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The Art of Shame-Free Living
The Art of Shame-Free Living
Author: Crystal Haitsma
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Welcome to The Art of Shame-Free Living Podcast.
Where we wake from the illusion of not-enough-ness, the endless lie that there’s a deep hole inside of us, and instead face our messy parts to emerge with inner fullness.
Shame-free living opens us up to creativity, wisdom, answers and love: the abundance that flows in, through and around us.
I found me again by diving deep into discomfort and shame. Maybe you can too.
Where we wake from the illusion of not-enough-ness, the endless lie that there’s a deep hole inside of us, and instead face our messy parts to emerge with inner fullness.
Shame-free living opens us up to creativity, wisdom, answers and love: the abundance that flows in, through and around us.
I found me again by diving deep into discomfort and shame. Maybe you can too.
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Learn about what it really means to prepare for the holidays — not just physically, but mentally and spiritually too. I share ways to reflect on what an ideal holiday looks like for you, recognise what might be blocking your joy, and process emotions that come up during this season.Together, we explore mindfulness, minimalism, and emotional balance to help you create a more meaningful and peaceful holiday experience. I also walk you through practical exercises — like writing down your thoughts and practising deep emotional awareness — to help ease holiday stress and nurture your well-being. Manifest Me Retreat: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat Creation Room: women’s group program- www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroomThe Parenting Coach Podcast: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog
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Dive into the Spiritual Principles of Manifestation and explore how faith and manifestation are deeply connected. I talk about the common misconception that people of faith can’t believe in manifestation, introduce the idea of abundance, and share insights drawn from different spiritual and religious perspectives, including Christianity and Judaism.I also unpack key principles such as rhythm, self-worth, asking and receiving, reciprocity, and the importance of being other-focused. Throughout the episode, I weave in personal stories and practical advice to help you understand how to manifest your desires by aligning your beliefs and energy with your spiritual practice. Manifest Me Retreat: www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat Creation Room: women’s group program- www.coachcrystal.ca/creationroomThe Parenting Coach Podcast: www.coachcrystal.ca/blog
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Delve into how questioning one’s faith might not be a crisis at all—but rather a natural stage of spiritual and emotional growth. Drawing parallels between childhood development, attachment, and adult differentiation, I unpack how our early relationships often shape the way we perceive God, spirituality, and belonging. Through this compassionate lens, I invite you to see doubt and questioning as signs of maturity rather than failure.The episode also connects themes of differentiation within marriage, partnership, and religion—showing how separating from old beliefs or identities can lead to deeper connection and authenticity. I also share how differentiation helps us find peace in uncertainty—turning doubt into an opportunity for emotional and spiritual maturity. Retreat: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/manifest-me-retreat In-person event on November 1st: https://www.coachcrystal.ca/the-art-of-shame-free-living-seminar
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Dive into the power of surrender and the importance of allowing emotions to pass through rather than resisting them. Drawing from the three pillars of meditation—concentration, clarity, and equanimity—I reflect on how emotional openness helps release pain and restore balance.The episode also features Rumi’s poem The Guest House, a reminder that every emotion, joyful or sorrowful, deserves to be welcomed. I guide you through a short subconscious surrender practice designed to release resistance, reconnect with love, and find peace in stillness.
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Explore the concept of being “Shame Positive”—embracing shame rather than striving to eliminate it. Drawing from a recent meditation retreat with mentor Thomas McConkie, I explore how the desire to “fix” or “rid” ourselves of shame can ironically become another form of perfectionism. Through heartfelt reflection and real-life examples, I illustrate how allowing shame to exist fully within us is the very key to releasing it.I also delve into the importance of acceptance, surrender, and self-compassion in healing. I will guide you through how moments of shame can become opportunities for growth, deeper connection, and authenticity—both in parenting and personal relationships. The episode closes with a reminder that self-help grounded in wholeness and abundance, not lack, leads to genuine transformation.
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Dive into how a 7-day silent meditation retreat completely transformed my understanding of meditation. What began as a structured practice for calm and focus evolved into a deeper, more spiritual experience—one that revealed meditation as a path back to stillness, presence, and inner connection.I share reflections from the retreat, including the practice of noble silence, the gentle teachings of meditation teacher Thomas McConkie, and how stillness itself can become a source of healing. This episode invites you to see meditation not as a routine, but as a living practice of awareness and compassion.
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Dive into my personal journey as I share anticipation and thoughts about an upcoming seven-day silent meditation retreat. I talk about my current meditation practices, including key advice and personal experiences that have helped me, such as starting with short durations and gently redirecting thoughts. I also explain two meditation methods: a focused breathing technique and an open, receptive approach. You’ll find practical meditation tips and encouragement to start small and stay open to the benefits of the practice.
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Explore the importance of fully experiencing pain, heartbreak, and grief rather than rushing to feel better. I share personal stories and reflect on the wisdom of empathy experts like Brené Brown as I explore the beauty and significance of letting ourselves truly feel negative emotions. I focus on what it means to sit with discomfort and welcome all emotions rather than numbing them, and how this practice can deepen both our empathy and emotional resilience.
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Dive into the interconnectedness of grief and shame, particularly how shame can hinder our mourning process. With my son recently leaving for a church mission in Peru, I reflect on how our honest conversations about emotions helped both of us prepare for the separation.I talk about the importance of recognising and processing not just sadness, but also other heavy emotions like regret, resentment, and anxiety. When I allow myself to face these feelings head-on, I notice that genuine sadness flows more freely, leading to a healthier grieving process.I also share my thoughts on self-forgiveness and offer some practical steps I use to navigate these complicated emotions.
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Explore the concept of certainty and its connection to anxiety, especially in women. Learn how anxiety often stems from a desire for certainty and how certainty itself is an illusion. Discover how true certainty can be found within by embracing and transmuting feelings of anxiety, fear, and doubt. Join the discussion on how to navigate these emotions, connect with your inner grounding, and find peace and trust in yourself and the universe.
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Dive deep into the concept of shame as a hierarchy. I discuss how shame creates false perceptions of 'better than' and 'less than' among people. By examining aspects like social media, intellect, wealth, and beauty, we highlight how this hierarchical thinking impacts our lives. I share personal experiences and techniques like journaling and visualization to dismantle these internal hierarchies.
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We explore the concept of 'selfness' as opposed to 'selflessness.' Learn how traditional ideas of selflessness often lead to feelings of shame and burnout. By embracing selfness, we can find inner fullness and peace, enabling us to serve others without feeling drained. This episode includes reflections on the teachings of Jesus Christ as the epitome of selfness and encourages listeners to identify and take their next small step toward a more connected, grounded life.
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Explore the powerful technique of Duality Surfing, a method introduced by Frederick Dodson, aimed at neutralizing intense emotions by visualizing both ideal and worst-case scenarios. Learn how to bring yourself back to a neutral state, enhancing emotional resilience and intuition. Engage in practical exercises to regulate your nervous system, increase emotional capacity, and reduce triggers, promoting a more grounded and shame-free life.
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Delve into the importance of understanding and practicing subconscious techniques to heal emotional triggers. Learn how to shift focus from thoughts to body sensations, visualize emotions, and develop a secure attachment relationship with yourself. The session includes a guided exercise to help you connect with and comfort your inner child, leading to transformative emotional healing and a shift in perspective. Join us in this deeply spiritual and transformative journey.
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Dive into subconscious practices to help you move through emotions. You'll be guided to relax your body and focus on your feelings, using visualizations and physical sensations to connect deeply with your emotions. Learn to identify what your body and feelings need, and explore ways to release and transform these emotions. Join in this transformative practice and share it with others to spread the shame-free movement.
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Explore the subconscious practices designed to help you sit with and process the feelings in your body. You will learn to trust yourself as your own best guide, become imaginative, and use breathwork for regulation. The practice involves visualizing past emotional moments, locating the physical sensations associated with these feelings, and using movements to release the built-up emotion. The goal is to create a sense of safety, peace, and security within the body. I encourage you to share your experiences and follow for more practices.
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Delve into the pervasive nature of shame through some of my own personal experiences and a few recent films: 'K-pop and the Demon Hunters' and 'Avengers Thunderbolts.' I highlight the universal impact of shame and discuss how acceptance, compassion, and connection are key to healing. I also introduce some upcoming segments that will focus on practical exercises to help you navigate feelings of shame and foster more self-acceptance.
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Explore the deep connection between shame work and our ability to manifest what we desire. I share how self-worth plays a crucial role in the manifestation process, emphasizing that we can only receive or create as much as we believe we deserve. Through my personal stories and thoughtful analogies, I discuss the importance of receiving energy, the risks of over-focusing, and the difference between intention and action. I also dive into how we can overcome blockages in our self-worth to manifest positive changes and offer practical advice on shifting our perspectives to better align with what we want to create.
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Explore the concept of boundaries, addressing common misconceptions and the challenges I’ve faced in setting them effectively. I emphasize the importance of balanced boundaries—avoiding the extremes of having too many or too few. By sharing my personal experiences and practical examples, I highlight the need to approach boundary setting with the right energy and mindset. We cover topics like screen time, education, sexuality, and mental health. I wrap up with insights on how shifting my internal energy first has led to healthier, more effective boundaries that benefit both myself and those around me.
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Follow my journey from dealing with constant sibling rivalry and fighting among my children to creating a more harmonious household. Discover how focusing on my own inner healing and changing my personal energy had a profound effect on reducing conflict at home. I emphasize the importance of self-improvement and inner work to foster positive changes in family dynamics, sharing anecdotes and insights from my experience as a parenting coach. I conclude with a call to action for you to engage in your own self-healing journey for lasting transformation.
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