Anni and Bron on a discursive voyage through the trials of emotional abuse.
Living with an abuser is a series of boundary violations - getting clear on your boundaries is the first step to escaping abuse. But it can be confusing for women who have constantly been gaslit and lied to - and where maintaining boundaries can be unsafe.Anni and Bron talk about knowing when your boundaries have been violated, how abusers react when you stand up for yourself, and how to use boundaries to stay free of abuse.
The new affirmative consent laws in NSW and domestic violence. Will they make a difference to women assaulted by their partners?
Anni and Bron discuss Maid, the Netflix series about Alex who flees her emotionally abusive partner.
You'll never see the kids again; you'll end up with nothing if you leave; I'm the victim here; she is mentally ill, you know. We run through some of the lies and garbage that falls from abuser mouths.
Fantasies that he just disappears or dies are very common. As are those of hiring a hitman. We talk about how things could be better if he ceased to exist - the challenges of changeover and shared parenting with an abusive ex.
Being in a relationship with an abuser is awful, but at what point do you say enough is enough? Anni and Bron discuss the stages in leaving an abuser: recognising he is abusive, realising you have to leave, leaving, and returning and leaving again.
Nothing about domestic abuse is fair, but you can make better and worse decisions after you leave. Anni and Bron discuss making smart decisions for you and your children after you have left an abusive partner.
Anni and Bron talk about some new ideas for safety from an abusive ex. Discussing personal alarms, whether you can track him, and ways to keep him away. The Police can only help so much, so unfortunately your personal safety is on you.
Anni and Bron discuss the risks of death for victims of domestic violence, and how women can assess their own risk, and stay safer. We despair at the lack of protection given to victims, and the lack of policing of dangerous perpetrators.Trigger warning. Call 1800 Respect if you need to.