Stop Being an Asshole to Yourself

There's a silent epidemic affecting nearly every single person you know. We don't talk about it, but it makes our lives hell on a daily basis: being a total a-hole to yourself. On the surface, we function and appear to be fine and dandy, while internally, we beat the crap out of ourselves all day every day. Through neuroplasticity and cognitive behavioral techniques, this podcast is a guide for how to stop being such an a-hole to ourselves, and how to have our own backs no matter what.

17. Your Brain is Wrong About Being Nice to Yourself

If I stop being an a-hole to myself, I won't get to where I want to be in life. I have to be mean to myself for motivation.  If I stop being mean to myself, then I'll become inconsiderate. Or arrogant!  Being kind to yourself is self-indulgent. Ew, gross.  Hate to break it to you, but if this sounds like you, you're totally wrong. Listen to find out why, and what actually happens when you choose to stop criticizing and judging yourself.  Instagram: @stopbeinganassholetoyourself Book a FREE sesh! 

07-11
27:41

16. What does not being an asshole to yourself even mean?

So you want to stop being an asshole to yourself? Sounds great in theory, but what about in practice? On a daily basis? When you're frustrated, disappointed, or mad at yourself? In this episode, we get really clear about what not being an asshole to yourself IS and what it is NOT. Lofty transcendent state of endless self-directed bliss? Nope. Listen to learn exactly what being less of an asshole to yourself looks like. Listen to find out all you have to do to be less of an asshole to yourself that you are, spoiler alert, already very good at. Follow on Instagram @stopbeinganassholetoyourself www.podcasthole.com  

06-14
30:23

18. Expectations

Expectations can be dirty little joy thieves! But only because we take them very seriously.  Listen to find out the truth about expectations (you're in for a treat!), and how to stop your expectations from stealing your joy.

10-06
37:42

15. Your #1 Critic: You

Feeling crappy because that little a-hole voice in your head rips you apart every day? That doesn't have to be the case! Listen to find out how to de-escalate self criticism, decide what you want to think of yourself, and put that little a-hole in its place.

05-06
32:49

14. Criticism Doesn't Have to Suck

When you get criticized, does it feel like a punch to the gut? It doesn't have to! Criticism can be the fastest, easiest way for us to level up if we know how to work with it. Listen to find out how to mine criticism for gold without feeling like you're getting sucker punched. Episode summary at podcasthole.com Follow @stopbeinganassholetoyourself on Instagram for daily nuggets of wisdom.

04-28
33:12

13. Make Friends with your Friggin' Feelings

Listen to find out how to handle emotions like a champ, rather than like a chump. Your friggin' feelings don't have to get the best of you, and you don't have to run from them. Instead, you can learn how to process any and all feels FAST. Check out podcasthole.com Follow @stopbeinganassholetoyourself on Instagram for golden nuggets of wisdom on the daily.

04-14
26:29

12. Friggin Feelings

"I get so emotional, baby." Me too, Whitney. But, what exactly are emotions? Why do we have them? We're supposed to be happy as much as possible, right?!?! Listen to find out. Follow @stopbeinganassholetoyourself on Instagram for daily nuggets of wisdom.  Check out podcasthole.com.

04-06
38:11

11. Your Stories Aren't True

Once upon a time, there was an a-hole... Are you telling yourself crappy stories about yourself and the world? Learn how our stories differ from facts, why the stories you tell matter, and how to rewrite your a-hole stories. Follow @stopbeinganassholetoyourself on Instagram.  Check out podcasthole.com.

03-30
39:12

10. How to Get Rid of Imposter Syndrome

Here is your simple 3 step process to get rid of those pesky confidence-shaking, career-hindering imposter thoughts for good.  For more goodness, follow @stopbeinganassholetoyourself on Instagram and check out podcasthole.com.

03-23
38:56

9. Imposter Syndrome

Do you feel like you don't deserve your job, your relationships, the money you're making? And that someone might find out? It sounds like you've got a case of Imposter Syndrome.   Listen to find out what exactly imposter syndrome is, how many of us struggle with it, where it comes from, and what we think will solve it, which actually makes it worse!   For more goodness, check out @stopbeinganassholetoyourself on Instagram or Podcasthole.com

03-16
24:45

8. Acceptance for Assholes

Do you feel like you're fighting your way through your life? The answer = acceptance. But how can we possibly accept what we want to change? Listen to find out!

03-09
28:28

7. Interview: Goals & ADHD with Sarah of Crushing Adulthood

Former asshole Sarah, of Crushing Adulthood, figured out how to crush her work goals and make friends with her ADHD all in just over a year. Give a listen to find out how she doubled her income and how to stop being an asshole to yourself about your dream goals and diagnoses. 

03-02
36:51

6. Five Simple Ways to Cure Perfectionism

Perfectionism got you down? Had enough of feeling stuck? Tired of beating yourself up for being less than flawless? Great news - we can stop being perfectionists today. Listen to find out 5 Simple Ways to Cure Perfectionism.

02-23
34:12

5. Perfectionism is a Lie

Are you a perfectionist? We think perfectionism is the path to becoming our best selves, but it turns out that's a total lie. Listen to find out the truth behind the lie of perfectionism, and where the drive to become perfect comes from. 

02-16
20:32

4. Why are we a-holes to ourselves? And what can we do about it?

Let's cut right to it: why are we a-holes to ourselves, and what can we do about it? Listen to find out!

02-09
23:00

3. Making a Plan and Following Thru without Being an Asshole (Goals 3)

How do you guarantee that you'll get your goal DONE? Very simply, you make a plan, then don't be an a-hole to yourself so that you carry out that plan. But, when it’s time to plan and follow through, we get to deal with all the fun stuff: Commitment. Failure. Judging yourself. Giving up. Learn how to deal with all of the above.

02-02
39:04

2. Fear, Doubt and Indecision (Goals 2)

So, you've chosen a goal, now what? Your brain freaks out and you feel a bunch of doubt and fear! How do you make sure you have the best chance of actually following through? Listen to find out!

01-26
31:40

1. New Years Resolutions and Goals (Part 1)

Learn how to stop making resolutions like an a-hole, and how to make a resolution, keep it, and have your back no matter what happens.

01-14
26:52

19. Regret

Since time travel doesn't exist, we're screwed when it comes to regret.  JUST KIDDING! Regret doesn't have to be so painful. No time travel necessary. What makes regret painful and scary is a fundamental misundertanding of what regret is and how it works.  Listen to learn:  What regret really is (spoiler alert: it's not at all what you think it is. IT'S NOT A REAL THING.) How regret works (hint: it doesn't) How we can make regret so much less painful and less scary email: hithere@heatherthecoach.com IG: StopBeinganAssholetoYourself

02-27
38:38

Introducing a NEW PODCAST! "Maybe Different isn't Wrong"

Here's a preview of Heather's new podcast Maybe Different Isn't Wrong. Be sure to follow, subscribe, etc wherever you get your podcasts!  Laugh and learn about how to work with what makes you different with two hilarious ADHD life coaches (your host of Stop Being an Asshole to Yourself, Heather Collins, and Sarah, who was featured in Ep 7). 

11-30
40:01

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