Parenting teenagers untangled. 🏆 The audio hug for parents of teens and tweens.

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40: Exam revision - Parenting through the pressure.

2023-04-2837:59

Send us a textIt's pre-exam time of year again, and oh boy it's tough for our teens.Does yours have a colour-coded revision schedule, carefully-timed breaks, and a confident spring in their step? Maybe they don't seem to be doing enough revision, and you're the one panicking? Or are they losing their sh## with everyone in the house and struggling to stay on top of it?Both of us have teens currently revising for important exams, so we thought it might be helpful to chat about how we support th...

29: Step-children. Coping, and thriving, with a blended family.

2022-12-1228:52

Send us a textHaving your own child can feel like an overwhelming responsibility at times,but when you become a step-parent it's even more complicated. The child may feel resentful because they didn't ask for a new parent, their biological parents are likely to have issues with each other, and then there's our own needs in a new relationship. Ultimately, step-parents can offer a really wonderful addition to the lives of our bonus children. How we go about it can make all the differe...

28: Parties for teens and tweens. Invitations, gatecrashers and alcohol.

2022-12-0733:25

Send us a textParties can be life-enhancing, joyous, and a wonderful chance to meet new people, but when it's for a teenager it can have a touch of the wild west about it. For parents who understand the risks it can feel easier to say no, but if we think through all of the issues - and discuss them with our teens - there's far less chance things will go horribly wrong.Our website has a free checklist of things to cover when planning your party. RESOURCES USED:https://raisingchildren...

18: Lying teenagers, and teens who complain that they've got it harder than their siblings.

2022-07-0650:58

Send us a textHave you ever caught your teenager lying to you? Let's face it, lying is part of everyday life. In fact an entire film was made on the premise of a lawyer incapable of telling a lie for 24 hours. The result is comedy, but we all know that it can be serious. Our challenge is teaching kids to be truthful to us when it matters, and to be able to tell the difference between the sorts of lies that oil relationships in a healthy way and the ones that will ultimately end up ...

17: Favourite parent; and how to respond when teenagers want to ‘express’ themselves? Blue hair? Tattoos anyone?

2022-06-2346:32

Send us a textDo you have a teen at home who's all sweet and loving with one parent, but treats the other like they're a bad smell? Karen says she feels like running away because she's walking on eggshells in her own house, with a daughter who is rude to her but sweet and kind to her husband.Why do they do it and how can we, as both a parent and partner, make things better for everyone? Also, it's been around since the Ancients: Personal expression using hair dyes, make-up, nail varnish,...

16: Boy friendships, and supporting our sons in forming positive friendships. Also what the %#*!😳 we should do about swearing?

2022-06-1647:42

Send us a textWhen we covered the issues of friendship groups, with girls in mind, we had a massive reaction from parents who have been struggling to understand what's going on. Now it's the turn of boys. When friendships work, they are extremely beneficial, but what causes boys to struggle with their mates, and how can we help them?Also, how do you deal with swearing in your family? Is it absolutely forbidden, does it matter who's doing it and when, or are you all a bit potty-mouthed? We loo...

6: Body image and chores: Helping teenagers to develop a positive body image. Also, getting your teenager to do chores without nagging.

2022-02-0531:14

Send us a textA healthy body image: Feeling happy and satisfied with your body and what it can do. An unhealthy body image: Highly self-critical, comparing their body to others and obsessing about some aspect of it. Beauty and body image are universal triggers for shame. Shame is a deeply painful sensation from the belief that we’re not good enough and will not be accepted by a group.Influences:Family environment,Ability/disabilityAttitudes of peersSocial mediaCultural backgrou...

1: Your parenting toolbox and tidy teen rooms: Rummaging in your toolbox and how you get your teenager to tidy their room.

2021-12-1624:12

Send us a textJust when you thought that you’d got the hang of parenting, your child changes again... and now they're a teenager.In this episode, we have a rummage in your parenting toolbox to work out what’s in there, and how useful it actually is.And in Tangling with your Teenager, we gather all of your suggestions to answer Natalie’s question. ‘How do I get my son to do what I say, and tidy his room?’Answers range from taking the door off to pretending there are mice in the room.Do you hav...

1: What's in your parenting toolbox, and how do you get your teenager to tidy their room?

2021-12-1624:121

Just when you thought that you’d got the hang of parenting, your child changes again, and this time it’s a teenager. In this episode, we have a rummage in your parenting toolbox to work out what’s in there, and how useful it actually is. And in Tangling with your Teenager, we gather all of your suggestions to answer Natalie’s question. ‘How do I get my son to do what I say, and tidy his room?’Answers range from taking the door off to pretending there are mice in the room.Do you have any tips, or any great stories that will teach us what not to do?We'd love to hear from you, including any questions you'd like answered?Email us now: www.teenagersuntangled.comOr find us on https://instagram.com/teenagersuntangled?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Experts mentioned in the podcast:👉🏻Www.aricsigman.com👉🏻Jesper Juul: Your Competent ChildThanks for listening. Creating this podcast has been transformative for our family lives; we hope it does the same for yours. Please subscribe if you like our podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit.You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message.Our website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact us:www.teenagersuntangled.comSusie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:www.amindful-life.co.uk

118: Suicide: How to talk about it with teens, and offer proper support.

2024-12-1844:58

Send us a textIn a recent column in The Times, Caitlin Moran wrote about how five young men in her social circle have taken their lives in the past 18 months. She's not alone. My daughter has experienced this, as has Bernadette's son, the listener who contacted me to suggest I cover it in an episode. In the UK, the leading cause of death for men under the age of 50 is suicide, and the statistics in the US are even worse. Boys are particularly vulnerable, and we know that there's the risk of s...

117: Community: It takes a village to raise a child... as long they do it my way.

2024-12-1132:56

Send us a textSo many of us bemoan the loss of a village, but do we really know what we mean by that? Being in a village or community requires us to give as well as take; often not on our own terms. It also means that we have to brush shoulders with people who might have radically different viewpoints from us on things like politics or religion. Many of us have got used to our busy, overscheduled lives, and don't have time to offer what's needed to create community, whilst complain...

116: Girls: Talking with teens about beauty standards, entitlement and misogyny

2024-12-0432:10

Send us a textEncouraging our kids to make the most of themselves is a vital job for parents, but how do we talk with girls about the barriers they face? From the subtle expectation that girls and women be humble to the not so subtle focus on their worth based on body parts and beauty, we parents are left with a tricky path to tread. We want to encourage our girls to be bold, and try to achieve their dreams, but how do we do that without being honest about the pitfalls of being ambitious, and...

115: Bullying or bravery? The dangers of cancel culture.

2024-11-2733:25

Send us a textThe suicide of a young man at Oxford University has prompted a warning letter to the UK Government about 'cancel culture' on campus. The review into his death 'identified evidence of a concerning practice of social ostracism among students, often referred to as a cancel culture,' according the coroner.'[The review's] evidence was that this behaviour, where individuals are isolated and excluded from social groups based on allegations or perceptions of wrongdoing, poses a signific...

114: Friendships, frenemies and boy banter. Parenting our teens through the relationship pitfalls.

2024-11-2047:57

Send us a textFriendships, and fitting, in are everything to teenagers. You could argue that understanding the dynamics, and supporting our kids through the turmoil of the teen years, is one of the best things we parents can do. Former Headteacher of 18 years, Andrew Hampton FRSA, is no stranger to the issue. He's not only raised two girls he's also had to deal with the fall-out in school when friendships go wrong. Having set up the organisation, Girls On Board, which aims to educa...

113: The damage of an emotionally immature parent

2024-11-1334:29

Send us a textIf we genuinely think about how many of us are emotionally mature before we become parents the number is probably pretty low. The act of caring for someone else, and having to manage our own feelings, can be incredibly challenging, particularly when we were raised by parents who were immature themselves.Being able to spot the difference between being emotionally immature, and the normal pressures of parenting, can be really helpful. We all have outbursts at times; we're human. T...

112: Masculinity and image: the Looksmaxxing hashtag that boys follow but parents don't see

2024-11-0631:33

Send us a textWhat we see on TikTok often starts on message boards in fringe groups then spills over into the mainstream. This is true of the Looksmaxxing social media trend that's been gaining more and more currency among teen boys. The goal of looksmaxxing is to meet a set of criteria for physical attractiveness, with a focus on the eyes, jawline, and physique and the ultimate currency is SMV, or Sexual Market Value. There are some really positive elements to the trend, but its originated i...

111: Boundaries: How to set them and why they’re so important.

2024-10-3038:54

Send us a textBoundaries exist, regardless of whether we're conscious of them or not. The first place we experience them is in our own home, and the way they are created, managed and enforced can set us up for a lifetime of healthy relationships, or difficulty coping with other humans. In this episode Susie and I discuss what a boundary is, how we uncover our own boundaries and create and uphold healthy ones within our own families. It's a fascinating area for us parents who were raised in an...

110: Motivation: How to motivate your teenager. An interview with eminent Psychologist David Yeager

2024-10-2352:31

Send us a textWhen kids hit puberty they become driven by a core motivation that many of us adults don't fully appreciate. It's not simply fun, or sex; they're looking for experiences that give them social status and respect. According to David Yeager, author of 10-25: The Science of How to Motivate Young People, a societal belief that teens and young adults are lazy and incompetent causes us to misunderstand the power of this motivator. When parents, teachers and employers get it wrong they ...

109: Parenting stress - in our 'culture of comparison' - is now 'a major health issue'

2024-10-1636:30

Send us a textOver the last decade, parents have been consistently more likely to report experiencing high levels of stress compared to other adults, according to a report issued by the US Surgeon General, Dr Vivek Murthy. According to the advisory, 'When stress is severe or prolonged, it can have a harmful effect on the mental health of parents and caregivers, which in turn also affects the well- being of the children they raise. Children of parents with mental health conditions may fac...

108: How to parent complex kids with ADHD or other differences

2024-10-0934:15

Send us a textHow to parent kids who struggle with ADHD, anxiety and lifeNobody wants their child to struggle, but it's inevitable at some point. Many of the problems our kids face will be part of a well-worn path through the teenage years.But some kids have more complex needs. Parenting them can be far more challenging, and require a far great draw on our own resources, which is why I've been looking out for advice that will help those of us who find ourselves in that situation.Having read t...

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Parenting teenagers untangled. 🏆 The audio hug for parents of teens and tweens.