When I was binge eating, it wasn't that I didn't want to feel my feelings—I just didn't know how to be with them without getting swallowed whole. Every time I tried, it felt like too much. And every time it felt like too much, the bingeing swept in to help. In this episode, we explore what happens when you don't pressure yourself to sit in your feelings forever, but instead take just a small dip. Not a deep dive. Not a cannonball. Just a moment to be with what's present—before coming back up for air. We can have parts of ourselves that get spooked by the prospect of feeling. Sometimes these parts have been trying to keep us steady and able to get through the day. Often, these parts are told to just "feel it and move on." Sometimes this confrontation works. But other times it creates overwhelm or additional difficult emotions, and the bingeing steps in to cool things down. There's another way. Listen to Episode 84 to learn more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/84. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complimentary consult today. I pinky-swear—NO icky salesy vibes, just compassion and understanding.
When I was binge eating, what was missing from my life wasn't just freedom from bingeing—it was freedom itself. The kind of freedom you feel when you laugh with a friend at a café, walk with a neighbor in a park, or lose yourself—even for ten minutes—in a book that isn't trying to improve you. In this episode, we explore what happens when you gently invite pleasure back into your life—not as a reward for good behavior, but as a birthright. Because bingeing isn't always about food. Sometimes it's a part of you trying to break up the grind, bring back some joy, or create a moment that feels like it's actually yours. If you're tired of being told to push harder or restrict more, listen in. This isn't about more discipline. It's about less pressure. It's about giving your parts something they've been longing for: a little fun, just because. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/83. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today. I pinky-swear—NO icky salesy vibes, just compassion and understanding.
You know those days when you're running on fumes, your inbox feels like it's breeding, and the idea of moving your body feels about as appealing as ironing doilies in a heatwave? Yeah—those days. In this episode, we'll talk about why getting more sleep, moving in ways you actually enjoy, and easing even one tiny source of stress can quietly start to change your relationship with bingeing. No food rules. No shame. Just small shifts that respect where you are—and the parts of you that are trying so hard to help. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/82. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today. I pinky-swear—NO icky salesy vibes, just compassion and understanding.
When I say, "Aretha Franklin," what's the first thing you want to belt out? If it's R-E-S-P-E-C-T, that's you and me both, my friend. And, don't worry, I won't hold it against you if it wasn't. As one of my Internal Family Systems consultants, Robert Falconer, reminded me, respect is the opposite of shame and the minimum of love. The second of those ideas, he said, came from the work of Pia Melody, renowned author on recovery from addictions. Shame is such an inherent part of the bingeing experience that it's built right into the clinical criteria for binge eating disorder. But regarding yourself with respect and care changes the game completely. Listen in to find out more! Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/81. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today. I pinky-swear—NO icky salesy vibes, just compassion and understanding.
Every time I promised myself I'd quit bingeing, my first instinct was to trade carrot cake for carrot sticks and run so hard I'd practically slide off the treadmill. But no matter how dedicated I was to so-called "clean eating" and marathon gym sessions, the binges always came back. Here's what I missed back then: There are key things you can do—things that have nothing to do with counting carbs or surviving bootcamp—things that can markedly shift bingeing. Counterintuitive as this is, focusing away from restricting and working out often yields a desire to eat and move in ways that serve us—body, mind, and soul. In all, I'll been talking about 10 important pieces to understand, and this episode focuses on understanding how your bingeing makes sense. YES, you read that right! Listen in to hear why it makes sense and why it's so powerful to understand that it does. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/80. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today. I pinky-swear—NO icky salesy vibes, just compassion and understanding.
What does a shimmering pool on a hot desert plain have to do with you and binge eating? Keep listening! Welcome to The Done Bingeing Podcast. This is the place to hear about how you can pair the emerging brain science about why you binge with powerful life coaching to help you stop. If you want to explore an evidence-based, non-clinical approach to end binge eating, you're in the right place. It's time to free yourself. You have more power than you know. To find out more, go to www.holdingthespace.co and click Programs
"How do I deal with the urge to binge?" It's one of the most common questions I get asked. The experience of the urge can be incredibly tough, scary even. But you're not alone in this. I've put together this episode with nine actionable steps to help you navigate those moments when the urge to binge eat feels overwhelming. In episode 78, I share nine actionable steps to help you when you're experiencing urges and cravings, including part of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/78. And here's the cherry on top: I've created a special resource called, Calm in the Crave: Your Pocket Pal When You Need It, just for you. It summarizes everything we'll discuss here, so you can have it handy whenever you need it. Head over to https://www.holdingthespace.co/calm to download it.
If you're anything like me, you've probably tried every diet, program or solution you could find—so many of which promised rapid results. I understand the soaring hope as you start out followed by the descent into disappointment when the bingeing returns, because I've been there too. It makes sense to me that you want to stop bingeing right now—or yesterday—forever. But what I've learned from my and my clients' lives is that living from a place of urgency and pressure for immediate change often leads to exactly the result you don't want—slower change, no change, or backward movement. Listen to episode 77 as I talk about the exponential power of tiny marginal improvements, as outlined by James Clear in his book, Atomic Habits. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/77. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.
Binge eaters often wonder: Is it safe for me to hope that one day I'll be able to stop bingeing, after doing it for this long? I remember wondering this too. Then I'd risk it, try a new approach, and find myself uplifted with hope. Then, when the approach didn't resolve my bingeing, I'd find myself dropped back into hopelessness, believing once again that freedom was impossible, a place where hope seemed a world away. Luckily hope isn't the only thing that can inspire healing. There's power in holding on to the possibility of healing, rather than clinging to the hope of healing. Listen in to episode 76 as I talk about how focusing on the plains of possibility offers some respite from the rollercoaster ride of hopefulness and hopelessness. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/76. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complimentary consult today.
Depending on where you live, you may be about a month into summer. The summer is fraught with exposure stress for many binge eaters. With more heat comes more beach trips, more pool parties, more shorts, shorter sleeves, higher skirts, undershirts, camisoles, Speedos, and bikinis. With more flesh to be seen, the spring often brings on a deluge of summer pressure, preparations, and promises. At this point in June, those aspirations may be going swimmingly well or drowning in disappointment. If it's the latter, or if you want to set a new goal right now, this episode is for you—it's all about setting intensions, based on the work of Chris Burris, an Internal Family Systems lead trainer and author. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/75. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complimentary consult today.
Guilt and shame aren't the same. And it turns out that it pays to understand how they differ and what their relationship is with binge eating. This episode explains the difference between guilt and shame, why we feel these emotions, and what they often lead us to do. When enough compassion is present, it's possible to see how our parts that feel guilt and shame interact with harshly critical parts of us that can inflame these emotions, and with a binge eating part that tries to ease the pain and return harmony. Listen to the episode here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/74. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.
On my road to recovery, I sometimes didn't binge for weeks or months. And sometimes all it took to slide back into bingeing was a holiday meal—a slide that could glide on for even more weeks or months. As it turned out, I'd rock like this . . . forward, backward, forward, backward . . . for decades. This episode is about how sometimes our bingeing can worsen or come back during the holidays, even when we're celebrating with those we love. If there's lingering guilt or shame about this, we can feel isolated and reluctant to reach out for help. Listen in as I talk about how to ease shame and blame about binge eating. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/73. If you're ready to invest in one-on-one support to help heal binge eating, go to https://holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.
This time of year, Ramadan, Passover, and Easter are celebrations that honor what we believe, who we are, and whom we love. There are open hearts and open homes. Whether it's sharing a tradition, a meal, or a hunt for special eggs, there are many opportunities to nourish ourselves and our relationships. The promise of renewal is everywhere. And so is food. Food could be right in front of us at a meal or circling in our minds as we wait for a meal. Either way, holidays like these can be both beautiful and challenging. If this sounds like you and you'd like some help to avoid bingeing over the holidays, you're not alone. Episode 72 is for you! Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/72. If having someone by your side to support you sounds amazing, go to https://www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.
In this episode, we briefly review the food feedback loop and take a closer look at pain and desire feedback loops. If we fear a painful experience enough to escape it with food, our brains note that and determine that the pain is a threat. The more we try to muffle the pain with truffles, the more threatening the pain becomes. We shrink and the pain looms. And when the pain comes again, we're already laced up and ready to race. To not live to our full potential is to be alone inside ourselves, to lose hope in possibility, to watch dreams wash away. As Nelson Mandela once said, "There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living." Remember Captain Marvel from back in the day when he used to wear red tights with a gold lightning streak across his chest? Well, he just yelled, "Shazam! We have our positive feedback loop." Listen to episode 71 of The Done Bingeing Podcast where we go deeper into painful positive feedback loops that are so common among binge eaters and where we ponder the superhero in you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/71. I may not quite be Bat Woman, but if you flash the Bat Signal across the sky, I'll fly to your side. Go to https://www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar for a complementary consult today.
Sometimes it starts like this: We have food that's concentrated in some way—maybe it's extra savory, extra crunchy, extra sweet. And we have an amount in excess of what we need. Then we get more from the food beyond an ordinarily enjoyable way to nourish and sustain our bodies—we get an amplification of pleasure and fullness, a spike in energy, and a numbing of any pain that might be hanging around. So far, so good, perhaps. But what next? When the eating stops and the effect of the food wears off, the amplified pleasure not only goes away, but we may feel a sense of withdrawal from it. The energy spike now becomes an energy drop. And the pain comes back. Remembering that food gave us the heightened pleasure, increased energy, and escape from pain in the first place, we may go back for more. And now? Houston, we have a problem—a positive feedback loop in which the solution deepens the struggle. Listen to episode 70 of The Done Bingeing Podcast where I explore three positive feedback loops central to the experience of binge eaters. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/70. Want to call Mission Control? Go to https://www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and radio in for a free, 30-minute consultation.
Are you making resolutions, writing down goals, envisioning dreams? This can be a tough time for binge eaters because where a binge eater is on their journey is often quite far away from where they want to be. And when something is desperately wanted that feels far, far away, our instinct at New Year's—especially with all the messaging that's come our way—is to do an about face. For many binge eaters, that means a new diet starting January 1. This episode is about thinking about the new year to come, grounded in an understanding of how meeting critical needs makes living our dreams so much more possible. When our needs are met, we experience a different set of emotions than when our needs are not met. So let's focus in on well-being! When we take care of this, we feel better, and when we feel good it's so much easier to eat the way we dream of without the 180 that often swings back to 0 a few weeks into the year. Want to skip the 180 flip? Let's talk. Go to www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar today for a free, 30-minute consultation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/69.
Tis the season to be jolly, we're told, so you know what? Let's talk about that. Why? Because this season really can be jolly, where feelings and festivities align. I had so many holiday seasons where I felt much love, much togetherness, and was left enthralled. Maybe you're feeling something like that right now. This is the bliss of having our physical, social, emotional, and spirituals needs met. In this peaceful vibrancy, our feelings show it and so does our eating. Why is this important? Because when our needs aren't met and our feelings signal that, we are far more likely to binge. Listen in to learn more! What if you imagined me all wrapped up in a bow—but nothing too sketchy, ok? Let me be a gift to you. You know in your bones that something profoundly important awaits on the other side of bingeing. And I know in my bones that the purpose of my life is to help you get there. Let's talk. Go to www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30 and get on my calendar today. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/68.
When past binges are held in secrecy and shame, this can be a lonely ride … even when the candles of the menorah light up, day by day; even when lights on the trees twinkle, inside and out; even when carolers serenade before your door; and even as the Kwanzaa flag is draped, east-facing, across a table of honor. It's one thing to feel alone when you are alone. It's another thing altogether, when you're surrounded by flickers and family, twinkles and tales, singers and song, and colors and the glory of freedom. In this episode, I take you through three steps to begin to transform the experience after a binge into something completely different. For decades, I spent this time of year feeling alone among the many, dark within the luminescence, divided amid the communion. I've been there before, my friend, and I'm here for you now. Hang out we me for a free 30-minute chat and let me show you how I can help you through it all. Not a pressured sales call, just a friendly conversation. To get on my calendar today, go to https://www.holdingthespace.as.me/free30. There's no better time to have me by your side! Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/67.
When a binge has started it can seem as if you're veering off-course with no way back. But there is a way forward, even as you're already eating off protocol. Listen in for the 6 steps to take when it feels as if failure is upon you. If you're ready to apply the concepts in this podcast at a deeper level, join me in The Soulfull Academy membership program. Go to https://www.holdingthespace.co/join/ to learn more. Or, if now's the time to dive in and do this profound world with exclusive 1:1 access to me, go to https://www.holdingthespace.co/apply and apply to work with me privately.
This episode is about what to do if you feel you won't be able to have a day without bingeing, or without going off a diet or protocol. You may recognize all-or-nothing, aka black-and-white, thinking if you've ever thought something similar to, "I know I'm going to binge, so I might as well make it count." Episode 65 offers five ideas for the times you sense an oncoming urge to binge and that you won't be able to stop. I invite you to personalize them in whatever way feels right for you. If you're ready to apply the concepts in this podcast at a deeper level, join me in The Soulfull Academy membership program. Go to https://www.holdingthespace.co/join/ to learn more. Or, if now's the time to dive in and do this profound work with exclusive 1:1 access to me, go to www.holdingthespace.co/apply and apply to work with me privately. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.holdingthespace.co/65.