The BS We Feed Ourselves — Gut/Brain healing for overachievers

Summary: Why do we keep pushing ourselves when we know it makes us sick? Why do we value others’ opinions more than what our own bodies tell us? Why do we give our negative thoughts so much power over our quality of life? This is the BS We Feed Ourselves. And it’s literally killing us. But there is a way out of this painful cycle. I know, because I’ve been there. And once I figured out how to get out of my own way, I found the answers to getting my health - and my life - back. I’m Shawna Bigby Davis. Join me as we free ourselves from our own BS and find that wellness we all deserve.

Why do we keep pushing ourselves when we know it makes us sick? Why do we value others’ opinions more than what our own bodies tell us? Why do we give our negative thoughts so much power over our quality of life? This is the BS We Feed Ourselves. And it’s literally killing us. But there is a way out of this painful cycle. I know, because I’ve been there. And once I figured out how to get out of my own way, I found the answers to getting my health - and my life - back. I’m Shawna Bigby Davis. Join me as we free ourselves from our own BS and find that wellness we all deserve.

Summary:  V Capaldi is a TEDx Speaker and business builder living with both autoimmune disease Multiple sclerosis and Epstein-Barr.  She became a millionaire by age 30 and then lost it all due her diagnosis and treatments. She says for her “MS” also means “Marriage Sickness” and believes that she can’t be both well and in an intimate relationship. How to Listen:  Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes. You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.   What We Discuss: (Scroll to these time codes to hear the following) 00:12:00:11 "How did you even discover you had MS? That was very interesting and a very sad tale. I was raised in a very dysfunctional family. My mom was an alcoholic, drug abuser and a gambler. My father was a ww2 hero who meddled in active combat and suffered from PTSD. So, I've been sick my whole life because I lived in a battle ground." -V 00:18:26:12 - How V learned she has MS. 00:19:59:09 - What happens when your "death sentence" becomes a "life sentence."  00:21:54:19 - Why V says her pregnancy put her in remission. 00:23:04:17 - My skill set for maintaining my wellness in relationships is zero-zilch.  00:30:50:04 - How V became a millionaire with MS.  00:32:01:22 - Why V believes "everyone with an A-Type personality has MS."  00:32:42:08 - “My husband drove me home from that appointment and said he was going to the movies and never came back. So, that's how that marriage ended.” -V 00:37:22:11 - Why staying single is part of V's health care.  00:39:00:02 - Shawna shares some of the BS she's feeding herself 00:39:20:02 - How compromise may be making you sick.  00:42:02:04 - Becoming Voluntarily Homeless: V lived in a van with MS and traveled around the country helping people for a year. Listen more at this timecode.  00:48:00:09 - V shares what scared her the most about her Van Tour 01:01:03:12 - What's in Shawna's Purse?: Priya Apotheca’s Beloved CBD Beauty Potion.  01:05:07:24 - How V's Italian culture stood in the way of her healing journey 01:05:58:16 - "Most of us live off the BS that people are feeding us and not really being our true self -- I wasn't. Everything I did was based off the BS people were feeding me and I think that's why I got so sick " - V    Links from this Episode:  V Capaldi’s Website V Capaldi’s Instagram Priya Apotheca’s Beloved CBD Beauty Potion   What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.  

Summary: Grace McCalmon is certified nutritional therapist and health and wellness digital marketing creative at Bonafide Provisions, a Pasture-Raised Bone Broth company. She’s the first person who helped me discover my autoimmune issues. Now, she’s struggling to discover if everything she’s believed in, that’s helped others, is actually making her sick. You won’t want to miss this breakthrough episode.  How to Listen:  Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes.  You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.   What we discuss: (Scroll to these time codes to hear the following) 00:05:51:21 - "Finally I had to confront the fact that the food rules that I believed in , that this is right. It's obviously note. Because it's not working for [me.}"  Even though the sciences makes sense and everything you read makes perfect sense to you and you feel like crap, you've got to do something different. And, that shattered my world.” - Grace McCalmon  00:10:25:14 - Bucking the status quo. How sometimes the BS We're Feeding Ourselves can surprises us.  00:10:59:18 - Shawna and Grace break down what it means when you're eating "healthy," but start losing your hair. (For Show Notes)  00:11:31:04 - Book Mentions: Paleo Fails, Paleo Myths 00:12:39:04 - The Dangers of the “Keto High" 00:22:08:19 - "Yes, these diets work and they are for a purpose.. and for a person who needs the, if you don't have a disease, You're not going to take a medication. Why would you do a diet for a disease you don't have?" - Grace.  00:24:43:22 - Interesting ideas about how diet case studies done by men, may not work for women.  00:25:39:24 - How Grace planted the seed that Shawna may have an autoimmune condition 00:28:03:05 - Bio-diversity / Bio-duality explained.  00:36:38:11 - Grace explains how everyone's health is different and there's no "one size fit's all" way to good health.  00:42:42:15 - The challenges of being an INFLUENCER in the health and nutrition space.  00:48:36:14 - The benefits of bone broth. 00:54:25:21 - If I had one message for people: it's that the goal is not more restriction. That may be necessary for a period of time, but the goal is not to move toward with a life of less and less and less, it's to move toward a life of abundance in everything." - Grace McCalmon   Links from this Episode:  Grace's Instagram Bonafide Provisions Instagram Bonafide Provisions Website What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.  

Summary:  Dr. Sarah Ballantyne aka “The Paleo Mom”  is an award-winning public speaker, New York Times bestselling author and world-renowned health expert in the autoimmune community. Dr. Sarah shares what to say when your doctor’s not listening, how to overcome imposter syndrome and strategies to keep you thriving in your career.    How to Listen:  Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes.  You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.   What We Discuss:    "To hear so many stories of people who thought they were infertile and had a baby because of my work. Or, thought they were going to die and changed their diet and lifestyle ... I just started crying." - Dr. Sarah Ballantyne    00:01:28:14 -  “For me, it took 10-12 years [to learn I had an autoimmune disease], but "if I look back it's kind of like my entire life was leading up to being broken.” - Shawna Bigby Davis 00:02:19:18 - How do you know if you have an autoimmune disease?  00:03:10:09 -  Sexism in autoimmune diagnosis.  00:05:10:20 - The American Autoimmune Related Disease Association (AARDA) established approximately 50% of people who were later diagnosed with a serious or life-threatening auto-immune disease were labeled as hypochondriacs in the early phases of their disease.  00:05:42:23 - Symptoms of Autoimmune Disorders.  00:06:35:22 - Americans take roughly 50% of the world’s medications, but we're only 5% of the world's population.  00:06:59:15 - When did you discover diet and lifestyle could improve the way you feel so significantly?  00:07:20:09 - Dr. Sarah share's how her early symptoms started when she was between 7-10 years old.  00:09:23:24 - Dr. Sarah shares how her family had "homemade remedies" to help symptoms without realizing what was wrong.  00:10:11:00 - Responding to the "naysayers" 00:14:19:18 - Imposter Syndrome.  00:27:21:01 - "There's so much of autoimmune disease and chronic illness in general that feels very lonely. And, it feels like we're all trying to figure it out on the first time." And, finding that community is so important.” — Dr. Sarah Ballantyne  00:29:29:05 - "We would get up really early and we would go and sit in the infinity pool and watch the sunrise. So this infinity pool is like this warm pool and because it's February, it's cool out. And, the steam is rising up and you're in the middle of this thousand-year-old Redwood Forest. And, it is like a spiritual experience. It's incredible. The stillness of everything, then suddenly "snap" nature turns on. Like a switch. All the frogs, all the CRICKETS, all the birds, they all come on at once”.  — Shawna Bigby Davis 00:30:41:13 - Dr. Sarah’s reaction upon seeing The Mother Tree:  “If she can survive forest fires, I can survive all of this. And, I went and walked by myself through the forest and I just started touching things & I just started crying. "I licked a dirt cliff, it's fine. It's good soil-based organism probiotics.” 00:36:57:17 - Why SLEEP is Sarah’s lynchpin:  “Frankly, I burn myself out about 3 times a year. I did it again, Now, I feel terrible, now I have no energy, and if I start getting stressed enough that my sleep quality is eroding, or I start sacrificing sleep to tackle the to-do list, that's usually the beginning of the snowball.” - Dr. Sarah 00:39:13:08 - Overcoming Burnout 00:40:10:11 - What's in Shawna's Purse Segment  00:46:15:02 - Dr. Sarah's secret lip moisturizer   Links from this Episode:  Dr. Sarah’s Website The Foundations of Health 3-Day Workshop Book Mention: How to Raise an Adult   What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

Summary:  Today we have a guest who has gone into the “dark woods” and made it out the other side. There he learned that individuals and organizations can DO and BE ANYTHING, if two things are in place: a model of success, and the tools to reach it.  He’s dramatically improved the lives of over 500,000 individuals struggling with depression, PTSD, and other health issues. He’s an Anthropologist, as well as the founder of Wolf Tribe Institute… AND, yes! He works with wolves on a regular bases: Philip Folsom!    How to Listen:  Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes.  You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more. What We Discuss: 00:01:54:00 - "If you want to grow and develop and transform yourself or get healthy, you have to enter the woods at the scariest, most bleak, shadow-filled place. Which is of course what we try to avoid, which is why change is so hard."  00:05:53:11 - The female orgasm. 00:09:48:03 - Phillip explains what the "dark woods" means.  00:09:48:05 - The raw resistance of fear is why we can’t change diet, lifestyles, lovers.  00:10:16:23 - It takes a death of self. Death is a terrifying thing to do by yourself. It takes someone else.  00:11:10:17 - Alcoholism journey  00:12:13:11 - Willpower is a muscle. it's not a finite resource. you have to work on it.  00:16:25:21 - Phillip Discusses the lack of "sickness" in indigenous tribes. 00:17:40:22 - Kinship vs Ego 00:19:16:16 - "It's impossible for us to KNOW more than 70 people" discussion.  00:20:38:22 - People "have" the planet because “we got really good at bonding”.  00:22:04:24 - Dire wolf skull  00:22:32:12 - Explanation of how your brain responds to the scariest thing on the planet: humans.  00:26:11:04 - A week, a month, a decade awash in stress hormones... 00:26:33:08 - Low Grade Chronic Stress is making everyone sick 00:28:36:22 - Autoimmune issues and PTSD survivors 00:38:00:20 - Loneliness leads to cortisol  00:38:47:10 - Shame regulates behavior  00:41:31:13 - Pride based systems are not time tested. In primitive cultures that’s insanity.  00:54:28:13 - How to find and build your tribe 00:54:41:14 - Wolf Sanctuary 01:00:05:19 - Why "Getting Ahead FIRST" is the BS You're Feeding Yourself.  01:02:05:13 - Question for men: "if you remove sports, alcohol, and your job" who's your tribe?  01:05:46:06 - Go find your men’s groups 01:08:45:06 - “Connection” is a step towards healing, according to the Autoimmune Protocol  01:13:32:22 - How absolving each other’s shame can help you heal. 01:15:44:22 - Why do you keep circling the mountains?  01:16:44:21 - The importance of "service-based" purpose 01:17:36:00 - For the Phoenix to be reborn, she has to die.    Links from this Episode:  https://philipfolsom.com/ https://www.k4men.com/ What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

Summary: Gwen Dittmar is a clairvoyant who has supported Fortune 500 CEOs, entrepreneurs, actresses, health & wellness professionals, addiction recovery professionals, and more; all who want to reclaim their energy, work, and life. She’s a high-functioning over achiever who has faced a number of challenges, including a near death experience, and struggles with alcohol. She has learned from her experiences and leaned into her clairvoyance, and is now helping people discover how to embrace their magic and level up.    How to Listen:  Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes.  You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.   What We Talk About:  00:08:56:16 - "When I got into the ambulance, I was just laying there, and I could see my mom, and I could see the guys, and I was so sick, and all of a sudden I just started to feel like, “Oh My Gosh, I think I'm dying.” And then I felt myself pullout of my body and go into this most amazing feeling.” ––Gwen Dittmar. 00:14:27:08 - Near death experience  00:18:39:11 - Gwen shares mom passing away story 00:19:53:19 - The benefits of "earthing"  aka putting your bare feet on the ground.  00:21:38:14 - How to tap into your universal life force.  00:21:52:02 -”We look like form, but we're just energy; cells vibrating against each other.”  00:22:41:22 - Just imagine you have this energetic life bubble around you. And you consciously make a choice. No one is allowed to come into this space. This is my space. This is my energy. I can sense your energy. I can have compassion for your energy, but your energy doesn't come in to mine. -- Even when you're being sensual with people you can still have your own energy be your energy.  00:24:39:06 - Relationship structures. "H" vs "T"  00:35:52:19 - Gwen shares how she used alcohol to cope with her clairvoyance and how she now manages her addiction.  00:37:23:04 - “It's not that I'm extreme. I'm just open.”  00:37:35:22 - “I receive a lot. I feel a lot. I sense a lot. I'm in tune to a lot.” 00:38:06:18 - Gene Keys explanation 00:41:54:21 - How "Sober Curious" Facebook groups helped Gwen.  00:47:25:06 - How Gwen became a mother of 2 after she was told she'd never have children.  00:51:04:10 - Gwen opens up about her divorce  00:52:04:01 - "The human life is the vehicle to do that... so whether it comes through addiction, alcoholism, disease, or divorce, or custody challenges, or losing your home, or shifting careers, losing money and learning how to make it back again, near death experiences, the human vehicle is really just there so we can learn.” - Gwen Dittmar 01:00:54:24 - How relinquishing control and delegating tasks can help you grow in your business.    Links from this Episode:  Gwen Dittmar’s Website Gene Keys Website Sober Curious Facebook Group   If you liked this episode: Check out this episode about “Going into The Dark Woods” with Philip Folsom.  What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

  Summary:  David Nurse, an Emotional Coach for the NBA and Host of 1%er Podcast shares his road to redemption after being removed from a professional basketball program, his challenges with low testosterone and his secret to having no fear.    How to Listen:  Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes.  You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.   What You’ll Learn:  00:00:46:23 - David shares what being a 1%--er means 00:01:02:22 - How to be confident and comfortable in your skin so you can help others.  00:04:32:21 - "If he hadn't woken up every single morning, knowing that ‘hey, I'm going to go even when I don't feel great, I'm going to go to the gym and get the work in that I need to, I'm going to eat the right way. I'm going to do everything that I can in my own power to prepare me for my dream, my goal, my mission and I know it's going to happen."  00:04:44:09 - How preparing for the opportunity leads to success... David shares awesome story about NBA athlete 00:05:43:13 - how anyone's going to listen to you: LIVING IT.  00:07:30:23 - When one door closes, 4 open. WOOT!  00:08:12:11 - David explains how he became the "emotion coach for the NBA" 00:12:07:18 - How do you reconcile "charging $$" to help someone??  00:17:42:04 - How to BE IN THE MOMENT 00:17:47:08 - "Sometimes we let the future take too much of the now." - David Nurse 00:18:34:02 - Has your health ever taken a back seat as you help other people?  00:19:11:09 - David's struggle with low testosterone: "85-year-old man low"  00:21:04:04 - It's not just about the looks on the outside, it's how your body's functioning.  00:22:45:13 - Biohacking and Bio-Individuality 00:23:02:04 - How do you optimize your body to be fully and completely the best you that you can be? It looks radically different for a lot for people. There's nothing that's cookie-cutter, there's nothing that you can say...everybody is different, everybody's bodies are different, everybody's mental frames of minds are different ... and you test it. you see what works, you see what doesn't work  00:23:05:00 - biohacking should be renamed to 'optimizing' 00:24:54:03 - everyone's putting on a mask 00:25:31:22 - the pain that happened to you is now purpose. It didn't happen to you, so many people look at stuff like 'woe is me' this happened to me, why is the world so down on me, but it's not what happened to you, it's what happened through you and how you can use it for others.  00:28:10:11 - Religion conversation 00:35:18:16 - What's in Shawna’s Bag Segment  00:37:46:05 - scientifically proven that the placebo effect is real, so embrace mindset. it's real.  00:38:04:05 - New book: Pivot and Go! 00:39:20:24 - I just love doing. I love serving and I love being around people 00:39:39:01 - "I don't have fear because I don't really care what anyone else thinks, I know I have Jesus and Christ 00:40:08:01 - my joy is not based on my results or what anyone else thinks   Links Mentioned:  1%er Podcast on Stitcher David Nurse Instagram What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

Summary:  Shawna Bigby Davis, a creative director, and advertising executive shares how she overcomes burnout out when she needs to be “on.” If you’re ever on stage or have a big presentation in front of your office or have to meet people during a networking event. This podcast will help you overcome work through the fight or flight response that’s triggered anytime we’re in a stressful situation.    How to Listen:  Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes.  You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.   What We Talked About:  00:01:15:23 - How do we keep from burning out?  00:01:28:16 - Before, during and after.  You’re setting yourself up for success all along the way.  00:01:41:14 - I can’t extend energy and hope to gain it back somewhere. It’s not how energy exchange works  00:01:59:15 - How to not feel like you need a nap.  00:02:26:20 - A-types like to be backed into deadlines because it forces us to make decisions.  00:03:55:22 - The importance of minerals like magnesium and calcium.  00:13:33:03 - These snacks are great on the go. Links from this Episode:  Shawn Bigby Davis’ Website Shawna’s Instagram Vital Proteins Collagen   Email Shawna:  hello@thebswefeedourselves.com Coming Up:  Dr. Terry Wahls Emily McDowell  Dr. Keesha Ewers   If you liked this episode: Check out this episode Clairvoyant for Fortune 500 CEOs Shares Wellness Secrets What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

Summary: Dr. Hailey Heard and Dr. Megan Arnold are cofounders at MaxGen Labs. In this episode, they share how their genetic testing kits are helping women with autoimmune disease live and eat better. “We can literally look at your genes and pinpoint specifically how you function as a whole and how we can personalize and prioritize your health journey.”  These tests can really give you the upper hand when it comes to diet, lifestyle, fitness. Whatever you need to do, to be a happy healthy human.  How to Listen: Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes. You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more. What We Discuss:  00:00:56:03 - Autoimmune hot messes 00:01:29:22 - Can I change my lifestyle, instead of taking a drug and feel better?  00:04:12:09 - Why they decided to take on the "Goliaths" in genetic testing and build their own lab.  00:04:40:23 - If you asked us 10-years-ago if we were going to be running a genetic company we would have laughed at you. It came out of frustration. it came out of knowing that there were better options for practitioners than we even knew about.   00:06:03:01 - Why privacy is important in genetic testing: who should you trust?  00:07:04:13 - What kind of diet is perfect for you? Your genes truly control all the protein metabolism, all the enzyme function of your body to essentially make all the chemistry happen as it ought to.  00:07:23:01 - People who have anxiety, maybe they can't eat certain kinds of cheese. People who are prone to insomnia, maybe they need more B12.  We can literally look at your genes and pinpoint specifically how you function as a whole and how we can personalize and prioritize your health journey.  00:09:36:00 - 15-years-old and misdiagnosed 00:15:11:11 - The world is sick and there's a lot of negative stuff going on, and if you can make it better someway somehow, You should do it! Because that's going to have a ripple effect - Dr. Hailey 00:15:49:13 - So many people are held back from their life goals because fo their health 00:17:33:22 - The BS they're feeding themselves is that "medicine has all the answers" because it doesn't.  00:19:58:06 - I was extremely active as a child...I can look at a piece of lettuce and gain ten lbs, something was going on and we couldn't figure it out.  00:23:55:21 - There's a gene for eating your emotions? There is a gene for addictive and emotional eating... so if you get bad news and want to get chip faced with that ice cream, then that can be blamed on your blueprint 00:27:17:17 - 27:16 a huge part of our weight loss programs for our patients is just getting inflammation under control. we don't even talk about the scale until we have inflammation under control, hormones under control, sleep under control. you're not going to be an ideal weight unless all the other factors are ideal.    For more of Shawna's interview with MaxGen Labs Doctors: Hailey Heard and Megan Arnold. Tune in for next week’s episode.   Links Mentioned:  maxgenlabs.com  

Summary: How to diet based on your genes in part 2 of this interview of the interview with Dr. Hailey Heard and Dr. Megan Arnold, cofounders at MaxGen Labs. In this episode, they share how some popular diets, like going Keto, may be hurting you more than helping you. They also share how you can take control of your life and health with more knowledge about your genes. How to Listen: Stay up-to-date on the latest episodes by subscribing on iTunes. You can also find us on Apple Podcast, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and more.   What We Discuss:  00:30:17:16 - Do you have lectin resistance?  00:30:24:24 - "With Genes, we can really pinpoint what your idea eating situation should be and we've tried to ...so many different variables with genes...so we've tried to create an algorithm that gives you the basic and most important information to implement in your lifestyle, with action steps.  00:31:09:12 - Should you focus more on marathon training or lifting? Is working out in the gym actually going to help you lose weight? Or is it a lost cause...so, on my test... it said I have a propensity toward endurance athlete, which my husband really laughed at.  00:33:16:10 - 5 different genetic markers for gluten sensitivity 00:34:58:11 - The Best Type of APOE Gene 00:35:36:24 - The problems of the APOE 4 gene: dementia, ms, liver  00:36:36:09 - APOE 4 's need to avoid alcohol, heavy metals like aluminum and mercury 00:39:20:09 - "Most people don't believe they can heal themselves or they'll think they'll get results immediately...that's a little bs-ish as well... you do it one step at a time... "  00:40:13:07 - Don't expect to see results overnight, but know it is possible for you to get better 00:41:20:07 - Your diagnosis isn't your destiny" -- Dr. Megan Arnold  00:42:24:22 - "People don't know how to prioritize their health because they want that instant gratification." If they say I want to lose 10 pounds... but they're not sleeping and they're stressed out...."  00:43:13:01 - "Confessions of an Overweight Doctor" blog mention 00:46:30:20 - Your genetics are your blueprint, but how you are today is driven by what you’re doing to optimize your genetics. IF you have the genetics for diabetes....which every female in my family has Type 2 Diabetes, I am the only one who does not. The only way is I'm eating the way I'm supposed to eat.  00:49:26:09 - The BS Dr. Hailey and Dr. Megan are feeding themselves 00:52:43:10 - COUPON CODE: thebswefeedourselves will get you 15% off your genetic test at Maxgenlabs.com and DNArx.com.    Links from this Episode:  MaxGen Labs:  Website DNA RX Supplements: Website Confessions of an Overweight Doctor: Blog Post    What Did You Think? I’d love to hear from you! After you’ve listened to this episode, leave a comment and tell me what your favorite takeaway is and why.

Summary:  If you’re an entrepreneur, a new business owner or an ambitious - driven person, you will have to have difficult conversations. Conversations about money, letting people go, choosing what’s the best way to move forward for your business which may mean some career partnerships aren’t going to last, hey, some personal relationships may not last… and you may start to beat yourself up over figuring out the right thing to say… about how to have those difficult conversations.you may be afraid of being mean, a number of women I’ve consulted struggle with this. I’m here to tell you there is no “mean” in business.  What We Learn:  00:02:20:09 - “I've had to [have talks with people about their] personal hygiene or wearing appropriate clothing, I've had to fire a client before, following up on missed payments, negotiating leases, negotiating raises, negotiating rates, who takes out the garbage, you name it. I even had a difficult conversation about leaving my business with my business partner because fo my health.”  - Shawna Bigby Davis 00:03:11:24 - "It's important to understand how YOU react in situations."  00:03:14:12 - As a people pleaser these are very hard to talk about because deep down we all want to be liked, to be admired, to feel like we're supportive, but, I'm here to tell you, to give you permission. It doesn't always have to be the case.  00:04:10:21 - Disagreements, Misinterpretations, Expectations, Values and Boundaries  00:05:58:09 - engage with your audience on social regarding this episode! How do you work your muscles when it comes to dealing with discourse?  For Example: When I'm not happy with my food at a restaurant, I actually say something! Feels super uncomfortable, because I usually accept whatever I'm given. But it helps me practice using this muscle. 00:06:10:12 - Don't apologize for disagreeing. - Shawna Bigby Davis 00:06:18:06 - People see through the pleasantries 00:07:44:23 - What are your triggers and how do you combat them?  00:08:15:14 - When someone does BLANK, I feel BLANK, because I've made it mean BLANK. 00:08:33:08 - For example: "When someone talks over me, I feel... like they're not listening, because I've made it mean that they disrespect me."  00:09:10:23 - How to OWN the "bad stuff" about YOU.  00:18:02:22 - CIA Hostage Negotiator Chris Voss called Never Split The Difference.  00:19:55:01 - Jen Sincero: You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth  00:21:12:06 - “Yes and No List: With every scenario ask yourself: Does this get me closer to hitting my goal? 

Summary: Natalie Kelley is a holistic health coach, recipe developer, and businesswoman. She’s also the host of the Thrive with IBD podcast. She’s experienced scary and painful moments due to her chronic illness: ulcerative colitis. In this episode, she opens up about how bloat and fatigue plagued her life and how she used to just pass it off as stress. Now, she’s found a way to turn her pain into purpose and is helping others with chronic illnesses like IBD thrive, and she’s just 23 years old. What We Learn: 00:00:01:31 - Natalie explains what Ulcerative Colitis is 00:00:03:59 - I landed in the hospital. 00:00:06:40 - "I thought I'd never feel better"  00:00:08:34 - How to run a business with a sickness 00:00:23:18 - How to plan for 60 mins of "you time" daily! 00:00:26:03 - "I know for a while I was so resistant to that change because, in my head, I was like no. That's not my plan, this is my plan. This is what my blog has been about for 4 years, how can I change that? The moment I let that expectation go and let my business flow the way it's supposed to, I fell into exactly what I'm supposed to. Just keeping that mindset that change is okay and it's scary.  00:00:26:52 - Another thing, I think is to believe in yourself. It's so easy when you're creating a business to have that self-doubt,  And, I've have struggled with that for so long, I think therapy can help and like what you said, write down all your accomplishments.  00:00:26:52 - Say you have a chronic illness and want to start your own business, even in moments when you're sick, don't let your dreams go, Don't think you have to quite your business, just take a break, but you're going to be able to get back to it.  00:00:27:50 - How did you do the amazing thing you did??? "Ask yourself How?"  00:00:31:45 -  So, what's the BS you're feeding yourself?  Helpful Links:  Never Split The Difference -  BOOK Natalie’s: Website

Summary: Karden Rabin, a health and wellness expert, teacher and entrepreneur. In this episode, he shares how we unknowingly damage our health when we react to stressful or threatening situations. He opens up about the illness he struggled with through his youth and how he learned to be an agent of healthy change in his life. He specializes in bodywork, therapeutic massage and mindfulness training.    What We Learn: 08:49 - How our automatic nervous system affects our health; including how the Parasympathetic system works.  10:01 - Karden’s story 23:36 - Feline cat failure 27:00 - One of the most absolute important principles of human development is “attachment.” You as a baby are essentially incapable of survival..so you are dependant on your primary caretaker.  You are exquisitely good, even as a newborn, at adapting and exhibiting behaviors that get your primary caretaker to attend to you.  So, you forming an attachment to your primary caretaker and your primary caretaker providing all of your needs is the single most important goal of any baby or any child.  That’s not just in the form of being nourished with the food,  it’s in comfort and in emotional and existential acknowledgment.  There is nothing more important.  In the same way that a tree, a plant will always grow toward the sun. A baby child will always grow toward the sun of their primary caretaker.  31:16 - For a lot of us Type A, do-gooders, caretakers, our primary way of getting the sun to pay attention to us was by being a good boy or a good girl, so we got the emotional nourishment that we require. And, if we didn’t somehow there was a withhold, there was neglect, maybe there was abuse or aggression.  32:00 - Emotional and behavior repression of type A people explanation.  44:59 - How to express anger without destroying relationships with loved ones 50:08 - You want to use the anger energy to guide you toward feeling safe. (instead of having a rage-filled outburst)  53:43 -  The power of attention and self-sooting is incredible.   Links Mentioned:  Karden Rabin's Stress School at www.kardenrabin.com Be part of the first-ever Stress School class!

Summary:  Dr. Gretchen Hawley, a physical therapist and MS specialist shares the importance of exercise for improved mental performance and physical movement as well as helping people with autoimmune diseases gain hope and live life confidently! She’s also the founder of The MSing Link.    What We Learn:  03:55 Start at "So, let's talk about the importance of movement"  05:25 “The Mental Component of Physical Exercise” 07:39 THE BS Shawna feeds herself about "EXERCISE"  08:38 What if I go to the gym and people look at me because I'm doing an exercise wrong?  09:44 Wearing the same shirt 2 days in a row!  13:48 How did you get into MS specialty?  16:00 “Foot Drop” - Symptom and suggested solution  17:06 How Exercise can slow the progression of MS 18:02 "As much as it's comfortable to sit and binge on Netflix all day, our bodies are made to move. So, when you get them moving there's blood flow, there's oxygen flow. There are endorphins, There so much going on that we can't see that promotes, positive thinking,  promotes strength, promotes good flexibility, so it can be hard a lot of the times to get moving, but time and time again research is proving how good it is for us mentally and physically."  19:08 Brain Protein 20:00 Break your 20 min daily workouts into 4, 5 min workouts you do throughout the day! 21:03 “How Exercise Build's Confidence” 29:04 How to put gratitude on your schedule 32:23 Exercises you can do at home 35:33 “If you keep envisioning yourself being at your goal, your brain is going to help you get there.”  - She Means Business (BOOK)  36:48 The BS Dr. Gretchen is feeding herself 40:00 Dr. Terry Wahls has been a part of Dr. Gretchen's program... "I love what your podcast stands for and all the guests you have. There’s so much BS that we all feed ourselves that we don't even realize..."  -Dr. Gretchen.  Links Mentioned:  Dr. Gretchen’s Website Dr. Gretchen’s Instagram  Shawna’s WebsiteShawna’s Instagram The BS We Feed Ourselves on Instagram

Summary: If you’re someone who has always performed at a very high level but suddenly find yourself struggling,  it may be your hormones. I spent a weekend at an endocrinology seminar which really taught me a lot about it. This is something that I always took for granted, but after making a few small changes to my lifestyle have seen amazing results!  In this episode, I’ll share 4 important things I learned that are helping me perform at my peak...and perhaps they’ll help you as well. - Shawna.    What We Learn:  00:29 - The Endocrine System, an explanation 02:02 - These 4 things really help people.  Blood sugar regulation (oxygen in blood)  Fish oil Detoxing the liver  Good gut microbiome 02:38 - Get to the root cause of your hormone issues 03:03 - "Starving yourself and feeding yourself big doses of food..definitely disrupts your sugar pattern. As A-Types we do this all the time, we skip breakfast, we skip lunch, we skip meals and sometimes we're doing that because we're intermittent fasting,  but you have to understand if that actually works for your body or not."  03:07 - Why You Shouldn't Skip Meals... Why Intermittent Fasting May NOT be good for your 05:46 - 1/3 of the people of have sleep apnea are not big people. 08:50 - Why to avoid alcohol at night  09:34 - Fish Oils 12:19 - How fish oils can reduce inflammation 13:59 - The importance of an awesome gut microbiome  

Summary: Max Mentzer found a way to balance his hormones easily, lose weight and maintain it, all while managing his Type 1 Diabetes. His lifestyle change helped him gain incredible amounts of focus and energy and is now helping others do the same. In this New Year’s episode Shawna and “Keto Chef Max” dive into actionable tips on how you can “go Keto on a budget,” “make time to cook for yourself,” and provide some Keto hacks!  What We Learn:  01:12 "Born with Type 1 Diabetes" learning how to manage 04:11 What culinary school taught Max about nutritious cooking 06:00 Signs of diabetes in babies 10:36 The difference between Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes 11:49 “My food is geared toward the lifestyle I want to live” - Keto Chef Max 11:58 “Keto not only works for managing my diabetes, but it also helps me live the lifestyle I want to live.” 12:59 Keto cooking hacks: The hardest thing about keto is COOKING!  14:05 Staple Fats in the Keto Diet  Avocado Eggs   Bacon 14:13 Keto isn't cheap: How to meal prep Max says “find the cheapest piece of meat you can possibly make, then it can either be braised, roasted or smoked.” 14:59 On why farmers markets are budget-friendly 17:17 Keto Cereal Recipe Erythritol, Almond Flour, and…  22:39 “Keto and fasting for women is a lot harder” 22:43 Shawna shares how ketosis made her hair fall out 25:07 “For a Type 1 diabetic, it's kind of scary to think about it, but the fact that my levels are so good, my A1C is phenomenal, all this other stuff that has to do with diabetes, just being on this diet improved my life drastically! - What Max would tell his younger self.  26:26 “Kale 🥬 has carbs?!” 27:27 Why heavy cream may be better than your whey protein powder... 27:45 Max Gen Labs: How to EAT For Your Genetics  30:58 "First of all, get educated on what you're trying to do. Don't just assume that the stuff you see on Instagram is how you should be eating because there are so many different ways you can be eating and abusing the Keto Diet actually, for instance, there's a thing called Dirty Keto." -- Keto Chef Max.  31:39 Braising vs Roasting (Max's go-to skill) 41:45 “Cured egg yolk recipe” 43:07 "Cooking is a craft, but it doesn't have to be. You don't have to look at it like, I don't have time to be doing this kinda stuff. It’s like, where do I get my time? I put my idea together and I look at it like, "okay, I have 30 minutes where I can make this. I just need the ingredients. Maybe the day before, you get all of your ingredients and supplies before you start cooking. Then, the next day you go through and get all the plating setups and everything you're trying to do. It just depends. You prep that stuff according to your schedule. Have the time to make yourself good food."  43:59 The BS Max tells himself: “am I worth what I’m doing right now?”  45:32 surround yourself with things you love to do and people who want to encourage you and love you.  48:50 fat bombs: aka "the candy of keto"   Resources / Links Mentioned:  Dr. Eric Berg - insight on everything you need if you want to do Keto https://www.drberg.com/ Dr. Ken Berry -  insight for regarding Keto and Type 2 Diabetes https://www.kendberrymd.com/ Max’s Website Max’s Instagram  Max’s Book The Incredible Edible Egg Egg25 - for discount  The BS We Feed Ourselves  Website; Instagram Shawna’s Instagram 

Summary: Emily McDowell is a writer, illustrator, speaker, teacher, entrepreneur, and founder of Emily McDowell and Friends - a company specializing in greeting cards and other products that speak to the human condition. Their mission is to help people connect when they’re not sure what to say. McDowell, 43, was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 24. In this episode, she opens up about what her diagnosis taught her about the human condition. She also shares the trials and triumphs launching her now successful greeting card company and how it continues to affect her health.    What We Learn:  00:48 - 24-years-old and learning of stage 3 Hodgkins Lymphoma cancer diagnosis nightmare 03:04 - She's 43-years-old now. 04:45 - Most people don't know what to do, what to say, how to deal when someone close to them gets sick.  05:52 - "If I was better at having cancer, people would step up and bring me casseroles and take me to chemo." 06:55 - Why it’s good to be awkward.  08:23 - What we can do for each other is just bare witness to the pain and be there. 11:48 - "I did what I loved as a kid which was writing and drawing."   12:34 - I really had always wanted to make greeting cards because greeting cards, for me, felt like the perfect intersection of everything I like to do, which was writing, illustration and also human psychology. 12:45 - This was 2012 and I put it in my Etsy shop... and I was like, “Ya know what? If 5 people buy this, great. I'll make $40, but those five people are going to be so psyched than this is just worth it. I'll take a dive into this because I just really want this to be in the world.” 13:53 - Her first card - viral story 18:23 - Her failed business attempt 26:03 - Burnout discuss 32:48 - Harsh business lesson for growing solopreneuer 41:31 - Transformative trip to Bali 45:36 -  Did Emily run away? 52:35 - “If I don’t get right with myself, I’m going to spend the rest of my life chasing some high that I’ll feel for 3 mins and then it will be just replaced with anxiety about where I get the next one.”  Links Mentioned  Emily McDowell and Friends:  Website Emily McDowell business: Instagram Emily McDowell personal: Instagram Shawna’s: Instagram BSWFO: Instagram The BS We Feed Ourselves: Website  Coupon Code: Use the Code NOMOREBS anytime before March 1st, 2020… for 20-Percent off any order at emilymcdowell.com.

Summary: Emily McDowell is a writer, illustrator, speaker, teacher, entrepreneur, and founder of Emily McDowell and Friends - a company specializing in greeting cards and other products that speak to the human condition. Their mission is to help people connect when they’re not sure what to say. McDowell, 43, was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 24. In this episode, she opens up about what her diagnosis taught her about the human condition. She also shares the trials and triumphs of launching her now successful greeting card company and how it continued to affect her health.  What We Learn:  “I used humor as a coping mechanism. That was my primary coping mechanism. I would rather be living a life where I don't have to cope with, so I don't have to use humor to get through my day. I would rather be living that version of my life, than the version where I'm funny but miserable.” - Emily McDowell  02:30 - Was Emily Running Away? 02:52 - Running away doesn't work, because wherever you go, there you are. Like it says on the bumper sticker.  07:16 - How Emily has separated her identity from her productiveness 09:01 - Feel like you're on a hamster wheel?? So did Emily. Then she realized it was in her head. 11:09 - Realizing what makes you tick and why you react a certain way is instrumental in the healing process-- Shawna explains 11:40 - What is it about me that is so upset by this thing? 14:16 - What if "healing" means losing the thing that makes us interesting? (Or funny?) 17:33 - Humor as a coping mechanism 22:43 - Dealing with “copy cats” 23:01- The BS I’m feeding myself is that sharing my story is attention-seeking.  -Emily McDowell 26:33 - Emily gets real about her “management style”  and "dealing with conflict" 27:50 - Reveals she "sucks" at THIS thing 30:05 - “It's not often that we get to create something that really MAKES A DIFFERENCE for people, and the feedback that we've gotten over the years from thousands and thousands of people is about how THIS THING has changed relationships and given them an opportunity to reconnect and apologize, support… etc.” - Emily McDowell  30:46 - THIS makes me feel seen, and all the other stuff makes me feel even worse Links Mentioned  Emily McDowell and Friends:  Website Emily McDowell business: Instagram Emily McDowell personal: Instagram Shawna’s: Instagram BSWFO: Instagram The BS We Feed Ourselves: Website  Coupon Code: Use the Code NOMOREBS anytime before March 1st, 2020 for 20-Percent off any order at emilymcdowell.com.

Summary: Gary Ware, a TEDx Talk Speaker, and Play Consultant works with top executives and Fortune 500 companies, like Google. He runs workshops about how incorporating  “play” into your day can help you be more productive. He has a 99.9% success rate and has a lot to say about how PLAY helped him and how it can help you overcome burnout, improve your mindset, business, and relationships.  What We Learn:  03:46 How to play with your kids without panicking about getting back to work 05:49 What is a play consultant? 14:26 The improv class that changed Gary’s life; and the importance of psychological safety at work.  20:19 Gary’s startup failure 24:57 Example of a game you can play now to improve your productivity 28:44 Warning signs of burnout  31:06 How to play if it’s hard for you to move; not all play is physical  32:56 Gary’s 5 Tips to Activate Your PLAY drive 41:52 Play it forward Fridays 42:13 Legos!!! 43:26 The cool thing about play, is play can change your perception.  43:39 Schedule play, see how it will make you feel and the mindset will come after 45:30 That’s the cool thing about play, you can get wins very fast.  47:41 What makes a high performing team? Aristotle research 51:04 Gary’s thoughts on failure 52:13 When everyone starts connecting and lighting up and having fun, they end up being the most... 58:10 Dad guilt, it's a thing 01:07:00 The BS Gary’s feeding himself: in order to be an exceptional dad, I need to know everything 01:11:52 What’s in Shawna’s bag, what’s in Gary’s bag?   Links Mentioned:  Gary’s Website: http://www.breakthroughplay.com/ Gary’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/garyware/ Gary’s Linkedin Show: https://www.linkedin.com/in/garyware/ The BS We Feed Ourselves Website: TheBSWeFeedOurselves.com The BS We Feed Ourselves Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebswefeedourselves/ Shawna’s personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shawnabigbydavis/ Book Mentioned: Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul   By, Dr. Stuart Brown