Yes? No? Maybe? Someday? Your head can be spinning! What to believe? How to decide? What to pay attention to? MIXED MESSAGES keep you hooked, questioning your sanity, and second-guessing yourself. One thing you CAN BE CLEAR about: you need to see those mixed message for what they are: CONTROL.It's tempting to focus on the parts of a mixed message that you SO want to be true. You can fool yourself that way. And, you'll suffer. Hopefully, this episode will help you with insights to stop all that. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:What kinds of mixed messages there areHow mixed messages can be delivered over time and/or in one sentenceExamples of mixed messages from parents & partnersHow you decide what part of a mixed message to believeI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #mixedmessages #manipulativecommunication #manipulatingmessages #mixedmessagesofanarcissist#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Whether you have a Hijackal parent, partner, sibling, or other of the narcissistic variety, knowing how they manipulate you with their voices is important to recognize. AND, they only do some of that manipulating consciously. Once you're aware of these important cues, you can refuse to be affected. GREAT!This episode will help you see how you're being subconsciously affected by the tone, pace, volume, and other cues that a Hijackal gives through their voice.HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:How your body reads the HijackalWhy your mind argues with your bodyWhy you need to know you can trust your body's wisdomHow Hijackals manipulate you with their voiceKnow what you're actually taking in...andKnow to trust your bodyI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #polyvagaltheory #neuroception #subconsciouslymanipulated #voicemakesmefeelunsafe #readingvoicecues#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Relief! Yes, you think you'll feel it when you leave an emotionally abusive relationship, and you will...in some ways. Then, in too many ways, the Hijackal is likely to do everything possible to exert continued control over you...and, over your children. Eight ways Hijackals continue to exert control. Is it happening to you?(NOTE: This episode ends abruptly due to technical issues.)HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:How domestic violence and domestic abuse can continue after separationWhat post-separation abuse is6 ways to prepare for after leaving a Hijackal ( or anyone who is narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, psychopathic, or sociopathic)How ACEs--Adverse Childhood Experiences--often follow separating from a HijackalPreparing to be safe after leaving an abuserI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #postseparationabuse #violenceafterIleave #narcissisticabuse #whathappensafterIleave #abuseafterleaving #leavinganabuser#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Who has told you what to do and how to do it? Who told you who you are and what you're worth? Did it include "shoulds" and shame? So important to recognize because it may be still playing a part in your life. Also, others can still tap into it, especially Hijackals. So many ways that narcissists and other Hijackals want to exert power over you, and do it by continuously shaming you, making you wrong, small, guilt-ridden, and diminished! Toxic shaming is one of those ways. See it clearly so you can reject it! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:Why you may not realize how many times you've been told you "should"Why "shoulding on yourself" is toxicThe myth of perfectionismWhat toxic shame isHow toxic shame is perpetrated Internalizing toxic shame I'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #shoulds #toxicshame #whatistoxicshame #hownarcissistsusetoxicshame #hijackalstoxicshame#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

People have learned that making another person feel guilty is a quick way to control that person's emotions...negatively. You may be so used to it and you haven't questioned whether or not you've actually done what you are being accused of. OR, even more sad, you've been blamed so many times you've begun to feel that EVERYTHING IS YOUR FAULT. That's what happened when a healthier human spends to long with a Hijackal parent, partner, OR WORSE, both! Clearly see this damaging tactic for what it is, and why it is effective SO you can say NO!!! to feeling guilty any longer. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:Why narcissistic folks want to manipulate you with guiltDifference between guilt and feeling guiltyReasons people want you to feel guiltyHow to stop feeling guiltyI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly seminar, AND an online Emerging Empowered Journal with prompts each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #wantyoutofeelguilty #makesmefeelguilty #guiltyisnotafeeling #guiltisaverdict #guiltproducing #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you're dealing with narcissistic Hijackals, you think one thing is in place, and the Hijackal thinks another. You think you have agreement and you sadly learn you don't. And, boundaries! SO important. Be clear what they are and how to manage them.Hijackals constantly move markers, and you need to know how to respond in healthier ways. Refusing to hold agreements or respect boundaries is emotional abuse in a relationship. Not acceptable, right? Know these distinctions and get very good at setting and maintaining boundaries. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why distinctions among expectations, agreements and boundaries are importantWhy boundaries need to be carefully thought throughThe most important thing after clarifying a boundaryWhy boundaries are essential when dealing with toxic relationships and emotional abuseI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #expectationsinarelationship #boundarieswithnarcissists #boundarieswithHijackals #whyboundariesareimportant#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

So confusing to be with a demanding person! Worse to be with a demanding Hijackal who feels entitled to take center stage while walking over you to do so. Recognize the signs of enmeshment and how they serve the Hijackal but fail to serve you. In fact, enmenstment can hurt you terribly, mentally and emotionally..Beware of people who say "I know you better than you know yourself." Hijackals love to think that, and say it, too! Not only is it gaslighting, but is untrue. BUT, they need it to be true so they feel in control and able to see a clear path to manipulation.and control. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What enmeshment is Signs you're in an enmeshed relationshipHow Hijackals and other narcissistic people use enmeshment and pretend it is loveWhy you need strong boundaries, well-expressed and maintainedWhy it's essential to cultivate honest, healthy autonomyI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #enmeshment #enmeshmentisnotlove #controloveryou #manipulationtactics #whatenmeshmentmeans#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Crazy-making? Oh, yes. Hijackals and other narcissistic folks can create havoc. You start second-guessing yourself, and even questioning your sanity. You can't tell which end is up or where you begin and end, either. Cognitive Dissonance plays a big part! If your relationship causes you to feel anxious, be paralyzed by self-doubt, or have difficulty making clear decisions, you're likely experiencing frequent moments of cognitive dissonance. Not healthy! It's crazy-making. So important to recognize what's happening, and start saying "NO!" HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How cognitive dissonance can cause you to feel like your head is about to explodeExamples of cognitive dissonance that narcissistic Hijackals createHow cognitive dissonance affects you & your view of your relationship What to do to reground yourself & stop believing the HijackalI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #cognitivedissonance #emotionalchaos #mypartneriscrazymaking #crazymakingbehavior #emotionallyconfusing#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How do Hijackals make you second-guess yourself and question your sanity? Basic to them doing that is the two patterns in this episode of Save Your Sanity. Recognizing them in all their forms can help you in Escaping the Hijackal Trap.Hijackals are ALWAYS defending themselves, whether they need to or not. They are ALWAYS DEFENSIVE. Always on the alert for anything that could vaguely pass as shame coming their way. That makes for a volatile, tense person laying in wait to accuse of thing they did not do. Sound familiar? Emotional intimacy is too much of a threat to a Hijackal, so they use these two big strategies to keep the truth from emerging. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Two HUGE blocks to emotional intimacy5 ways Hijackals deny the truthI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #preventemotionalintimacy #whynarcissistslie #whynarcissistsdeny #lyinganddenying. #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people--like to dish out and scatter disrespect whenever they want to demonstrate power and control. NO! That has to stop!In this episode, I'm offering you 8 solid ways to work within yourself and say NO TO DISRESPECT. Eight very good ways to reclaim your personal power and give voice to some boundaries. Listen in. These are MUCH NEEDED strategies!Respect means to have due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others. Do Hijackals offer that? NO! That's where your relationship with a Hijackal basically goes off the rails: they have no respect for you...or, for anyone else. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why & how to shift your internal dialogue with yourselfWhy not to buy into their attempts to upset youWhat to say to refuse the abuseHow to respond to their yellingI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #narcissistdisrespect #dealingwithdisrespect #noyelling #refuseabuse #respectme #respectforme#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Live with someone or raised by someone who was always finding fault? Always against something? Always putting you down? The wear and tear of these kinds of emotional abuse is immense...and continuous. See these ten chronic abuses you may not even realize are happening daily!Chronic criticism wears you down, tears you down, and gets you used to being put down. None of those are good things! If you had a Hijackal parent, and find yourself with a Hijackal partner, you'll have a lifetime of constant criticism leaving you to wonder if you'll ever be good enough. Have you experienced that?HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:10 emotional abuses that create constantly feeling criticizedWhy Hijackals, narcissists, etc. have to put you downExhausting ways Hijackals try to make you feel not good enough\How Hijackals are defensive and offensive simulatneously I'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #constantcriticism #notgoodenough #toomanyputdowns #chroniccriticism #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wonder why you feel so alone even though you're in a relationship? Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic folks--want to affect you, want to control how you feel. Abandoning you while with you creates a very lonely place. Notice these 6 ways so that you will be able to see them coming and not take them as personally.Hijackals are constantly searching for places to exert power and control. This episode will also help you to recognize that, although Hijackals make these things you're fault, they are NOT YOUR FAULT!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:How Hijackals--narcissists, and other toxic folks--desert you even when they're in the same room with youHow Hijackals show their lack of interest Why it's important to understand feeling abandoned when the person is still there6 ways this abandonment shows up in your relationshipI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Emerging Empowered Community now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #narcissistabandon #abandonment #emotionalabandonment #feelingabandoned #notalonefeelalone#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you're living in anxiety, you cannot think clearly, right? Hijackals love to cause anxiety. They think it gives them power, and they look for ways to control. In order to make good decisions about the relationship, you need antidotes to anxiety to recognize the emotional abuse. It becomes such an everyday thing, and usually only creates more anxiety. An antidote is a remedy to counteract, relieve or prevent the effects of something. Just what you need for "Hijackal bites!" And, those can stay open wounds for a long time unless you know how to close them and begin the healing process. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:List of signs of anxiety10 Hijackal ways designed to increase your anxiety10 antidotes that allow you to reclaim your personal power, and shift your toxic relationshipSome reasons why it is difficult to change your patterns...and, how to do it anywayI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #anxietyfromemotionalabuse #anxietyandabuse #antidotesforanxiety #relationshipanxiety #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When you recognize that it is emotional abuse that is driving these four debilitatiing --and, therefore, unhealthy-- responses to how you're being treated (or have been treated, particularly from your parents,) you are on your way to seeing your next best steps clearly. Listen in so you won't take the blame, or make excuses for, a person who is driving you to have these feelings.Being with a Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult person--is confusing, chaotic, and disappointing. The emotional abuse can go unnoticed for too long. See it for what it is by recognizing these four response now.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you feel exhausted in a toxic relationship4 ways you respond when being emotionally abused by a HijackalNever mistake possessiveness for protectivenessHow you internalize emotional abuse & the effects of doing soI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #emotionalabusedepression #depression #possessiveness #whyamIobsessedwithanarcissist #constantlythreatened#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Many Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people--make a big statement on Valentine's Day (and, any other day they want to secure your full commitment.) LOVE-BOMBING, strangely, is yet another kind of emotional abuse. Why? Because it's mostly show and no go! In this episode, learn more about love-bombing, recognizing it, and not falling for it. SO important to be aware of what's really going on!Ever felt so special, so cherished one day, and in short order, felt so devalued, discounted, and dismissed? You may have been love-bombed. Ever felt so taken care of only to find that you were actually being taken advantage of? You may have been love-bombed. It's hard to admit.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What love-bombing isWhy love-bombing is emotional abuseSigns of love-bombingWhy narcissists and other Hijackals love-bombHow love-bombing affects youI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #lovebombing #whatislovebombing #howhijackalshookyou #hownarcissistshookyou #narcissistsandholidays #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you allow yourself to acknowledge that you've been traumatized, or may have been? It's an essential beginning step for understanding why you feel a certain way, or have a particularly negative view of yourself. Emotional abuse can definitely create trauma within you. In this episode, you'll hear very specific information about trauma and how the body takes it in.When you are traumatized, you often have diminished ability to describe the feelings you have in words. You need to be able to do that to recover. Freezing and/or collapsing are ways to protect yourself by shutting down. You need to overcome the overwhelm of that. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:A definition of trauma and how it feelsWhy you simply stop talking about the trama to suppress itHow you find yourself outside of the community you need Why Hijackals--narcissistic and anti-social folks--need to isolate youI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #recognizingtrauma #emotionalabusetrauma #isolatingme #losingmysenseofself #traumaticmemory#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You want to be a good person, a nice person. Your parents probably wanted that for you, too. Yet, you find yourself on the receiving end of emotional abuse, and you don't understand what you did wrong.Nothing, likely! Hijackals--narcissists, anti-socials, borderlines-histrionics--look for "nice" people who they hope will bend over backwards to do things for them. Especially, they are delighted by enablers who go the extra mile to allow the emotional abuse of Hijackals.No need to wonder about those dynamics as you'll soon see when you listen to this episode. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why caretaking is not always a positive thingHow you get trapped to continue caretaking a HijackalRecognizing enabling so you can stop doing itEscaping the trap of doing for emotional abusers what they can do for themselvesI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community enablingemotionalabuse #enablinghijackals #dontbeanenabler #caretakingisnotalwaysgood #toonice#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You cannot get blood from a stone, and you cannot get emotional intimacy with a Hijackal. Yes, in the beginning of the relationship, they do a good job of imitating a person with whom you could develop that emotionally intimate connection that lasts a lifetime. No, they actually don't have either the capacity or the willingness to do it, though. Learn to recognize the clear signs of a person who will never let you close, or want to be close with you...because they are too emotionally immature. Sad. True. See these signs early in a relationship to prevent later pain.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What emotional maturity looks like in a relationshipWhy you cannot have emotional intimacy with an emotionally immature person11 ways emotional immaturity shows upWhy Hijackals cannot accept emotional intimacy but are comfortable with being emotional abusersI'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #signsofemotionalimmaturity #emotionalmaturity #noremotionalintimacy #emotionalimmaturitypreventsemotionalintimacy#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

You can begin healing even while you're in an emotionally abusive situation, small steps and nano-seconds of healing. Understanding my phases of healing from emotional abuse encourages you to begin and continue the healing journey. Wherever you are--even if you have not started the journey yet, seeing there is a pathway can help.If you want to be emerging empowered from a past or present in which you experienced emotional abuse, you need this episode. Understanding the blueprint and anticipating the process is wise, and will make you much less susceptible to going back to a Hijackal of any stripe....even a Hijackal parent! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Healing begins with realizing that and how you have been woundedThe three phases of the healing from emotional abuse processWhy it takes longer to heal than you want it toClearly see the patterns and ready for a change? I'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #healingafterabuse #stepstohealingafterabuse #healingafteremotionalabuse #howdoIhealfromemotionalabuse#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Too many times, you hope a Hijackal will be different. They may even promise to be, or seem to understand the need to change. But, it's just for a hot minute, right? These ten ways Hijackals generally behave are ones you need to believe will never change...no matter what is promised. Really!Hijackals and other narcissistic people are focused on meeting their own needs. Self-absorbed. Self-involved. Self-satisfyining. That's them. And, they want to control you and everything else they possibly can, especially in the home. Clearly see these patterns in them so that you'll recognize how frequently they occur. . HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Recognize how frequently these ten predictable behaviors show upDon't expect Hijackals to change. They almost never do.Narcissists & other Hijackals repeat these patterns to control you.Clearly see the patterns and ready for a change?  I'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community #narcissistslie #traitsofnarcissists #traitsofhijackals #whatnarcissistsdo #whathijackalsdo#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuseSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.