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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!
Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too!
But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.
To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/
Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too!
But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.
To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/
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I was recently reminded of one of the most profoundly powerful parenting tools available to us: compassionate listening. Deep, compassionate listening is what allows your children to communicate their feelings, talk about their pain, and explore ideas. What would it be like to know you are the person who helps them do this? Join me this week to learn why practicing compassionate listening leads to deep connection with your children. As a bonus, this also works with your spouse, co-parent, coworker, or friends, and the best part is it’s surprisingly easy to begin implementing into your everyday life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/172
As parents, we’re attached to the expectation that our kids will have the same convictions and beliefs that we have. But as they grow up, they might choose a lifestyle, religion, or ideology that differs from the one we've modeled for them. Many of us struggle to hold space for this possibility, and it can leave us dysregulated or tempted to withdraw. Join me this week as I show you how to navigate differences in beliefs and values between you and your children. You’ll learn the power of agreeing to disagree and how to foster deep connection with your kids, even when your opinions deviate. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/171
A few weeks ago on the podcast, I shared an amazing coaching conversation with my client Valeria, where we talked about navigating fear and anger in parenting, setting limits, and connecting before correcting. Since that conversation, Valeria has told me she's experienced a massive transformation in her parenting, so I wanted to have her back to discuss it. This week, Valeria is sharing the game-changing skills she’s learned that have changed her household dynamic from power struggle to peace and calm. You’ll hear how modeling emotional regulation is a long-term investment in connecting with your kids, why our children need rules delivered with discipline, not punishment, and how powerful it can be to intentionally practice tolerating uncomfortable emotions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/170
Like so many parents, you might believe being reactionary in response to a power struggle or disagreement is hardwired into you. Maybe it's how you’ve always operated, or it was modeled in your home growing up. But what if it didn't have to be that way? What if, even in the midst of a storm, you could learn to pause and respond thoughtfully rather than react out of dysregulation? Join me and a panel of Hive members – Kate, Tina, and Neil – as we explore the art of pausing and responding. You’ll learn how the skill of pausing and responding creates a deep connection with your kids, and what it really looks like behind the scenes to learn and practice it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/169
One of the most common challenges that coparents face is figuring out what to do when you and your coparent aren't on the same page. I recently had a coaching call with a couple with very different parenting styles and I’m sharing the breakthroughs that came out of our conversation on this episode. Listen in to hear how your childhood wounds might be colliding with your coparent, why those wounds can cause you to become dysregulated, and how to build awareness around where you might be projecting your wounds, experiences, and perceptions in a way that isn’t helpful. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/168
I’m always reminding parents of how rules and limits help our children to thrive and feel empowered, but what do you do when it comes to actually enforcing the rules you’ve set? If you have strong-willed kids, find yourself losing confidence, or struggle to enforce consequences consistently with firmness, this episode is for you. You'll learn my top seven strategies for enforcing limits that peacefully stick, the importance of setting rules while you're calm and rational, and how to guide your children toward responsible behavior while respecting their autonomy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/167
Our kids are going to be using technology much earlier and more frequently than we ever did. This isn't all bad, but navigating the world of technology is uncharted territory for many parents. I’ve got the perfect expert on the show this week to share his wisdom with us. Forest Bronzan is the founder and CEO of Camplight, a membership for parents raising kids in a world shaped by technology. In this episode, Forest and I explore what parents often get wrong when it comes to our children using technology, how to set limits, and the importance of reflecting on the behaviors you’re currently modeling for your kids. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/166
Parenting can often feel like a juggling act of meeting career demands, managing household chores, and raising kids. If you’re wondering how to start requesting help from your kids around the house or you're experiencing pushback from them, I'm here to offer a lifeline this week. Join me as I share my top tips for introducing your kids to household chores. You’ll hear where parents go wrong in requesting household help from their children, how to better manage your expectations, and some ideas for making household chores rewarding for your kids. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/165
1Valeria has two boys, ages two and five, and when she reached out for help navigating some storms, fears and anger at home, we decided this would be the perfect opportunity to share some live, Real World Peaceful Parenting coaching with you. Tune in this week for a front-row seat to our coaching conversation as we explore what it means to set limits around what our children are developmentally capable of, why we must let go of guilt, and how to bear witness to your child’s storm without falling into fear or anger. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/164
So many of the lessons I've learned in parenting boil down to a simple idea: the better we know ourselves, the better we can show up as parents. Emily Wardrop is an Advanced Certified Life Coach who is joining me on this episode to share the power that identity work has had on her parenting journey, and how her devotion to it has transformed her family. Join us as Emily and I discuss why our identity is something we must explore, the importance of being mindful of how we assign our children’s identities as parents, and how identity work and self-regulation coincide. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/163
Even if you’ve never formalized your family values or put them to paper, you parent around them just the same. If you want to empower your children, create harmony at home, and ultimately build a stronger family, clearly defining your values will help you make this dream a reality. In this episode, I explore the power of defining your family values and using them as your compass for navigating the world. I’ll share some tools for coming up with your own family values, and show you how to use them to guide your family toward the best possible decisions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/162
Awareness is the compass that guides you toward self-regulation as a parent. It is the first step on the path to understanding and managing your responses to your child's behavior, and by acknowledging and understanding your own triggers, you can stop reacting and start responding to your child. This week, I'm sharing some common thoughts that trigger reactive parenting so you can learn how to cultivate awareness in those moments of overwhelm, and make self-regulation a priority in your parenting journey. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/161
As much as we want to be able to influence our children through our words, the truth is kids don’t do what we say. They do what we do. Modeling is a powerful parenting tool that allows children to learn by example, and it's at the root of your children feeling seen, heard, and valued. Join me this week to hear how to model the behaviors, attitudes, and values you want to instill in your children, and the questions to ask yourself that will help you take inventory of what you’re modeling. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/160
If you’re an adult who has spent a lot of time and energy trying to recover from a stressful or dysfunctional childhood, you might find yourself wondering how best to nurture a secure childhood for your kids. Join me this week to learn the foundation of a secure childhood, and how doing this work helps you raise kids who don’t have to recover as adults. I’m showing you what a secure childhood might look like, and how a secure childhood sets the stage for healthy relationships, emotional intelligence, and resilience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/159
Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do when your kids make a mistake, or how to show up as a regulated parent who holds their child in high regard, even when they fail? This week, I’m diving into a fundamental trigger of parental dysregulation—our kids' mistakes—and exploring how to use self-regulation to address them in a healthy way. Tune in to discover how embracing the concept of self-worth is the backbone of self-regulation, how integrating it into your family culture will lead you on the path to peaceful parenting, and my two-step process for minimizing the impact of your children's flaws on themselves and others. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/158
Fear is a huge part of the parenting experience and it can show up in a variety of ways for us. Parenting fear affects our decision-making process, shapes our thoughts, and even how we get along with our kids. So, how can we use it for connection instead of control? Listen in this week as I’m joined by Hive members Dina, Kris, and Viv to discuss how we can better manage our fears as we raise our kids. They’re sharing their experiences of parenting fear, how they’ve learned to self-reflect, self-regulate, and resist the urge to deflect their fears onto their children, and the power of using their fear to cultivate connection and co-regulation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/157
At the beginning of each year, I like to declare a theme that guides the parenting work we do. My ultimate goal for 2024 is for all of us to become emotionally mature, and the skill of emotional maturity begins with one important practice: self-regulation. Listen in to discover why I’m committed to a year of self-regulation in 2024, and how to model it for your children. I’m offering three reasons why you too should be committed to improving your self-regulation skills, and showing you how self-regulation grants you access to your higher brain, fosters calmness, and enhances your overall well-being. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/156
Most parents, if we're honest with ourselves, have had thoughts like, “My child doesn’t respect me,” or, “My child is so disrespectful.” Respect needs to be earned, not demanded, and it takes time to unfold. So what do we really mean when we expect respect from our kids, and are we using that expectation as a weapon against them? Listen in this week to discover how demanding respect could be damaging your parent-child relationship, how your unconscious rules of engagement are fostering a divide with your kids, and my tips for cultivating healthy, two-way respect within your family. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/155
The holiday season is an intense, stressful time for many of us. That’s why I’ve got the perfect holiday gift for you this week. Join me this week to hear the best gift you can give yourself and your children this holiday season. You’ll learn what happens when you hold yourself to impossible parenting standards, the power of offering yourself a new start every single day, and why you don’t ever need to be the most perfect, enlightened parent. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/154
Creating connection with our children can happen pretty naturally when we're spending quality time together. But how do you continue to build connection during the mundane, day-to-day time? I’ve got some effective connection-creating tools to share with you in today’s episode, and it all starts with how you talk to your children and nurture their self-esteem. This week, I’m sharing how your communication might be unintentionally causing your kids stress and affecting their self-esteem, and how to choose words that empower your children for the rest of their lives. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/153
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I love listening to Lisa. Her voice is so calming. There are days when my little one is storming. If I need a moment to myself I will listen to a podcast before diving back into mine my childs Mama. There is something about listening that helps calm my storm so that I can be better able to help my kiddo. Thank you Lisa for all of your hard work! You have helped transform my household.