Sometimes what we call “helping” is actually about managing our own anxiety or steering someone else’s choices. In this episode, we explore how love and care can get tangled with control—often without us realizing it. We’ll look at how this shows up in long-term relationships, and how it can sneak in early with new partners or friends through behaviors that feel supportive on the surface but chip away at our independence underneath.

Together, we’ll unpack the subtle differences between support that strengthens us and control that weakens us. You’ll walk away with practical tools to spot the difference, reflect on your own patterns, and learn what healthier support really looks like—so you can offer it, and recognize it when it’s given to you.

 

 Takeaways

1. Why intentions and impact don’t always match when it comes to “helping.”
2. The subtle signals that distinguish genuine support from hidden control.
3. How to show up in ways that build trust and independence in any relationship.

 

  

Real support builds trust.

Control chips away at it.

 

  

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