Nope! We're Not Monogamous

<p>Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, tantra and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box. </p>

Catapults and Consent: When Kink and Polyamory Overlap with Still

Send us a text Are you ready to get an in-depth look into navigating kink and non-monogamy together? This episode is your ultimate guide to understanding the fascinating intersection of kink, polyamory, and non-monogamous relationships. I’m sitting down with Still, a veteran kink community organizer and co-host of Tasty!—South Seattle's monitored monthly kink night at The Lumber Yard Bar. Together, we unpack what it really takes to create safe, trusting, and authentic experiences in thes...

11-14
01:02:56

Boundaries, Bedrooms, and Beyond, Navigating Non Monogamous Dating with Shannon Whaley

Send us a textCurious about what it really takes to date in the non-monogamous world? In this episode, I’m joined by Shannon Whaley, an anti-hustle business coach and newly-out polyamorous explorer, as we dive into the challenges and breakthroughs of non-monogamous dating. Together, we break down the nuances of setting clear boundaries, asking the tough but essential questions, and finding self-worth after surviving toxic relationships.Shannon opens up about her journey and how embracing both...

10-31
53:18

Beyond Vanilla The Intersection of Polyamory and Kink with Maeve McBride

Send us a textEver wondered what happens when kink and non-monogamy collide with trauma healing? In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Maeve McBride, a kink and ENM educator, erotic coach, and the Executive Director of Kinkfest 2025, to talk about how these worlds intersect—and it’s not just about the fun stuff (though there’s plenty of that too).Maeve takes us on a journey, from supporting polyamorous families through childbirth to becoming a powerhouse in the kink community. We di...

10-17
01:03:18

Sex Geeks Get Real: Consent Talks Before Getting Busy with Reid Mahalko

Send us a textEver wondered how sex educators navigate their own intimate encounters? In this candid and eye-opening episode, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for an intimate conversation about the intricacies of communication, consent, and safer sex practices.As we chat on a hotel bed (where else?), Reid shares his wealth of experience and practical wisdom on navigating hookups, casual encounters, and the complexities of intimacy in non-monogamous relations...

10-03
51:03

Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships with Therapist Ann Russo

Send us a textNavigating the complexities of non-monogamous relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to dealing with jealousy. In this conversation, I sit down with Ann Russo, a licensed clinical social worker and therapist specializing in non-monogamous relationships, to explore the intricacies of love beyond traditional boundaries.Ann shares her unique perspective, having grown up in a non-monogamous household, and offers valuable insights into the world of ethical non-mon...

09-19
47:41

Shuffling Relationship Dynamics with a Deck of Cards, Ep. 83

Send us a textImagine a game that sparks deep conversations, fosters understanding, and strengthens your relationships. That's exactly what the brilliant minds behind The Non Monogamy Card Game have created. This innovative tool is designed to help you explore the complexities of ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships in a fun and approachable way.In this episode, I sit down with Ayala & Kristen, the creators of this game-changing resource. As professional psychotherapist...

09-05
44:27

Fluid Bonding and STI Awareness Navigating Sexual Health in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Susan Bratton

Send us a textIn this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the incomparable Susan Bratton, a true pioneer in sexual wellness and non-monogamy. With decades of experience under her belt, Susan shares her wealth of knowledge on everything from STI testing to hormone replacement therapy, offering insights that could revolutionize your sex life.Susan's candid approach to discussing her personal journey, including her current throuple arrangement and experiences with over a thousand threesomes, cr...

08-22
01:14:41

Monogamy? In this Economy? With Author Laura Boyle

Send us a textLet’s explore the complexities of living in polyamorous relationships with relationship coach Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of shared living, finances, and parenting in multi-partner households.From cohabitation logistics and financial planning to co-parenting strategies and managing breakups, Laura offers practical advice and candid insights. We also dig ...

08-08
52:39

Navigating Consent and Pleasure in Non-Monogamy with Jamie Love

Send us a textThis episode gives you a peek into the remarkable journey of Jamie Love, from a conservative religious background to leading a thriving, international sex-positive community, Sex Positive World. You'll hear how Jamie fosters spaces where people can explore intimacy and sexuality openly and shame-free.Key Discussion Points:The Power of Consent in Everyday Life: We explore the power of small consent practices like cuddle parties and massage nights for fostering healthy connections...

07-25
43:41

Polyamorous Elders: Planning for Your Future

Send us a textIntrigued by polyamory but unsure how it translates to long-term relationships? Especially as we age?Today, we're venturing into the world of thriving polyamory in your golden years. Joining us is the amazing Kathy Labriola, a therapist, nurse, and author who's been living the poly life for 50 years! Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, One of my fav's , The Jealousy Workbook, The Polyamory Break-...

07-11
49:34

The Alchemy of Pleasure: Transforming Relationships with Sasha and Moritz

Send us a textLet's be real: navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can be thrilling, confusing, and sometimes downright messy. But no worries! We've got power couple Sasha and Moritz on deck to spill the tea on building a strong ENM connection.With refreshing candor, they peel back the layers on cultivating extraordinary intimacy. You'll discover practical strategies for courageously expressing desires, setting boundaries, and managing the inevitable ups and downs with grace. Their approach t...

06-27
01:09:47

First Date Fun: Navigating Non-Monogamy with Humor and Insight

Send us a textFirst dates in the non-monogamous world? We've got you covered!Join Ellecia and Danny for a hilarious and informative exploration of navigating this unique dating scene. From conversation starters (forget the weather!) to open communication, this episode equips you with the tools to feel confident and empowered.What to expect:Break the ice with questions that spark real connections: Learn how to ask engaging questions about someone's journey into non-monogamy and their existing ...

06-13
01:00:10

From Strict Religion to Ceremonial Celebrations: Dan's Story

Send us a textImagine growing up in a world where love had strict rules, only to break free and discover endless possibilities. This is the story of Dan and Jennie, a married couple who defied societal norms to embrace ethical non-monogamy.For over 30 years, Dan and Jennie have navigated the challenges of leaving behind their conservative religious roots and exploring swinging and polyamory. In this honest and heartfelt conversation, Dan shares their journey, from dealing with shame and judgm...

05-30
01:04:38

Unpacking the Relationship Escalator: Lessons from 2 Decades of Ethical Non-Monogamy

Send us a text What if everything you thought you knew about relationships was wrong? Our guest today has been openly non-monogamous for over 20 years, challenging assumptions about love and intimacy every step of the way. Get ready to question societal rules and create connections that actually work for you.Over the past two decades, Brandon has navigated the intricacies of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy. He shares his journey - one filled with hard-won lessons on communica...

05-16
44:24

No Rules Polyamory: Exploring Pleasure, Tantra and Sex Magic

Send us a textCan sex magic really help you manifest your desires and enhance pleasure? In this candid conversation with Lona, a neo-tantra teacher and sexual bliss coach, we unravel the mysteries behind this esoteric practice. Lona shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, kink, and somatic therapy as gateways to deeper fulfillment. We explore the challenges of her transition from a decade in a monogamous relationship to forging her own path of "no rules" polyamory. Lona explains h...

05-02
45:29

Beyond Fairy Tales: Real Connection Strategies Unveiled

Send us a textToday, we're challenging everything you thought you knew about love with Adam Lyons, a world-renowned dating coach and psychology expert who's turning traditional views on their head.Adam argues that love isn't just an emotion; it's actually deeply rooted in science, specifically tied to the chemical oxytocin. He'll share how understanding the triggers of attachment, attraction, and happiness can completely transform the way we approach dating and relationships.Adam has a fascin...

04-18
58:06

The Marathon Problem: Overcoming Fears to Embrace Non-monogamy with Poly Pocket Podcast Ep. 72

Send us a textWelcome to a candid exploration of the highs and lows of the non-monogamous journey, especially after the significant life transition of divorce. If you've found the path to non-monogamy leaving you with more questions than answers, feeling both overwhelmed and intrigued, this episode is for you.Joining me today are Hunter and Butcher, the insightful duo behind the Poly Pocket Podcast. As a married, UK-based couple navigating polyamory with children, they offer a relatable and s...

04-04
01:03:53

From Polyamory to Monogamish: Relationship Coach Gets Real About Polyamory, Ep. 71

Send us a textWelcome to a heart-to-heart with Shelby Avann, where we peel back the layers on relationships, intimacy, and the magic of healing. Shelby isn't just any relationship and intimacy coach. She’s a Reiki healer too, with a knack for weaving spirituality and science into a transformative blend that empowers women to deepen emotional intimacy, shake off codependency, and wave goodbye to loneliness.In today’s chat, Shelby gets real about her own love life adventures. She's journeyed fr...

03-21
46:48

Polyamory Pitfalls: Handling Jealousy in Non-Monogamy with Ali Hendry, Ep. 70

Send us a textJealousy: the green-eyed monster we've all wrestled with at some point, and the surprise guest in many non-monogamous relationships. But what if jealousy isn't the adversary we've been conditioned to believe? This week, relationship coach Ali Henry joins me to unwrap the layers of this complex emotion, promising to take you on a journey from apprehension to enlightenment. We'll share laughs, personal stories, and Ali's expert insights, transforming jealousy from a stumbling bloc...

03-07
45:07

How I Learned to Embrace Abundance in Non-Monogamous Relationships, Ep. 69

Send us a textHey friends! We’re going on a journey with Nicoletta Heidegger, therapist, sexologist, and host of the "Sluts and Scholars" podcast, as we chat about the world of non-monogamy on my latest podcast episode. Nicoletta opened up about her 7-year exploration from monogamy to embracing a non-monogamous lifestyle, sharing the raw challenges she encountered along the way. From aligning with partners who share her vision to battling the need to feel "special" and dismantling a scarcity ...

02-22
48:58

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