Teach Me How To Love You Better

Teach Me How To Love You Better is back with Lesson 14. BJ is excited to present this really good conversation about protecting your hearts and bodies simultaneously. Today's lesson is called Using Proper Protection. This is a discussion that talks about the responsibilities we neglect when dealing with our adult urges and sexual needs while being single. Sometimes we experience needs before we find the person we would need to fulfill them. We also encourage our irresponsibility by proclaiming to be adults…as if we are capable to control the feelings and heartbreaks that come from other adults. This lesson was given to us by Coko, known as NeoSoulCoko of The NeoSoulCoko podcast. She gave us her personal experiences with dating and intimacy with several men. She kept it real. She told us how it benefits and hinders her. There are pieces of each that defined her actions NOW that she is ready to actually be committed to one person. Is it possible that because you don't have positive protection practices to use that a lot of us have lost our faith in love? This conversation really dug into that. We talked about how open we are with our friend with benefits. How we place restrictions on that friend, to save something for a relationship. And in doing so, it robs you of the fulfillment you are trying to get to by going around the relationship. We also discuss how much respect are you allowed to show someone you are just sleeping with. There is so much discussed in this lesson for men and women to get into. Press play and let me know what you think.

Lesson 13 of Teach Me is here. And this is not the usual conversation we have on this show. But its a talk point long overdue for discussion. Today's lesson deals with narcissism. We learn that this thing we are so critical of, when we encounter it in people, is actually considered a mental illness of sorts. And also bares so many merit based traits in all of humanity. But somehow it is weaponized against our women in some detrimental ways that BJ decided to discuss with today's instructor for this lesson. AJ Bad Ass Jones is the professor today, giving some very key flags that we often do not see in narcissists. Because they are known to be accomplished, charismatic, and extremely charming. These things can be overwhelming to a woman who does desire love and attention, while trying to focus on her improvements during the waiting process. AJ warns women of these tactics in typical Bad Ass Jones fashion: Honest, Raw, and Unapologetically. She held no punches. This lesson also introduced a new segment called The Love Language Barrier Breaker. This segment is created with the idea of finding creative ways within the other four languages, when the one in focus isn't working. We discussed Physical Touch, and how you accomplish this without using your hands. AJ gave tips on how men can step their intimacy game up without lifting a finger. She also gave a touch tip for women as well. This conversation was filled with great conversation, topic points, and takeaways that you will appreciate. Press Play and listen to us discuss these N Words reeking havoc on our women!!!!

Lesson 12 of Teach Me How To Love You Better is titled Feels Like I'm Cheating. This conversation is about people who have yet to accept the darkness or disturbances they feel about their past. The attempts to mask it always seems to find a way to come forward when you least expect it to. And what tends to make these moments difficult to stomach are when the person you love is critical of a time they weren't even a part of. And they treat your story as if it makes a difference to their happiness. but whether you know it or not...they are telling you how they respond to their own issues with the past. And their intrusion may be the way to justify their own distaste with their past transgressions. Today's lesson was gifted to us from Latrice Sampson Richards, who is a mental and emotional wellness creative. She took the example issue BJ presented from a past account that came up in the beginning stages of dating...and made so much sense to the guilt we place upon innocent people we date after hurts of the past. And every defense we create to prevent our hurts seem to make people feel as though they aren't trusted. It's almost as if they are accused of cheating just like an individual from the past. And if they are perceived as cheaters, even in their honesty...it leads them to potentially do the wrong things. And its no one's fault but yours. You inspired the very thing that you are ultimately afraid of. Latrice gave us so many great pointers of why we feel so convicted by our pasts. How we don't respect a person's privacy in a relationship. How we romanticize our relationships so much that we falsely believe that your significant other should be the last to hurt you, when in fact they are most of the time the first. The idea that a person's humanity and past experiences are deemed unacceptable are the very reasons many feel like they are cheating. And it may be because you as a person don't know how to accept someone for who they are because you don't know how to accept yourself either. I hope you are ready for todays lesson. It bares so many truths about how we truthfully misunderstand what it truly means to love someone FLAWS AND ALL!!!

Today we have what is going to be called a Group Chat lesson. We have two women to hold a conversation with today on Teach Me How To Love You Better. The lesson, titled "H For My Husband" is another spiritual follow up to Sexy In The Eyes of God with Simply Sonja. We have special guests, Erika Monae and Ashley of That Girl Podcast to discuss a few things in a spiritual space and relationship. And trust me, it's not what you think. This isn't brow beating. Its a very relatable conversation about discipline, self control and respect, communication and celibacy for people who struggle with chemistry with other people. Practicing self control is a very useful tool for self preservation as well. So that the best of our years are not spent, or wasted, with meaningless people. H For My Husband is encouragement to believe in true love, and all it's potential. And we have a very unique way of getting you to this point in your adult life... We aren't solely speaking from how the church would communicate this lesson. this relatable and very transparent. We talk about how men fit in a spiritual space with a woman. the importance of knowing himself. We discuss the role of a captain, in a way you probable haven't discussed before. We talk about praying, and how you can actually go to god with your checklist of what you want from a companion. We also talked about sex. And how it pertains to two Christian women who practices celibacy, and the challenges of their humanity. I'm positive that you have never heard an episode like this. Press Play!!!!

Today's lesson of Teach Me How To Love You Better is an invitation to what we call "Modernized Ministry"...where we talk about God and Sex in the same conversation in the most realistic way. This lesson, that we call "Sexy In The Eyes of God", tackles the fears of God and our sexuality abiding within the same space. most of us want to be desired, attractive, and accepted by someone else. But truthfully, we complicate this entire process by first not excepting ourselves for who we truly are. This Modern Body and Bible Study was conducted by Simply Sonja, a very sophisticated creative who has meshed the worlds of faith and fashion together to bring people closer to Christ and their confidence. She was an open book about how she got saved....Once was the complete opposite of who she is now...and what that transformation process was like. also, how her transformation created Transformation Tuesdays, which is a series she creates on YouTube for christian motivation and encouragement on the journey to finding greater self. She dropped gems on how a woman of god can embrace her sexuality without being overcome by it...and potentially disobedient to your savior. This conversation is packed with so many talk points. We discussed Body Positive adjustments being made in the church. As well as the open dialogue needed to save those who struggle with their humanity and sexuality. Sonja addressed the taboo topics that we all have dealt with one way or another. She also backed up every statement she made with personal experiences. We talked about what feeling sexy is to Christians...and how most times, feeling sexy has nothing to do with sex. Lastly, how women should begin practicing how to embrace the body God gave you. There was a ton of information in this lesson to create conversations within your personal friend circles and church membership. We need to encourage these conversation more often. There are a multitude of people who want to come to God. But his people are the barrier between the connection. Because when God commands that you come as you are, he means it. But His children have to adjust to the needs of the people showing up. But luckily for you, if this is you, Sonja and BJ created an alternative way to have a realistic conversation that will help you make gradual steps towards growth. You will love and relate to this lesson. Press Play and enjoy!!!!!

BJ is excited to present this lesson of Teach Me How to Love you Better. This lesson deals with women, and their anxiety. The anxiety for something that you absolutely deserve, but may not be your time for. And this is what God or your energy may be communicating. How can you tell a person, whose efforts show that they are much better than who they were prior, that they still have to wait a while for what it is they worked hard for? it begins to feel like the work was for nothing. but there is also a possibility that the work you were doing was never about you personally. It may be that you have to love a person with those same skills you developed on your behalf, for their betterment. We discuss this lesson with Lex, of The Free Space Podcast. A beautiful soul and person, who is also waiting for her turn at true love. And her process is much difficult than others. She does social work. She is a mother. She is also a care giver. None of which she takes lightly. But where does Lex fit in her own life? And how is she going to be able to fit in love, when she can't seem to fit in time for her own self care? And for a guy who may be looking in the distance, is the priority of your life making you appear unavailable, simply because you are occupied with a bunch of things you don't really care to be doing at this moment. We discuss why anxiety plays a intricate part in false starts and high expectations. I'm sure many of us can relate to this conversation. Tune in as we discuss anxiety, self help/care, skills to love yourself and others, and so much more. Many of us are where Lex is...But can we love another person in your own shoes, if this is just so happens who God sends you? We learn that loving ourselves is a deeper process needed that ensures better treatment and handling of others. Mainly our significant others. Press Play and enjoy!!!

We have finally returned with a brand new lesson of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This segment is a conversation created by a man who desires to create intentional conversations with women. Hopefully those of you who are new to this process will enjoy the new discoveries and concepts of love that we discuss on this segment. But for those of you who have been here before, welcome back. Today's lesson discusses a disposition a man has in millennial dating. questioning whether he serves an actual purpose to what this dating scenario is. Most of his experiences have been centered around the necessities he provides to the date, in order for it to happen...and not actually being a part of the greater picture that his investments actually are intended to paint for him. Men have began to question: Am I here for just the perks I provide to a woman's dating expectations? Or am i actually a part of a plan that involves me being loved, just as she desires to be? We were able to find a woman to discuss this concept with. And yes...she had answers. This lesson was given to us from Maya...who since our conversation has become an ambassador for Savage Fenty; the brand built by mega star Rihanna. She is also responsible for her own movement. One, being her YouTube Channel, Have Fun and Stay Fly with MyOhMy. And two, being her curvy girl circuit that she calls The Curvy Coalition. On TOP of co hosting a podcast called Pretty N Purposed Podcast, that she hosts with Celeste and Jess. These three women empower women to be their best, and give tips, personality, and inspiration to the women who need a push. Maya has so many outlets to share her experiences with. Which is why we have her here today on Teach Me Tuesday. Maya and BJ discussed the needs and views of both men and women. The communication and love language barriers we have to get through to reach one another. Also, how she feels we need to be open minded to learning the person you want to love, versus using past experiences to deal with a new love interest. We discussed how Maya grew up being a planner, and how that strict regimen helped her achieve her goals in life, but not necessarily love. We had a very healthy conversation about how healthy it is to plan for yourself and your future...but how it tends not to matter when a person shows up with a plan themselves once you begin dating. We talked about the ideas of men being a plan. The consideration of how women treat men as perks, while trying to insist that them being used and taking advantage of is a part of a greater plan or process. there is so much to cover in this lesson that you can gather takeaways from. We would love to hear your thoughts on this conversation, as we return back to uncover the dysfunctional attributes of male and female interactions. I hope you enjoy this return lesson. Relax and press play on Men Are A Perk...Not A Plan on Teach Me How To Love You Better!

Lesson 7 of Teach Me How To Love You Better is here ladies and gentlemen! We have a very special lesson, and guest, to discuss a very important topic that you hear women speak on every day in their social lives and gossip columns. We have Mrs. Monroe Bishop of the T with Monroe Podcast here with us to discuss INTENTION. Intention has been the most used word among our women. And is often mentioned in debates between the sexes about what men lack. Monroe had a very interesting perspective to this conversation. And interesting enough, intention has something for men and women to play a part of.We discussed how intention doesn't just mean what you intend to do for another person. It has more to do with what your standards, morals, and character embody. How you will conduct yourself, despite your interests. It's more internal than most believe. She laid down quite a few ways she see the intentional behaviors of today's couples or daters. And from her views, she is not impressed with the men, or the women. So she gave a constructive criticism on her views of intentions, marriage, and dealing with broken people.Monroe and BJ had a great conversation that I'm sure you will enjoy. She talks from a very real place. And even shared personal accounts of how she met, dated, and almost divorced her husband Larry....who is also her co host of the T with Monroe Podcast. Tune in as she tells her story of how intentions actually saved her marriage!!

Welcome Ladies and Gentleman to Lesson 6 of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This is a very great lesson that discusses a sensitive subject that most women struggle with in silence. The uncertainty of attraction and desire can be very disheartening and depressing. And knowing this, BJ decided to find someone who understands the struggle, and can explain the details of this issue with dignity and respect.I was honored to have this conversation, titled Fetishes, with none other than Bad Ass Jones...former co host of Love, Lust and Bad Ass Soul Podcast. She has curated a new venture, called The Pum Pum Chronicles, that deals with the edgy subjects of sex, kinks, culture, education, and feminism. She brought all of those things with her. And with those things, came a phenomenal conversation about the women of size who are mistreated and misused in disgusting ways.Tune in as we discuss the imbalances and inequality of most relationships, the lack of male communication and transparency...as well as the detriment of fetishizing and shaming of women of size. How labeling can create insecurities. The types of men who are secretly attracted to these women, and how they reveal their true intentions and character by how they treat these women. It was very enlightening and detailed. AJ held no punches, and told us how important it is to treat our women like ladies, despite their differences. This was a much needed conversation. We can all learn a thing or two from this lesson!

Welcome back to Teach Me How To Love You Better. We are here with a very exciting lesson, and guest. Today's Lesson, which is Lesson 5, is titled Lead. We held this conversation with none other than Cherry Poppins, of The Officially Street Podcast, that she Co Hosts with alongside Syer and JayOmega. Cherry brought perspective to what it's been like for most women who date men today: and their lack of fluid communication.Despite the conversation being mostly centered around Communicating, LEAD was the most powerful word in the conversation (for it not to be the initial focal point). The conversation started with Cherry Poppins describing the process that is required when taking her on a date. She detailed how forthcoming you would have to be, in order to get from behind the phone to the dinner table. But simply having conversation is not good enough. She wants to see your effort, consistency, and intention. You have to make her want to go on a date with you. Despite the fact that may be exactly what you are talking about doing. She follows your LEAD, which is how the show titled became what it was. Based on how you LEAD off, is how she responds. In any way, shape, or form.Following a man"s lead has been a lost art to some, and Cherry truly believes it matters. And from this conversation, it clearly shows that leadership is what it takes to win her. And she doesn't care if you aren't up for the challenge. She is confident that somebody will be. But her tolerance and esteem will not change. We had an amazing conversation that i believe will help men and women of all ages. Tune in to Lesson 5 of Teach Me How To Love You Better!!!

We are here with a bonus episode of Teach Me How To Love You Better! Today's teacher is none other than Queen Poiison, a self published author and poet. She and I go a ways back. But we have also seen each other grow. So it has been a while since we have connected on audio. So, BJ took advantage of the opportunity that they were both in New York...to sit her down to discuss gender inequalities, in terms of communication. She brought an interesting point to the conversation that no one ever tends to consider in this communication debate."Can we COMPREHEND whats being communicated to us" ???We then begin to break down the various ways misinterpretation contributes to failed communication. We discuss techniques to help both men and women in comprehension. We even discuss how a wellness check benefits communication between men and women. This is a conversation that is loaded with so much jewelry, that I'm just gonna suggest you PRESS PRAY. Otherwise, this description would be an essay. This hour long conversation is packed with good conversation, and forward thinking communicative ideals. You will enjoy this!!!

Listen to Lesson 4 of Teach Me How To Love You Better...titled Shadow Work. You will enjoy this!

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Welcome to Lesson 3 of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This lesson is about Expansion. This gives men perspective on what is needed from them in the event that they encounter an independent woman. There are ways men can be very effective in love without being providers, protectors, and provision makers. There is room for men becoming something other than they have grown accustomed to be used for.This lesson was administered by Autumn Woodland, and old podcast friend who has just come into a sense of independence of her own in recent times. Just becoming a brand new homeowner, she has grown accustomed to providing and taking care of herself...but lately has found her sense of independence has appeared threatening to the men she comes across. So we discussed this, and so many other things.We talk about the idea behind needing someone. How we communicate our responsibilities for one another differently. We talked about how better communication is needed much more than being taken care of...because oftentimes both men and women are very capable to take care of someone else...but rarely know how to properly take care of themselves correctly. And lastly, realizing that gender roles can box you in...and actually destroy your concepts of how you care for someone. We as men and women learn that women don't always need men for their typical expectations women place on them. There is a dire need for things much more intimate and personal. so Autumn insists that you find unique ways to add value to a person who is equipped with potentially everything you may have to offer. A new way of saying "Step Your Game Up"!!!!

Ladies and Gentleman...Thank you for tuning into this amazing experience called Teach Me How To Love You Better! Today we are here with Lesson 2. And to give a fair warning...men definitely need pencils/pens and paper for this one. This conversation picked up where the last lesson left off. And it's HEAVY. I hope men and women are ready.Today's lesson is given to us by none other than Christal Clear, one of the elite women of color and podcasting. She has such amazing insight, profound wisdom, and the ability to see things very clear (hence the name of her podcast lol)...She provided the listeners a small compass for men to follow, in terms of giving women something that they so rightfully deserve....SUPPORT.Christal tackled support from such unorthodox angles, She encouraged men to take the backseat to and show your passenger capabilities while she steers towards her goals. She encourages words of encouragement and affirmation. She even convinces BJ that men could even afford to use their 5 senses completely different in terms of women. This was an amazing experience that BJ is sharing with the listener,Sit back and take in all of what Christal has to offer. Men and Women can benefit from this. Welcome to Lesson 2 of Teach Me How To Love You Better!!!!

Welcome to the very first installment of Teach Me How To Love You Better. This is a segment presented by Dergobj and Change The Subject. The purpose of this is to create a safe space for women to keep it real with men. But the beauty of this is that men are NOT being argumentative in this space. We are actually here to listen, encourage, and support our queens in a conducive way. And in turn, we learn something about the women we intend to love. Our first host is a queen by the name of Erica Butler. She has branded herself and a movement called The Brown Girl Experience. This woman is an incredible mind who shared so many things about herself, her sisters, and the honorable men she has encountered in life. We spoke on so many subjects...like her experiences with having a chronic illness called Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). She talked dating men with a chronic illness, and how it effects her relationships with men. And then...we got into her constructive criticisms of men. Luckily for men...it wasn't as harsh as we thought.The focal point of Erica's views were centered around Identity. How men tend to place margins on women with various excuses and tactics that actually have nothing to do with them. She even addresses things that women do to women, in terms of identity. The conversation was very healthy and informative...and Erica does an exceptional job at getting her points across without making men or women feel uncomfortable or persecuted (which she also talked about as well)...There are so many great points in this hour long installment. I truly hope that the people enjoy this....and that this is a step in the right direction for reconnecting and communication between men and women. Without further ado...here is Lesson 1: Identity by Erica Butler "The Brown Girl"