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If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I doing this healing thing right?” — this podcast is for you.Do you worry that you're 'falling back' or not moving forward if you get triggered or feel emotional about a past experience with family, an ex, or criticism even after you've begun personal growth? Does it feel like you're not healing or "healed" if you still struggle from time to time? Let's talk!Host Gillian Shields shares:what healing really is and how to know if you are healing or healedthe ONE things that sets apart people who are healing and those who are not (even if they have it seemingly good in life)Gillian also shares more details about her new book coming out later this year!Join the newsletter, The Conscious Corner to:Be the first to know Gillian's new book's titleGet pre-released excerptsGet a Behind The Book piece where Gillian candidly shares why she wrote the book and why it was her most challenging book to write yet.Gillian's InstagramGillian's Books

Struggling with a difficult, distant, or estranged relationship with a parent? In this powerful episode, host Gillian Shields explores why many adults still long for their parents to change—and how that desire can keep us stuck in pain. Discover compassionate insights and empowering tools to help you find peace, and build a fulfilling life—regardless of your relationship with your parent.Resources mentioned in this episode:The book: This Is Gratitude Stay updated and get pre-release content on Gillian's next book coming out this Fall by joining her newsletter, The Conscious Corner.

Feeling judged or criticized by your family for being true to yourself? In this episode, host Gillian Shields shares three powerful tools to help you stay authentic and find happiness, no matter what others think. Tune in for practical advice on how to embrace your individuality and make life choices that feel right for you.Join Gillian's news letter: The Conscious Corner for monthly guidance and special content about her new book coming out this yearBuy Happy BoundariesBuy This Is GratitudeGillian's WebsiteGillian's Instagram

Have you ever struggled to decide if you should stay or walk away from a difficult relationship with a family member, friend, or romantic partner? I have! And my decision making process used to be a complete mess. How I make decisions now is totally different. I now do it with confidence and without regret. In this episode, I share: 4 popular factors that I used to highly consider when it comes to staying or walking away from a relationship. These 4 factors although felt big, typically left me more confused and in more pain. 3 factors I use now that lots of people don't fully consider. These 3 factors have led me to a completely different decision making process and made my life so much better. Join my newsletter, The Conscious Corner for monthly guidance on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences.My books that relate to the topic of this episode:The Dating Pattern CureHappy Boundaries

People either sink or they rise when a personal crisis or disaster hits. Today, I talk about becoming the one who rises. Whether your crisis is a breakup, being single, toxic family, a friend who betrayed or let you down, or a career let down, what's the difference between sinking or rising? I share 3 things that helped me become my most resilient self yet, and go on to have a better life than I did before difficult events hit. Join my newsletter community The Conscious Corner for monthly guidance on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences and my favorites. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode's poll. What's your take on the role of your own perception on how you feel about a difficult event?

Going home for the holidays is a great feeling for some. But for others, it’s a feeling of discomfort and even dread. Choosing to not go home for the holidays or visit some people can be a decision that comes with a lot of feelings - doubt, guilt, frustration, and burn out. This used to be my emotional experience. Since then, I’ve done a lot of work to honor my goals, growth, and happiness during the holiday season. You can too. In this episode, I talk about: The reason I don’t always go home for the holidays (or any other event, etc.) The two main factors that contribute to my reason The honest truth about what really creates your happiness during the holidays Shop my holiday book sale to get 20% off any of books, including Happy Boundaries Join my newsletter, The Conscious Corner. The content will help you change your life for the better after difficult relationship experiences just by reading it! Let's go deeper: Visit this episode's webpage and participate in the multi-question poll.

Healing advice - you see it everywhere and from everyone. Whether it’s from friends, family, therapists, mentors, coaches, or a person you don’t know on the internet, people who want to help you feel better will share healing advice. I started my own healing and transformation journey over a decade ago, and I’ve heard it all. Some advice helped, and others really did not. In this episode, I share 4 pieces of healing advice that never worked for me versus what did when it came to turning around my life and healing from toxic relationships and feeling hurt by the actions of others. In this episode, I talk about: How to know if a piece of healing advice is best for you and your situation Acceptance vs. tolerance of other people’s actions and where they are at in life Alternative perspectives to get better after a difficult relationship How to disentangle yourself from dysfunctional people and situatons The most helpful question you can ask yourself to find out if a piece of healing advice fits well for your situation Enjoy! Resourced mentioned in this episode: DEAR HATERS HAPPY BOUNDARIES Join my newsletter, The Conscious Corner for a monthly transformational message on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences plus my monthly favorites.

Welcome to Season 4! Gratitude is often thought of an ‘OG happiness tool’ by therapists, researchers, coaches and mentors, and pretty much anyone else who wants to help you with feeling better about life. Why? Because practicing gratitude works at improving our well being. Despite all the research and books written about the power of gratitude, there’s a lived experience about practicing gratitude that I often don’t see talked about. The truth is that for many people (including myself), practicing gratitude hasn’t always brought on a happier feeling about life. We might go through the steps of gratitude, but not really get there in feeling. If this is your experience, then I know you’ll love this episode. In this episode, I talk about: What is gratitude What blocks you from getting to a true state of feeling grateful 5 things that you may have not considered that can help you get to gratitude now 2 things I believe are most important to helping you feel grateful and happy even if you aren’t truly grateful for ‘everything’ My new guided journal-book hybrid, This Is Gratitude Enjoy! Join my community: I would love to have you be a part of my newsletter community, The Conscious Corner. You'll get a monthly message about finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences as I share more behind-the-scenes of my life and help you with thought-change, and emotional, psychological, and spiritual wellness. I also share my monthly favorites in lifestyle & enjoyment, memories, and personal transformation. Let me know what you think: Go to this episode's webpage and participate in the multi-question poll. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Summer has been different, in a good way. In this episode, I talk about: Summer reading and what I've been up to this summer Releasing pressure and FOMO about "Having the best summer" Surprising ways I've felt this summer that I didn't expect How I unintentionally created more peace and still accomplished goals The one perspective I return to when deciding on boundaries for my life and relationships My surprise for you coming this Fall! Join The Conscious Corner - I'd love to have you be a part of The CC Crew, my newsletter. You'll get a monthly message on finding love, freedom, and success after difficult relationship experiences and my monthly favorites in lifestyle & enjoyment, memories, and personal transformation. Resources mentioned in this episode: My book, Happy Boundaries "What you might not know about boundaries" - podcast episode with Erika Mason Get more details about this episode and tell me what you think by voting on the episode's questionnaire

In today’s episode, I hold an incredible conversation with Erika Mason about boundaries. Erika is a holistic Occupational Therapist, spiritual and energetic coach and healer, Akashic Record consultant, and more. She has been doing energetic and intuitive work for over 20 years, and through her work, she has seen a very clear link between chronic pain and other health issues, and lack of boundaries. Erika and I discuss what you might not know about boundaries and share perspectives that will inspire you to use boundaries for a healthy and fulfilling life. In What you might not know about boundaries, we discuss: My new book, Happy Boundaries, coming out later in June 2024 How boundaries relate to your emotional, psychological, and physical health What your energetic and chakra system can tell you about your boundaries How to effectively navigate feelings or guilt and anger surrounding boundaries and when people don’t respect yours What boundaries (and lack thereof) mean for your soul and your spiritual growth How boundaries come into play as a parent, partner, friend, and individual How to heal from people who criticize, disrespect, and dislike your boundaries (what I call, Boundary Resisters) Erika's website Erika's 50% off link for listeners Erika's Instagram Gillian's Newsletter, The Conscious Corner Gillian's Books Gillian's Instagram To listen on the NEW So This Is Love Podcast website and get more episode details and resources, go HERE.

In today's episode I share with you what I've been up to and: * 3 things you can do to move into self love, specifically when it feels difficult * What is really means when you're struggling with self-love * The connection between the self-concept and your tangible goals like loving relationships and success. Enjoy! For more info and to buy my self-love course, LOVED: https://www.gillianshields.ca/loved My free e-letter community, The Conscious Corner for women becoming better than ever for a better-than-ever life. Gillian's Books Gillian's Instagram

A short, but powerful episode for anyone who feels too afraid to fly and soar in life after adversity, emotional hurt, and difficult relationship experiences. Free Email List Community: The Conscious Corner My book: The Dating Pattern Cure Instagram

In today’s episode of So This Is Love, the podcast, I hold a powerful conversation with life coach Emily Hart, who shares her story of using heartbreak for change after her fiancé broke off their engagement 3 months before their wedding. Emily shares her dating and relationship pattern, how she became aware of it, and what she did to change her love life around. Together, we discuss: ·        How to know if you have a dating and relationship pattern that doesn’t align with your desire and joy ·        The most important factors to create change in your love life, instead of repeating a pattern ·        How to begin developing a healthy self-relationship ·        How to use the post-breakup space for pure magic Emily’s Instagram Emily’s Website Gillian’s Instagram & Website Gillian’s Pre-Release Book Community for The Dating Pattern Cure

In this episode of So This Is Love, the podcast, I have powerful conversation with Patsy Berridge, who shares her journey into sobriety after a childhood full of competition, and losing her brother from suicide. Patsy explains how being a highly sensitive person who had no knowledge or developed skills about emotional regulation, led her to use alcohol beginning at the age of 12 to cope with her feelings. We talk: ·        What is emotional intelligence? ·        How to become an ‘observer’ of your emotions ·        How to calm and regulate your emotions and body ·        Top pieces of wisdom to start and continue on a growth journey into emotional intelligence ·        What really worked for Patsy on her path to sobriety and emotional intelligence Patsy on Facebook and Instagram Gillian on Facebook and Instagram Gillian's free guidance subscription The Conscious Corner

In this episode, I have a beautiful conversation with women's empowerment coach, Maria Cottrell. She shares her story of how she shifted her career as a nurse to becoming a life coach after being diagnosed with bladder cancer at the age of 34. Together, Maria and I share: How to start making a passionate career shift without burnout or going into survival mode Our most important internal shifts to make a career shift happen with more ease and flow. Get in touch with Maria: Maria's Instagram Gillian's spaces: Gillian's Instagram Gillian's Facebook The Conscious Corner Free subscription guidance space Life With Gillian - free e-letter series for real life magic

We’re back with Season 3! In this episode, I share with you 6 beautiful, life-changing messages I got this summer. Whether it was through my own personal experiences, or what I saw my clients experience, these messages of summer shifted how I lead my life. In this episode I share about: ·       How I got the second edition of my book, The Dating Pattern Cure, written by working less and having it be way more enjoyable and fun than the first time around ·        A deeper truth about relationships with people who aren’t willing to love themselves, and what I chose to do about it ·        The secret to moving through change and challenge quicker and more connected to life than ever ·        The unobvious perspective that helps you heal and up-level when it seems like things are falling apart in life or in a relationship ·        The key to coming up from emotional hurt better than f*cking ever …and more! Stay tuned till the end part of this episode for an exciting announcement!! Thank you so much for listening! New and Now On: Phoenix ERA The Conscious Corner free subscription Life with Gillian Instagram Facebook

Welcome back to the podcast! This episode is so so special to me - it's the LAST episode of Season 2 and it's a deeply personal share that has powerful guidance. It's been an incredible season for me and I hope for you too! I am super excited for Season 3, which will begin later in the summer. In today's episode I share with you the grief I've been moving through over the last 2 months and how you can massively thrive in grief, coming out stronger than ever. Topics: * The different circumstances than can create a sense of grief * The two reactions that most people have in grief that don't allow full thriving, and how to change that! * 4 powerful codes that create thriving (not just surviving) through grief How to connect & work with me: Initial Private Mentorship Session (2 spots opening in June) LOVED - the self love foundation course My new Telegram community, The House of Self & Soul Join my cherished email list Instagram Facebook

In this episode I chat with the lovely Tina Marie, an incredible life coach & healer. She shares her story and we have an open conversation about: Her healing after losing a child, having parents with mental illness, and leaving a toxic relationship How to become conscious of your patterns and change them The power of your environment and circles The one important practice Tina taps into to maintain her joy and peace This was such a beautiful and powerful conversation, I hope you enjoy! Connect with Tina: Her website: https://www.loveguidesme.com Tina's Facebook Tina's Instagram Connect with Gillian: Website: https://www.gillianshields.ca Private Coaching Join my free community on Telegram: House of Self & Soul

In this episode, I have a special guest, Aveary Hamilton, a soul freedom coach. We met in a business program mastermind and discovered we had so much in common in our growth journey. In this episode, Aveary and I chat about: Our own journey of releasing unhealthy relationship patterns of codependency and toxicity to receiving a healthy love relationship The number one thing we feel is needed to start receiving healthy love The big things we now value in our love life and relationship, that we once didn't before we began growth work Connect with Aveary: Instagram @thesoulfreedomcoach Facebook Aveary Hamilton The Gold Dust Woman Program Connect with Gillian: Instagram @gillianshieldsxo Facebook @gillianshieldsxo The course to manifest your dream relationship - EPIC The course to build your self love foundation - LOVED Private coaching: email hello@gillianshields.ca Unwavered, my Free Email Community

In this episode I share: The fine balance between feeling your emotions & reality vs. recognizing when you are holding on to a disempowering story that now requires releasing My experience with being honest with myself The truth about using information/content to grow Why we get stuck in a story we no longer desire to be in and how to shift Current ways to work with me: Private Coaching & Mentorship - email hello@gillianshields.ca to inquire Transformational online courses My free email community for exclusive voice note guidance Free guide to quickly shift into self-love anytime, anyplace Instagram: @gillianshieldsxo