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I'm Hannah Coles and this podcast is dedicated to strengthening your marriage. I combine a unique blend of LDS coaching tools and therapy to bring you the best and most productive tools that will up level your relationship and create LOVE AT HOME.
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What kind of communicator are you? Do you engage in debating with your partner or are you open to dialogue? In this episode, I discuss the importance of knowing what kind of communication is at play and how it helps or hinders your ability to create LOVE AT HOME. Join me!
When we think in terms of percentages we end up creating a mindset of score keeping and tallying. When we think, "I'm spent. I'm only operating at 60% capacity, and my spouse needs to pick up the slack and give the other 40%," we inadvertently create a checklist and a quick way to disappointment. This is not to say that your spouse won't pick up the slack - it's the idea that you think they "should." These "shoulds" are wreaking havoc on your relationship and a sure fire way to create resentment at home rather than LOVE AT HOME. Marriage is NOT 50/50. Tune in to this episode to hear part two and learn a healthier approach to your marriage.
It might sound nice that marriage should be 50/50, where each partner gives an equal amount, but in reality, it becomes quite problematic. The idea of "equal" means that one or both parties are doing a bit of score keeping and tallying who is doing what or doing more and noticing the other isn't "keeping up". This kind of mindset is a recipe for RESENTMENT. In this episode, I introduce the resentment cycle and how it's so poisonous in our relationships, what to do instead, and how you can create more LOVE AT HOME. Join me, Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach, and let's dive in!
There is some misguided marriage advice about needing your spouse to fill all your needs. You've probably heard some like, write out a list of what you need from your spouse and give it to them. And on one hand, the list isn't a bad idea - it can be helpful and productive understanding and being aware of what your needs actually are but it's problematic asking your spouse to fill them. On one hand, it puts you in a risky position - while you're waiting for them to fill your needs, you're stuck. You can't feel how you want to untiil they show up differently... and cue anxiety - because, what if they don't? In this episode, I share what to do and what to drop to create LOVE AT HOME. Tune in!
Marriage is a unique relationship. The quality of your marriage impacts everything and everyone around you. It is the biggest source of so much joy and happiness in life and can also be the source of so much loneliness, pain, and sorrow. I want to help you create genuine LOVE at HOME by working on the core relationship first - your marriage. So whether you come solo or with your spouse, you will walk away from today's episode with tools to help you create a deeper, more connected, loving relationship.
We are so quick to filter everything though the "ME" category and by so doing we create a lot of angst, anxiety, stress, and fear in our lives. We also miss out on being able to see or understand what might really be going on. In this episode, I share ways to recognize that we're diving into the "ME" category and how to gently shift to the "NOT ABOUT ME" category. This is such a relevant topic that will be a huge benefit in your life and in your relationships. When you're ready, tune in with LDS Life Coach, Hannah Coles.
We live in an age where information, opinions, and preferences are thrown at us all day long. Your phone sends alerts, your watch vibrates with messages, and social media is concentrated with thoughts, images, quotes, offers, videos, and messages - and while they might be good and you might love them - how much of them are you actually retaining? How can we show up confident and able to trust in ourselves if we can't remember the pivotal tools in the moment we need them? In this episode, I share a TWO FOLD practice that will help you develop your capacity to remember! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Sometimes we experience a feeling of being tired that just won't go away. No amount of rest, vacationing, or typical self-care tactics can cure because it's more complicated to address. In this episode, I walk you through reasons to where this kind of "tired" comes from and offer you real solutions to alleviating that struggle. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles.
We all want more of the "right" people in our lives. We want good friends and co-workers who uplift rather than deplete and drain us. In this episode, I address the HOW of learning to attract emotionally healthy and available people in your life. We will explore why we may unintentionally attract emotionally unhealthy individuals and how to shift our focus to notice and gravitate towards those who align with our values. Join me, Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach as I share the importance of self-awareness, compassion, and setting boundaries in fostering meaningful connections.
Are you tired of attracting the wrong people in your life, no matter how much you try to change your circumstances? You're not alone. In this episode, I help you dive deeper into the reasons behind this and offer insights on how to break the cycle. From recognizing awareness to knowing your own worth to setting healthy boundaries, I help you uncover the steps to stop attracting the wrong people and to start paving the path toward welcoming healthier connections. Join me, Certified Life Coach, Hannah Coles as I help you navigate this complex topic and empower you to create the fulfilling connections you deserve.
In this episode, I dive into the transformative practice of writing letters to yourself in the form of LEAP YEAR LETTERS. I discuss key elements to include in your letter, for your personal reflections on your current life to envisioning your hopes and dreams for the future. Join me and discover the power of self-compassion, gratitude, and resilience as you craft a roadmap for your future self. Create a new tradition for each leap year that has a set date to connect and reconnect with yourself every four years. This practice yields so many beautiful benefits that will help you live a confident life. When you're ready, dive in! But don't forget to grab a pen and some paper!
There's a difference betweeen our self-image, what we think of ourselves versus our public-image, what we think others think of us. Too often we are guided by others and the fear of what they might think of us instead of being intrinsically motivated. In this episode, we'll explore how our internal values shape our self-image and contrast it with the external pressures of public opinion. We'll talk about the various "roles" you carry as a part of your identity and question if these roles are productive for you or hinder your ability to feel confident.
Ever struggle with negative thinking? In this episode, I share how to approach your negative thoughts so that you can leave them behind and move onto more productive thinking patterns. I share why negative thinking puts unnecessary stress on your relationships and how to cultivate connection instead by sharing the four N's of Navigating Negative Thinking.
Just like our physical bodies need constant exercise, our belief muscle needs to undergo some exercise to build a healthy and productive belief system. In today's episode, I share an important practice to start that will help your self-belief grow by leaps and bounds!
When was the last time you felt really proud of yourself? What were you doing? What did it feel like? What was it that you had to overcome to get to that place? Growing up there are ample opportunities to be proud; school plays, sports, music performances, talent shows, graduations (grade school, middle school, high school, college, etc) but now as adults...what now? feeling proud isn't just a "nice" feeling - it's a necessary NEED and one that will help you progress and connect in bold ways. Come check out the podcast to hear more with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Congratulations, You've leveled up! You're changing - you're becoming more aware, more confident, more authentically you. You've seen some amazing changes in yourself - this is what happens 100% of the time when you dive into coaching. But then there's something that also happens just about 100% of the time that we don't often talk about - when you change, you'll be met with some resistance. The moment you start to change in these really amazing ways there will be or are people in your life that won't like those changes. What do you do when you're growing and upleveling and others don't like the new you?
Confidence is synonymous with faith. It is faith that moves mountains. It is confidence that provides the peace, certainty, and trust to be able to move forward and try new things. I'm excited to share just the tiniest snippets from Dr. Givens and his book, The Doors of Faith and share ideas, concepts, and tools to help you live a life of quiet confidence. Tune in!
The starting point of all confidence is in radical truth-telling. Lies, half-truths, and dishonesty stem from insecurities and fears and you might be dabbling in this area more than you realize. But the good news is that you have options, you can learn how to be a radical truth-teller, and best of all you can create a life of security, certainty, and quiet confidence. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
There are dangers of pretending to be fine when we're not, pretending that things don't bother us when they really do, pretending to be happy instead of being human with a full range of emotions, pretending to enjoy things when we don't, pretending to agree with things when we really don't. This pretending is hurting you more than you realize and there is a way out. Come listen and learn how to stop pretending!
There are rules that are productive for you and there are "rules" that aren't. Some help us to create more confidence and security in ourselves and others that actually hinder your growth and self-image. But what if there are NO RULES? What if you are following "rules" (aka expectations) from others that stifles your confidence not knowing there are other options? Tune in this week with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to learn more how to operate from what you VALUE instead of fear.
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Love it! Could you give the source for the long quote? The one about escalating or de-escalating a crisis?
Thank you for these words of wisdom! I was listening as I was rushing through a quilt I scheduled myself to finish today and after I frustratingly practiced my musical instruments to check them off my to do list. You totally changed my perspective. I forgot that I'm only doing these things because I enjoy them, so I need to just enjoy the process instead of focusing on checking them off the list or focusing on the mistakes along the way. My day just got immensely better! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
Hannah, We are moving these. Amazing job...of course!