The Estranged Heart

In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores the concept of coded family communication, where socially acceptable phrases mask deeper emotional discomfort. He discusses how this coded language can lead to emotional gatekeeping, impacting relationships and emotional expression. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing and decoding these phrases to foster emotional honesty and connection within families, particularly regarding the misunderstood role of anger.TakeawaysCoded language masks emotional discomfort and avoidance.Emotions like anger, grief, and fear are often labeled as unacceptable.Coded phrases are inherited and perpetuated through generations.Emotional gatekeeping can lead to estrangement and silence in relationships.Building emotional fluency fosters deeper connections and understanding.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere 

In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed addresses the emotional turmoil and exhaustion experienced by parents dealing with estrangement from their adult children. The discussion emphasizes the importance of acknowledging pain, understanding the complexities of grief, and the necessity of acceptance in the healing process. Kreed encourages listeners to transform their pain into wisdom and to communicate effectively, both with themselves and others, while building emotional resilience and seeking support.TakeawaysEstrangement can lead to deep emotional exhaustion.It's normal to feel anger, resentment, and fear in these situations.Acknowledging pain is the first step towards healing.Pain that is resisted becomes suffering; pain that is witnessed becomes wisdom.Support systems are crucial; not all friends and family can provide the needed support.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedreverewww.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the emotional challenges faced by those experiencing estrangement during the holiday season. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, she explores themes of grief, exclusion, and the loss of traditional roles within families. The episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging pain, finding new ways to celebrate, and practicing self-care during difficult times. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their feelings and create new traditions that honor their experiences.TakeawaysIt's important to acknowledge and sit with one's pain.Survival during the holidays can take many forms.Self-care is essential during difficult emotional times.Honesty about feelings can be more healing than pretending.You are worthy of gentleness and grace, even in grief.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this reflective episode, Kreed honors four years of the Estranged Heart podcast, exploring themes of healing, personal growth, and the evolution of estrangement. She shares her journey from victimhood to healing, the challenges of navigating fractures in relationships, and the importance of humility and reverence in the process. The conversation emphasizes the beauty of embracing the messy middle of life and the ongoing conversation with change.TakeawaysHealing doesn't come from erasing our pain; it comes from staying present to it.Conviction is shaped in the heat of confusion, not certainty.Life is gloriously imperfect, and change is a constant companion.Messiness is not weakness; it's where strength grows.Love can evolve, and we must learn to live with open hearts.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the painful reality of estrangement from a parent's perspective. She emphasizes that estrangement is often not about the child's character but rather about the emotional experiences within the family. Kreed discusses the complexity of love, the importance of understanding emotional safety, and the need for curiosity in navigating these difficult relationships. She encourages parents to reflect on their own experiences and the emotional realities of their children, highlighting that love and hurt can coexist and both are valid.Takeaways- Estrangement often reflects emotional experiences rather than parental failure.- Understanding estrangement requires acknowledging both love and hurt.- Questions about estrangement should focus on family dynamics, not blame.- Every act of love and care in parenting matters.- Growth comes from exploring the complexities of love and estrangement.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode, Kreed explores the concept of 'hardened hearts'—the emotional armor we build to protect ourselves from pain and the impact it has on our relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she discusses how this protective mechanism can lead to estrangement and disconnection, while also emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and the courage it takes to open our hearts again. The episode encourages listeners to recognize their own protective instincts and to approach healing with compassion and understanding.Takeaways- A hardened heart forms as a protective mechanism.- Softness and vulnerability are signs of courage, not weakness.- Recognizing protector parts can help in understanding estranged loved ones.- Love and pain share the same doorway; closing one closes both.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the complexities of apologizing, particularly in the context of parent-adult child relationships. She emphasizes the importance of sincerity, understanding the impact of one's actions, and the need for time in the healing process. A true apology is characterized by humility, accountability, and a recognition of the other person's experience. Kreed also highlights the difference between sincere and transactional apologies, urging listeners to reflect on their motivations when seeking forgiveness.Takeaways= Sincerity in apologies is often misunderstood by parents.- A true apology acknowledges the impact of one's actions.- Rebuilding trust is essential for rebuilding relationships after hurt.- Repairing relationships takes time and patience.- Transactional apologies lack true sincerity and are conditional.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective Community: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode, Kreed explores the complex role of labels in estranged relationships, discussing how they can both help and hinder personal growth and understanding. The conversation emphasizes the importance of using labels responsibly, recognizing their potential to trap individuals in fixed identities, and encouraging listeners to reflect on their own use of labels in relationships. Kreed provides insightful questions for self-reflection and highlights the need for awareness in fostering healing and change.Takeaways- Labels can provide language for pain but can also trap us. They can create barriers to protect us but also imprison us.- Labels can help us understand our experiences but should not define us. People can and do change, despite labels.- Using labels as fixed identities can hinder growth and change.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation of The Estranged Heart, Kreed Revere addresses the complexities of parental estrangement, focusing on the emotional turmoil that parents experience when they feel distanced from their children. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and understanding one's feelings of anger and grief, exploring the underlying beliefs that contribute to these emotions. Kreed encourages parents to reflect on their own childhood experiences and the impact of hierarchical beliefs on their relationships with their adult children. Ultimately, she advocates for awareness and compassion in navigating these challenging dynamics.Takeaways- The fury felt in estrangement is a valid emotional response.- Parental beliefs about entitlement can hinder healthy relationships.- Anger can serve as a protective mechanism for deeper vulnerabilities.- Transactional relationships are unhealthy and should be avoided.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode of the Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores the concept of echo chambers through the lens of personal experiences, particularly during a Thanksgiving gathering. He discusses how fear and familiarity can trap individuals in unproductive patterns, preventing growth and change. The conversation emphasizes the importance of curiosity as a means to break free from these echo chambers and encourages listeners to challenge their perspectives and embrace new experiences for healing and personal development.Takeaways- Echo chambers limit curiosity and growth.- Fear prevents individuals from trying new things. Curiosity can help break the cycle of fear.- It's important to question familiar narratives.- Healing requires stepping out of comfort zones.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation, Kreed explores the complex emotional landscape of estrangement between parents and adult children. She emphasizes that estrangement is often not the result of a single event but rather a culmination of unmet emotional needs and communication patterns. She encourages parents to shift their perspective from self-blame to compassionate curiosity, fostering understanding and healing in their relationships. She also highlights the importance of recognizing personal patterns and seeking guidance to navigate the complexities of estrangement.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

SummaryIn this conversation, Kreed explores the concepts of radical acceptance and radical responsibility, particularly in the context of estrangement and healing. She critiques the notion of radical acceptance as potentially dismissive and emphasizes the importance of taking radical responsibility for one's healing and personal growth. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, she guides listeners on how to embrace their healing journey and take control of their emotional well-being.Takeaways- Radical acceptance can feel dismissive and may lead to resignation.- Radical responsibility empowers individuals to take charge of their healing.- Acknowledging reality is the first step, but action is necessary for transformation.- You are not responsible for the harm done to you, but for your healing.- Practical steps include identifying wounds and claiming your healing.- Radical responsibility can lead to healthier relationships and personal peace.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation, Kreed shares the journey of starting her podcast, 'The Estranged Heart,' which aims to support families experiencing estrangement. She discusses her motivations, the importance of authenticity in her storytelling, and how her personal growth reflects in the evolution of the podcast. Kreed emphasizes the significance of creating a genuine connection with her audience and the heartfelt intention behind her work.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this episode, Kreed discusses the complexities of estrangement between mothers and their adult children. She emphasizes the importance of naming the issues at hand to reclaim personal power and foster healing. Through a pathway of curiosity, awareness, and acceptance, mothers can confront uncomfortable truths about their parenting and relationships. The conversation highlights that acknowledging one's role in estrangement does not equate to blame but opens the door to growth and potential reconnection.TAKEAWAYSNaming issues moves us out of victimhood.Fear of vulnerability can hinder reconnection efforts.Naming truths is the first step towards healing.Compassion is essential in navigating estrangement.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere

In this conversation, Kreed reflects on the evolution of her podcast and community, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and healing in the context of estrangement. She discusses her journey from a place of pain to a more empathetic understanding of both estranged parents and adult children. Kreed highlights the ongoing nature of healing, the significance of community support, and the need for compassion and curiosity in navigating difficult emotions.TakeawaysThe journey of self-discovery is ongoing and transformative.Personal healing can shift perspectives on estrangement.Healing is not a destination but a continuous process.Change in perspective does not diminish past experiences.The podcast will continue to evolve alongside Kreed's journey.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed)https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupTo support the podcast and Kreed’s work with estranged and reconciled parents and adult children: https://buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere