The TEA & COGNAC Session

HAPPY JUNETEENTH ‼️ #JubileeDay #FreedomMonth ❤️🖤💚 It's been a full month in #SpringfieldMissouri Of celebrating and learning. How did you celebrate??? I did my best to be everywhere and do everything - But we have much work to do. Community efforts are still struggling because very few want to work together. My question has become what are you in it for? #Status #Money #Sex How can we do better? Time will tell. If Hollyweird (Hollywood) didn't do anything else, they let us know how deep this mess runs and reminded us this has always been spiritual warfare.

***Disclaimer*** @Spotify DID NOT make this takeover from @Anchor a smooth transition AT ALL. No background music AGAIN. And I'm not recording it. June 1st, 2024 We acknowledge 103 years ago #BlackWallStreet was bombed due to hatred and racism. So we're STILL HERE - People of Color. How are you making your money? Who do you want to be? As we navigate #EmotionalIntelligence #Barriers #SelfCare I AM The Jill of MOST of Trades. Owner/Operator of #OSDLLC of Springfield, Missouri. President of TMi The Melanin Initiative nonprofit. The Host of The TEA and CONGAC Session podcast.

#Home The Midwest. The Gateway to the Ozarks. Queen City...Springfield, Missouri. Is a beautiful place...but why is it so beautiful. Because my ancestors were the fertilizer. The deep dark history STILL haunts this region just as the #OklahomaMassacre #TheDevilsPunchBowl or the #PhiladelphiaBombing "If this land could speak, it would cough up blood first." We haven't come so far. And we're not that far removed from our history. But to admit the truth is admitting their predecessors aren't the heros they've portrayed them to be. So let the conversation begin!

6in, 7in, 8in MARCH!!! LETS TALK ABOUT SEX BABY. Everybody is so scared of this subject. Not me. Alpha vs. Beta #NapoleonComplex Little Man Syndrome- discussions and conversations MUST be had. I've gotten too old and tired to play coy or scared.

Part II. A Melaninated Woman raising a young Melaninated Man in Springfield, Missouri- a not so diverse place is a challenge within its self. Taking care of kids in #2024 IS NOT for the faint of heart with cell phones and the internet ruling as King. Hoodies and Attitude is what teenagers have to offer these days. The Mama/Daughter relationship is very different from Mama/Son speaking from my own personal experience. Breaking #GenerationalCurses and #FamilyDysfunction while healing your own childhood trauma is not only hard, but emotional. I found myself in a #existentialcrisis while Teaching my Son #SelfCare #EmotionalIntelligence #FinancialSecurity How are you doing raising these kids?!

Part I| I am a Mother, Professional, and individual. I wear many hats in a day hints the name #TheJillofMOSTTrades. Do you know who you are? Acquiring #emotionalintelligence to better understand my value in my relationships is a necessity. I talk about my lessons and losses in my own journey to reparent myself and setting new boundaries, rather it’s dealing with family, romantic relationships, or colleagues. Do you leave people better than you found them? What are you looking for? Are you a giver or a taker?

When did you create your vices? Was it out of trauma? TELL THE TRUTH, SHAME THE DEVIL!!! Mine was created out of burnout which turned into coping. Operating at a higher frequency requires intentional work and #Selfcare: Acceptance Boundaries Communication and Discipline. This is spiritual warfare people! How are you arming yourself?

How are you filling your cup up in 2024? What does healing and resetting look like for you? For me…I’ve had to focus on my mental health and what I am feeding to it. Are you praying/meditating daily? Exercising? Acquiring knowledge? Being creative? Working in your purpose/calling? As a single parent and Black professional in today’s society, I have to find a healthy balance to life. I recently reconnected with reading through the Libby audiobook app. Books like #DramaFree A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by #NedraTawwab and #TheSecret by Rhonda Byrne are great starts to identifying where you are in your own journey. But YOU have to do the work in your healing and working on becoming your best self!

Welcome back! Welcome back! WELCOME BACK!!! This is your girl O’Brien aka OB aka O coming to you with Season 5 of The TEA and COGNAC Session. Kansas City raised, born in Springfield Missouri- with Tennessee roots- I AM the Jill of MOST Trades. Over the years I’ve talked a lot about Self-Care, Generational curses, and finding our purpose- and these conversations must continue. This season I’ll cover emotional intelligence, faith, and continuing your self-care work. The goal here is always enlightenment and to Know Thy Self. So let’s get into it!

Welcome back to Season 4 of The TEA and COGNAC Session. I am your girl O'Brien aka OB aka O. Today we're talking about the "Blood Covenant"- The Blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Bonds of loyalty and choice are stronger than mere genetics. #GangGangGang #Clique #Squad So many quick to claim titles, but do you you even know how to be a friend? Let alone a partner? Who were your examples? #ADiffierentWorld #InLivingColor #SecretLifeofBees #SetItOff Insecurities ARE LOUD‼️AND DONT GO CONFUSING SISTERHOOD WITH SISTER-WIFE cause this IS NOT that. Let's do better in 2022.

A very uncomfortable subject is abuse...and the different types of it. Physical and Psychological have serious effects on ones well being #GasLighting #Projecting #SilentTreatment #Intimidation are all forms of abuse- tools used to control and manipulate ALL AGES. It is said emotional abuse can be the most damaging as it doesnt leave physical proof of pain and is harder to prove. I am working on my own Solution Focused Therapy to conquer my childhood trauma's and triggers. #ACEsScore #KnowThySelf #HealthySocialSupports #KnowYourValue It's like I've said numerous times before this is a SPIRITUAL WAR.. once you lose your mind the war is lost. Take your power back.

Do you know how much energy and efforts have been put into dismantling the Melaninated household?#GenerationalCurses #AmeriKKKasAgenda A whole agenda to break unity in the Black/Brown home. #GloriaSteinem #Journalist #CIAagent #Spook did a great job leading the #FeministMovement and tearing Black men from the family dynamic and ultimately destroying Black Wealth. Its not enough that we [Melaninated people] hate each other and have the #CrabsInaBucket mentality. We already know our own #USgovernment has been exterminating us for generations now. #Genocide #WillieLynch #Redlining #Gentrification. "To the victors comes the spoils of war." THEY WON AND ARE PROUD- So the defeated are left to repair their destruction. How are we #BuyingBacktheBlock or investing? How are you supporting #BlackBusiness? Who are you listening to, inorder to fix US? It will be US that fixes US! #DrBoyceWatkins #DevaleEllis #IceCube I know for #SpringfieldMO I am watching the money!!! $56.9 Million from the American Rescue Plan Act...and I want to know how it's being spent!

Were you allowed to have a voice as a little boy or girl? Seen but not heard was the standard for many decades. But if we couldn't "Express" yourself- how did that effect your self-image/self-worth? Are you a Tomboy or a boy that liked playing dress up? Did you grow up bullied, confused, or shamed? So many questions, but this is just another rabbit hole to "Generational Curses". The first step is admitting it! Our Parents were there financially but emotionally many failed us. They didn't know or didn't care, either way much work has to be done.

It's summertime [2021] and it's time for shorts, skirts, and sundresses! BUT are you dressing classy or trashy? My good friend "E" hops on today's episode and tells us about a recent incident with a fellow Black man. EVERYBODY has an opinion, but should you really care how you're being viewed? In a time where everything is acceptable and cool- there's a fine line with being a victim of sexual harassment or subjecting yourself. #Accountibility and #EffectiveCommunication is key. And who's supposed to enlighten you when you need it? Remember The Provoker is The Messenger. #Monique catching all hell for playing Auntie and correcting us. The Black community is no where near where we need to be to correct each other. And it's US that has to fix US. This rabbit hole runs DEEP and this is indeed another #GenerationalCurse. We've been brutalized and sexualized for so long no one seems to have a fix to unite us and become a family unit again.

TODAYS HISTORY LESSON... so we can really talk about our triggers and traumas OH MY. AmeriKKKas legacy is the pain, destruction, and dysfunction created on this land. Why does AmeriKKKa hate the Melaninated ones? According to Prophecy we are the original people. And centuries of terror and violence against us has sent us to the "Sunken Place" mentally- collectively. It's time to discuss how the Black Holocaust has caused serious intergenerational trauma. Are you familiar with #ACEs the Adverse Childhood Experiences score? We are understanding how trauma effects our genetics- and is passed down. Checkout #TedTalks speakers #TabithaMpamira-Kaguri #LeahWarcshaeski #BrandyWells Also #THEM on #AmazonPrime really gives you an accurate depiction of AmeriKKKas mental illness. All discussing trauma transferred, coping, and breaking cycles. Remember folks- your Grandparents can speak on Jim Crow and how they are affected mentally. We have much work to do.

Season 3 Episode 1 WELCOME BACK to a new season of The TEA and COGNAC Session. This is your girl O'Brien aka OB aka O. The Jill of MOST Trades. As we continue the journey of healing, I am still pulling back layers for my own growth. My Family and/or healthy social supports, My brands and/or financial security, and last, but not least my Self-Care are "The Focus". What is your focus? Dont forget AmeriKKKas trauma is deep rooted. Cognitive Dissonance, Indoctrinated dogma, and ignorance runs wild in 2021. The first step is admitting it- Accountability. 35 definitely hit different...and I am surely going to act like it. #OSDLLC #TheJillofMOSTTrades #TheMelaninInitiative

Learning to fill my own cup back up!!! My steps to Disciplining MY LIFE...35 hit different. I guess that light bulb finally clicked on- feeling like I wanna act like I've learned a few things. 1. Know Thy Self- What do you believe in? [Faith vs. Morality vs. Religion] Protect your #Aura and #Energy 2. Diet and Exercise- You are what you eat. 3. Creative Time/Community Involvement 4. Business Endeavors [Skills + Passions] 5. Healthy Social Supports [Creating Boundaries and identifying #toxicbehaviors] #KwameBrown spoke facts on whats wrong with us collectively...MOST are sleep to what's happening in the World. This is spiritual warfare- a battle for your mind and spirit.

This is your girl O'Brien aka OB aka O. Returning for Season 2! the love is so fake and the Hate is so REAL! YET I HERE I STAND. My mouth is COLD BLOODED and most don'tlike it. COVID-19 Pandemic, 2020 Politics, Personal Growths & Struggles, Healthy Social Supports, BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY Know they self. Build you up and FOCUS ON YOUR BRAND.

We've been discussing Self-Care A LOT. What did we learn??? Last year was rough. Lots of L's [Lessons & Losses] How are we moving forward this year? "I REFUSE TO BE UNHAPPY!" #All2020

Self-worth =value= Self-esteem. 80/20 Rules. Do you have confidence in your own abilities and worth? Have you created boundries and standards for yourself? Do you know that's it's ok to love yourself too? Choose you over the BS. You are worthy.