The Mother Wound Project

If your mother has ever said, “After everything I’ve done for you…” and you felt your stomach drop, this episode is for you. You’ve spent years being conditioned to keep the peace, avoid conflict, and carry the emotional load for everyone around you. So when guilt trips show up, your nervous system reacts before you even realize what's happening.In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to recognize a guilt trip in real time, the subtle phrases emotionally immature mothers use to pull you back into compliance, and why your body reacts the way it does. You’re going to learn how to respond without over-explaining, without defending yourself, and without getting sucked into the argument she wants you to have.This is the moment you start reclaiming your voice. This is the moment you learn, “I’m not responsible for her feelings about my choices.”What you’ll learn today:The most common guilt-trip phrases and why they hit so hardHow guilt is used as emotional manipulationThe psychology behind why you freeze, panic, or complySimple responses that protect your peaceHow to stay grounded after the conversation endsWhy breaking this pattern is key to healing the mother woundIf you’re ready for deeper support, here’s where to start:👉 Grab the Mother Wound Survival Kit: scripts, tools, and nervous system support to break the guilt cycle. 👉 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle: the 12-month healing container for women who are done carrying generational pain. 👉 Work with me 1:1: hypnotherapy + coaching to rewire guilt, calm your nervous system, and rebuild your identity from the inside out.Everything is at www.themotherwoundproject.com and daily support is on Instagram @themotherwound.project

In toxic family systems, someone always has to carry the blame, and if you were the family scapegoat, that someone was probably you.In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi exposes the truth behind scapegoating in emotionally immature and narcissistic families. You’ll learn how mothers offload their shame, guilt, and insecurity onto one child, the truth teller, the sensitive one, the empath, and why you were never the problem.✨ In this episode, we’ll cover:What scapegoating looks like in emotionally immature and narcissistic family systems.Why daughters become the “identified problem” or “too sensitive one.”The painful psychological effects that carry into adulthood, self-doubt, guilt, and feeling like you don’t belong.Real-life examples from Tandi’s story that show how this dynamic plays out in families.How to heal from being scapegoated through inner child work, hypnotherapy, and nervous system regulation.You’ll walk away understanding the psychology behind scapegoating, how to set boundaries with flying monkeys, and the exact tools to reclaim your truth, your voice, and your peace.💡 Resources Mentioned: 🌿 Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit → www.themotherwoundproject.com 💫 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for deep healing, coaching, and sisterhood. 💛 Book a 1:1 Hypnotherapy or Coaching Session to finally release the guilt and reprogram the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck. 📸 Follow on Instagram → @themotherwound.project🕊️ “You were never the problem—you were simply the one brave enough to see the truth.”

When your mom suddenly becomes sweet, loving, or overly affectionate after an explosion, don’t mistake it for real change. This episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast unpacks the love-bombing cycle used by emotionally immature and narcissistic mothers to fake repair and keep you trapped in confusion and hope.You’ll learn: 🌪️ What love-bombing really looks like in mother-daughter dynamics. 💔 Why the “calm” after conflict isn’t growth, it’s manipulation. 🧠 The psychology behind the pattern and why it feels so confusing. 💬 How to spot it in real time and protect your emotional boundaries. 💪 Practical tools to stay grounded, respond calmly, and stop being pulled back in.If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe she’s finally changing,” only to end up hurt again, this episode is for you.💡 Resources Mentioned: → Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit for scripts and tools to navigate guilt trips, love-bombing, and emotional manipulation: www.themotherwoundproject.com → Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for live coaching, community, and healing: www.themotherwoundproject.com → Follow on Instagram for daily support: @themotherwound.project → Book a 1:1 Hypnotherapy or Coaching Session to rewire guilt and emotional triggers.✨ “The sweetness doesn’t erase the storm—it’s just part of the weather. Learn to stand tall in both.”

Have you ever felt crushing guilt just for saying no to your mom, or caught yourself putting her happiness above your own, even as an adult? That’s not love. That’s the Good Daughter Trap.In this raw and eye-opening episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi exposes how emotionally immature and narcissistic mothers groom daughters into lifelong roles of emotional servitude. You’ll learn:What the Good Daughter Trap is and how it starts in childhoodPsychological manipulation tactics—from guilt trips to silent treatment, that keep you stuckThe long-term effects: anxiety, perfectionism, chronic guilt, low self-worthWhy prioritizing yourself feels wrong (and why that’s actually a sign of conditioning, not truth)Practical healing tools: micro-boundaries, nervous system resets, journaling prompts, and self-worth affirmations💔 If you grew up being the peacemaker, fixer, or therapist for your mother, this episode will help you see the trap for what it is. and start breaking free.You don’t have to carry this burden alone. Take your healing deeper:🌿 Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit — packed with scripts, journal prompts, and somatic tools to help you hold boundaries without guilt.💫 Work with me 1:1 in Coaching or Hypnotherapy — together, we’ll rewire the subconscious beliefs that keep you self-sacrificing and help you finally feel safe choosing yourself.🌸 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle — a private community of women who truly get it, where you’ll find validation, sisterhood, and tools to reclaim your power.www.themotherwoundproject.com Follow daily healing tools on Instagram → @themotherwound.projectBecause your peace matters more than their approval.

Have you ever felt like your mother had a whole army working against you, relatives, siblings, even church leaders, pressuring you to “forgive and forget”? That’s what happens when emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers recruit flying monkeys to enforce their narrative.In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we uncover:The psychology behind flying monkeys and why they defend her image instead of your truthReal examples of triangulation and guilt-tripping used to silence daughtersThe devastating impact on siblings, relationships, and your self-trustPractical boundary scripts and strategies to protect your peaceTools to stay grounded, rebuild your self-trust, and break free from toxic family dynamicsYou’ll walk away knowing: you’re not crazy, you’re not selfish, you’re protecting yourself. 🌿 Resources to Support Your Healing✨ Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit – Get practical scripts, journal prompts, and boundary tools to reclaim your peace. 👉 www.themotherwoundproject.com💫 1:1 Coaching & Hypnotherapy – Rewire guilt, shame, and people-pleasing at the root so you can stand in your truth without fear. 👉 www.themotherwoundproject.com🌸 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle – A sisterhood of women who get it. Live seminars, group coaching, and support as you navigate life beyond the mother wound.📲 Daily guidance, boundary tools, and healing content on Instagram: @themotherwound.project

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation with your mother feeling confused, guilty, or like maybe you’re the crazy one , this episode is for you.In “When She Rewrites Your Reality: Healing the Hidden Damage of a Narcissistic Mother’s Gaslighting,” host Tandi unpacks what it really feels like to be gaslit by the person who was supposed to love and protect you most.You’ll learn how gaslighting distorts your sense of truth, why you constantly second-guess yourself, and, most importantly, how to rebuild self-trust and come back home to your own reality.Through powerful real-life stories and gentle guidance, Tandi shows you how to: ✨ Recognize gaslighting in subtle, everyday interactions ✨ Journal and document experiences so you stop questioning your memory ✨ Use calm, boundary-setting phrases to stay grounded in your truth ✨ Reconnect with your intuition and emotional wisdom after years of self-doubtIf you’ve been stuck in that fog of confusion, this episode offers the clarity you’ve been craving — and a path back to yourself.💖 Want to go deeper in your healing?✅ Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit — your step-by-step toolkit for breaking free from guilt, gaslighting, and emotional control.🧘‍♀️ Work 1:1 with Tandi through personalized coaching and hypnotherapy designed to help you rewire your subconscious, release emotional pain, and confidently navigate conversations with your mother without losing yourself.🌸 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle — a private, supportive community of women who understand exactly what you’ve been through. Get the guidance, sisterhood, and strength you need to rise beyond the pain.🔗 Visit www.themotherwoundproject.com for resources, coaching, and community. 💬 Follow on Instagram @themotherwound.project for daily support, healing tools, and empowering content.

Is your mother emotionally immature—or actually narcissistic? In this powerful episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi Hartle breaks down 5 signs of a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother and what they mean for daughters. You’ll discover the key differences between emotional immaturity, covert narcissism, and overt narcissism—and why intent matters when it comes to your healing journey.From image obsession, lack of empathy, and emotional volatility to boundary violations and control over your independence, this episode will help you identify the patterns you’ve lived through and finally validate your experience.If you’ve ever wondered:Why do I feel unseen and unheard by my mom?Was she just immature, or was it something deeper?Why does setting boundaries feel so impossible?…this episode gives you clarity, language, and the tools to start breaking free from self-doubt, guilt, and confusion.✨ At the end, Tandi shares how you can begin healing with the Mother Wound Recovery Kit and take the next step into the Daughters Rising Inner Circle—a safe, supportive space for women ready to rise into their truest selves.www.themotherwoundproject.com

Have you ever wondered why you struggle with people-pleasing, decision paralysis, or constant overthinking? In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi uncovers 6 unexpected signs of trauma from a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother—patterns most daughters dismiss as personality quirks, but are actually trauma responses.You’ll hear real-life stories that reveal how childhood conditioning creates hidden wounds like difficulty saying no, chronic self-doubt, mysterious health issues, emotional dysregulation, hyper-independence, and ruminating thoughts. These aren’t flaws—they’re survival strategies your nervous system learned to keep you safe.By the end of this episode, you’ll see your patterns in a new light, understand how they developed, and discover practical tools for healing—like hypnotherapy, somatic work, journaling, and supportive community.✨ Key Takeaways:How people-pleasing is actually a fawn trauma response.Why decision paralysis is rooted in years of criticism and shaming.The surprising way trauma lives in your body as fatigue, bloating, or brain fog.Why hyper-independence isn’t strength—it’s survival mode.Practical tools to rewire your subconscious and calm your nervous system.💡 You are not broken. These patterns are not who you are—they’re what happened to you. And what happened to you can be healed.Call to Action🎁 Start your healing today: Download your free Mother Wound Survival Kit 🌸 Go deeper: Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for group coaching and sisterhood 💻 Work with me: Explore hypnotherapy, coaching, and resources at www.themotherwoundproject.com

***This is a longer episode, and for good reason—it’s one of the most important conversations we’ve had yet. I encourage you to listen in parts if you need to, because what we cover here may bring you the clarity you’ve been searching for.In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, I explore how emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers use religion as a weapon: twisting scripture, shame, and spiritual teachings into tools of control. We’ll talk about what “weaponized faith” looks like, the psychology behind it, and the subtle but devastating tactics mothers use to silence and manipulate their daughters.You’ll learn:How verses like “honor thy father and mother” and “forgive seventy times seven” get distorted into shackles rather than wisdom.Why emotional immaturity, not true faith, drives this kind of spiritual abuse.The impact on daughters, from religious trauma syndrome to chronic shame, decision paralysis, and loss of self.Practical boundary scripts you can use when scripture is used against you.Healing paths that help you reclaim your peace, your faith, and your authentic self.If you grew up with religion used as a weapon, this conversation will help you see that you are not alone, and it will give you language, tools, and hope to begin healing.✨ Your spirituality is not a leash—you’re allowed to keep your peace and your faith.

Were you the one holding your family together while no one held space for you? In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we’re uncovering 5 powerful signs you were cast as the family fixer, caretaker, or therapist—long before you were ready.You’ll learn how parentification shows up in childhood, why emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers push daughters into roles of peacekeeper, problem-solver, and emotional sponge, and the lasting toll this takes: anxiety, people-pleasing, guilt, and self-abandonment.Together, we’ll explore how to recognize these patterns, understand their psychological roots, and begin stepping out of them so you can reclaim your identity, your peace, and your power.✨ It’s time to stop fixing everyone else—and start healing yourself.Resources & Next Steps:🌿 Download your free Mother Wound Healing Starter Kit to begin breaking toxic cycles.🌸 Join the waitlist for the Daughters Rising Inner Circle—a transformational 12-month program with group coaching, sister circles, and deep healing practices.💫 Book a hypnotherapy session with me and rewire the subconscious belief that love = fixing others.👉 Start your healing journey today at www.themotherwoundproject.com

Have you ever shared your good news....only to have your mother immediately turn the spotlight back onto herself? Or opened up about your struggles, only to be dismissed, belittled, or overshadowed?In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi breaks down the most telling sign of an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother: she always makes everything about her.You’ll learn:Everyday examples of how this shows up in conversations and relationships.The psychology behind why emotionally immature mothers hijack the spotlight.The lasting impact this has on daughters—self-doubt, guilt, and identity confusion.Practical tools to protect yourself, set boundaries, and stop shrinking in the face of her behavior.This isn’t just annoying behavior—it’s emotional invalidation. And the sooner you see it for what it is, the sooner you can reclaim your truth and your voice.

Are you still waiting for your mother to finally say, “I’m sorry”? If so, you may be waiting a lifetime.In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi dives into the painful truth: narcissistic and emotionally immature mothers cannot apologize, self-reflect, or take accountability—and waiting for them to change keeps you stuck in cycles of grief and disappointment.You’ll learn:The psychology of why narcissistic mothers can’t apologize (ego fragility, annihilation anxiety, and the false “good mother” persona).The emotional toll of waiting for an apology that will never come—and how it retraumatizes daughters.Why “maybe one day she’ll change” is a fantasy that keeps you tied to abuse.How to create your own closure through inner child healing, journaling, somatic release, and hypnotherapy.Practical tools and affirmations to rewire guilt, break free from the cycle, and step into self-validation.If you’ve been holding out hope for the apology that never comes, this episode will remind you of the truth: closure isn’t something you wait for—it’s something you create.

No contact with a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother isn’t about revenge. It isn’t a trend. It isn’t cruelty. It’s self-protection.In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi breaks down the myths and misconceptions surrounding no contact, and why it’s one of the most misunderstood decisions daughters make.You’ll learn:The difference between the silent treatment (a manipulative narcissist’s weapon) and no contact (a survivor’s last resort).Why daughters of narcissistic and emotionally immature mothers are forced into this choice after years of failed boundaries, endless gaslighting, and constant guilt-tripping.What to expect emotionally after going no contact—grief, relief, doubt, and even backlash from family “flying monkeys.”Practical tools and boundary scripts to stay grounded, regulate your nervous system, and protect your peace.If you’ve ever been told you’re “selfish” or “cruel” for going no contact, this episode will remind you of the truth: you don’t owe anyone access to you if that access destroys your well-being.

Welcome to The Mother Wound Project Podcast. I’m your host, Tandi—and today, we’re uncovering the hidden impact of growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother: Chronic CPTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder).Unlike PTSD, which is usually linked to a single traumatic event, CPTSD develops from years of ongoing emotional survival. If you grew up walking on eggshells, enduring criticism, neglect, or manipulation, the effects don’t magically disappear in adulthood.In this episode, we’ll explore:What CPTSD really is and how it differs from PTSDThe everyday symptoms daughters of narcissistic mothers carry into adulthood—hypervigilance, people-pleasing, identity confusion, chronic guilt, and emotional exhaustionWhy “just talking about it” in traditional therapy often isn’t enoughTools that actually work: hypnotherapy, subconscious reprogramming, somatic healing, and nervous system regulationIf you’ve ever felt like you’re still living in survival mode—even years after leaving your mother’s home—this conversation is for you. You are not broken. Your body and mind are simply carrying the unseen wounds of chronic trauma. And healing is possible.

If you grew up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother, you already know her favorite weapon: guilt.Whether it’s subtle digs, emotional manipulation, or outright shaming, guilt trips are designed to keep you small, compliant, and questioning yourself. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, I’m sharing 3 powerful boundary phrases you can use in real time to shut down guilt trips, without getting pulled into self-doubt, over-explaining, or people-pleasing.You’ll learn:Why guilt is the narcissistic mother’s #1 control tacticHow to respond calmly while staying in your truthReal-life examples of exactly what to say in the momentHow to protect your peace without raising your voice or starting a fightIf you’re ready to stop feeling crushed by guilt and start feeling grounded in your “no,” this episode will give you the tools you need.

A narcissistic mother doesn’t just hurt you behind closed doors—she works to destroy your credibility the moment you start to heal. In this raw and validating episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi exposes the covert tactics narcissistic and emotionally immature mothers use to silence, discredit, and gaslight their daughters.Whether you were the golden child, the fixer, or the scapegoat, this painful pattern is almost inevitable once you begin to see through her facade. You’ll learn why she does it, the emotional toll it takes, and how to reclaim your truth, your voice, and your self-trust—no matter how many people she turns against you.🎧 If you’ve ever felt invisible, doubted yourself, or been painted as the villain for choosing peace, this episode will help you feel seen and give you the tools to rise above the smear campaigns.

Gaslighting by a narcissistic or emotionally immature mother isn’t just confusing, it’s soul-crushing. In this raw and powerful episode, we unpack what maternal gaslighting really looks like, the emotional toll it takes on daughters, and how it erodes self-trust over time.Tandi shares heart-wrenching personal stories that will make you feel seen, alongside practical, real-life examples of how to shut down gaslighting in the moment using calm, grounded communication.You'll also learn powerful tools to begin rewiring the subconscious programming that kept you trapped in guilt, confusion, and self-doubt, so you can rise into your truth, your voice, and your power.Whether you’re just starting to question your upbringing or deep in the healing journey, this episode is your permission to stop doubting and start remembering who you are.🎧 Tune in to start your journey as a daughter rising.