The Susan Winter Show

If you’ve only known abusive partnerships, what’s the path to healthy love? How can you attract the right partner with a history of abusive relationships? Here’s how to begin that process: Here’s how to learn from the past, apply it to the future, and secure the quality of love you deserve. Recognizing your loops and breaking habitual patterns of your own behavior has a lot to do with the quality of individual you call into your life. Here are the steps: Review issues and past loops Know what you want now Apply pace and discernment Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

They won’t love you. But why? You know yourself to be worthy and deserving of their love, yet they resist. Here are 4 hidden reasons you never considered (and have nothing to do with YOU). Did you ever think it may not be about you? That while you’re ruminating over everything you said and did, wondering what you could have done differently… that none of this was the cause. But rather, it’s this: Emotionally Unavailable Different Image of Love Casual Dating vs Intentional Fear of Losing Control Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

They're pulling away. They say, "I can't." Here's what's really going on —and why it’s code for something you’d never expect. Some partners can’t rise to meet the fullness of who you are. They avoid conflict, resist growth, and retreat to comfort instead of stepping forward into their own evolution. The truth is that their limitations aren’t your responsibility—and your power lies in refusing to shrink down to make them feel bigger. Here’s how to stay whole without compromising your worth. Why some partners can’t handle the “all-ness” of you The danger of shrinking yourself to fit their comfort How to stand firm in your worth and keep your power Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Afraid to approach an older woman? Here's how to lead with confidence, create a real connection, and maintain effortless attraction. #agegapdating #olderwomen #youngermen Dating an older woman can feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. As one who’s lived this romantic experience, I’ll walk you through each step of the approach: what to say, how to say it, and how to override her doubts about age gap dating. With the right approach and mindset, you’ll be able to connect on a deeper level, impress her naturally, and take the next steps with ease. Unlock the signals she’ll respond to Younger men’s edge in age gap dating From subtle approach to undeniable attraction Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Are you the only one trying? It takes two— not just YOU. One person alone cannot make the relationship work. If you’re the only one trying, you NEED to do this instead: A relationship cannot thrive on the effort of one person alone. True love requires two individuals who are willing to express their needs, listen to each other, and work toward solutions together. When both partners actively participate, the relationship has the foundation it needs to grow and endure. Express your needs Your partner shares their needs Negotiate and secure ‘next steps’ Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Hidden Red Flags? Want to avoid heartbreak? Learn how to spot hidden red flags early in dating—before they damage your confidence and self-worth. https://youtu.be/6aeVzqvvQHE Early dating often feels exciting, but it’s also the time when hidden issues reveal themselves. Subtle signs of hesitation, lack of alignment, or emotional distance can show up before a relationship even begins. Discover how to identify these early red flags, protect your heart, and choose partners who are truly right for you. Spot hidden red flags early Catch subtle signs of hesitation Protect your self-worth in dating Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Tired of feeling lonely? Longing for true love? Here’s how to attract the right type of partner and create a deep, lasting love: #loneliness #findingtruelove It’s not just you—there’s a loneliness epidemic. Technology and social media have created the impression of closeness, yet finding a healthy partner for a lasting love can feel impossible at times. But there is a workaround that will ground us and enable not only self-love, but the true love of another. Why We’re Feeling Lonely External and Internal Stressors Attracting the Right Partners Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

The reason you’re not finding love isn’t what you think. Modern dating comes with hidden barriers—and this insightful discussion with Damien Diecke reveals how to overcome them so the perfect person can finally find you. Damien Diecke is the Head Coach and Founder of the ‘School of Attraction,’ and ‘The Dangerous Man’ retreat in Australia. Damien has spoken at events in over 20 countries on a wide range of topics including Dating, Relationships, Masculinity, Gender, Self-confidence, and more. Why does love feel so elusive? In this conversation, we explore our attraction hooks and defaults, the turmoil of repeated failures, and the surprising power of self-responsibility. From filling our own tank with self-care to embracing the shadow self, we uncover why “no game” dating, balancing masculine and feminine energies, and finding wholeness are the keys to letting the perfect person finally find you. Today’s world makes it harder Powerful actions you can take Opening the door for real love Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

The Avoidant’s Love Bombing Cycle- They shower you with love, pull away, and later want to reconnect. Here’s how to spot—and stop—the avoidant’s love bombing cycle. An avoidant’s pattern often begins with intense love bombing, creating the illusion of closeness and safety. Then, without warning, they pull away, go no contact, and reappear months later expecting to pick up where things left off. This episode breaks down the emotional mechanics behind this toxic cycle and shows you how to respond with clarity and strength. How love bombing creates a false sense of security. Why avoidants pull away and go no contact. How to handle their return without losing your power. Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Ask THIS on a First Date: What’s the best way to vet a great match on a first date—without sounding like you’re conducting an interview? Here’s a simple protocol that’s both elegant and effective. First dates can be tricky. We want to make a great first impression, while also filtering for the best match. What questions should we ask? How many questions are too much? Here’s the way to be natural and gain valuable insight. Being Authentic While Gaining Insight Questions to Ask Avoiding Red Flags and ‘The Dream” Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Your partner’s been slowly pulling away yet remains silent when asked if anything’s wrong. You’re confused, but trying to remain hopeful. Here’s how to know if you’re being ‘Banksyed.’ You feel this shift. You don’t want to be negative, you don’t want to freak out, but they’re not giving you much information. How long do you wait? Will this cycle self-correct? You may be in the midst of being Banksyed, but lacking communication you won’t know until the end. Signs of Being Banksyed Why Your Partner Won’t Communicative How You Should Handle It Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

They’ve dumped you—but still want to talk. They say you’re great, but... Now you're stuck in limbo, hoping that staying in contact might bring them back. Here's what’s really happening when your ex keeps you close, why it messes with your head, and how to stop being a pawn in their game. You’re hoping this might be your chance. Maybe this is how you can (eventually) get back to where you were or even elevate your former position. But here’s the game— by keeping you around, your ex is selfishly enjoying your company and keeping you hooked by fueling false hopes. Why No Contact Reclaims Your Power How Contact Keeps You Hooked How To Quickly Break the Spell Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

She was way into you, then poof! She’s suddenly gone cold. Why did she lose interest? Here’s why pace has you now in the chase. A passionate kiss doesn't guarantee more. This green flag turned red can be confusing until you understand what's happening inside the woman's mind. Green Light then Red Learning to Adjust the Pace Why Chasing Get Her Back Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

There’s a downside to being too nice in a relationship. Overly agreeable behavior can dampen your partner’s attraction. Here’s how to be nice and have boundaries. Are you stuck being a good girl? Afraid to speak up when hurt or push back when your needs aren’t being met? Are you the good guy? Always there for your partner, who’s never there for you? Patient to a fault and doing all the work to keep your partner even-keeled? This video is for you. You can be loving and not lose yourself in the process. Too Nice Creates Resentment Setting Boundaries with Diplomacy Loving Them Without Losing Yourself Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Want to be happier—even when it doesn’t come naturally? Happiness and positive thinking are skills that can be learned and developed. It’s easier than you think. Here’s how: https://youtu.be/i0brdFQx_NE There is a technique to establish a pattern of positive thinking. It comes with practice and repetition. My video shares the key to ending rumination and self-criticism through this simple, fundamental shift. Catch Your Thoughts The Art of Anchoring Cultivating Gratitude Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile