Do you ever feel like your mind just won’t stop racing? Like you’re constantly doing—working, scrolling, thinking, striving—but rarely being present? If you’ve ever felt trapped in busyness, anxiety, or mental chaos, this episode might be one of the most important you’ll ever hear. In this solo episode, I explore one of the most overlooked truths about porn addiction recovery: your addiction isn’t just about sexual compulsion—it’s about disconnection. A restless, overstimulated brain craves r...
What if the real reason you can’t stop watching porn… isn’t porn itself? In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I dive deep into the hidden connection between tech addiction, dopamine, and porn addiction recovery — and why constant distraction may be the true enemy of your freedom. We live in a world built to hijack your attention. From smartphones and social media to the endless scroll of entertainment, every digital interaction trains your brain for instant gratification. Over time,...
When I first began my recovery journey, I believed the answer to ending porn addiction was more control — more willpower, more discipline, more “try harder.” But the truth is, that mindset only deepened my shame and made me fight harder against myself. In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a radically different path to freedom from porn addiction. We dive deep into the power of mindfuln...
When you love someone who’s caught in addiction—whether it’s porn, alcohol, or anything else that numbs pain—the chaos doesn’t just stay with them. It spills into your relationship, your emotions, and even your identity. In this episode of The No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with Holly Thornton, author of The Hardest Help, who’s lived through the agony of betrayal trauma, manipulation, and loss—and emerged with compassion, clarity, and tools that actually work. Together, we explore what mo...
Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one. In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotions can transform your marriage, your communication, and your ability to stay sober for good. Most men try to “think” their way out of porn addiction, but relapse doesn’t happen in the mind—it happens in the heart. When fear, shame, or sadness go unprocessed, ...
As a parent, one of the hardest questions you’ll ever face is this: How do I teach my kids about sex in a porn-filled world—without using fear, shame, or silence? In this episode, I sit down with Taylor Chambers, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of The Good and The Free, to talk about what it really means to raise porn-resilient kids and model fearless sexuality—not just for them, but for ourselves as men. We explore what it looks like to move beyond fear-based parenti...
If you’ve ever felt powerless in the face of porn cravings, you’re not alone. For years, I thought my urges were proof that I was broken—that I didn’t have the self-control or strength to stay sober. The truth is, cravings are not your enemy. They’re signals from your brain and body that point to deeper emotions like fear, shame, grief, or loneliness. And when you learn how to respond to them with the right tools, those urges actually become fuel for your porn addiction recovery. In this epis...
When I first started my journey to overcome porn addiction, I thought it was all about willpower, accountability, and prayer. But what I didn’t realize was that what I was putting into my body was fueling my cravings, my anxiety, and even my relapses. In this episode, I open up about the surprising connection between nutrition and porn addiction recovery—how the foods you eat shape your mood, your energy, your mental clarity, and even your desire. If you’ve ever wondered why cravings hit hard...
Why is it that so many high-achieving men—men who value discipline, morality, and service—secretly struggle with porn addiction? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. How can a man who leads, provides, and sacrifices also be the same man sneaking away to watch porn in the dark? In this episode, I uncover the paradox of the high-achiever and porn addiction. I’ll show you why high-achieving men are especially vulnerable to pornography, how emotional intensity fuels cravings, and why perfection...
What if your sexual fantasies weren’t the enemy, but the key to your healing? In this powerful episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I sit down with my friend and fellow recovery leader Drew Boa, author of Outgrow Porn, to uncover what your sexual fantasies are really trying to tell you—and how to use them as a surprising pathway to heal porn addiction. Most men believe that the way to stop porn is more willpower, more discipline, more accountability. But neuroscience and psychology show som...
Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in the shame cycle. In this episode of No More Desire, I reveal the 2 recovery mindset elements that almost every man overlooks—but that can completely transform your journey to freedom from porn addiction. They’re simple, but don’t let that fool you. Thes...
When I was stuck in porn addiction, I kept hearing the same advice: “Just be more positive. Believe in yourself. Visualize your freedom.” But here’s the problem—positive thinking alone doesn’t heal porn addiction. In fact, it often makes things worse. In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of why forcing yourself to “just think positive” can actually increase shame, suppress your real emotions, and fuel relapse. We’ll talk about the trap of toxic posi...
When I was deep in my porn addiction, I thought the biggest problem I had was desire. But over time, I discovered the real enemy was the constant storm of negative thinking in my own head—shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless inner critic that kept me trapped in the habit loop. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how negative thinking actively fuels porn addiction, why it’s more than just “background noise,” and how it changes your brain in ways that make cravings harder t...
When you’re stuck in porn addiction, it often feels like there’s a war going on inside your own mind. One part of you wants to be strong, productive, loving, and aligned with your values. The other part just wants comfort, ease, and escape. Most recovery programs tell you to kill off the "bad" part. To deny it, starve it, or fight it. But what if that approach is actually fueling your addiction? In this episode, I’m going to show you a completely different path—one rooted in psychological int...
If you’ve ever felt like your porn addiction makes no sense—like you’re a good man, doing your best, yet you keep falling into the same cycle—this episode will hit home. In today’s conversation, I sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay app, to unpack why it’s not actually pleasure that keeps you stuck in the addiction cycle… it’s pain. Specifically, it’s the pain you haven’t been taught how to face. We talk about the hidden wounds driving sexual compulsion, the parts of you that ...
This is Part 3 of this series—and today, we’re getting into the best part: How to actually heal and transform sex in marriage from a painful trigger for porn cravings into a sacred, joyful connection.If you’ve listened to Parts 1 and 2, you know we’ve covered: Why sex in marriage can sometimes feel like a relapseHow porn rewires your brain’s sexual pathwaysThe neuroscience and psychology behind emotional distance, shame, and porn cravingsNow it’s time for real solutions. Because here’s the tr...
Today we’re heading into the deep end of a conversation most men never get to have—but desperately need. Why does sex with your wife sometimes feel like a porn relapse instead of the healing, intimate connection you long for?If you’ve ever felt: Triggered by sex with your spouseOverwhelmed by cravings for porn after marital intimacyDisconnected and guilty about sex even though you’re marriedSpiritually ashamed and wondering if something is broken inside you……I want you to know you’re not fail...
Today, we’re diving into a topic that might just feel like the elephant in the room for countless men trying to stay free from porn: Why does sex in marriage sometimes trigger porn cravings… instead of satisfying them?If you’ve ever thought: “Shouldn’t sex with my wife help me fight porn cravings—not make them worse?”“Why do I feel guilty, disconnected, or even triggered after marital sex?”“Am I broken—or worse, spiritually condemned—because sex sometimes feels like a relapse?”…I want you to ...
A raw, redemptive conversation with Tina Huggins about healing religious sexual shame, restoring trust in marriage, and breaking the real roots of porn addiction. What if your deepest struggle with porn addiction isn’t about lust—but about unhealed shame? In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Tina Huggins, a restorative family mediator and certified divorce coach who shares insights for porn addiction recovery, religious trauma, and high-conf...
We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of recovery? What if it shows up years after sobriety, long after you’ve quit porn? In this raw and deeply personal episode, I share the story of my real rock bottom—a collapse that came after I had overcome porn, but before I had truly healed. This isn’t just about addiction. It’s about how perfectionism, spir...
Arsham
that was awesome