Queer Collective Podcast

What if love and attraction aren't the same thing at all? In this episode, we’re joined by Cody Daigle-Orians, aka Ace Dad Advice, an asexuality educator, influencer, and author who’s here to help us break down asexual and aromantic identities with humor and heart. From discovering your ace identity to navigating relationships outside society's romantic and sexual norms, Cody offers insights, ally tips, and myths debunked. Buy Cody's Books: https://acedadadvice.com/books Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW CODY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/acedadadvice/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@acedadadvice?lang=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@AceDadAdvice/featured Website: https://acedadadvice.com/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 02:19 How did you discover asexuality? 07:32 What does it mean to be asexual/aromantic? 09:48 What are the sub-categories of ace/aro 16:51 What are the signs you might be ace/aro 19:38 What is compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity? 23:50 Asexual or just low libito? 27:12 Common misconceptions 31:34 What can ace/aro teach us? 37:10 Relationships & sex 44:39 Queer platonic relationships 49:21 Managing partner expectations 52:02 Key to successful relationships 54:24 Advice for youth 01:00:55 Marginalization of ace/aro people 01:08:44 Health disparities for ace/aro folks 01:13:46 How can we be better allies?

The nitty-gritty of surrogacy—how it works, why it matters, and what the queer community needs to know. We’re joined by Nici, co-founder of Hive Surrogacy, who’s here to speak on queer birthing, the dark side of the global surrogacy industry, and what it’s like to be a surrogate herself. Is surrogacy empowering, exploitative, or a little bit of both? Let’s talk ethical baby-making, power dynamics, and why surrogates deserve way more credit (and probably cash). Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW NICI Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hivesurrogacy/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 01:11 The role of a surrogacy agency 02:35 Who seeks surrogacy? 06:10 What's the surrogacy process? 13:03 Traditional vs Gestational surrogacy 15:05 How much does surrogacy cost? 22:05 Is exploitation a concern? 31:21 Can surrogacy be unethical? 34:35 Why not just adopt? 41:14 The good and bad of surrogacy 49:11 What makes a good surrogate? 1:00:33 Do surrogacy babies suffer trauma? 1:05:48 What supports do surrogates need? 1:07:27 Bonus audience question 1:09:02 Advice for couples seeking surrogacy

Humanity’s oldest, most suppressed queer identities, 2-Spirit. Tiktok star Chelazon Leroux and actor/model Haley Robinson tear open the wounds of colonial erasure and reclaim the beauty of being both Indigenous and Queer. From navigating intergenerational trauma to confronting settler microaggressions, they expose the raw truth about what it means to exist at the intersection of queerness and indigeneity. This isn’t just a conversation, it’s a call to unlearn everything you think you know about queer history. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW CHELAZON Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chelazonleroux Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelazonleroux/ FOLLOW HALEY Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@og.robinson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/og.robinson10/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 Overview 02:41 Growing up Indigenous 10:56 What is 2-spirit? 16:02 Is 2-spirit accepted in communities? 23:33 Being 2-spirit AND queer 27:36 Indigenous culture 32:21 Colonial and religious indoctrination 37:45 What intergenerational trauma destroys 41:50 long lasting impacts of trauma 51:12 How the government is at play 56:38 on reserve vs off reserve 01:05:58 microaggressions you might be using

Transvestigation conspiracy theories are targeting women athletes. Are trans athletes really threatening fairness in sports, or is this just another excuse for exclusion? We’re joined by pro-athlete and gender nerd Tyra Blizzard to break down the myths, misinformation, and the shady politics behind it all. From Olympic scandals to TERFs being TERFs, we’re here to give you the tea on trans participation in sports and why it matters. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW TYRA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tyrablizz/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tblizzy?lang=en FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com  

What happens when your home turns hostile? We dive deep into the raw realities of LGBTQI+ refugees with activist Latoya Nugent, who fled Jamaica with the help of Rainbow Railroad. From persecution to queer liberation, learn about the global trends in anti-LGBTQI+ violence, how resettlement systems are failing refugees, and what it’s like to ‘prove’ you’re queer enough to escape. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA RAINBOW RAILROAD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rainbowrailroad/ Website: https://www.rainbowrailroad.org/donate FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

Was it agriculture, capitalism, or the patriarchy that pushed us into "pair bonding"? Are humans actually wired to stay faithful, or is cheating in our genes? We'll dissect scientific theories, challenge old-school narratives, and maybe even giggle a little about group sex and jealousy. Whether you’re team monogamy or polyamory curious, this episode is your ticket to understanding the wild, wonderful world of human connection. Get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about love and human nature. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com  

The AIDS epidemic. There's a fierce stigma that still lingers, and the raw, real-life experiences of those living with HIV are often portrayed negatively. Our fabulous guest, Myles Sexton—a queer fashion nomad and HIV activist—shares their powerful journey, slaying myths and spreading love. From dating advice to radical vulnerability, this episode serves the tea with a side of empowerment. Let's break the stigma and discuss HIV/AIDS. Download DoorDash: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/doordash-food-delivery/id719972451 Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW MYLES Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylessexton/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com  

Society loves boxes, but what if they don’t fit? Dive into the fabulous world of non-binary identities! Featuring Heath V. Salazar, aka "Gay Jesus," and Halal Bae from Canada’s Drag Race, we explore gender beyond the binary, tackle misconceptions, and celebrate the joy of being non-binary. Whether you're new to the concept or living it, this episode is your gateway to understanding and embracing non-binary fabulousness. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW GAY JESUS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theirholiness/ FOLLOW HALAL BAE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/halal.bae/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

From indoor vs. outdoor work to the Nordic model’s pitfalls, we deep dive into the real sex worker experience. Discover why sex work is a queer issue and how allyship can transform lives. We explore what sex workers truly need from the law and society. Tune in for an enlightening, candid, and a bit cheeky conversation that shatters myths and celebrates sex worker resilience. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT MAGGIES Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maggiestoronto/ CONTACT JENNA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dejennarate/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com  

Are we seeking male validation or is it all just comp-het? Unpack compulsory heterosexuality with Tyra Blizzard, the dynamic author and pro basketball player. We’ll explore queering relationships, smashing societal expectations, and Tyra’s own journey beyond the binary. Tune in and start deprogramming your comphet through an insightful talk into the heart of queer love and identity. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA The Gender/Sexuality Journal https://www.thegendersexualityjournal.com/ CONTACT TYRA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tyrablizz/?hl=en Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tblizzy IN Magazine: https://inmagazine.ca/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

Coming out later in life can be both nerve-wracking and exhilarating. We dive into this journey with our fabulous guests, queer sex educator Eva Bloom and Toronto’s own sapphic pop diva, Ralph! From battling imposter syndrome to navigating intense first loves, we'll cover it all. Whether you're a "late bloomer" or simply queer-curious, this episode is packed with insights and a sprinkle of glitter. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT RALPH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/songsbyralph/?hl=en CONTACT EVA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatsmybodydoing/?hl=en CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

We're diving headfirst into the question: Are periods solely a “women's issue”? Join the conversation as we explore the often overlooked world of trans menstruation. From unraveling the mysterious history of menstruation to empowering you with ways to degender your menstrual vocabulary, we're covering it all. Plus, we'll be sharing personal insights into the trans menstruation experience and shedding light on the critical intersections of period poverty thanks to our guest Elgin Pecjak (petz-yak) (he/him), who is a queer, trans researcher. He is finishing up his Ph.D. at University of Ottawa in Feminist and Gender Studies on the topic of reproductive technology use among transgender and gender diverse AFAB folks. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT THE PERIOD PURSE Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/theperiodpurse/ Website: https://www.theperiodpurse.com/links.html CONTACT ELGIN Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elgin-pecjak-395a6421b/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eapecjak/ Academia.edu: https://uottawa.academia.edu/ElginPecjak CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

The data is clear: LGBTQ2S+ people are overrepresented at every stage of the criminal justice system and this is especially true for trans people, who are subject to particularly inhumane conditions and treatment while incarcerated. Today we’re taking a deep dive into the experience of being trans behind bars. We’re using the Canadian correctional system & our guest Moka Dawkin's story as a case study, but this reality is all too common and often worse across the globe. In Todays episode you’ll hear Moka’s story of wrongful conviction, her trans incarceration experience, and we’ll be discussing the systemic criminal justice issues that are plaguing our community. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW MOKA instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moka_dawkins/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

We're getting vulnerable as we delve into the complex experience of dating as a trans person. Throughout this episode you’ll hear from King, a trans man and Ms. Myles, a trans woman, about their personal journeys and realizations. From navigating positives and negatives, to addressing issues of disclosure, fetishization and violence, we’re going to cover it all. & we hope you stay with us until the end, as we’ll be closing things off with some valuable advice. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT OUR GUESTS King: https://www.instagram.com/king.https/ Ms. Myles: https://www.instagram.com/ms.mylesmua/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

The world of kink. What is the psychology behind our deepest desires and fetishes? We are joined by academic Pat, an advocate for sex positivity and consent. From overcoming shame to exploring play parties, get ready for an eye-opening conversation. Discover the art of embracing taboo desires and forging connections in this exhilarating journey through Kink 101. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Polyamory episode 2: https://youtu.be/BE1zSWobjQ8 Polyamory episode 1: https://youtu.be/wn9hVnP_haQ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

What the heck is heteroflexible? we are joined by Maceo Paisley on a journey of self-discovery and celebration. We'll define this sparkly term, explore its roots in sexual exploration and debate its place in the LGBTQ2S+ community. From personal anecdotes to societal perceptions, discover the allure and complexities of identifying as heteroflexible. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Is Bisexuality Queer Enough? https://youtu.be/Ey2eOg_kjiY?si=CX4LUU33AaHbHGr5 MACEO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maceopaisley/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

Shannon Burns, the vibrant host of Virgin Radio's midday show, joins us dive deep into the world of pop culture. From queer awakenings, to dissecting queer baiting, Taylor Swift and Sam Smith, we explore how pop culture shapes identities and ignites social change. Get ready for a dose of wit, wisdom, and a splash of rainbow as we navigate the fabulous intersection of music, movies, and queer empowerment. CONTACT SHANNON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsshannonburns/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsshannonburns CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

Another tantalizing dive into the world of polyamory with the fabulous Yaz (@yazthehuman). From navigating differing desires to drafting those infamous relationship contracts, we uncover the pros and cons of polyamory with a dash of wit and wisdom. Get ready to swipe right on poly dating, find your inner compersion, and laugh your way through jealousy's rollercoaster ride. It's time to redefine love and laughter, one relationship at a time. CONTACT YAZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yaz.thehuman/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

The colorful world of alternative drag! 🌈 we chat with Toronto's drag creatures Anne Alien and Yovska about being trans in drag, pushing boundaries, living outside the norm, and shaking up the drag scene. From shocking performances to inclusive language debates, this episode is a wild ride you won't want to miss! Get your wigs ready and join us for a queer and quirky exploration of drag's vibrant spectrum. This Podcast is sponsored by Vizzy Hard Seltzer CONTACT ANNE ALIEN https://www.instagram.com/anne__alien/ CONTACT YOVSKA https://www.instagram.com/yovska/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com

The vibrant mosaic of the mixed-race journey with Kelcy Timmons Chan, the whimsical queer pop artist and mural painter. Discussing the sense of belonging and family dynamics, we explore the intersection of identity and artistry. From managing stereotypes to embracing authentic selves, Kelcy's kaleidoscopic perspective illuminates pathways to inclusivity and self-discovery. Join us for a colorful conversation that's equal parts insightful and fabulously queer! This Podcast is sponsored by Vizzy Hard Seltzer! CONTACT KELCY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mixt.paints/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com