The Man Enough Podcast

TW: This episode discusses domestic violence.  In this special episode, we sit down with singer-songwriter, dancer, actress, and model FKA twigs to explore her journey of healing, resilience, and reclaiming self-worth. In 2020, twigs courageously went public with allegations of domestic violence against her ex-partner Shia LaBeouf. As her legal battle approaches, she reflects on her decision to seek justice and shares her thoughts on the upcoming trial, emphasizing the importance of holding men accountable, no matter their status or success.   Twigs offers profound insights into her experience as a survivor, shedding light on how emotional manipulation can consume one’s entire psyche and leave lasting effects on both mind and body. She discusses the challenges of leaving an abusive relationship and the lifelong process of rebuilding trust and reclaiming every dimension of one's identity.  Released during the final week of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, this conversation serves as a powerful call for empathy, accountability, and cultural change. Whether you’re looking for inspiration or practical tools to navigate difficult relationships and your own healing journey, twigs’ voice will resonate deeply—reminding us that recovery is not linear, but with time and self-compassion, it is possible. If you or someone you know has experienced domestic or sexual violence, help is available. Find the support you need for yourself, a friend, a colleague, or a family member: nomore.org/help TIMECODES: (02:55) Introducing FKA twigs   (04:25) Leaving her abuser and feeling isolated   (13:49) Ongoing physical and mental effects of abuse   (21:41) Speaking out ahead of the trial   (35:16) Recognizing narcissism and abuse patterns   (46:33) How men can help by embracing vulnerability   (52:48) Relearning trust after abuse   (1:01:45) Acceptance, healing, and impact on humanity   (1:05:55) Being Man Enough   QUOTES: "One of the most painful things was realizing that I wasn't special ... It could have really been anyone. It was just bad luck that I got a part in a film." - twigs  "It really takes time to learn how to be me again. And I can say now, me was and is great, so I really want to be me." - twigs  "I used to thrive out of fear ... But now I embrace the darker, artistic sides of myself. Life doesn’t have to be all sparkles and rainbows — there’s a balance." - twigs  "Blaming someone for being in an abusive relationship is like blaming them for getting hit by a car — it just happened to them." - Liz  SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  https://manenough.com/books  https://boyswillbehuman.com  FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This episode discusses suicide and depression In this uplifting episode, we sit down with Kevin Hines, an award-winning speaker and mental health advocate, to explore resilience, hope, and the journey to self-love. At the age of 19, Kevin survived a suicide attempt that forever changed his life. He shares his path from the miracle that saved him that day to now dedicating himself to helping others overcome "brain pain" and find their way to healing. Throughout the conversation, Kevin shares profound insights on the power of empathy, the importance of positive self-talk, and the critical need to reach out for help when it’s needed most. They touch on the complexities of mental health, the impact of childhood trauma, and the transformative effect of forgiveness. He also discusses his advocacy work, including his role in the installation of suicide prevention nets at the Golden Gate Bridge. This is a powerful reminder that no matter how difficult life gets, there is always hope, and that each life holds immense value. Whether you’re seeking inspiration or practical advice on mental health, this conversation is for anyone striving to live a fuller, more compassionate life with the ability to find light in the darkest moments. Don't miss this chance to hear from a man who has turned his pain into a mission to save lives. If you are in Crisis, or struggling with thoughts of suicide please call or text 988 or text CNQR to 741-741 TIMECODES: (01:47) Introducing Kevin Hines (5:11) Kevin Hines' background, challenges he faced growing up, and his life-changing experience at the Golden Gate Bridge.  (12:19) Current state of boys/men and skewed perceptions of suicide (17:45) Moving from self-hate to self-love (24:35) Jamey reflects on his own mother and experiences (28:18) Reframing definitions, perceptions and approach to suicide and people that need help (57:26) Gender trends and differences related to suicide, normalizing struggle for all (1:05:22) The initiative to get suicide prevention nets installed at the Golden Gate Bridge (1:09:51) Exercise to reduce negative self-talk and depression (1:12:15) What does it mean to be “man enough”? QUOTES: "Suicide is not the answer to the problem. It is the problem. You're beautiful just as you are, and you are enough." - Kevin (1:10:50) "We are all human who want the same things. We want to experience joy and love. We want to be seen…We want to build some legacy, to be valued, to make a mark in some way." - Jamey (24:57) "The thoughts are…It's almost like you're on this radio station and you can't change the channel...And it's constant and it's all the time and it is inescapable in many ways…But the solution is not for you to go. It’s to actually ask for help." - Liz (16:48) "Without self-love we cannot give of ourselves to any other human being." - Kevin (14:15) KEVIN HINES LINKS:  Books: The Art of Being Broken, How Storytelling Saves Lives; The Dimly Lit Star - https://kevinhinesstory.com/shop/  Film: The Net - https://TheNetMovie.com  https://www.instagram.com/kevinhinesstory/  https://x.com/KevinHinesStory   http://YouTube.com/KevinHines http://YouTube.com/HinesightsPodcast    SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  https://manenough.com/books  https://boyswillbehuman.com  FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ Executive Producers: Justin Baldoni, Jamey Heath, Tarah Malhotra-Feinberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hosts Jamey Heath and Liz Plank discuss the significant shifts happening in our society and the crucial role men play in supporting these changes. This moment is a catalyst for broader conversations about gender and racial equality, challenging us to reconsider who gets to lead and whose voices matter. Moving beyond politics, they recognize the cultural crossroads we face right now — a chance for America to reckon with its history and redefine its future.  Liz and Jamey highlight how men are actively dismantling long-standing barriers to equality. They stress the importance for men, the traditional power holders, to actively support women in leadership roles, especially Black women and other historically marginalized people.  Men will make great impact when they recognize women’s contributions and help to break down barriers that have long kept them from positions of power. By standing with them and championing their leadership, men can help shape a future where everyone thrives. This episode encourages all of us, particularly men, to engage in meaningful conversations, challenge the status quo, and work together to build a society that values and uplifts everyone. It is a collective movement toward a more just and inclusive world, where men and women unite in a societal awakening that drives people to build something new together. QUOTES: "The best room is not a room full of women. It's a room full of everybody." – Liz (32:57) "We look for all reasons to keep people down, to oppress, and to not let women (I don't even like saying the word 'let' like it's mine to even give), but to not champion women being in their full glory." – Jamey (20:20) "This is a huge moment for women, for women of color being our leaders and us following them and supporting them." – Liz (5:26) “I need my son and my daughter, other sons and daughters to learn how to see with their own eyes, hear with their own ears, to make an assessment that's borne out of truth, and not just false imitation. Just because my parents thought it, just because someone else said it. It's like really dive in yourself. And I feel like men…the more that we take a good look at ourselves, look at who's in front of us, look at the capacity of people, look at the beauty of people, look at some of the faults…do it with our own eyes and not get caught up in the mob, we become better, and better, and better.” - Jamey (33:02) “it's not men versus women. A lot of people will try and convince you that that's the way that it is. If you give a lot to women, that means you're taking away from men...The other option is men plus women equals even infinity, that when we work together, and we collaborate, and we love each other, and we unite, and we connect, then the world is our oyster. Then we all get more freedom. We all get more possibility. We all get more liberty, and all of the beautiful things that we want in life. And it's a lot more fun...when we get along.” - Liz (31:59) “We're seeing men…[that] are the fruit of all the labor that you have been doing, of so many people who are saying, "Don't ignore us. We have incredible things to say. Get your foot off my neck." And that's what makes me feel proud when I see men of this nature raising money for something 10 years ago would've not. 100 years ago, they would've been in jail for raising money for a Black campaign, or shot and killed.” - Jamey (10:01) SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  https://manenough.com/books  https://boyswillbehuman.com  FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://x.com/feministabulous http://elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://x.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://jameyheath.com/ Executive Producers: Justin Baldoni, Jamey Heath, Tarah Malhotra-Feinberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This episode discusses domestic and gun violence.  This inspiring episode focuses on the journey from trauma to healing and loving relationships, featuring a conversation with A Call to Men Chief Communications Officer Kimya Motley, who is a domestic violence (dv) survivor, and psychologist and relationships expert Dr. Alduan Tartt.  Kimya shares her remarkable story of resilience and recovery after surviving repeated violence, emphasizing the importance of recognizing red flags and finding positive role models for healthy manhood.  Dr. Tartt, who also played a pivotal role in Kimya's healing journey, serving as an example of positive masculinity, provides insights into fostering healthy relationships and offers practical advice on breaking the cycle of abuse.  They explore the power of community, policy reform and media representation in an effort to create a safer and more supportive world. Despite the harrowing realities they discuss, this conversation shines a light on the hope and healing that can emerge from even the darkest experiences.  They also discuss IT ENDS WITH US, the new film from Wayfarer Studios and Justin Baldoni, which depicts situations and themes of dv between its two lead characters. The film, which just celebrated its global theatrical premiere, was made in close consultation with our partners at NO MORE and is based on the best-selling novel by Colleen Hoover.  Join a hopeful conversation, providing valuable tools for anyone committed to understanding and combating dv. Watch the video version on our YouTube. If you or someone you know has experienced domestic or sexual violence, help is available: http://nomore.org/ QUOTES: "You don’t just wake up one day to get shot by your husband. There are things that you go through in your life that bring you to that." - Kimya "We have to produce more media where people can see examples of positive manhood because we take it for granted that everyone sees this." - Dr. Tartt "To be man enough means to be your authentic self, not being defined by what other people say you should be or represent as a man, but what does being a man feel like to you?" - Kimya "The most healing came from me sharing my story with other people, hearing women and men come and say, ‘Thank you for sharing that,’ and then they were able to share their stories of abuse, surviving, and men who had a part." - Kimya "Being man enough means being bigger than your pride and admitting that you need help." - Dr. Tartt "The emotional abuse usually sets the groundwork for the physical abuse to then feel normal or even deserved." - Liz ABOUT THE GUESTS Kimya Motley is an educator, activist, and author dedicated to ending violence against women and girls. At A Call to Men, she uses her personal story to inspire change and promote healthy manhood. Her memoir, Born of Violence, gained national attention, and her work has been featured in Essence, Red Table Talks, and more. She co-produced the documentary Intentionally Erased and created violence-prevention trainings for the NFL and MLB. IG: @kimyamotley TikTok: @kimyamotley FB: KimyaNMotley Dr. Alduan Tartt is a psychologist, minister, speaker, and author, recognized as a leading expert in relationships and mental health. He has a PhD in Clinical Psychology and received the NAACP Lifetime Achievement Award for his dedication to empowering youth and families. He's a passionate advocate for redefining masculinity to include emotional expression, compassion, and strength, and he's committed to helping people build healthy, fulfilling relationships. IG: @drtartt drtartt.com YT: DRTARTT1 X: @drtartt MORE MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  IG: @wearemanenough TikTok: @wearemanenough FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank IG: @feministabulous TikTok: @lizplank X: @feministabulous http://elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  IG: @jamey_heath_ TikTok: @jameyheath http://jameyheath.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hosts tackle what it means to be a provider today, discuss how men can balance financial and emotional support, and explore the evolving roles in relationships. In the spirit of the trend “Guys Under 30 Ask, Guys Over 30 Answer”, Jamey answers audience questions on self-compassion, accountability, and being present in a fast-paced world. From redefining traditional gender roles to maintaining healthy relationships with exes, this episode offers relatable insights and practical advice.  Whether you're seeking self-compassion or reflecting on life's journey, Jamey and Liz provide an engaging discussion on modern masculinity and building fulfilling, balanced lives. TIMECODES: (02:58) Topic Begins: Men Under 30 Ask, Jamey (Man Over 30) Answers (04:57) @lookforrev: “What skills have you learned around self-compassion?” (09:22) @AustinCA03: "Dads who had kids relatively early, how do you maintain balance in your life while also providing for your child and spouse?" (13:58) Theo: "What are the interpersonal or relationship skills you wish you could have learned earlier and how would you have gone about learning them?" (20:37) James: How are expectations of what it means to be a provider changing when we are all struggling in this economy? (25:25) Riley: "What are the positives of getting older?" (31:06) "What can I do to help overcome the voice that's telling me to keep being miserable?" (35:49) Jamey asks Liz: "At what point does it become easier?" (39:31) "Who has been able to maintain strong and healthy relationship with their exes?" QUOTES: "I think you fall in love much more easily when you accept the person that you are trying to be in love with." - Jamey “The voice inside my head that I thought was me for 30 plus years is actually a liar. And in the moments where I feel like that voice is really loud, that's a signal to me that I need to behave differently. Because I think it's hard to change the voice, but if you are treating yourself with compassion and you're treating yourself kindly, then that voice will become less high-pitched.” - Liz “In this day and age where more and more women are being seen and valued for their contributions, as they should, have opportunities more than maybe at one time were afforded to them, I think families have to consult and discuss what providing means. It doesn't just mean financially. Does dad provide for the family emotionally, taking care of the home, watching out for the children, taking them to baseball practice or laundry and dishes?” - Jamey "I feel like friendships, relationships are built in the nothingness, in the mundane stuff, and just the normal stuff." - Jamey "I'm gonna look back at this time and think I was so young. I'm not gonna think about all the insecurities that I have right now about how aging is showing up in my body." - Liz “How we can be better in the world, how we can be better to our parents, our children, our friends, our workmates? When you are fully accountable, then you can have real forgiveness for yourself.” - Jamey “If you can see the end in the beginning, you might think that very thing that you were distressed about, knowing that that's what's going to then get you to the next stage. So I think part of the thing to make life easier is embrace where you are in this day.” - Jamey SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  https://manenough.com/books  https://boyswillbehuman.com  FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://x.com/feministabulous http://elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://x.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://jameyheath.com/ Executive Producers: Justin Baldoni, Jamey Heath, Tarah Malhotra-Feinberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hosts tackle the complex and sensitive issue of men’s violence against women, sparked by the disturbing P. Diddy video that recently emerged. They delve into the broader implications of such behavior, examining how men can hold each other accountable, how celebrity and power play in allowing this behavior, and the societal structures that perpetuate these cycles of abuse.  Jamey shares a visceral reaction to seeing women be brutally mistreated (03:11), discussing the conflicting feelings of rage and the need for non-violent responses. Liz highlights the importance of listening to women and understanding their experiences without shifting the focus to male emotions (07:37). They discuss the necessity of creating safe spaces for men to seek help before resorting to violence, emphasizing proactive education for young boys to foster respect and empathy (12:27). Men are urged to consider their roles in preventing abuse and supporting victims, with a poignant reminder of the need for systemic change and personal accountability. The conversation closes with resources for those in need of support (see http://nomore.org) and a call to action for ongoing dialogue and education (27:48). TIMECODES: (01:38) P. Diddy’s violence and its broader implications  (03:17) Personal reactions and emotional impact, the human impact of witnessing such violence (05:07) What do we do with these feelings? How do we hold men accountable?  (06:00) The effect of aggressive male reactions on female victims they love - how to be more helpful (10:03) How power plays into men getting away with violence, men around them staying silent (12:41) Training young boys to see women as valuable, to see themselves as gentle creatures and not violent ones (13:35) Quick to condemn when we see it, but no serious consequences (Trump, Cosby, R. Kelly, Weinstein) (19:51) Why women get into violent relationships and stay - “You love the person by the time they're doing it” (23:41) The importance of videos like this spreading even though they’re horrific, and how valuable it is to talk about this (27:48) Resources for people experiencing abuse and for men that feel like they might be violent to get help before they cause harm (http://nomore.org)    QUOTES: "How do we hold each other accountable as men when we see other men do things of this nature?" - Jamey Heath "We have to train our young boys to see women, to see themselves as gentle creatures and not violent creatures." - Jamey Heath "When a woman is treated like an animal, we have to address it. We have to stop it." - Jamey Heath "We reward men who are extremely uncaring and who get to where they're at by hurting people." - Liz Plank "I went to a Trump rally for women and I asked, ‘What would you say to 7 out of 10 women have an unfavorable view of Donald Trump?’ And one woman's answer really stuck with me: "I think 7 out of 10 women have an unfavorable view of a lot of men. So I'm still going to vote for him." This idea that the bar is so low for what we expect from men in our society, that even women will want to put this person in power even though he is a violent person towards women.” - Liz Plank "It's tricky because you have someone who's in a position of power who's paying people's bills. It's your job, it's your livelihood…We should say something, but I've got a family to uphold." - Jamey Heath SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  https://manenough.com/books  https://boyswillbehuman.com  FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://x.com/feministabulous http://elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://x.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://jameyheath.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: discussions of depression and suicidal ideation || Spoiler Alert: Contains minor plot points from the film EZRA Award-winning actor & director Tony Goldwyn and writer & director Tony Spiridakis explore the universal truths of friendship and parenting. They offer insights into acceptance, vulnerability, and the power of authentic human connections. Spiridakis shares his heartfelt journey of raising his autistic son, which inspired him to write the film EZRA (now in theaters everywhere), directed by Goldwyn. The conversation highlights the duo's 30+ year friendship, and their shared commitment to advocacy and redefining masculinity. Goldwyn's reflection, "We all have an impulse to fit in, but true strength lies in embracing who we are," sets the tone for a discussion on overcoming societal pressures. Spiridakis candidly recounts his initial struggle with his son's diagnosis and the transformative realization, "I didn't stop until I realized it was a gift", providing a touching perspective on embracing the challenges and rewards of parenting neurodivergent children (and parenting in general). Join us for poignant stories and valuable lessons, as Tony G and Tony S inspire us to cherish genuine relationships and approach parenting with compassion and understanding. Don't miss this deeply moving and insightful conversation. ABOUT EZRA, THE FILM EZRA now in theaters from Wayfarer Studios and Closer Media, distributed by Bleecker Street, directed by Tony Goldwyn and written by Tony Spiridakis. EZRA is a heartwarming and hilarious road trip story about Max, a dad played by Bobby Cannavale, who’s learning to truly connect with his autistic son, Ezra, played by the amazing newcomer William Fitzgerald. Also starring Rose Byrne, Vera Farmiga, Whoopi Goldberg, Rainn Wilson, and Robert De Niro. See EZRA — now playing in theaters everywhere! ABOUT TONY GOLDWYN: Tony Goldwyn’s latest feature directing project, EZRA, with Bobby Cannavale and Robert DeNiro is now open in theaters. Goldwyn also has a role in the film, reuniting him with GHOST castmate Whoopi Goldberg. Additionally, he can currently be seen in the Academy Award winning Best Picture OPPENHEIMER and in the original “Law & Order” series talking over as the new DA. https://www.instagram.com/tonygoldwyn/ https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0001282/ ABOUT TONY SPIRIDAKIS: Tony Spiridakis is an award-winning screenwriter, director, producer, and actor with nearly four decades in the film and television industry. His most recent film, "Ezra," which he wrote and produced alongside director Tony Goldwyn, premiered at the Toronto International Film Festival. The comedic drama stars Bobby Cannavale, Robert De Niro, Rose Byrne and Whoopi Goldberg, and is being released theatrically by Bleecker Street nationwide in May 2024. Currently, Spiridakis is a writer and consulting producer on the MGM+ apocalyptic drama series “Earth Abides.” He is also adapting Sandy Greenberg’s acclaimed memoir, "Hello Darkness, My Old Friend" for Wayfarer Studios. Set in the early ’60s, it’s the inspirational story of a Columbia student who goes blind right before his senior year and, without letting anyone know he has lost his sight, is able to graduate. https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0819045/ FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://x.com/feministabulous http://elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://x.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://jameyheath.com/ Tags:  #Masculinity #Men #ManEnough #EZRAFilm #autism #parenting #fatherhood #neurodivergence  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Renowned dating coach and New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey brings his expert insights into modern dating, emphasizing the importance of building connections that go beyond superficial interactions. The conversation delves into the common traps of today's dating culture, which often lead people into patterns of avoidance and isolation. We talk about how this is particularly affecting young men and Matthew provides specific tips to help shift our perspectives. Co-host Jamey Heath highlights the importance of prioritizing friendship as a foundation for romantic relationships while co-host Liz Plank vulnerably shares her fear and personal frustration with dating. This set the stage for a healthy debate about whether we should lower our standards or not while looking for our perfect match and the important idea of being 'happy enough' before everything else. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of modern relationships and looking to cultivate genuine connections. Whether you’re actively dating or evaluating your current relationship, you’ll find valuable insights and advice to help you move forward. Matthew's new book, Love Life, is out on April 23, 2024 - you can pre-order at LoveLifeBook.com TIMECODES: (00:00) Episode Begins  (04:45) When is the last time you didn’t feel enough? (10:36) Dating advices men VS women (17:36) Leaving a relationship that doesn't serve you (20:22) Don't confuse anxiety for passion (29:57) The loneliness epidemic (43:15) Sacrifice attention for connection (51:37) Unbearable desire to find love at all cost (58:40) Should we lower our standards? (1:07:53) The concept of "happy enough" (1:15:37) Rapid fire questions (i.e. helpful tips) (1:27:59) Being man enough QUOTES: "If you don't like the culture, you have to be brave enough to create your own." - Matthew Hussey  "We often glorify people who have found a relationship, but there are so many people I've met who are more successful the day they leave their relationship." - Matthew Hussey  "Anxiety can often feel like passion. You get excited about someone, but you don't necessarily know exactly why." - Matthew Hussey  "You'll find the right one faster if you can lose the wrong one sooner." - Matthew Hussey ABOUT MATTHEW HUSSEY: Matthew Hussey is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and coach specializing in confidence and relational intelligence. His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views. He writes a weekly newsletter and is the host of the podcast Love Life With Matthew Hus­sey. Hussey provides monthly coaching to the members of his private community at LoveLifeClub.com. Over the past fifteen years, his proven approach has inspired millions through authentic, insightful, and practical advice that not only enables them to find love but also feel confident and in control of their own happiness. He lives in Los Angeles. MATTHEW HUSSEY SOCIAL  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thematthewhussey Website: www.matthewhussey.com SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  https://manenough.com/books  https://boyswillbehuman.com  FOLLOW THE HOSTS Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ Tags:  #Masculinity #Men #ManEnough #datingtips #relationship #selfworth #loveadvice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses sexual abuse of a minor.  Renowned actor and musician Drake Bell opens up about his struggles with past abuse, the complex road to accountability, and the ongoing journey towards healing. The conversation is a powerful reflection of the strength found in vulnerability and the transformative power of speaking one’s truth.  Co-host Jamey Heath shares his own story of abuse as a child, opening the door for Drake to share more about the scars left by his abuse as a young actor on Nickelodeon, which he revealed on the MAX docuseries Quiet on Set: The Dark Side of Kids TV. As he battles with the shadows of his past, co-hosts Justin Baldoni, Liz Plank and Jamey discuss the need for Drake to take accountability for his own actions, delving into his truths and the personal resolve to mend the broken pieces.  In this episode:  How the abuse affected Drake’s relationship with his parents and his ex-wife Confronting betrayal by those Drake admired and who were in positions of power Taking accountability for his actions  The struggle to trust and love again   Finding hope on the other side of healing Drake's vulnerability provides a roadmap for navigating through trauma with honesty and accountability, illuminating a path for others in search of healing and forgiveness. This episode was recorded on March 30, 2024.  If you or someone you know has experienced sexual abuse, help is available. Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or go to the NO MORE Global Directory at nomoredirectory.org to find support. TIMECODES (00:00) Episode begins  (04:13) When was the last time you didn't feel enough? (08:00) Background information on Drake's story and Jamey opens up about his assault (13:00) Letters of support for Brian Peck's during trial (17:36) Rehab and decided to share his story (34:23) How trauma affected Drake and things he could have done better (43:59) Allegations against Drake and holding him accountable (1:07:43) Men who have been abused can become abusers (1:14:19) Message to fans who are attacking his accuser online (1:19:57) Blurred lines in relationships (1:22:55) Drake on why shouldn't pressure people and public figures to speak out (1:26:39) Creating a safe space for himself & healing (1:37:20) What does it mean to you to be Man Enough? QUOTES “What happened to me doesn't have to define who I am.” - Drake “I was crying when I watched your episode…I'm under a blanket on the plane crying because I’m feeling for you. I'm remembering mine. And it doesn't leave. But it doesn't have to control me anymore.” - Jamey “One of the byproducts of trauma that you've experienced (not an excuse) is boundary issues. 30% of all men who have been abused become abusers.” - Justin “Even in moments of weakness, you need to be able to discern and and recognize…you can't just blame a moment of weakness for why you got in your car when you were drunk and you crashed into somebody and hurt them.” - Drake “As a woman I feel safe when men are acknowledging their mistakes, not when they are minimizing.” - Liz ABOUT DRAKE BELL Drake Bell is a 37-year-old American actor and musician from Newport Beach, CA. He got his rise to fame as a child actor in the 1990s on the popular Nickelodeon shows “The Amanda Show,” which aired for three seasons starting in 1999, and “Drake & Josh,” which aired for four seasons starting in 2004. He has starred in films such as, “Yours, Mine & Ours,”(2005), “Drake & Josh Go Hollywood” (2006), “Superhero Movie” (2008), and more. Bell has over five albums released, and is best known for his songs “Found a Way," “I Know”, and his recently released single called “I Kinda Relate." Bell currently resides in Mexico City where he has a large fan base supporting his music. DRAKE LINKS Instagram:@drakebell Tiktok: @drakebell X (Twitter): @drakebell SUPPORT MAN ENOUGH https://manenough.com/newsletter  https://manenough.com/books  https://boyswillbehuman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel your age? At what point did we decide that aging isn't beautiful? In this special episode of the Man Enough Podcast, Jamey and Liz explore the profound truths about aging and mortality. Jamey shares a recent chilling plane experience that made him face his own mortality, leading to a broader discussion on life's fragility. Our hosts also delve into the deep-seated societal norms and stigmas that shadow our journey into older age, dissecting the role of patriarchal structures in shaping these perceptions, including a candid conversation about the increasing normalization of Botox. From embracing the raw beauty of getting older to the unending pursuit of personal growth and understanding, this episode is an invitation to reflect on our own attitudes towards aging and the critical importance of living each day with gratitude and bravery. Timecodes:  (00:00) Liz and Jamey are back  (3:28) Do you feel your age?  (6:36) Jamey’s plane experience encountering his own mortality   (14:00) Feeling the age you are supposed to be  (15:15) Getting botox (18:00) Societal pressure when aging for women VS men  (25:00) Liz’ recent challenges (33:00) The ways younger generations are impacted by social media  Quotes: "The younger that I look, then I'm farther away from that island that eventually is my demise or my birth, depending on how you look at it." Jamey  "I think that it's a luxury and it's a privilege, but I don't feel the age that I'm supposed to be. Like I feel like I have this millennial imposter syndrome that a lot of people in my generation have where-- You don't feel the age you're supposed to be." Liz  "When did that happen? Has that always been the case? Are our kids nowadays going like, 'I don't wanna look older because then I lose my value?" Jamey  "We wanna hold on to our youth. I understand we wanna look good and all that stuff. At what point did we determine that getting older is not beautiful?" Jamey  Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ Hashtags:  #ManEnoughPodcast #Aging #Mortality #LifeFragility #SocietalNorms #Patriarchy #PersonalGrowth #Masculinity #SelfAcceptance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses sexual violence and human trafficking.  Learn from Emmy and Golden Globe-winning actor Ashley Judd as she shares how her experiences being exploited as a child have taught her that “it is [her] birthright to heal.” She is joined by Catherine Chen, CEO of Polaris, the organization working to end sex and labor trafficking, for which Ashley is the spokesperson and activist. This is a solution-forward dialogue that helps to better understand the causes, systemic factors, and opportunities to improve this large issue, which is too often invisible.  In this episode: What constitutes sex and labor exploitation How men play a role and can take action to prevent trafficking  How pornography contributes to the continuation of harmful behaviors How traffickers use coercion and grooming to lure people in  The urgent need for societal and economic reforms to effectively fight these crimes This is a personal, riveting and inspiring conversation that informs and provides hope, despite the heavy topics. We all have a responsibility to open our eyes to how we might be unknowingly upholding or allowing vulnerable people to become victims of trafficking. If you see yourself in any of the situations that we discussed today, call the National Human Trafficking Hotline at 1-888-373-7888 or text BeFree (233733).  Timecodes: (00:00) Episode Begins  (06:55) When is the last time you didn’t feel enough  (08:27) Healing is Ashley’s mandate  (14:45) Culture of pornification  (21:33) Human trafficking definition  (25:20) Who buys sex  (31:24) Tangible action to take to end trafficking  (44:31) What to do if you are being trafficked  (56:10) What grooming can look like  (1:03:18) The importance of universal basic income & other policies  (1:16:16) What does it mean to be Man Enough QUOTES: "It is my birthright to heal. I am healing. I was born to heal. Healing is my mandate. I am healing right now" - Ashley Judd "Trafficking happens because our systems are broken. We start with the fundamental, which is we don't have enough economic equity, we don't have enough basic income equity in the United States." - Catherine Chen ABOUT ASHLEY JUDD Ashley Judd, is a celebrated actress and a passionate advocate for social justice and women's rights. Ashley has journeyed to over 22 countries, engaging directly with communities to fight gender inequality and male sexual violence. Her experiences are vividly captured in her New York Times bestselling memoir, "All That Is Bitter & Sweet." Her TED Talk on online misogyny has garnered over two million views. Ashley was Time magazine’s Person of the Year in 2017 as one of the Silence Breakers. In 2019, the United Nations honored her as Global Advocate of the Year. ABOUT CATHERINE CHEN Catherine Chen is the CEO of Polaris, an organization at the forefront of the fight against sex and labor trafficking in the United States. For more than twenty years she has led significant initiatives, including raising awareness about migrant workers in Qatar and launching the Partnership for Freedom with President Obama. Her work has influenced policy change and fostered innovative approaches to combating trafficking. CONNECT WITH ASHELY JUDD:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashley_judd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Ashley_Judd Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AshleyJuddOfficial Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashleyjudd?lang=en CONNECT WITH POLARIS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/polarisproject/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/polarisproject1 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/polarisproject Twitter:  https://twitter.com/polaris_project  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Make a difference with us! We recently announced a partnership with the global nonprofit NO MORE to help prevent domestic violence and sexual assault. Each year, the organization holds NO MORE Week, a time to shine a brighter spotlight on the issues and get more people to become part of the solution. We’re proud to support the 4th annual @nomoreorg Week Virtual 5K, March 3-9, to help end domestic & sexual violence. Please join and sign up at https://organizations.hakuapp.com/sit... All funds raised help support the lifesaving work of The NO MORE Foundation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, the world’s largest therapy platform. Visit http://BetterHelp.com/WhatsUnderneath today to get 10% off your first month. Colton Underwood, best known for his appearances on three seasons of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, openly discusses his journey to self-acceptance. He came out as gay after living an extremely public life as a straight man on the reality show and his NFL career, leading him to reflect on the challenges and triumphs of embracing his true identity. Colton shares insights into his mental health struggles and the realizations that compelled him to stop fighting his truth, which was hurting himself and others.  During this intimate and accountable conversation, Colton delves into the intersection of fame, personal truth, and the evolving definition of masculinity. He emphasizes the lessons he learned about honesty, vulnerability, and the courage it takes to live authentically, now striving to use his experiences for LGBTQ+ advocacy and to help others that are “hiding in plain sight”. IN THIS EPISODE (00:33) Justin Baldoni Introduces the Episode  (02:39) Colton's Joy and Comfort Today vs Most of His Life  (04:17) Creating the Image of Straightness in Style and Music Choices as a Boy (07:40) The Pressure of Public Image and Contradictions in Identity  (10:05) The Terror of the Locker Room as a Closeted Gay Man (12:32) The Journey to Becoming the Bachelor and Backlash as a Public Figure  (15:29) Early Signs of Attraction to Men and Perceptions of Masculinity (17:31) Hiding in Sports and Entertainment, The Bachelor as “Self-Conversion Therapy” (21:20) The Complexity of Public Straight Relationships and His Secret Life (23:40) The Breakup That Broke the Facade, Mental Health Spiral (25:50) Both Holding Himself Accountable for Actions and Owning His Self-Realization (30:13) Facing Blackmail and Forced to Come Out  (33:03) Coming Out to His Family (35:25) Taking Care of Mental Health, Controversy, Finding Love & Friendships (45:02) What Does It Mean to be Man Enough? COLTON UNDERWOOD QUOTATIONS “For the first time in my entire life, I get to be present and I don't have to worry about the future and what's going to happen and I don't have to worry about my past…I'm enjoying all of the stages of building, of loving, of learning, and I don't have to run anymore.” (44:32) “I could become the Bachelor and date 30 women. What's straighter than that? Trying self- conversion therapy on myself…There was nothing more that I could have done to declare that I was a straight man more than becoming the Bachelor.” (00:00) “My dad's ride or die. Anything that goes on in my life, he's got my back and I know it. And same with my mom. He helped me get better and helped me handle things and he was trying his best. My entire family was.” (32:06) FOLLOW COLTON UNDERWOOD:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coltonunderwood  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ColtonUnderwoodOfficial  FOLLOW MAN ENOUGH:  Instagram: http://instagram.com/wearemanenough   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@wearemanenough   Facebook: http://facebook.com/WeAreManEnough  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/wearemanenough  Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter  FOLLOW STYLELIKEU:  Instagram: http://instagram.com/stylelikeu  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stylelikeu   Facebook: http://facebook.com/stylelikeu  YouTube: http://YouTube.com/StyleLikeU SPECIAL ADVERTISER OFFERS FOR YOU The What’s Underneath: Masculinity series and this episode are brought to you by BetterHelp. BetterHelp is the world’s largest therapy platform, offering access to licensed, trained, experienced, and accredited psychologists, marriage and family therapists, clinical social workers, and board licensed professional counselors. Visit BetterHelp.com/WhatsUnderneath today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, the world’s largest therapy platform. Visit http://BetterHelp.com/WhatsUnderneath today to get 10% off your first month. At the age of 15, JJ '88 committed murder in an attempt to find belonging in gang life and status among his peers. In this powerful conversation, ‘88 leads us through his transformative journey through incarceration, devastation and self-realization as he discovered the inner strength to forgive himself.  '88 approaches every room with the awareness that he can never fully undo the debts of his past but honors his journey by sharing his story, aspiring to contribute to the improvement of others. His story is not just one of personal redemption; it's a universal call to action, inspiring us to confront our challenges and emerge stronger.  In this episode, hear about: The aftermath of his arrest and the impact on ‘88’s family as they learned of his actions His challenges while incarcerated and how he began to learn and grow His advocacy and others that led to his freedom The deep and powerful friendships he formed behind bars How his father supported him through, a deeply meaningful relationship  The profound lessons he learned about masculinity and the power of self-love Stream JJ'88's Music and Videos: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/jj88/  For updates on JJ'88's unreleased film Songs From The Hole (coming soon) follow:  https://www.instagram.com/songsfromthehole This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, the world’s largest therapy platform. Visit http://BetterHelp.com/WhatsUnderneath today to get 10% off your first month. Watch shorter video episodes of What’s Underneath: Masculinity on http://YouTube.com/StyleLikeU  New Man Enough Podcast episodes will continue to hit the feed on Mondays when we return for season 3.  IN THIS EPISODE:  (04:23) Interview begins  (05:22) His style during and after being incarcerated  (13:12) Assumptions people make about him  (16:40) Life as a gang member, the crime he committed and his sentence (31:28) 88’ powerful relationship with his father & music  (35:50) Rock bottom and journey through accountability (41:25) Learning how to release shame and his transformation (43:45) 88’ work around masculinity with young folks  (47:24) How he forgave himself  (49:29) Meeting his wife (51:33) His release from prison  (56:43) Feeling the most vulnerable & beautiful  (01:02:00) Being Man Enough JJ’88 QUOTATIONS: "Shame is not accountability. Shame doesn't help me be accountable... Shame makes it about me... But in the process of doing that, I'm thinking about myself, not the person whose life I've taken." "When you're going through oppression, you can either accept that you are what they say you are... Or you can acknowledge who you truly are and stay grounded in that." "There are no trees in prison. So for me what it was like coming home was like smelling a tree and remembering that trees exist for real, not just on TV, not just in a book." "In order to be restored, you have to believe that you are worthy of being restored" "Being a man looks like having integrity. Being a man looks like keeping my word, living out what I believe and doing so in a way that isn't harmful to others." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special 100th episode of the Man Enough Podcast, hosts Justin and Jamey pass the baton to their remarkable wives, Emily Baldoni and Natasha Heath! Natasha and Emily join Liz in an all encompassing conversation about motherhood, marriage, career success, and the importance of community.  Emily provides her perspective on the evolution of the podcast and Justin's personal growth, tracing back to her first appearance in season one. Liz shares reflections on her unique experience of being often the sole woman on the show, the growth in her friendship with Justin and Jamey, and how her involvement has enhanced her trust in and understanding of men.  Natasha unveils an exciting new business venture that merges her passion for community with her expertise in motherhood and postpartum care. Watch this episode on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/wearemanenough (RECORDED OCT 3rd) Sign up for the Man Enough newsletter to get full video episodes and positive masculinity news every Monday: http://manenough.com/newsletter The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company. Timecodes:  (00:00) - Episode Begins  (02:38) - Emily, Natasha, and Liz are taking the reins  (9:10) - Natasha is learning to embrace discomfort  (14:28) - The joy in “taking up space.” (22:21) - Raising boys  (31:09) - Liz’s Journey on Man Enough  (35:52) - Can women have it all? (44:19) - The importance of community in motherhood (1:11:19) - Making domestic labor “visible” work (1:15:26) - What does it mean to be man enough? Quotes: “It's okay for things to get uncomfortable. It doesn't mean the relationship is over. It just means…we gotta breathe through it.” - Natasha Heath “The best form of activism is self -activism. Fight for yourself. Figure out who you are. Do the work.” - Emily Baldoni "I think mothers are the most sacred people on the planet, and we just have to know that becoming parents is the greatest grandest venture." - Natasha Heath "The greatest medicine is for us to know ourselves...because then we can show up authentically...Fight for yourself, figure out who you are,...really do the work and go deep. And then you can show up in the world with all of your gifts because they're endless once you connect to that place." - Emily Baldoni Guest Socials: EMILY BALDONI Instagram: @emilybaldoni X: @EmBaldoni NATASHA HEATH Instagram: @mama_tasha9 About Emily Baldoni & Natasha Heath: EMILY: Emily Baldoni is an actress and entrepreneur from Uppsala, Sweden, who has lived in the US since 2005. She has a long career as an actress in both TV and film and is also the co-founder of We Are Amma, a popular lifestyle brand for mothers. She resides in Ojai, CA with her husband Justin Baldoni and their kids Maiya and Maxwell. NATASHA: Natasha Heath is a pilates instructor, wellness enthusiast and healer of mothers. She was a professional dancer with Bette Midler and starred as a featured professional dancer on Mi sueño es bailar (TV).   Natasha resides in Los Angeles with her husband Jamey Heath and their beautiful blended family. Support Man Enough Man Enough Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter Man Enough book: https://manenough.com/books Boys Will Be Human book: https://boyswillbehuman.com  Follow The Hosts Justin Baldoni https://instagram.com/justinbaldoni https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni https://facebook.com/justinbaldoni https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni Text Justin: +1 (310) 845-6909 Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ #Masculinity #Men #ManEnough #motherhood #mom #enough #marriage #family #pregnancy #girlboss #womanhood #community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, the world’s largest therapy platform. Visit http://BetterHelp.com/WhatsUnderneath today to get 10% off your first month. Mark Bryan is a cis, straight-identifying, traditionally masculine man who works as a robotic engineer and football coach…and also loves wearing skirts and heels. He has unintentionally started challenging traditional gender norms by proudly incorporating so-called “Women's clothes” into his wardrobe, rejecting the idea that it says anything about one’s sexual orientation or that clothes should be gendered. Mark recounts the pivotal college moment when he first experimented with high heels and, after a 40-year hiatus, rediscovered the empowering sensation of integrating them into his daily style. The conversation delves into the assumptions people make about Mark's sexual orientation and explores the process of communicating his style shift to both family and colleagues. He navigates the intricate paradox of advocating for clothing being just clothes and needing to be free from gender associations, while acknowledging the power they possess in helping individuals feel authentically aligned with their true selves. This dialogue is a powerful reminder that growth often comes from accountability and challenging discussions. Lily and Elisa have an important conversation with Mark about his relationship with the LGBTQIA+ community, addressing past mistakes. Through it, Mark learns in real-time how he can become a better ally, embracing his shared mission with the queer community in fostering a safe space for self-expression. What’s Underneath: Masculinity is Man Enough’s series in partnership with StyleLikeU, with new episodes every Thursday. Watch shorter video episodes: http://YouTube.com/StyleLikeU  Man Enough Podcast episodes will continue to release every Monday.  IN THIS EPISODE:  (02:54) Freedom of expression through style and fashion (05:22) Telling his wife about wanting to wear heels  (06:22) Assumptions & misperceptions about his sexual orientation (09:05) What his family thinks of his style  (11:42) Addressing the controversy around past comments about the LGBTQIA+ community (19:50) How powerful owning his own style can be for him and others (24:56) Feeling vulnerable and crying  (29:00) What does it mean to be ‘Man Enough’ MARK QUOTATIONS: "We should have more concerns in this world other than what people are wearing. Me wearing skirts should be the least of your worries. We should be worried about racism. We should be worried about wars. The world's not going to end because Mark Bryan is wearing a skirt in high heels." [Regarding missteps and past comments that caused harm]: "I just kind of looked at it as something to be saddened that it happened and then look forward to seeing how to correct it and make myself a better person and use it as a learning experience. It's a pretty beautiful way to look at it. It's the only way to look at life. So if it's something that disappoints you or saddens you...to try to find something positive about it. " "I get a lot of comments on my Instagram, "Hey, be a man, you know, wear pants." I said, "I am a man, but I'm just wearing a skirt."" FOLLOW MARK BRYAN:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markbryan911/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@markbryan911 FOLLOW MAN ENOUGH:  Instagram: http://instagram.com/wearemanenough   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@wearemanenough   Facebook: http://facebook.com/WeAreManEnough  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/wearemanenough  Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter  FOLLOW STYLELIKEU:  Instagram: http://instagram.com/stylelikeu  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stylelikeu   Facebook: http://facebook.com/stylelikeu  YouTube: http://YouTube.com/StyleLikeU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special episode of Man Enough, Justin Baldoni and Jamey Heath discuss a new Wayfarer Studios 4-part docu-series, "Questions", with director Ahmed Musiol. The new series, available to stream free on the CWTV app, delves into the intricate dynamics of relationships. Each episode profiles four unique couples who bravely confront their deepest fears by asking each other questions - the ones they’ve been terrified to. Watch "Questions": https://bit.ly/QuestionsSeries  Credits: Executive Producers: Justin Baldoni, Andrew Calof Executive Producers: Steve Sarowitz, Endyia Kinney-Sterns, Farhoud Meybodi Produced by: Drew Brandon Jones Created by Farhoud Meybodi Directed by: Ahmed Musiol Kolacek Participants: Wesley Bean Taylor Fields Jocelyn Flores Mike Flores Brandon Garcia Amber Porter Janeiry Santana Tim Thomas Support Man Enough Man Enough Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter Man Enough book: https://manenough.com/books Boys Will Be Human book: https://boyswillbehuman.com  Follow The Hosts Justin Baldoni https://instagram.com/justinbaldoni https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni https://facebook.com/justinbaldoni https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni Text Justin: +1 (310) 845-6909 Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ #boys #men #masculinity #domesticviolence #violence #sexualassult #itendswithus #NOMORE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Disclaimer: This episode includes discussions of sensitive topics, such as sexual assault and domestic violence. Listener discretion is advised. Jane Randel and Pamela Zaballa, leaders of NO MORE, a global domestic and sexual violence nonprofit organization and long-term advisors to Justin Baldoni’s upcoming film “It Ends WIth Us,” join for a discussion about the complex causes of intimate partner violence, generational cycles of abuse, and the burning need for empathy and inclusion towards men in these conversations. Jamey, Justin, and Liz bravely open up about their personal experiences as survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence. Liz exposes the gaslighting survivors face, staying in relationships that appear flawless to the outside world. Jamey shares his experiences with sexual assault and molestation from a young age, processing his trauma later in life, and how he's since discovered a deep sense of peace. Learn about NO MORE’s first of its kind collaboration with Wayfarer Studios on “It Ends With Us”, emphasizing the powerful role media can play in creating narratives of change that encourage survivors to share their stories. Watch this episode on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/wearemanenough Sign up for the Man Enough newsletter to get full video episodes and positive masculinity news every Monday: http://manenough.com/newsletter The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company. Timecodes:  (00:00) - Episode Begins (00:33) - We have to stop talking to men as if they are already perpetrators of abuse (05:54) - Welcome Jane and Pamela  (19:04) - Spotting early signs of abuse and trauma in relationships  (31:26) - Jamey's Story  (39:44) - Child survivors of domestic abuse   (47:20) - Liz’s Story (58:32) - Accountability in male friendships  (1:12:23) - No More x “It Ends With Us” Quotes: “Find one friend in your life that will challenge you…so that you yourself can be better.” - Jamey Heath “It’s the emotional scars that are deeper and longer lasting on survivors." - Liz Plank “Abusers often have their own trauma and were victims of abuse…hurt people, hurt people." - Justin Baldoni "We don't talk enough about love and what love makes us do, when we wonder why somebody stays or leaves." - Pamala Zaballa  "People always say 'why didn't she leave?'... They got together because there was love. And that doesn't necessarily change, sadly. If there's abuse, there can still be love." - Jane Randel About NO MORE: The NO MORE Foundation is dedicated to ending domestic violence and sexual assault by increasing awareness, inspiring action, and fueling culture change. With over 1,400 allied organizations and state, local, and international chapters, NO MORE encourages everyone—women and men, youth and adults, from all walks of life—to be part of the solution. https://nomore.org/ NO MORE Global Directory - nomoredirectory.org National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-7233 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1-800-656-4673 In an emergency, call 911 Instagram: @Nomoreorg Twitter: @NOMOREorg Support Man Enough Man Enough Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter Man Enough book: https://manenough.com/books Boys Will Be Human book: https://boyswillbehuman.com  Follow The Hosts Justin Baldoni https://instagram.com/justinbaldoni https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni https://facebook.com/justinbaldoni https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni Text Justin: +1 (310) 845-6909 Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ #boys #men #masculinity #domesticviolence #violence #sexualassult #itendswithus #NOMORE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp, the world’s largest therapy platform. Visit http://BetterHelp.com/WhatsUnderneath today to get 10% off your first month. Schuyler Bailar, influential athlete, author, educator, and vocal LGBTQ+ advocate, shares his transformative journey. As the first publicly documented NCAA D1 transgender man to compete as a man in any sport, Schuyler's story is at the forefront of the debate on trans athletes in college sports. Assigned female at birth, Schuyler opens up about the internal struggle he faced in accepting his own boyhood, initially associating masculinity with harmful behaviors​​. He offers candid insight into the performance of masculinity, highlighting how many boys and men seek validation solely within the male gaze, rooted in a desperate need for belonging. A gifted swimmer, Schuyler's passion and talent have been constant through his journey of self-discovery. He provides an intimate look at locker room dynamics, offering a unique perspective on male bonding rituals and the quest for peer validation. His decision to join Harvard’s men's swim team, after being initially recruited for the women's team, was more than a sports headline. This choice was the first statement of his personal truth, and also marked a significant moment in sports history, challenging norms and sparking discussions on inclusivity in athletics.  Schuyler's story is a testament to the strength of character and authenticity, demonstrating how embracing one’s true identity can be a powerful tool for challenging and redefining societal norms. What’s Underneath: Masculinity is Man Enough’s series in partnership with StyleLikeU with new episodes every Thursday. Watch shorter video episodes: http://YouTube.com/StyleLikeU  Man Enough Podcast episodes will continue every Monday.  IN THIS EPISODE:  (05:08) Feeling like an other, sports as a “girl on a boy’s team” (07:16) First relationship to gender (10:00) Being perceived as a cis man and erasure of trans identity (21:19) Experiencing misogyny as a man vs woman; empathy for men (32:34) Swim team, mental health, eating disorder (35:13) Rehab, discovering trans identity (46:01) Top surgery (51:23) Joining Harvard men’s swim team vs women’s (54:01) Men’s locker rooms; calling men in (1:07:14) What does it mean to be “man enough”? SCHUYLER QUOTATIONS: “My takeaway is that if I can call somebody in…if I can get a moment where I can actually talk to somebody and connect about an experience, there's actually real change to be had." “In the locker room, I'd see somebody tell a joke and immediately scan the room to see who else is going to respond and to give them validation...Those dynamics were so striking to me because I hadn't interacted with them in the same way before, and I hadn't been expected to participate in them either...I think that was the most terrifying moment, when I realized I had a desire to engage in the behaviors, because I had spent so long thinking all these things were horrible…Do I engage so that I can belong or stand by my values and risk belonging?” FOLLOW SCHUYLER BAILAR:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pinkmantaray  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pinkmantaray  Site: https://www.pinkmantaray.com/  Book, HE/SHE/THEY: https://www.pinkmantaray.com/he-she-they  FOLLOW MAN ENOUGH:  Instagram: http://instagram.com/wearemanenough   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@wearemanenough   Facebook: http://facebook.com/WeAreManEnough  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/wearemanenough  Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter  FOLLOW STYLELIKEU:  Instagram: http://instagram.com/stylelikeu  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stylelikeu   Facebook: http://facebook.com/stylelikeu  YouTube: http://YouTube.com/StyleLikeU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loretta J. Ross is canceling “cancel culture.” Join Justin, Jamey, and Liz for an insightful masterclass with the legendary activist and scholar. Together, they dissect the ineffectiveness of our prevalent “call out culture” and explore Loretta’s proven strategies to promote a culture of empathy and accountability.  With a career spanning over five decades, Ross has been a formidable force in social justice, from fighting apartheid, and de-radicalizing white supremacist, (11:47) to pioneering the women’s movement and co-creating the theory of reproductive justice. In this discussion, she delves into her transformative approach of 'calling in vs. calling out,' (04:53) advocating for empathetic, respectful dialogue over the confrontational public shaming prevalent in online activism. (24:05) Ross’s method challenges 'cancel culture,' aiming to bridge divides and promote growth through constructive conversations. Her insights offer a blueprint in navigating complex social issues with compassion and understanding. (53:25) Watch this episode on YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/wearemanenough (RECORDED OCT 3rd) Sign up for the Man Enough newsletter to get full video episodes and positive masculinity news every Monday: http://manenough.com/newsletter The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company. Timecodes:  (00:00) - Episode Begins  (00:12) - Are we becoming sensitive as a culture?  (03:00) - Welcome Loretta J Ross (04:53) - What does it mean to “Call In?”  (11:47) - Reforming Neo-Nazi’s and Fighting for reproductive justice (24:05) - Young people & cancel culture   (36:37) - Complex people, make complex mistakes (53:25) - 5 ways to respond to injustice and harm  (1:04:14) - The beauty of calling- in Quotes: "A calling in is a call out done with love. You're still pursuing accountability. You're not giving people a pass on injustice." - Loretta J. Ross “I want real people around me. I don't need a martyr and I don't need an asshole. I need real people.” - Loretta J. Ross "We've taught young people radical politics but we haven't taught them the politics of radical love." - Loretta J. Ross “If you're not having fun fighting for human rights, you need to check out whether you're doing it the right way." - Loretta J. Ross Guest Socials LORETTA J. ROSS Instagram: @lorettajross Twitter: @LorettaJRoss About Loretta J. Ross Loretta J. Ross is an esteemed Associate Professor at Smith College and a renowned activist and scholar. Ross is credited as a pioneer in women’s reproductive rights, working as the director of the first rape crisis center in the country and co-creating the theory of reproductive justice.  Ross’s upcoming book Calling In the Calling Out Culture  is set to release early 2025. For more insight into building a better culture of accountability, Join Loretta’s next virtual workshop “Advancing Calling In” starting december 9th at Lorettajross.com Support Man Enough Man Enough Newsletter: https://manenough.com/newsletter Man Enough book: https://manenough.com/books Boys Will Be Human book: https://boyswillbehuman.com  Follow The Hosts Justin Baldoni https://instagram.com/justinbaldoni https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni https://facebook.com/justinbaldoni https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni Text Justin: +1 (310) 845-6909 Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath  https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ #boys #men #masculinity #cancelculture #callingin #accountability #cancel #culture #LorettaJRoss #Forgiveness #socialmedia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices