In this episode I touch upon the woo woo subject of NOW. So if you don’t like this spiritual stuff you are welcome to change the channel to something else more your style. But if you’re curious to find out how this kind of material can be useful to you in your practical life, than it may resonate with you. It’s all about noticing at a deeper level, that the past and the future is now, and never has been anything else because of the fact that they are just abstract concepts that can often be used incorrectly by way of how you think about your internal and external reality.
In this episode I talk about awareness, and how to sharpen the skill of pattern recognition. After doing this work I’ve come to realize that not only that a belief is just a habit of thought, but in every moment you are practicing a habit that’s either serving you or not. So this simplifies it to the point that, you can see (the only thing that you can change) how you’re responding to whatever thought you are thinking in a given moment, and that there’s an unknown number of these attempts to recognizing a pattern at its beginning stages) that once you achieve that number of responses, it equates to a new habit of practicing better quality responses. Particularly it would be kind of like a habit that is a (beginning of an old pattern/habit, new pattern of responding habit.)
How does a person who isn’t behind in an area of life respond to the fact that they are not as ahead as they would like to be? Do they rush around frantically and do tasks in a less than thorough manner? No. They learn the process of building a foundation for themselves that is prepared and laid out in a fashion that which most times when they slip up, because they have many useful habits that serve them, (that have become easy to maintain due to the length of time that they have spent practicing the habits) and different types of stability. They use the back up plan, and only briefly experience the set back.
In this episode we plunge deep into how imbibing a substance regularly or even infrequently can still have a negative effect on your life, if you think about it in a unresourceful way. I also touch upon the benefits that I experienced from significantly decreasing the amount of alcohol that I would consume, and how good habits can support you on your mission of sobriety or lowered alcohol intake.
The real work is the way you think. If you can’t change that, you can’t really change much of anything. If you over complicate, catastrophize, hesitate, or some version of over-thinking that leads to periods of procrastination, then this episode may be useful to you. The start is the most difficult part of taking action, and in this episode I talk about how to do the simplest yet easiest thing to overlook the difficulty of. Simplicity is indeed, the ultimate sophistication.
In this episode I talk about how to continue moving forward as you did before the physical relationship existed, and how to gain clarity on the matter so that you can take the required steps of action towards what is best for you in the future which may or may not involve the other person you shared experiences with in a relationship.
In this episode I go over 3 strategies for changing habitual thought patterns (that are often unconscious) that lead to bad behaviours that can create a cycle, and if not addressed, can after a period of time, create unnecessary problems in difficult contexts. If you find yourself in difficult contexts/circumstances where thoughts that aren’t useful (like the ones I describe further in this episode,) come up habitually, (as if you’re addicted to them) it is extremely useful to at least exercise some willpower to try strategies like the ones that I provide, that get your direction of focus heading in the right direction. This often leads to more useful behaviours, which evoke more useful responses from the people you surround yourself with on a daily or weekly basis.
If you change how you think about money in terms of energy currency, and you acknowledge that you’re thoughts are energy just like your actions that follow them. Than you can understand and experience that being sick with less energy currency than what you usually have flowing to you, is something that you do, where LESS money follows, just like if you have and energetically create more energy currency to which you can use to zestfully earn MORE money/have more money than what you’re currently and usually earning follow and flow to you.
When looked through a wider perspective, when you lie to others you are lying to yourself, because you bring yourself (lying to them) where ever (you) go. If you were in their shoes, you wouldn’t like to have someone lie to you. So if you have lied to yourself, and gotten into a cycle of bad behaviour, consistency/being true to yourself and behaving in the manor that you want requires demonstrating to yourself a particular period of time that are full of points at which it would be easy to do the bad behaviour but didn’t. Than you can refer back to those points of a reference to continue to not do the bad behaviour, because you already declined the inclinations to do it several times.
In this episode I touch upon the motivating factors in realizing that quantifying how much of a pay off and how much of a price that you’re paying in feeding a bad habit and in its consistency of doing the unresourceful behaviour over time/the same unwanted results that followed, is worth quantifying/recording just how much of a price you’re paying by doing it. When you write it down next to just how much of a pay off it has been, and compare the two in your life overall, you start to see that it’s not such a hard decision to make especially if you know you can still exercise some self control for a period of time. By doing this, you see what possibilities not doing the behaviour affords you, especially when accompanied with resourceful behaviours that are practiced consistently.
In this episode we go into how to sort your reality of necessities so that you can be prepared for when you see the opportunities. (The more you Fully engage in this present moment, whatever the circumstances, the more you’ll be practiced in fully engaging in a present moment that will come when it is no longer the future.
In this episode I’m plunging into ways to change how you respond to unexpected circumstances and emotions that seem to accompany them. Although sometimes, for some people they can find their emotions to be like a roller coaster, where they feel like they have little to no control. If you’re experience is similar to this, doesn’t it seem kind of dumb from a perspective outside of yourself looking in, that you’re emotions can go up and down like a roller coaster without any real outside influences happening around you, and yet it feels mentally challenging, to the point where you feel as though you don’t have the freedom to choose, even though you’re just sitting in your car thinking about the past or the future. (Often it’s a perfect mixture of both. Yet one you can’t do anything about, and the other you can’t do anything about it yet/as of right now.)
In this episode I talk about how to understand your long term goals as just ideas with potential. And getting confirmation or someone else to understand doesn’t help you to understand necessarily. Your understanding comes from you. Just like when others decide on behalf of you, you are also deciding to believe the same thing that they are decided to believe. Whether or not you are aware of that fact. It is crucial to see the idea as a seed that is extremely important to let them germinate and become something more, before you share them with others.
In this episode I touch upon a way to recognize and perceive a pattern of thinking and behaviour in a whole new way. It deals with paying more attention to how you actually feel in a moment to moment basis, in which you see yourself and the logical pattern of emotions that you go on when you’re headed for a loss of control in the way you behave.
In this episode we tackle the thinking process that often goes into and creates a behaviour that doesn’t serve you. Like noticing that you don’t have to feel any particular way after you’ve noticed how you have identified with the harsh and unsettling voice in your head that often goes under the radar in your mind. This is just one way at which you can think from this moment onward. And have a sturdy or at least neutral thought to jump off of, so to speak. (Like a diving board)
In this episode we get into some ways you can use your alarm on your phone to make it into a game of reminding you of the best times to work on your questions to ask yourself at those moments of doubts that often come up when we least expect it, or at least when we have something else on our mind. “What was that? What did I just say to myself?” “What was the picture that I just manufactured in my mind?”And just watch what specific words we use, the tonality that we use them in, the dimness or the fuzziness of the picture etc. The whole inner conversation, and than what we say to ourselves after we first see what we’re saying to ourselves, than notice that.
Have you ever noticed how the smallest annoyances on a daily basis seem to slow you down the most. But the biggest adversities tend to have a more (adverse) effect that usually is really good. We learn about how life can vary in experiences, and after that big adversity, the rest of life is a bit easier because of it. It prepared you for future adversities, and you wouldn’t be where you are if it never had happened. All that change wouldn’t have made you change to the extent that you did.
Have you ever seen someone day dreaming and tried to get their attention? Or maybe they were figuring something out, like trying to imagine a solution to a problem. The more you practice how you imagine something you want might go/ how you want it to go, the more likely you are to see a solution and succeed in performing better at it in reality. Wouldn’t you feel more confident with yourself and your idea of how you want it to go, if you were able to imagine the result you want and convince yourself that that’s the way it’s likely to go?
In this episode I talk to my friend Ken Gip, about the 3 insights that work for me that get me to a better feeling conscious state, and get me more prepared to take action and deal with life’s problems. Like for example: looking at the similar skills, experiences, and accomplishments that you bring to the table when looking for a job for instance, that you may not give yourself credit for, that can also be used to implement into being qualified for a new and better job. A single idea can create or rectify a lifetime of problems.
In this episode I talk about how dreams can have patterns that we can also recognize playing out in our daily lives, on a different scale. Just one example of where most of the dream has a similar emotional state as others and in several daily life situations that changes to a substantially different better feeling emotional state at the end of the dream or (in daily life) over certain hours of the day.