suicidal ideation, sleep deprivation, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - There is discussion of graphic intimate partner violence. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Tabatha. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Nico about her toxic relationship with a serial predator. Her story spans multiple countries and involves 30+ other women. It's a story of Facebook phishing, future faking, financial abuse, and solidarity. Plus they discuss, mirroring, fake personas, mask slipping, ptsd, flying monkeys, manipulation tactics, button pushing, revenge, and much more. People in this story: Celine – French artist who was going to marry him until she started to unravel the deception and tell others. Valerie – Attempted suicide when she found out about the other women. Giselle – French artist who was going to marry him. Brigitte – Acted as a "double agent“ and supported "the hunt“ Drew – Had an online relationship with the narc and first introduced Nico to the concept of NPD. Nina –Musician who connected Nico and the guitar teacher. Hanna – The reason Nico did not give up the hunt (cancer patient, got lured into a relationship via the fake "Cancer Connie“ profile and later debunked him. Cancer Conny – Fake profile run by the narc. Journalist – Also a musician, was stalked by the narc who then pretended some of the journalist‘s texts and bio were his own. Hamid – Nico’s love who made it possible for Nico to hunt down the narc. Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Nico. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Hazel about her abusive relationship with an overt toxic narcissist. It's a story of suicide threats, being held against your will, financial abuse, and victim blaming police officers. Plus they discuss empaths, abandonment, isolation, sexual assault, physical abuse, victim playing, rage, fixing, inner child healing, guilt, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses graphic violence and a sexual assault. It may be very difficult to hear. We had to stop recording for a bit as Hazel had a panic attack while telling these parts of the story. If this could trigger you, please do not listen. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Hazel. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Shaw about being raised by her narcissistic mother who scapegoated her from birth. It's a story of abandonment, self harm, normalizing chaos, and going no contact for good. Plus they discuss, manipulation, suicide, addiction, gossip, victim playing, fear, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses child sex abuse and suicide. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Shaw. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks Uma about her physically abusive relationship that caused her and her son to flee to another state. It's a story of PTSD, programming, intimate partner violence, and resilience. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, child PTSD, rage, health issues, patterns, believing things are your fault, belittling, reactive abuse, control, somatic work, inner children, and much more. *** Trigger Warning - This episode describes a few physically violent incidents. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Uma. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Simon about growing up with an emotionally stunted narcissistic father. It's a story of fear, identity issues, low self everything, and family adoption secrets. Plus they discuss, alcoholism, rage, anger, learned helplessness, adhd, scapegoats, nature vs. nurture, emptiness, parenthood, being good enough, and much more. *** Part of the episode did have microphone issues but they got sorted 1/4 of the way through. Hopefully the noises here and there don't annoy you. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Simon. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks Xena about her toxic relationship with a projection heavy narcissist. It's a story of isolation, the family facade, recognizing abuse cycles, and child abandonment. Plus they discuss, gaslighting, self awareness, suicidal ideation, alcoholism, victim playing, nitpicking, the power of vouching, divorce, and much more. *** This episode does have sound issues. There were little pops throughout the episode due to the connection. Hopefully, it's not too annoying. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Xena. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks Paulina about her toxic relationship with a spiritual abuser. It's a story of altruistic narcissism, sowing the seeds of doubt, reactive abuse, and delusions of grandeur. Plus they discuss, isolation, future faking, power, control, chronic health issues, infidelity, devaluation, believing the lies you are told, kernels of truth, social engineering, gurus, back handed compliments, gaslighting, and much more. Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Special Guest: Paulina. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Fatema about her toxic relationship with a psychologically abusive partner. It's a story of proving yourself, trauma bonds, codependency, and getting back to the old you. Plus they discuss, self love, control, infidelity, red flags, anxiety, and much more. Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 NYU Psychological Abuse Study https://nyu.ca1.qualtrics.com/jfe/preview/SV_9mEDxxKorWWSPIy?Q_CHL=preview&Q_SurveyVersionID=current Special Guest: Fatema. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Blake about her abusive relationship with her brother's good friend. It's a story of self worth, future faking, Facebook mirroring, and having trouble cutting the cord for good. Plus they discuss, people pleasing, being good enough, Fall Out Boy, scapegoats, family trauma, gaslighting, social media, validation, blocking, trauma bonds, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode does discuss physical abuse of Blake's son and has strong language. *** Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com To shop at our store, go to https://www.narcissistapocalypse.com/shop-1 Support Narcissist Apocalypse
Chad talks with Vivian about her abusive relationship with a power hungry narcissist. It's a story of empathy, victim playing, stalking, and the calm before the storm. Plus they discuss, control, entitlement, court, boundaries, ego, validation, tone, gaslighting, predator vs. prey, future faking, psychological abuse, and much more. Domestic Violence Hotline Number - 1.800.799.SAFE Join our Patreon for extra content and our brand new live support groups at https://www.patreon.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Come listen to our new podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse: Q&A https://link.chtbl.com/CITVf9Qz Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA If you're looking for a a therapist or coach that understands you, come to our directory at https://abusetherapy.org If you want to be a guest on our show, go to https://narcissistapocalypse.com Special Guest: Vivian. Support Narcissist Apocalypse
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Comments (13)

Lisa Smith

that happens when your in bad relationships my kids father where we lived I cringe when I drive through that town and it a nice town but I hate it now

Apr 19th
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Lisa Smith

you do realize narcissists is a personality disorder that a 4000 dollor camp isn't going t ok help. not it can help toxic people but not true narcissists. that was kinda odd to hear. plus they dont think anything thing is wrong with them. but thanks for the work you do with the podcast it's really important to hear survivors stories

Apr 19th
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grey rock

I do wish we'd broken up after 20 mins. 🏆 #liveandlearn

Feb 18th
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Joe Hladek

This is a very interesting episode.

Jan 6th
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Beatriz MF

This lady begins telling us that she grew up in a very loving home. That they were "good parents". Then proceeds to describe two dysfunctional adults who offloaded their emotional trauma on their daughter and always expected her to be the best at what she did. 🤔 That's not being a good nor loving parent.

Nov 14th
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Beatriz MF

The lady telling this story sounds like a narcissist herself. The way she describes herself. How it's the world against her. I don't doubt that this Janice woman was a piece of work, but I have serious doubts about "Meredith" too.

Oct 25th
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Jade Kearns

So I’ve never listened to a podcast before, just listened to Billy Jean on here and OMG. It’s nice to know others have experienced exactly the same. I’m only a month into healing, but if you ever need someone to interview, I’m here. Looking forward to listening to these stories.

Apr 14th
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Catherine Ramalho

Love these Podcasts Soooooo much. Thank You Chad.

Jan 20th
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Jacqui Pitcher

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Oct 31st
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Toni Marie

I'm sad this is the first episode I've listened to of yours. This poor girl was so difficult to listen to. Hoping your other episodes are better. Eeek

Sep 17th
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Jacqueline

What an Amazing with a capital A Lady! Wow Louise, am taking my hat off to you! Respect!!!

Aug 19th
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Kristien Mize

your story is mt life to a T right know but my narcissist wont leave I need him gone but he wont go away. I need help I am at rock bottom

Jul 7th
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