The Dating Playbook

It isn't news that women are angry, but why? In this episode we go through everything we go as women and feminine energies and how we can start to heal from our anger and do it together!Key takeaways - How women weren't expected to have an opinion in the past, and if they did they were compare to the sound of an animal.- How women have started to use their masculine traits to succed in the professional world, and how when we go into relationships, society expects us to  tap back into our feminine traits.- How to talk to men, be upfront and clear, and how to get respect from them, and our experiences with it.- How to handle a mean or misogynistic comment made about you or other women, and how to approach men and tell them to stop doing them.Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.com  Socials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt  SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD. @flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

Do you wanna date but just don't want a serious relationship yet? Do you know what you enjoy sexually or are ashamed of this side of you? Have you discovered something about you while dating? Do you date with an open mind?In this episode we discuss all about how to date just for fun and what learn from it!Key takeaways - Dating for fun: what does that even mean? And why dating with an open mind can be good for you!- Being careful about labels and being on the same page with the other person, making it clear what you want and the endgame- Exploring your sexuality and not being ashamed of it and understaning that sex doesn't always have to be more than just sex.- How to go out there and let go of the fear of judgment so you can date for fun, gain experience and get to know more about yourself!Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.com  Socials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt  SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD. @flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

Kapil Gupta co-founded TurnON Britain, a company dedicated towards personal growth. He spent the last 6 years living a very spiritually monastic lifestyle, full of practices based in connection and relating. Kapil is a co-author of an upcoming book, “Being Fine: The other ‘F’ word men use”. Kapil has a deep understanding of the Art of Emotional Communication, and loves working with people on becoming self-aware, working with their shadow, creating ever-evolving relationships and lives fuelled by connection and desire.  On this episode we chat all about the masculine and feminine energies that we all have and how they play a rol while dating. Key takeaways Differentiating gender from the masculine and feminine energies that we ALL have!Recognizing how they work in us: feminine is the full flow chaos and masculine is the boundaries and also when one comes to play more that the other in specific situations.How they get into play when it comes to dating, how to identify if someone has more feminine or masculine energies while dating.What it means when we don't trust others and when we say we're independent but we actually are closed off.Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD.@flexxiofficialwww.flexxifit.co.uk

Are you always upset just after going exclusive with someone? Is the problem the label or the expectation? Do we even discuss what we mean by saying a relationship is exclusive?In this episode we discuss our personal experiences with this, and how we can avoid this!Key takeaways - Labeling a relationships: what does that even mean?- Setting the record staright with your partner on what exclusivity means to both of you, communicate and come to an agreement so no one creates fake expectations or gets upset when the other doesn't behave like that.- How we create expecations because we don't know how to communicate properly what we want our relationship to be.- How to prevent this, ways to communicate with eachother and what are the important questions to ask when you're trying to define a relationship.Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.com  Socials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt  SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD. @flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

Jon is the cofounder of The Single Boss: creative dating events, so people can make things happen, and is living his best single life. On this episode we chat all about the in and outs od dating events!  Key takeaways What are The Single Boss events, and how are they different from other dating events out there.The importance of finding someone with the same values and interests as you.What's up with men and dating events.How decieving dating apps may be and why dating events may be a better way to get to know people.Advice for people going into these dating events, how to show up as the best version of yourself without overthinking it too much.Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD.@flexxiofficialwww.flexxifit.co.uk

Are you constantly attracting the wrong guys? Does it feel like you're never gonna find your lifetime partner? Maybe you're in the need of some self-reflection and seeing if you have enough love for yourself before being able to receive it from someone else.We discuss our personal experiences with it, what are some red flags that may mean that you're not loving yourself and how to get closer to achieving that!Key takeaways - Personal experiences with self-love and why it's a cliche that's very important. - Red flags that could mean that you're not loving yourself enough or the right way.- How important it is to love yourself, so you're able to give and receive that love to and from others.- How to start loving yourself, by doing things by yourself, and taking time to do things that YOU enjoy, without it having anything dating related in it,Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.com  Socials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt  SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD. @flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

Are you dating Shrek or Prince Charming? Do you know who the person that you're with really is or is he just a projection of what you hope we would be? Is he as charming as you make it sound in your head or are your girlfriends telling you something different? We discuss how us women project in our relationships and what we can do to realize it and stop doing itKey takeaways - Examples of projecting, especially after a break-up, why are you missing that person? Was it really that good? Or is it all something that you created in your head?- Projecting values on someone else, thinking that you share the idea of family or how you want to live your life, and that all end up being something that you've created in your head.- How important it is to listen to your cheerleaders when it comes to projecting, because you may be excusing different behaviors or value differences, and when you listen to what they have to say you can make yourself aware of the projection that's going on.- How to stop projecting, so you give yourself space for the real Prince Charming to come into your life, and not live in the past with an idea of something that was never real, it was all in your head as a projection. Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.com  Socials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt  SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD. @flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

Where has all the fun gone?! Dating can feel particularly challenging at the moment so we get real about that & discuss how to bring back the fun!Key Takeaways Currently life is feeling difficult and there’s a lack of funIn these times it’s easy to focus on what you don’t have which compounds life difficultiesWe’ve been conditioned to believe that having one partner and kids will be what fulfills us but is this the only way we can we can be fulfilled?We have an opportunity now to really look at what would bring us happiness in our dating journey Our challenge now is to find ways to generate fun in dating.Mary invites you to hold the intention of “I’m having great dating experiences” and just enjoy the journey. 

Blame it on all the fairy tales and “happily-ever-after” endings that we were made to believe but, one way or another, we’ve got a fantasy tale in our heads that we’d like to make happen for ourselves. A perfect partner, say a prince charming, ready to sweep you off your feet and a magical love story to boot—but wait! Is that really what's happening?!We discuss how us humans have a fantasy vision and ignore the reality.  Key takeaways - What's the difference between the Fantasy and the Reality? The fantasy is what we WANT to have happen. The reality is what is ACTUALLY happening/going to happen. The fantasy is made up in our heads and rarely transpires exactly how you thought it would. - Actions versus Words. Checking if what someone is showing us is in line with what someone is telling us. But more importantly, checking yourself, too, if your actions are in line with your words. - At the onset of the dating stage, you may know what you want. But give yourself time to allow reality to catch up with the fantasy that's going on in your head. - The “Netflix and Chill” situation is a great example. You can Netflix and Chill but know the reality is it may be awkward or if you get intimate, you may not get a call back the other day. The fantasy is you'll both be cuddled up, having an amazing time and will live happily ever after. - There's nothing wrong with the fantasy. Just be aware of when you’re living into it and ignoring a possible reality. Make sure you're checking in with the reality as well. Next episodeProjectionsContact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.com  Socials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt Resources None this episode. SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD. @flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

This episode we pitched up @thealbion in Highbury with special guest Sikisa aka @twix_choc87 Sikisa is a bad ass female comic who has appeared at oodles of London’s best and worst comedy clubs and has been a headliner on The Jonathan Ross Comedy Club. She’s also the founder of Girl Code the comedy chat show...think loose women but funny and full of fierce women. Oh and she’s the proud record holder of 25 dick pics in a day now fondly remembered as ‘Dick Pic Friday’Buckle up.. this is going to be a good one 🏎 Key takeaways Get Some Dick!Best momentsSikisa tells how she got 25 dick pics in one day!We debate monogamy & which celebs may be in open relationshipsSikisa is clear monogamy is for her... too much possible drama!What’s the difference between polyamory, open relationships & cheating?We revisit the idea of @amazon delivering dick to your door Sikisa explains how “get some dick” is a cure all to life’s struggles #gsdSarah & Mary explain “cat -dicking” in dating & worry their mothers will hear #catdickSarah shares a story of when she was cat-dicked & Sikisa breaks down how cat-dicking happensSikisa shares why sex before marriage is essential. You gotta try out the dick!We discuss how far we would travel for dick & this risk you run when participating in booty calls... it’s like playing dick roulette at times!Tips & tricks to “stack the deck” when getting some dick... there lots of pressure on the men & how women can support be mindful of this.Are men more sensitive in 2020? Absolutely!We plan a dick school with a concierge service & feedback ratingWe take a look at the changing dynamics between men & women. How women were educated to be wives & the inequality that still exists Does having different cultural backgrounds impact dating? We discuss how your cultural background can inform your sexuality & who you dateSikisa’s vagina is gentrified! Is having sex with someone from a different cultural background different then dating someone from a different cultural background Is age really just a number? We discuss how age & stage of life & past experience impacts datingDo we need to get married these days? Sikisa would rather spend the money on holiday or buy a flatSikisa shares why she doesn’t like dating apps... dick pics, cat fishes & who speaks firstSarah tries to set Sikisa up... Skiska thinks she already knows him! Is it a match made in heaven?!We discuss the possibility of God being a woman... & having a penisSikisa impersonates Wolverine with retractable dicks & Spider-Man throwing “cream pies”Next episodeTBCContact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: datingplaybook@gmail.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt Sikisa@twix_choc87 @girlcode_chatResourcesSponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD.@flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk#GSG #CATDICKED #CATDICK

Sarah and Mary are excited AND nervous to be sharing their opinions on masculine and feminine energies and how they think today's world is currently impacting them & your dating life!Key takeaways Sarah’s opinion is that we as a society have lost what it means to be masculine & feminineMary questions if we can find a way to fulfill our individual energies in today’s world.Sarah believes we can & it’s going to take going back to understand what these energies areMary reminds us that we have both masculine and feminine energy within us allSarah and Mary discuss the difference between roles and energies. Roles over time have changed, energies have not however these changes have caused confusion for us Previously it was a woman’s role to keep the house while the man went to work. Women have more choices & freedom now and these former roles are less clearMary believes we haven’t ever really had conscious thoughts or teachings about ‘who am I in the world.. as a woman or a man or as dad or partner…’We all learned about interacting with the opposite sex from our parents who we’re really taught about roles or energies eitherSarah realizes she was seeing ‘high powered’ work roles as masculine in energy. Mary shares that bringing a feminine energy to working with men can be lovely and helpfulSarah and Mary discuss how mostly we are reacting to life and not necessarily being aware of what’s going on & what energy we are inIn our current society dictates we go to work and earn money (provide) which may cause women to be more in their masculine energySarah gives some tips on how to be more in your feminine energy. Be intentional!The energies have stayed the same but the dating game has changed which seems to be leaving men confused about their role in is. Should I pay? Can I offer to carry her bag?Mary admits she’s struggled to allow men to do these things and Sarah laughs and shares that she loves when men offer to carry her bag and begs Mary to stop making her life so hard!Sarah & Mary discuss how woman are struggling with being independent & wanting to be looked after by a manSarah & Mary add in how our 'junk' (past trauma/negative experiences) as an individual & society also impacts who we interact with each other & shape our current roles.Sarah & Mary give examples of our current ‘junk’ & how it is different from energy or rolesSarah is partly attracted to the ‘traditional’ roles (men provide & women nurture) and how she also resists this idea. Mary breaks down how this is energy vs roles.2021 is an exciting time because we get to create what being feminine looks like.We have so much freedom of choice now and as humans we are exploring lots of different options in dating. Open/alternative relationships. Mary discusses how our level of conscious has us have lots of choices and leads us to be unsure when we are doing something we perceive as different from everyone else. Sarah encourages everyone to explore any kind of dating experience you want Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt Resources Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John GrayRise Sister Rise by  Rebecca Campbell The Untethered Soul by Michael A. SingerUrban Tantra Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas 

Asa is a dating and relationship coach who also runs a London dating agency called Tailormatched.  Her passion is empowering people in dating, relationships and sex. She’s on a mission to break the taboos around sexual desires and preferences. Key takeaways Tailor Matched was created from Asa's personal experience of being compatible with a man in life but not sexually. Even if sex is not important to you, you want to talk about it even if you have other things in common.A healthy conversation of whats important to you without shame is so important.How to start a conversation about sex and how you can navigate it inside of your own boundaries of what you feel is comfortable ('Create a container of trust').Testing the waters and boundaries...how to manage asking the question, answering and then the reaction.Women know what they want but can be afraid to say it. Learn what you want so you can playback when a question is asked. It's important to unravel any shame you feel so you can express yourself fully.We often make other peoples responses to our questions mean something about us.  By seeing a different side of these responses you can react in a way that can deepen the connection.When you are vulnerable yourself it creates the space for others to be vulnerable with you.The more comfortable you are with yourself the more you can be free to ask the questions and be free with the response you feel.Our head runs along with the thoughts about the future or worries of what to ask.  Learn to be ok with your thoughts but you don't need to buy into it or react.  Turn all these 'what ifs' on their head and look at what you are in control of and regain power over it.  Then just enjoy the moment.Focus on your life so you're not waiting around for them to text back. Build a healthy tension with text messages.  You will get bored if you get everything on a plate ALL the time.We get so attached the to end result and loose sight of learning more about ourselves, other people, who we are and what we want, have a blast being single - all of this is creating the foundation you'll build that epic relationship on.  See rejection as redirection - it has redirected you to someone else who is meant for you.  Remember you have created that connection from nothing and you can keep making those over until you find the person for you.Don't let people take your power away from you. Always remember that the person who blocked you wasn't for you; them blocking you doest mean anything about you.  If they are going to do this so early on what would they be like in a relationship - they have helped themselves to filter themselves out...thank you ;o)How can a dating agency support you in finding your MVP, the wonderful value they can add to you, how they can filter and match your values with potential matches.Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt Resources Tailor Matched - Asa BaavWebsite  tailormatched.comInstagram tailormatchedEmail hello@tailormatched.comSponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD.@flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

How do I know he's telling me the truth......Key takeaways Sarah and Mary discuss the historical power imbalance between men and women Mary explains how your past experiences can impact your present experiences and how any bad past experience inform your current views/opinions. This can make you mistrustful so the game is to know your past and stop it from tripping you up! Sarah and Mary share an examples of Sarah's mistrust of any man she considers to be a 'hot boy'. Once you you what your past mistrusts are, share them with your cheerleaders so they can help you identify when it's happening with someone who hasn't earned mistrust. Are you adding someone's attitude when replaying a conversation? Mary shares how she does this. It's part of the human condition to protect against others so check in what meaning/context you're addingThere’s a difference between the mistrust you bring to the conversation and someone lying to youWhen a man tells you something that will effect his chances with you... believe him!Sarah shares some experiences when men have not said they have kids. Thus is an example of a man who doesn’t see a future with you and doesn’t want his chances of something physical being effectedActions vs Words! Men will show you their truth... women will speak their truth. A man’s actions will reveal his true intentions, give it time to see. Patience is required!Shout out to Netflix BRIDGETON!Sarah and Mary introduce “projecting”... us feminine energies have a tendency to project an ideal of a man onto himLet’s play!!!  Next episodeTBCContact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: hello@thedatingplaybook.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt Resources None this episode.SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD.@flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk

WELCOME TO OUR NEW SPONSOR.... FLEXXI FIT!!!!!Do you feel like you're always meeting the wrong guy? Feeling frustrated in your dating life? Knowing your core values can help you to avoid these dramas and many more!Key takeaways It's our opinion that love isn't always enough. If you have a values mismatch it may destabilize any budding romance. Knowing your values from the beginning can help you identify red flagsA values mismatch doesn't always mean the end of something... It can be a conversation to understand the person you're dating and have them understand youWrite down your core values so you know them inside out. List out all the possible values to choose from and whittle them down until you have 3 or 4 tops onesOnce you know your core values you can more easily see if someone else's match yours. When dating, the order of your core values may change a little... At times one might be a higher priority and a lower priority at others. Sarah shares her her core values changed after doing lots of discovery and personal development. When you don't know what your core values are, you may find yourself repeatedly meeting the 'wrong guy'  Sharing about your values and concerns about any values mismatch can create a safe space for someone else to share their vales/concerns When you're living from your values you are excited and fulfilled and your dating life can be a huge adventure! You can also be the best partner for when you find your MVP Some important areas to look at your values in are spirituality/religion, finance, hobbies/interests, family, career, politicsLet’s play!!!  Find Your Values!List out all the possible values in the worldOne by one whittle them down until you have 3 or 4 maxOnce you have your core values, break down what do those values look like in your lifeNext episodeHow do I know he is telling me the truth?!Contact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: datingplaybook@gmail.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt Resources None this episode.SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD.@flexxiofficialwww.flexxifit.co.uk

We review 2020 and plan 2021.You maybe more used to this kind of review and planing session in your career/business than your dating life....and it works so let's get into it.Review Questions1. How much did you enjoy your dating experiences in 2020?2. How clear are you on what you want in your partner and from your partnership?3. How satisfied are you with your consistency and effort in dating in 2020?4. What is your progress in knowing yourself and your values?Creation Questions1. Why are you dating?  What is your intention/goal?2. What would make dating more enjoyable?3. Revise Juicy Gazelle's from Episode 3 to get clear on what you want4. What is your plan? Will you be on the free apps? Paid apps? Will you use a matchmaker? Will you meet people serendipitously?5. What are you core values?  If you don't know do our core values exercise (see below).Identifying your core values 1. Make a list of all your values2. Review the list you make and cross out the ones that don't fit and get to your top 103. Review your top 10 and cross out the ones that don't fit or you may find that some of the top 10 could be combined into one value.  Create your top 3/4 values (no more than 4)Next episodeTBCContact infoWe love hearing your date stories & who you think we must have on as a guest.Email: datingplaybook@gmail.comSocials@thedatingplaybookFacebook https://bit.ly/2FbUUPD Instagram https://bit.ly/3byPGJHYouTube https://bit.ly/2R03Slt Resources Episode 2: How To Have an Unstoppable MindsetEpisode 3: Start with your why for supersonic dating success! (In this episode you will find Juicy Gazelle's)Episode 4: Cheerleaders – who are they and why you should have them as part of your team on your dating adventure Episode 15: Your MVP (Most valuable person...the one...love of your life) - who is he and where to find him (In this episode you'll find the game Juicy Gazelles - LEVEL UP)SponsorfleXXi fit - the menstrual cup that empowers you to be fierce and free in your fitness life. PERIOD.@flexxiofficial www.flexxifit.co.uk