Grief feels dangerous for male survivors — but avoiding it comes at a cost. In this episode, Tariq’s story reveals how burying grief turns into anger and exhaustion, and how permission to grieve can unlock real freedom. If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here. With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Denial looks like safety, but it’s really a trap. William’s story shows how denial numbs the pain of childhood abuse — and how it quietly wrecks work, relationships, and health. Discover why the brain clings to denial, and one simple way to start breaking free. If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here. With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door. If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity. If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here. With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life. If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here. With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living. www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
In this episode, Coach Thomas continues the journey of recovery, guiding you through the challenges of disclosure. Sharing your story can be terrifying—who do you tell? What fears hold you back? Tonight, we explore the barriers to disclosure and how opening up can be a powerful step toward healing. Tune in and discover another path to freedom. www.bettermalesurvivors.com
After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it! www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
Today's podcast Coach T is interviewed by Katie. Katie Koestner – First woman in history to speak out nationally as the victim of “date” rape. Cover of TIME magazine at age 18. Subject of movies on HBO and Lifetime. Outspoken activist and entrepreneur. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
Coach T works through emotional resonance and losses due to sexual trauma. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
Coach T ends the year discussion disruption with sexual satisfaction challenges from the CSA. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
Today Coach Thomas discusses a prevalent issue that came up in several male survivor coaching sessions last week. You are not alone! www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
It's that time of year when organizations as for interviews to help survivors as they struggle to make it through the holidays. Hope you enjoy the interview. Remember that until you take the steps to heal you stay in the same place. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
Coach Thomas discuss C-PTSD and workshop in Fiji on Sept 21-24, 2023. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
Coach T shares some raw live moments of his trip back home last week where the sexual abuse occurred, encounter with family perpetrator, and pain of protecting family member. It's real and raw. Safeplace digital magazine launch on Sept 2, planning workshop in Canada. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
Today's podcast: Some of us look grown up but aren't. We walk around with suits and briefcases and car keys and annuities. But inside, we are five. Ten. Twelve. Sixteen. This morning Coach T discusses arrested development where sexual trauma disrupted certain emotional development stages and we get stuck. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
This morning Coach T shares working with a client and turning chronic stress into optimal stress. He discusses a bit of neuroscience of riding the wave of adaptive stress to rest and recovery. He introduces Raj, the new digital magazine coming, and building more resources for male survivors. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
This morning Coach T pays a little tribute to two military survivors who have transitioned, rest in power. Men who were part of the Safe Place workshop and coaching crew recently passed. How sharing pieces of their story and working on the issues brought more freedom and sense of justice. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
This morning Coach T picks up on the second part of What It Takes! He shares signs and milestones to measure your healing from the trauma of the sexual abuse. He also talks about the the "Toddler's Credo" to help you as you work through issues. Also the possibility of doing live podcasts for insider members, where can call in and ask questions live. www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social
How long have you been procrastinating really working through the abuse issue? It Takes What I Takes to Heal: As a result of emotional trauma, we begin to feel numb, disconnected and lose our trust in others. It can take a lot of time for this pain to go away, and for us to feel safe again. If the trauma we’ve experienced is psychological, we may suffer from troubling memories, anxiety and emotions. Coach T starts with 5 steps to begin. www.safeplaceformen.com
Coach T asked by an insider about random sexual encounters he’s facing and what's possibly going on in the brain. Coach T will be heading over to the Insider’s Podcast to share on links between sexual addictions and our sexual abuse. Subscribe if you haven't. Also he shared more about the in-person July 7-9 workshop www.bettermalesurvivors.com @msurvivorsjourney.bsky.social