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In this episode we talk about how Letting go of control, comfort, and old coping patterns isn’t easy. Change asks us to allow, to trust, and to let in — all things that can feel terrifying if we’ve spent years surviving by keeping walls up. In this episode, we talk about how to know when it’s time to loosen control, why “fine” isn’t the same as fulfilled, and what helps us feel safe enough to soften. Because true courage isn’t about forcing change — it’s about allowing growth to happen where safety and honesty meet.  THREE TAKEAWAYS 1. Letting go isn’t giving up — it’s trusting yourself enough to stop forcing outcomes. 2. Safety comes from consistency, empathy, and ownership — not control. 3. Real courage begins when we allow vulnerability to meet safety.                      The courage to stop managing everything begins with one brave thought: maybe I’m safe enough now to let go.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words      Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

In this episode we’re talking about the truths we often avoid — the ones that feel too heavy, too risky, or too painful to face. These are the truths about ourselves, our relationships, and our lives that we push aside in the name of comfort, control, or keeping the peace. But avoiding them doesn’t make them disappear. It only keeps us stuck in the very patterns that drain us. Together, we’ll explore why these truths are so hard to look at, how they show up in everyday life, and what begins to shift when we stop running from them. If you’ve ever felt that quiet nudge that something isn’t working — but you’ve been afraid to name it — this conversation is for you. Three Takeaways 1.    Clarity is freeing, even when it hurts. Avoiding truth costs you more than facing it. 2.    Truth builds self-trust. Every time you admit reality, you strengthen your ability to handle it. 3.    Facing truth is an act of courage. And it opens the door to healing, better choices, and peace.   Avoiding truth  doesn’t protect us.  It only drains us, leaks out sideways, and keeps us living smaller than we’re meant to.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour       Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!      

When you begin doing deeper work on yourself, the questions start coming: Why do I feel guilty when I take care of myself? Why does setting boundaries suddenly feel so frustrating? Why do I feel like I can’t tolerate certain people anymore? These moments can feel unsettling—but they’re actually signs that you’re waking up to yourself in new ways. In this episode, I invite you into a gentle reflection process with questions designed to spark curiosity, not anxiety. Through real-life examples, we’ll explore boundaries, emotional honesty, self-care, belonging, and confidence—helping you notice where you are on your journey without judgment. These aren’t tests. They’re invitations. Three Takeaways 1.    Questions are data, not verdicts. The feelings that surface when you reflect—guilt, frustration, relief—are clues to your growth, not proof of failure. 2.    Intimacy starts with honesty. Pay attention to when your words and your heart line up—and when they don’t. That gap reveals where safety is missing. 3.    Small promises build trust. Even tiny acts of follow-through (like going to bed when you said you would) lay the groundwork for deeper confidence.   Looking away  kept you safe before.  Looking honestly will set you free now.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!    

In this week’s episode, I answer some of the most common questions I’ve heard as both a therapist and coach. From knowing when you’re settling, to why we ignore red flags, to what to do when boundaries aren’t respected, these struggles show up for almost everyone at some point in their relationships. Through plain-spoken answers and real-life examples, you’ll learn what these dynamics look like in everyday life and why they’re so hard to recognize. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re giving too much, staying quiet to keep the peace, or struggling to show up authentically, this episode is for you.    Three Takeaways 1.  The questions we ask about relationships often reveal where we’re struggling with boundaries and self-trust. 2.  Patterns from childhood can make unhealthy behavior feel familiar—and easy to excuse. 3.  Building healthier connections starts with noticing what feels off and having the courage to honor it.   Settling isn’t always about things being terrible—it’s about silencing yourself so it feels fine.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!          

Sometimes what we call “helping” is actually about managing our own anxiety or steering someone else’s choices. In this episode, we explore how love and care can get tangled with control—often without us realizing it. We’ll look at how this shows up in long-term relationships, and how it can sneak in early with new partners or friends through behaviors that feel supportive on the surface but chip away at our independence underneath. Together, we’ll unpack the subtle differences between support that strengthens us and control that weakens us. You’ll walk away with practical tools to spot the difference, reflect on your own patterns, and learn what healthier support really looks like—so you can offer it, and recognize it when it’s given to you.    Takeaways Why intentions and impact don’t always match when it comes to “helping.” The subtle signals that distinguish genuine support from hidden control. How to show up in ways that build trust and independence in any relationship.      Real support builds trust. Control chips away at it.      Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

Not all unhealthy relationships announce themselves with yelling, cheating, or dramatic fights. Many of the most damaging ones chip away at us quietly—through subtle behaviors we often brush off or explain away. In this episode, Mary unpacks the small but powerful signs that can leave you feeling drained, doubting yourself, and unsure why something feels “off.” You’ll learn why it’s so easy to miss these quiet warning signs, how they impact your confidence and boundaries over time, and what you can begin doing differently. This conversation is about tuning back into your own gut, trusting what you feel, and deciding what belongs in your life—and what doesn’t. Three Takeaways 1.      Some of the most harmful relationship patterns are the ones that don’t look obvious at first. 2.      Your body often senses the truth before your mind is willing to admit it. 3.      Paying attention to the “small stuff” is what protects your peace of mind in the long run.     A healthy person listens.  An unhealthy one gets defensive.  That’s your clue.         Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!  

Today’s guest, Jimmy Warr-Mize, has a story that’s anything but typical. From his early days as a self-described jack-of-all-trades to being featured in Forbes, interviewing celebrities, and representing billion-dollar brands—he’s done the big, shiny things. But what makes Jimmy’s story powerful isn’t just what he’s accomplished. It’s what he’s learned along the way. I found his videos awhile back and just fell in love with his message, but also his vibe.  His incredible energy, humor and directness make his “daily reminders” powerful messages to sit with each day.  In this conversation, we talk about what happens when success feels empty, the cost of living inauthentically, and why so many people—no matter their title—feel stuck and disconnected from who they really are. Jimmy shares how grief, growth, and truth-telling changed everything for him, and why he’s now on a mission to help others find their way back to themselves.      Not everyone’s ready  for the deep work— but everyone deserves a message  that reminds them it’s possible.     Jimmy Warr-Mize :   https://inspiredbyjimmyl.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspiredbyjimmyl/     Tiktok: @inspiredbyjimmyl         Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!  

This new month is all about being, being still, and having the bravery to be your authentic self.  Well, in order to do that, we HAVE to reconnect with our feelings and truly be able to sit with them, or we simply cannot truly be in touch with ourselves.  That’s why I’m so excited to have Claire Garner on the show today, because that’s just what she does! Claire is an Intuitive Emotional Healing Guide who helps people feel their emotions with clarity and compassion—so they can stop looping in pain and finally shift the patterns that keep them stuck. She’s the creator of the Intuitive Emotional Healing framework, a practical and body-led process that teaches people how to understand, work with, and release the emotional energy underneath their thoughts and behaviors. Through private sessions and her online community, The Conscious Heart Academy, Claire helps people build emotional resilience, deepen self-trust, and create a more peaceful, aligned relationship with themselves.    The healing doesn’t come from pushing through. It comes from  pausing long enough to feel.  To grieve. To get honest. That’s how we stop  abandoning ourselves.     Claire Garner:   https://www.intuitiveemotionalhealing.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intuitiveemotionalhealing/     Tiktok: @intuitivemotionalhealing      Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour  

In this episode, we explore how your nervous system, subconscious, and body are constantly scanning for emotional safety—even when your logical mind doesn’t quite know why something feels off. You’ll learn why your body might respond to subtle relational red flags long before your brain catches on, especially when someone seems kind, generous, or emotionally available on the surface. These intuitive hits aren’t irrational—they’re rooted in lived experience, stored patterns, and how your brain and body protect you. We also look at how disconnection from your body often starts in childhood—when you had to override your instincts to survive or stay connected. As adults, this can make it harder to trust yourself, your gut, or your internal signals. But healing doesn’t require perfection—it starts with quiet awareness, small check-ins, and beginning to believe your body again.   Three Takeaways: Sometimes what feels “off” isn’t about logic—it’s your body remembering what it learned before you could name it. The people who drain or confuse you the most often disregard your boundaries in subtle ways. Emotional safety is felt, not proven. You’re allowed to trust what your body is telling you.   Your nervous system doesn’t need evidence.  It needs you to listen.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!        

EP297: Can I Trust Me to Show Up? In this episode, we take a close look at something we don’t talk about enough: the quiet ways we drift from ourselves. We often pride ourselves on being reliable, supportive, and present for others—but what happens when we’re not offering the same loyalty inward? This isn’t about harsh self-criticism or impossible standards. It’s about noticing the gap between what we say we want and what we actually follow through on when it comes to our own needs, boundaries, and truth. We explore why we tend to abandon ourselves in small ways and how that adds up over time—not because we’re weak, but because we were taught to survive that way. This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about remembering how to listen, recommit, and rebuild the trust you’ve been craving from within. No drama. No shame. Just one small, self-honoring moment at a time.   Three Takeaways: 1.     There’s a big difference between being dependable for others and being dependable for yourself. 2.     The small moments where you follow through—or don’t—have a bigger impact than you think. 3.     Rebuilding self-trust doesn’t require perfection, just consistent presence and gentle repair. Top of Form Bottom of Form    Every small promise you keep to yourself matters. That’s how the healing begins.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

In this episode, we explore what it means to be stuck in survival mode—mentally, emotionally, and physically—and how many of us are living from a place of fear, habit, and urgency without realizing it. Survival mode can look like over-functioning, people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, or just constantly pushing through. It’s often the result of trauma, chronic stress, or a childhood where it wasn’t safe to slow down or have needs. But while survival mode may have helped you get through hard times, it’s not meant to be a permanent way of life. We also talk about the path forward—how to reconnect with your body,  calm your regulate your nervous system, and start living in alignment with who you really are. Reclaiming your power doesn’t require a life overhaul. It starts with small acts of self-ownership, and choosing from who you are—not just who you’ve had to be. If you're ready to move beyond coping and step into grounded, empowered living, this episode will give you tools, language, and encouragement to begin.   3 Key Takeaways: 1.   The way you’ve been functioning might be more about surviving than truly living. 2.   There's a powerful shift that happens when you start making choices from a different place. 3.   Sometimes the smallest moments—how you breathe, how you pause, how you check in—can change everything.   Survival mode helped you get through. But you weren’t meant to live there  forever.      Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!      

In this episode, we’re diving into what it really means to trust yourself—especially after years of self-doubt, people-pleasing, or putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own. Self-trust isn’t about always having the answers or getting it right every time. It’s about knowing that you’ll show up for yourself, tell the truth about what you feel, and make choices that honor your inner knowing, even when it’s hard. You’ll hear about why so many of us learned to look outward instead of inward, how subtle self-betrayals can build up over time, and what it actually takes to come back to yourself. If you've been stuck in second-guessing, this episode will meet you with honesty, compassion, and a clear path toward repair.    Three Takeaways: 1.     Rebuilding trust with yourself starts in small, often invisible moments. 2.     There's a big difference between keeping peace and keeping your truth. 3.     The way you respond to yourself in failure matters more than the failure itself.   Approval feels nice in the moment. But true peace comes from trusting yourself.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

In this episode, we take a deeper look at the slow, often unnoticed ways we begin to disconnect from ourselves—especially when survival, acceptance, or love seemed to depend on it. Whether it started in childhood or in a past relationship, the moment you began second-guessing your gut or hiding your truth was likely a moment of self-protection. But over time, those small choices can add up to a life that doesn’t quite feel like your own. We’ll explore how shame, emotional detachment, and a need for approval can pull us away from our true voice—and what it means to gently start coming home to yourself. You’ll be invited to reflect on your own turning points, not with judgment, but with curiosity and compassion. Because the goal isn’t to blame yourself for how you’ve coped—it’s to recognize that you now have the power to choose something different.   Three Takeaways: 1.   There are moments in your story that quietly shaped how you relate to yourself - and they’re worth revisiting with fresh eyes. 2.   What feels like a personality trait might actually be a survival pattern you no longer need. 3.   Reconnection doesn’t happen in a single breakthrough - it’s a series of tiny, loyal choices to stop leaving yourself behind.     Coming back  to yourself isn’t dramatic. It’s in the quiet choice to stop abandoning yourself -  even in the small moments.         Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

In this episode, I sit down with Derek Lakin, a mindfulness teacher and Awareness Guide whose journey from deep depression to emotional resilience is nothing short of powerful. Derek opens up about the moment he nearly ended his life, and how a last-minute suggestion from his therapist led him to try ketamine therapy. But what truly transformed his life wasn’t just the treatment—it was the years of mindfulness practice that allowed him to receive its lessons, integrate emotional tools, and slowly rebuild a sense of self-worth, presence, and purpose. We explore what it really means to meet yourself where you are, especially when anxiety, shame, or disconnection make that feel nearly impossible. Derek shares how practical mindfulness practices helped him stay grounded, begin to trust life again, and ultimately teach others to do the same. If you’ve ever struggled to just “be” with your emotions, or you’re looking for tools that go deeper than surface-level advice, this conversation offers hope, honesty, and a way forward. Three Key Takeaways 1.      The most powerful shifts often start with one uncomfortable moment of stillness. 2.      Healing isn’t about striving—it’s about learning to listen differently to what’s already inside you. 3.      There are tools that can help you feel grounded, even when life feels completely untethered.   The moment we stop trying to escape discomfort  is the moment  we start accessing  real power.     To contact Derek:  https://www.mindfulnesschangeslives.com/     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect with their true selves. Christine shares insights on what real healing can look like, why getting unstuck doesn’t have to mean reliving old pain, and how she helps people move forward with clarity and purpose. This one’s for anyone who feels like they’ve been spinning their wheels and wants to understand what’s really in the way. Three Takeaways: 1.      You don’t always have to talk something to death to heal it. 2.      Feeling stuck is often a sign that something deeper wants attention. 3.      The right support can help you move through what’s hard—without carrying it forever.   Getting unstuck isn’t  about trying harder -  It’s about finding what’s really in the way. -Christine Roslund     To contact Christine: https://beingtrue2you.substack.com/     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!  

In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being “helpful,” “productive,” or “strong.” Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others’ emotions, or numbing out with distractions, these patterns are not bad habits - they’re survival strategies we picked up when it wasn’t safe to feel or express ourselves. We look at where these behaviors come from, why they served a purpose, and what they’re costing us now. We discuss gentle, practical ways to begin recognizing and shifting these patterns. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of why it’s hard to stay with yourself emotionally and how beginning to do so—even for a few seconds at a time—is a powerful act of healing.     We don’t always notice when we’re abandoning ourselves – it can look like overdoing, over giving, or overcommitting.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!  

Today, we kick off the month’s theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it’s not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protection may have once helped us survive, but now they’re keeping us from living a grounded, authentic life. You’ll learn how disconnection often hides behind busyness, anxiety, or over-responsibility, and how the journey back to yourself starts with small, intentional moments of presence. We also talk about how this month, we will be talking about practices like EMDR and mindfulness can support this healing process by helping us gently return to our bodies, emotions, and inner truth—without shame or overwhelm. Three Takeaways 1.     Disconnection is a survival response—not a personal failure. Many of us learned to tune out from our emotions and bodies because it didn’t feel safe to stay connected. 2.     Busyness, people-pleasing, and overthinking are often symptoms of deeper emotional avoidance. These patterns are how we manage discomfort—but they keep us from our truth. 3.     The path back to yourself starts with presence. A single breath, a named feeling, or a brief moment of stillness can begin to rebuild trust with your inner world.                          When stillness feels unsafe, we don’t slow down – we stay busy, reactive, or numb. Not because we want to – but because it feels safer than what we’d have to feel. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you’re not alone. Emotional honesty isn’t something we magically access. It’s something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in real time—and why you can’t build connection in relationships where conversations feel like landmines. We’ll talk about the difference between environments where your truth is welcomed, and the ones where it’s quietly shut down. You’ll learn what to look for when testing emotional safety, how to practice small moments of truth-telling without overwhelm, and why the healthiest people in your life don’t just put up with your emotions—they make space for them. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of performing and ready to start showing up more fully and honestly.   Three Takeaways 1.     You can’t be emotionally honest in relationships where you’re always bracing for impact. 2.     Emotional safety isn’t about being coddled - it’s about knowing your truth won’t cost you connection. 3.     Practicing honesty in safe relationships rewires your nervous system and helps you reclaim your voice.   That’s what safe belonging does. When honesty feels  like a risk, what you’re in isn’t connection— it’s survival mode.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!    

We’re often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that’s not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We’re more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. In this episode, we’re exploring how safe belonging, not just fitting in, but being truly accepted becomes the foundation for real change. We’ll dig into how the nervous system responds to connection, why we’re more likely to take risks when we feel emotionally secure, and what happens when that belonging is missing or conditional. You’ll also hear how to tell the difference between false belonging (where you shrink to fit in) and true belonging (where you expand to be yourself). If you’ve ever wondered why change feels impossible in certain relationships - or why you suddenly feel more capable in others - this episode is for you.   Three Takeaways 1.    The body needs to feel safe before the brain can take a risk. Belonging calms fear and unlocks courage. 2.    You can’t be brave in environments where you’re trying to survive. Safety isn’t optional, it’s foundational. 3.    True belonging allows you to make choices that reflect who you are, not just who others expect you to be.   That’s what safe belonging does.  It doesn’t just hold you-it helps you come back to yourself  and move forward as the version of you who finally feels free to grow.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

So many of us believe we should be able to be brave on our own. That courage is something we’re supposed to summon from within—without asking for help, without needing anyone. But what if that idea is quietly keeping us stuck? In this episode, we look at what really fuels courage, and how our early experiences with connection—or the lack of it—shape whether we can move forward when life gets hard. We’ll explore how some of the ways you “get in your own way” might actually be protective patterns rooted in past disconnection. And we’ll talk about why courage is so much easier to access when we feel truly supported, seen, and safe. You don’t have to hustle harder to find your courage. You might just need the right kind of connection. ________________________________________ 🔑 Three Takeaways: 1.         Courage requires co-regulation. You’re wired to feel safer when you're connected to others—and this helps you face fear. 2.         Early relational wounds create protective behaviors. What looks like self-sabotage might actually be an old survival strategy. 3.         Belonging fuels belief. When we feel truly supported and seen, we’re more likely to believe in ourselves and take the next brave step.   Feeling truly connected doesn’t just comfort us, it literally rewires us to be braver.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143   Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!