When I first started my journey to overcome porn addiction, I thought it was all about willpower, accountability, and prayer. But what I didn’t realize was that what I was putting into my body was fueling my cravings, my anxiety, and even my relapses. In this episode, I open up about the surprising connection between nutrition and porn addiction recovery—how the foods you eat shape your mood, your energy, your mental clarity, and even your desire. If you’ve ever wondered why cravings hit hard...
Why is it that so many high-achieving men—men who value discipline, morality, and service—secretly struggle with porn addiction? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. How can a man who leads, provides, and sacrifices also be the same man sneaking away to watch porn in the dark? In this episode, I uncover the paradox of the high-achiever and porn addiction. I’ll show you why high-achieving men are especially vulnerable to pornography, how emotional intensity fuels cravings, and why perfection...
What if your sexual fantasies weren’t the enemy, but the key to your healing? In this powerful episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with my friend and fellow recovery leader Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn, to uncover what your sexual fantasies are really trying to tell you—and how to use them as a surprising pathway to heal porn addiction. Most men believe that the way to stop porn is more willpower, more discipline, more accountability. But neuroscience and psychology show som...
Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in the shame cycle. In this episode of No More Desire, I reveal the 2 recovery mindset elements that almost every man overlooks—but that can completely transform your journey to freedom from porn addiction. They’re simple, but don’t let that fool you. Thes...
When I was stuck in porn addiction, I kept hearing the same advice: “Just be more positive. Believe in yourself. Visualize your freedom.” But here’s the problem—positive thinking alone doesn’t heal porn addiction. In fact, it often makes things worse. In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of why forcing yourself to “just think positive” can actually increase shame, suppress your real emotions, and fuel relapse. We’ll talk about the trap of toxic posi...
When I was deep in my porn addiction, I thought the biggest problem I had was desire. But over time, I discovered the real enemy was the constant storm of negative thinking in my own head—shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless inner critic that kept me trapped in the habit loop. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how negative thinking actively fuels porn addiction, why it’s more than just “background noise,” and how it changes your brain in ways that make cravings harder t...
When you’re stuck in porn addiction, it often feels like there’s a war going on inside your own mind. One part of you wants to be strong, productive, loving, and aligned with your values. The other part just wants comfort, ease, and escape. Most recovery programs tell you to kill off the "bad" part. To deny it, starve it, or fight it. But what if that approach is actually fueling your addiction? In this episode, I’m going to show you a completely different path—one rooted in psychological int...
If you’ve ever felt like your porn addiction makes no sense—like you’re a good man, doing your best, yet you keep falling into the same cycle—this episode will hit home. In today’s conversation, I sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay app, to unpack why it’s not actually pleasure that keeps you stuck in the addiction cycle… it’s pain. Specifically, it’s the pain you haven’t been taught how to face. We talk about the hidden wounds driving sexual compulsion, the parts of you that ...
This is Part 3 of this series—and today, we’re getting into the best part: How to actually heal and transform sex in marriage from a painful trigger for porn cravings into a sacred, joyful connection.If you’ve listened to Parts 1 and 2, you know we’ve covered: Why sex in marriage can sometimes feel like a relapseHow porn rewires your brain’s sexual pathwaysThe neuroscience and psychology behind emotional distance, shame, and porn cravingsNow it’s time for real solutions. Because here’s the tr...
Today we’re heading into the deep end of a conversation most men never get to have—but desperately need. Why does sex with your wife sometimes feel like a porn relapse instead of the healing, intimate connection you long for?If you’ve ever felt: Triggered by sex with your spouseOverwhelmed by cravings for porn after marital intimacyDisconnected and guilty about sex even though you’re marriedSpiritually ashamed and wondering if something is broken inside you……I want you to know you’re not fail...
Today, we’re diving into a topic that might just feel like the elephant in the room for countless men trying to stay free from porn: Why does sex in marriage sometimes trigger porn cravings… instead of satisfying them?If you’ve ever thought: “Shouldn’t sex with my wife help me fight porn cravings—not make them worse?”“Why do I feel guilty, disconnected, or even triggered after marital sex?”“Am I broken—or worse, spiritually condemned—because sex sometimes feels like a relapse?”…I want you to ...
A raw, redemptive conversation with Tina Huggins about healing religious sexual shame, restoring trust in marriage, and breaking the real roots of porn addiction. What if your deepest struggle with porn addiction isn’t about lust—but about unhealed shame? In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Tina Huggins, a restorative family mediator and certified divorce coach who shares insights for porn addiction recovery, religious trauma, and high-conf...
We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of recovery? What if it shows up years after sobriety, long after you’ve quit porn? In this raw and deeply personal episode, I share the story of my real rock bottom—a collapse that came after I had overcome porn, but before I had truly healed. This isn’t just about addiction. It’s about how perfectionism, spir...
Do you feel sexually broken from years of porn addiction and compulsive masturbation? Like you've damaged your body, your mind, and your marriage—and there’s no way back? In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, Jake Kastleman explores the reality of self-inflicted sexual trauma and what it truly takes to overcome porn addiction. You’ll learn how to stop watching porn, confront your shame, and begin the process to stop for good. We talk honestly about how masturbation addiction rewire...
Is your gaming habit quietly fueling your porn addiction? In this episode of No More Desire, Jake Kastleman explores the surprising neurological and psychological overlap between video games and porn use. Drawing from real neuroscience, addiction psychology, and philosophical insight, this solo episode breaks down why so many men stuck in compulsive porn cycles also spend hours gaming—and how both behaviors reinforce the same addictive pathways in the brain. You’ll learn: How dopamine d...
If your wife seems pissed off and turned off—constantly irritated, emotionally distant, and disinterested in sex—you’re not alone. For many men, this emotional tension fuels the desire to escape into porn. But what if the real issue isn’t her moods... but your missing leadership? In this episode, Jake Kastleman is joined by men’s coach and author GS Youngblood to help you fix your relationship, overcome porn addiction, and become the grounded, trusted man your partner longs for. You’ll learn ...
Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit? In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit porn and stay sober for good. We’ll dig into the inner critic and inner escapist—two misunderstood parts of your psyche that actually think they’re helping you, but are keeping you stuck in the shame cycle. You’ll learn how to respond to cravings, urges, and negative self-talk us...
In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers. Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything. Together, Jason and I dive into: Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction.How traditional recovery models pathologize normal human responses.What it really means to heal — beyond symptom management.The transformatio...
Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy. 👉 Grab your FREE DOWNLOAD of The 8 Tools to Heal from Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma Here. 👉 Grab the Raabsmith's Free Guide: The Honest Connection In this episode, you’ll hear: The ...
Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term? In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery: gratitude. Learn how daily gratitude can: Rewire your brain using neuroplasticityReduce porn cravings by activating your prefrontal cortexReplace the shame cycle with emotional clarity and purposeBuild a lasting recovery mindset based on joy, not just disciplineI also walk you through my personal morning gratitude ro...
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